44aliveagain;480705 said:
Greetings, my name is Allan. I stumbled across this forum because I'm in the process of getting divorced after 25 years. Hopefully this won't sound lame but I got married very young (19!) and have only been with 3 woman (my first girlfriend, my wife (who was a virgin) whom I never cheated on, well, until I got separated from her and my current girlfriend (she is also married and getting divorced, age 40). A lot of the reasons I'm getting divorced involve intimacy and sex. Hadn't had it in 4 years prior to leaving her. She was the most unaffectionate person possible. She was also very selfish in bed. When we did have sex years ago I was mostly bored to be honest. She didn't have a good time either. She belittled me once and after that I had a hard time caring about having sex with her to the point I had erectile dysfunction. As the relationship finally dwindled to the end we had our final blowout before I left her which had her saying I had always been a lousy kisser, boring in bed, she couldn't feel me. Lots of hateful, cruel stuff. I was done. I've not gone through this forum too much yet but from the lingo I have a 5.25" length (not to the bone) and 4 3/4" girth which from what I can see is not too great. The woman I'm currently seeing I had liked from the first day I met her 5 months prior to leaving my wife (she is the mom of one of my son's friends). The day I left my wife I went straight to her (I knew she was getting divorced) and told her I had feeling for her. She said she did as well and I've been with her with her the past 3 months.
So naturally I'm going into this new relationship with zero confidence and extremely nervous about everything. Luckily, turns out I have no erectile dysfunction (just ex-wife dysfunction). Everything worked great. I'm having sex like I've never had in my life. I've had more sex in 3 months than the last 8 years combined I'd say. Turns out according to her I'm a fantastic kisser and the best sex she's ever had she says. I actually believe her. Our first night I gave her four orgasms. She was floored. I've always been the guy who goes all out to please the woman first and I get turned on more that way. It's amazing what was not working for my wife at all works fantastic with my girlfriend. Happier than I've ever been sexually. So what's the problem? Still feeling major self conscious. She has had around 15-20 men in her life. Me, only 2 before her. Seeing the stats here that roughly means around 3/4 of them were bigger than me on average. She says I fit her perfectly and when I had talked about picking up some kinky stuff like handcuffs to try I also mentioned seeing a
penis pump and she told me she wouldn't want me to be bigger and I was perfect for her the way I was. Is she serious or just talk? No idea. I'm having a hard time getting the thought of these other guys out of my head. First time she took out my dick I (stupidly) said "not the best" but she said it was perfect and gave me oral.
OK, so that's the background. Even though she says i'm perfect and doesn't want me to do anything I'd like to get bigger for my own head so I can get rid of the thoughts of her previous boyfriends (whom I actually know nothing about concerning their size) and so I can stay excited about what I hope will be a new long sex period in my life.
My questions: At 44 can I do this? What realistically can I accomplish in size and girth? Is it permanent? What are the general time frames for accomplishing this? Whjat's the best routine for a guy my age (if that matters)? I'm sure many answers are already here. If I can get some help with these questions or be pointed in the right direction I'd appreciate it. Thanks!
Hey Allan. You're at the right place.
I don't think age matters about Penis enlargement. I was a drug addict for 9 years, which made my penis unhealthy, weak, small and shriveled, and now after nearly 7 months of Penis Enlargement it's bigger than it has ever been, especially girth wise.
It seems that this new woman you are with really likes you. And that's a good thing, she likes you for who you are.
I tend to make negative comments about myself in front of people, women in particular. It's usually not a good idea. It may make them think you are subconsciously fishing for compliments.
You have to do Penis Enlargement for yourself, and you have to want it bad. It's a full time commitment. But results happen when you stick to it and do it right.
Realistically, I'd say depending on your motivation, you could gain anywhere from .75-2 inches in length (2 inches would likely take a couple years, but every one is different) and 1-1.5 inches in girth. I find that girth is easier to gain, for me. I consider myself a slow gainer, but in 7 months I've tacked on about .3" length and .5" girth. Not bad. Lots of trial and error spent in that time as well. One thing is for certain, although my penis may not be much larger on the ruler, I feel I have a much larger penis - density, weight, erection quality, more vascular. There are guys here who have gained an inch length and .5 girth within 3-6 months.
I was at a point in my life where I didn't even want to try to have sex with another woman because I figured it would be a waste of her time, with my measly penis. Now I want to have sex with every attractive woman I see. Part of that attitude I owe to changing my state of mind, but Penis Enlargement has played a huge factor.
I'd say the gains are permanent, as long as you keep at it and allow your progress to cement. The best way is just to make it a regular part of your day and keep at it for a couple years.
Time frame - you'll notice a difference in the first month. Say you're aiming for 1 inch more in length and .75 inch more in girth - that could take 6 months, it could take a year, it could take a year and a half. Using the right exercises and the right devices with the right routine is key. Doing it regularly and properly is also key.
The most important part of Penis Enlargement is start out very light. Don't spend much time doing the exercises or much force. Then each day/session, gradually work up, using more force and more time. Very slowly. The goal is to be able to get a good erection later in the day/the next day. Then do another session.
There is really a lot to Penis Enlargement. It's like bodybuilding, where it's not just about going to the gym and pumping weights, but there are many other factors (for bodybuilding), like what to eat and when, when to work out, how to work out, what to do, getting adequate sleep, but not too much etc. So many subtle yet important things to learn and practice.
If you're seriously into it, and you use this site and other Penis Enlargement forums as resources, you'll gain. Everyone here wants to help each other because we all have similar reasons for getting into Penis Enlargement, and it's not something that is socially acceptable to openly talk about in real life, so we have that connection as well. We don't have to justify to each other why we're doing it, it's commonly understood.
If you have any questions, feel free to send me a message. I've learned a lot so far and I'd love to share so you don't have to waste any time and you can get started. Too much to put all on here though.
Also, I will be starting a thread of my own in the next couple months, which I'll put everything I've learned in. Every article, every piece of advice, my routines, my failures, my successes, articles on women, articles on sex, articles on health etc.
So good luck and know that you're at the right place. 7 months ago I remember thinking this is all bullshit but now I'm a firm believer that I will have a large penis one day.
