Hey guys,
I'm prepping to tie my frenulum for the first time. Ordered some 0.5mm stretch magic and some EMLA cream online (very hard to get in Australia and costs $70 for 30g); string arrived today, expecting the cream tomorrow.
Bit of back story: mild phimosis, and frenulum breve (not as bad as some, but bad enough). Started using flesh tunnels to fix the phimosis, seemed to be working well, but it started cutting my frenulum - it still hasn't healed properly after 23 days (retraction of the foreskin reopens/splits the original cut). On the plus side, the original cut has not healed back the way it was before, so I've gained some frenular length from this (similar to doing a shallow tie in the centre of the frenulum).
Even before the cut, the frenulum pulled and hurt if I tried to retract past the corona of the glans (I can get the foreskin behind the corona but the frenulum is pulled tight along the groove in the glans, any further retraction pulls hard on the glans and causes tipping). Never had sex, but I am worried it would tear, so I want to sort it out sooner, rather than later.
The other issue is the frenulum pretty much joins onto the meatus, which as far as I can tell, isn't the norm, but isn't unheard of either. The result is 2 "lips", like the labia minora on a woman. It may also explain why I generally can't pee straight and it tends to spray a fair bit.
Plan of attack: I think what I want to do is a tie that separates the frenulum from the meatus at the top of the lips, using the labia analogy where the clit would be. It's important to me that there is no nub of tissue left on the meatus, but I guess I'll have to workout how to fix that if/when it occurs (hopefully it won't happen or will heal into itself quickly). Another user (sorry forget who) posted this image, which describes my thinking quite well:
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As a bit of a trial, I've marked a line using a Sharpie where I want the knot to sit (top of the lips) and another line 5mm along the frenulum where I am wanting to put the needle. I've then marked 2 dots close to the glans in line with second line (confused?).
Once this tie has pulled through, I'll assess if I need to make a second one; if I do, I think I'll repeat what I did with the first, slowly working my way down the glans until I'm happy with the result (painless retraction, hopefully most of the way down the shaft and no skin tags or hard lumps).
So, does anyone have any tips or suggestions? Is this method going to work and give me the result I'm after?