It can be over if you want it to be. Working the Steps and getting to know myself and realign my life with God's will for me has changed me so much. I'm still an addict even though I might not be currently addicted. I thought I had a drug problem. But I lost the drug problem after the 1st week but the disease of the mind known as addiction stays with me for life. It will reach into every aspect of my life if I don't get spiritually fit and work on my recovery. I have to put recovery first above everything. I can put the drugs down but then become obsessive with working out, shopping, food, sex, video games, tv, etc, etc. The scared little boy in a grown mans body that I am will act out like a big baby if I don't live by principles and remain spiritually fit. I know I can't do any mind or mood altering drug or drink, alcohol's a drug after all, for the rest of my life without unleashing that addictive cycle all over again. Those nerve pathways in the brain have gone from a small groove to a 10 lane highway over the years. My life is so much better and I have a sense of freedom and possibilities that I only felt during childhood. I know if I use I risk losing everything and possibly my life. The fucked up thing is if I don't keep vigilant and constantly work on my recovery that little voice in the back of my head could convince me that its okay to use just once. Its hard to find anyone else that doesn't at least have an occasional beer these days and the girls in the rooms are many times very very sick and not in a good way. So I know I'm taking a risk with this one, but I've set boundaries with her, she knows I'm an addict and can't use anything not even alcohol and I have outside people and things keeping me accountable. I hope it works with her but I won't hesitate to cut ties if I feel I'm in jeopardy, many people wouldn't understand that its a matter of life and death with me and even if I don't die I will lose whatever I put in front of my recovery anyway when I do relapse.
I had using and partying friends but I can't find them these days. Its no skin off my ass because the only people I have in my life are true friends who want to be in my life and aren't there for what drugs I can get them or just want to get high and stare at the boob tube for 6 hours. We actually talk and get to know one another. All in all I'm much more fulfilled these days