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coldcoffin;633398 said:Sex at first was great. And I have never questioned my size or my sexual ability because I've been with girls who came during PIV ONLY. Or I hit their cervix or those "spots" deep in the pussy. You know the ones. Where the girls eyes roll back in her head and she looks like God has entered her momentarily. I came home and told her I wanted to be official. We were committed and I felt good and everything was where I wanted it to be. Fast forward to September and I'm laying in her bed and her phone is unlocked so I go through it. I find out she's been seeing another dude. She had been cheating for months. I told her to stop and cut contact and she promised to and said it was a mistake and whatever. I told her I'd get over it because I'm not perfect and never claimed to be and even though she isn't, I have a hard time giving up on things or allowing myself to feel inferior. Fast forward two weeks. I go through her phone again and she's still talking to the guy. So now I'm starting to question my performance/size. If I'm fulfilling her emotional and relationship needs why would she continue to cheat.
So I start asking questions. Was he bigger? Did it feel better? She couldn't look me straight in the face without nervously smirking and saying yes to both questions.
" it's just about that full feeling "
" your dick is perfect "
" it just feels better but you do all the kinky things I like "
" if we're being technical your dick is so nice but for overall feeling solely I would choose the latter "
So I forgive her again and at this point I've been beaten down and an starting to question my manhood..
I go home and research everything I can about size, and statical averages. Mind you before this, it wasn't even a thought in my head. I hadn't even measured as a teenager.
7' EXACTLY by 5' (girth) EXACTLY.
I find out statistically that 91% of the population has a smaller cock than I do. Insecurity should be gone.. But it's not.
I feel like one of those anorexic girls with body dysmorphia. I try having sex with her and I can feel space In her vagina and I just KNOW she wants more. Shes also never came during sex so she claims.. But I know the other dude made her cum. She masturbates regularly but it makes me feel like shit that she would continue to have sex with me but keep her orgasms private.
I honestly just feel ruined and it upsets me because this girl has a sloppy physique and is by no means physically ideal by "societys standards". I blindly love her and I don't see that when I look at her. She's beautiful to me and I hate it. I just can't be superficial or shallow like that.
I've tried using her toy for clit stim while I penetrate. Nothing. I've had her use it on herself, nothing. I've rubbed her clit, she's rubbed her clit, nothing.
I just feel like my penis is totally uninvolved and inadequate.
I guess I just want to feel like my dick is enough AND THEN SOME. And I want her to have an orgasm. The sex isn't enjoyable for me unless my partner does.. Maybe in the beginning it was but not now. Now I know my unit is the issue here. My performance is not in the question.
It feels so loose and I feel space. I know every girl is gonna have space but it shouldn't be something I consciously feel. When I put my dick in you I feel complete.
Please help!
you're probably not going to like my answer but I'm going to give it to you straight my brother. This woman that you love does not love you back. If she is cheating on you repeatedly you need to kick her to the curb. I think you're becoming obsessed with the relationship and your lack of control and I think this is driving you to forgive her for things she really does not deserve to be forgiven for. I completely understand this because I did the same thing. I let a girl stick around even though she didn't love me. It was nothing but heartache and when I finally kicked her out I obsessed even more and spent much time obsessing over how it could have been, what I could have done, what I should have done, all the what ifs you could think of. Making yourself bigger for her is not worth it. You need to do this for yourself my brother, that's where you will find peace. You need to learn to love yourself and find somebody that's going to love you back. Someone who's honest, who gives just as much as you give. you sound like a very sensitive good person you deserve so much better then what she's giving you. We will help you get over this I will teach you how to make yourself as big as you want but no size is going to make this girl love you, she is selfish and very hurtful. I wish I could give it to you in a better way but I gotta be honest with you.