templnite;679369 said:
That's wasn't the jist shawwrtyn XD. Mikes right we need more solutions, and less excuses. Aim please tell us some real world examples of how to date plz :blush:
Aim's rules
rule nr 1: conquer your fears.
at any time you should be able to walk up to a girl and try and get her. if you have any fear of this. then you need to do it until you get over the fear. why? if you let fear control you, you are per definition not choosing your woman.
im not saying that all woman will want to be with you. which doesn't matter. but your fear of being rejected should be at 0%
rule nr. 2 never take advantage of a woman.
understand that woman are very sexual creatures. and accepting this and defending their right to be this. will automatically let you into the "girls talk" you will suddenly start to hear very honest things from woman. never use it against them encourage them to have a sexual life. and make it part of who you are not to talk shit about them. which leads to next rule:
rule nr 3. Don't kiss and tell
don't tell your friends what you do, now i know this is the opposite to what i am doing here on this forum. but the difference is that if i tell people around a woman what we have done. she will be slut shamed. and she will hide her sexuality from men and feel disgusting. which is not to anyones advantage (why haven't men figured out that by talking shit about woman we all get less pussy)
rule nr: 4 never lie about your intentions.
"hehe i told her i wanted a relationship fucked her and ran away. haha slut"
this kind of behavior. and the mindset behind it is coming from a very low frequenz of thinking.
thinking shit like this proves that the man doesn't think a woman actually wants to have sex with him... just to have sex. and being a lier or a cheater is always gonna result in you getting screwed over somehow. don't fill up the bad karma account. say what your intentions are.
(side note!: if your social skills are zero. start working here. i am not telling you to walk up to a woman and start out the conversation like this: "excuse me miss i just saw you walk by and i got this sudden urge to anally fist fuck you dry.. any chance you are up for that?" now the reason for me saying this is that usually when i give tips to social awkward people they end up missing the things i assume everyone knew.
you need to talk with woman you need to have a basic understanding of how to communicatr with them. if you don't. practice! "but aim im an introvert i can't talk to girls just like!.... "STOP STFU! i was so socially awkward that i couldn't ask an old lady about what time it was. on top of that i was stuttering and i was fat (107kg baby!) if i can do it everyone can do it! i am by definition an introvert! i actually don't talk that much to people i prefer to be by my self most of the time. but i aknowledge that people skill is a necessity in this world if you want to be anything else but shit. so i practice.
i have weeks where i don't see people- sometimes when people call me i have a half min cough because i haven't said anything for 5 days. and i'm happy while i do this! so if anyone use the excuse that they are introverts. i will suddenly be summoned through their mirrors and punch them in the face!
rule nr 5
successful man is forged through failure upon failure. and defeat upon defeat!
the more failure and defeat you can handle the greater you will become
when i was a kid i desired to become the best martial artist i could. at the age of 13 i asked my oldest trainer how i became the best martial artist i could. he pointed into the room next to us. currently 3 world champions where training in there and several other guys who where competing at that level. and he told me: "go into that room and get beaten up by those guys every day and you will become the best you possible can!"
it hurt i bled i cryed, and i was scared.
but soon the pain was gone. my skin was getting toughened up. i stopped crying. and fear was a strange concept that i used to know.
by the age of 15 i was the trainer on the kid team and the adult team (age limit for adults was 16) and beside my best friend who did the same thing as me. the only other guys who could compete with me was the 20+ guys who was training elite level. by the age 17 i was teaching several bouncers how to fight.
if you are afraid of being humiliated. losing, etc. realize that it is your weakness that controls you. and weakness can only be destroyed through repeated beating!
rule nr 6.
and without comparison the most important!
start taking responsibility for your life!
and by this i mean you need to become the best version of yourself!
learn to walk straight.
wear your clothes right.
talk straight
improve everything you can on yourself.
this is health. knowledge. looks. sex. career, spirituality EVERYTHING!
i don't care what religion you are from your god made you! and if you do not reach your full potential. by definition you are not using the gifts your god gave you. you are wasting gods work! how dare you?!
rule nr 7.
always have your passion above your woman!
this is the hardest one to make people understand. and i could literally write a book about this one alone but let me just make it short and easy:
men are measured by our ability to archive, woman are measured by their ability to get the best archiving male to reproduce with!
nature shits on equality! and nature wants the strongest offspring. a woman will always be coded to reproduce with the strongest possible male.
the moment you let your woman succeed your passions. you have set a timer. eventually she will leave. she is not with a strong male anymore! the sexual tension is gone and soon. she will be gone aswell!
get this into your head and live by these codes and your problem will not be to get a girl. your problem will be to keep them at distance!
last note:
i have been fit and worshipped for being the "cool guy"
i have been fat and awkward.
i have had an average sized cock and a big cock (thanks to [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]mos[/words])
i have been homeless
i have been the one with the traveling job and the insane high income
i have been in deep deep loving relationships. and i have been in 100% sexual relationships.
i have dated 2 bi sexual womana at the same time.
i have cheated. i have been cheated on.
and by no means do i perceive myself as perfect.
i fuck up all the time! but i always do my best. and i am always man enough to admit my mistake!
never in my life have i not been able to get laid. however at times it has been harder (currently im packing alot of muscle which works better for getting pussy than money does! (no shit!)
remember guys! this life is a rollercoaster. it goes up and down and twists around.
now you can cover your face scream and cry. or you can open up laugh and have the best time!
the ride will continue! and eventually it will stop. and at this time you will look back. and you will regret all the things you didn't see and you never get the chance to see again.
what makes the difference between a person who is successful in life and a person unsuccessful. is fear!
the strong fears that he doesn't experience enough.
the weak will fear whatever he experiences!
ohh and Templnite. i quoted you but this text is not directed at you. it is a general message. so don't misunderstand this as an attack.
and merry christmas