I know a fair amount of people that have big dreams, they lay around in the projects all day collecting a government check and smoke weed around their newborn babies but can't afford anything. They come up with all these big dreams while they are high and never do anything to move forward in life. Sometimes we need to forget about the big dreams and focus on the big picture to get our life in order. Once we accomplish that then we can start trying to make our dreams a reality.
I have learned in life that if you don't do other peoples jobs for them to get what you want, you will most likely never get it. I spent a great deal of my relationship showing this to my lady. She is the type of person that would sit around waiting for someone else to do something for her to learn they had no intentions to do anything.
Example, we recently hired a relator to find a new home, this relator did absolutely nothing for weeks. I had to stay on his ass everyday and he never accomplished anything. The guy never returned calls or gave us updates. I went directly to his manger and his manager said he would take care of it and nothing changed. I ended up doing everything myself and got it done in a couple days and then when the relator found out, he expected to get a commission. I told him and his manager to fuck off and told them how fucking lazy, sloppy and unprofessional they were. I called some other random relator and let them get the commission. People are fucking lazy and that is why they do not succeed in life.
Two rules I live by:
1) If you want it done right, do it yourself
2) If you hang with nine broke friends, you're bound to be the tenth one