If you want to learn to swim you have to get in the water. Get out and jump in the socialize pool. Be friends first, confident, independent, influential, self-respecting, charming, humorous, flirtation (subtle and tactful), and a challenge for her. Stop thinking all women as sub-ordinate to men, they provide something you want/need that you cannot do yourself and vice versa. Such as anything else, all this takes practice to make it feel natural and become an unconscious habit. Get your mindset in place, go practice socializing, work through the awkwardness, enjoy the process and success(es).