I read from time to time guys who say they have shied away from opportunities with girls because of the size of their penis. Other guys trawl the net looking for a definition of “average penis size” until they find one that make them feel closer to average as a confidence booster. Hopefully this thread will help you get over it and face up to your heterosexuality for once and for all.
OK, what is average?
Forget average, let’s discuss large, medium and small and compare the last two.
Medium is what most guys are. If everyone was in the medium range, size would not matter that much and technique would be the all-important thing for any aspiring lover of pussy. Many of us are smaller than this.
Most guys are around 6-7” in usable length and 5-5.5” girth.
Small and thin are sizes that are less than what most guys have. A very small penis is one that is much less than medium.
What about vagina size?
Girls generally start off with a vagina size of 4-6” that is designed with enough elasticity to accommodate up to 7-8” with care. Girls vaginas generally get looser over time from repeated penetration. Larger penises create larger vaginas in time. Childbirth greatly enlarges the vagina, although natural post-natal processes will rectify this for her to some degree. Surgical vaginal enhancement procedures are becoming increasingly popular with older women where their sexual pleasure has diminished because of this. A large vagina does not mean she is promiscuous and women are very conscience of the feel of their vagina to men.
So what does the difference feel like for her?
To get an idea of the difference, lube you hand up and compare the feeling of masturbating with two fingers and thumb with a full hand grip. Tighten the grip to simulate girth gain. One or two fingers with light grip will get you to orgasm, but the full tight hand feels better and gets you there faster.
Take the example of a girl with two guys, one small and one with good girth. A guy with a small penis (5x4.5”) will feel nice to her as he enters her but will not likely take her to climax without good technique, and interaction from her. If the same girl then takes a girthy medium (say about 6.5x5.5) and you will notice that each stroke takes her breath away a little. The feeling of penetration is intensely nice. This biggest affect comes from the girth. The girthy medium guy need not put as much effort to take her to climax because the thickness is working the G-spot and clitoris nicely. Her climax will likely be deeper.
Do women choose a lover based on his penis size?
Most women chose a partner based on social status, looks and personality. Like attracts like and interacts best. Penis size is normally a surprise package and a small penis will normally be a disappointment, but not a relationship-ender.
Women tend to consider guys in two categories; a good long-term partner and a good 1-night stand (good fuck). Women do talk about it sometimes and if you are known as one of the smaller guys, then you probably won’t be their first choice for a good fuck.
Look at it this way – would you stand up a beautiful girl you really liked because she wasn’t great in bed?
Can I be a good lover to her, even with a small penis?
She will think of you as a good lover when her body associates you with pleasure and satisfaction. While a larger penis is an advantage is creating vaginal stimulation and deeper orgasms, it isn’t just about penile penetration.
Think like a woman.
A woman cares about being desirable much more than she cares about your penis. It is important that you find her desirable and show it. Be outgoing and fun to her is the right start. Shy guys don’t get laid often.
You are more than just a penis. She is more than just a vagina. Her body has many places that give her pleasure. Research information on what women’s bodies and her erogenous zones. If being with you makes her feel good and desirable, then you will be desirable to her.
A woman will respond more when she feels safe and comfortable. Women are more susceptible to STDs, pregnancy and assault from bad guys.
Cleanliness is next to godliness and good personal hygiene is a must, bad personal hygiene is a major turn-off. Having an STD makes you a sexual leper. Insisting on safer sex indicates to her that you are more likely to be STD free, which is a major attraction.
Walk away from anyone who insists on unsafe sex.
Make love like a man.
From the moment you take her to bed, worship her body and show her how hot she makes you feel. Undress her piece by piece. Talk softly to her stroke her hair and caress all those places that she loves. Encourage her to tell you what is nice. It is all about her.
Oral sex is the next step, but if safe sex is needed, just tease her with your tongue instead (tummy area just above the pussy) and give her a preview of what may lay ahead if she comes back for more.
When you enter her, try to maximize the contact between your pelvis and her clitoris and tilt your pelvis to work upward toward the G-spot. Your penis will enlarge slightly closer to ejaculation and if she is close to orgasm, the feeling of deep ejaculation may tip her over the edge.
After you come, stay interested in her and give her the feeling that she was really good for you. She won’t like a guy who blows and then rolls over to sleep because that is selfish. Let her know that you are the type of guy who really wants to satisfy her even if she didn’t come the first time.
Will she laugh or put me down over it.
It is all about mutual respect and a good attitude. Would you call a large girl fat-arse if she only ever treated you with respect?
I have been with women who make good-natured jokes about small penises and they are just being playful. Be cool about it and don’t get little-man-syndrome.
Never put yourself down because this is a turn-off. If you like yourself as a whole, you become more likeable to her and every one else. If you keep going on about your small size to her she will just see you as a small cocked guy with little-man-syndrome.
Some women do have the no-small-dicks-for-me mantra, the same ways as insecure or immature men have no-fat –chick/small-tits bumper stickers on their car. It is the female equivalent of little-man-syndrome, which I would call ugly-chick-syndrome because they are basically fucked up in some way and should be avoided.
Will she leave me or be unfaithful because of my size.
If a women is going to leave you because you are too small for what she wants, then it will happen early on. If you took a woman home with you last Saturday night and she didn’t react to you much in bed and didn’t return you calls, then size may be one reason, particularly if you are very small. A woman will not usually admit that, so you will never know. Chalk it up as a 1-nighter and don’t worry about it. As long as you treated her well, she won’t speak badly of you to her friends.
In any longer-term relationship, some women are unfaithful. Half of them are meaningless flings and the other half are from being unhappy or bored with their partner or otherwise falling for another guy. Having another man’s larger penis would be tempting for a woman who wasn’t being sexually fulfilled and a 1-night stand is the most common fantasy women have. Let’s face it, we all have temptations.
Far and away the best way to deal with this one is encourage her to talk about her temptations and frustrations. Be tell-able without acting too jealous or insecure, or you may be the last to know.
She wants more than I have. What to do?
You need to be realistic about your limitations here. She enjoys being filled, like all women, and staying with you may mean that she will never experience that pleasure.
Sex shops sell toys of different types and shapes and most grown-ups will use them at one time in their life. Keep an open mind and experiment. Some sensible size therapy is fun and your penis will still feel the same to her. Interestingly, women will tend to choose a toy with function, men will go for size. Women love shopping too, so it makes a great date.
It is not unheard of to have a human dildo in the equation in the form of a trusted friend, random stranger or one who accepts credit cards for guaranteed emotional detacHydromaxent. This might be emotionally difficult for someone you love, but the offer will assure her that staying with you doesn’t mean never experiencing a more natural fulfillment.
What is the best sexual position for a small penis?
Any position that maximizes clitoral stimulation and pushes your penis toward the G-spot is good. She is less likely to come if she is too passive. She needs to interact with you.
Without a size advantage, you may have to experiment and be patient.
My current partner did a bit of her own research and took about 1-2 months to find the way to make penile penetration give her the big-O. She reached orgasm by being on top, pushing her clitoris onto my pubic bone while I screwed her by rocking on that same point. Within no time she was also multi-orgasmic. Years later, I learned that tilting my pelvis and putting a pillow under her ass pushed my little cock-head into her G-spot for a vaginal orgasm. When she is too wet and tented, I sometime use a dildo to bring her to orgasm, then resume with my own penis with good result.
Going in quick and not-quite-wet can increase vaginal stimulation due to increased friction inside for a quick intense fuck. And finally, a small penis is easy for her to swallow.
Have fun.
OK, what is average?
Forget average, let’s discuss large, medium and small and compare the last two.
Medium is what most guys are. If everyone was in the medium range, size would not matter that much and technique would be the all-important thing for any aspiring lover of pussy. Many of us are smaller than this.
Most guys are around 6-7” in usable length and 5-5.5” girth.
Small and thin are sizes that are less than what most guys have. A very small penis is one that is much less than medium.
What about vagina size?
Girls generally start off with a vagina size of 4-6” that is designed with enough elasticity to accommodate up to 7-8” with care. Girls vaginas generally get looser over time from repeated penetration. Larger penises create larger vaginas in time. Childbirth greatly enlarges the vagina, although natural post-natal processes will rectify this for her to some degree. Surgical vaginal enhancement procedures are becoming increasingly popular with older women where their sexual pleasure has diminished because of this. A large vagina does not mean she is promiscuous and women are very conscience of the feel of their vagina to men.
So what does the difference feel like for her?
To get an idea of the difference, lube you hand up and compare the feeling of masturbating with two fingers and thumb with a full hand grip. Tighten the grip to simulate girth gain. One or two fingers with light grip will get you to orgasm, but the full tight hand feels better and gets you there faster.
Take the example of a girl with two guys, one small and one with good girth. A guy with a small penis (5x4.5”) will feel nice to her as he enters her but will not likely take her to climax without good technique, and interaction from her. If the same girl then takes a girthy medium (say about 6.5x5.5) and you will notice that each stroke takes her breath away a little. The feeling of penetration is intensely nice. This biggest affect comes from the girth. The girthy medium guy need not put as much effort to take her to climax because the thickness is working the G-spot and clitoris nicely. Her climax will likely be deeper.
Do women choose a lover based on his penis size?
Most women chose a partner based on social status, looks and personality. Like attracts like and interacts best. Penis size is normally a surprise package and a small penis will normally be a disappointment, but not a relationship-ender.
Women tend to consider guys in two categories; a good long-term partner and a good 1-night stand (good fuck). Women do talk about it sometimes and if you are known as one of the smaller guys, then you probably won’t be their first choice for a good fuck.
Look at it this way – would you stand up a beautiful girl you really liked because she wasn’t great in bed?
Can I be a good lover to her, even with a small penis?
She will think of you as a good lover when her body associates you with pleasure and satisfaction. While a larger penis is an advantage is creating vaginal stimulation and deeper orgasms, it isn’t just about penile penetration.
Think like a woman.
A woman cares about being desirable much more than she cares about your penis. It is important that you find her desirable and show it. Be outgoing and fun to her is the right start. Shy guys don’t get laid often.
You are more than just a penis. She is more than just a vagina. Her body has many places that give her pleasure. Research information on what women’s bodies and her erogenous zones. If being with you makes her feel good and desirable, then you will be desirable to her.
A woman will respond more when she feels safe and comfortable. Women are more susceptible to STDs, pregnancy and assault from bad guys.
Cleanliness is next to godliness and good personal hygiene is a must, bad personal hygiene is a major turn-off. Having an STD makes you a sexual leper. Insisting on safer sex indicates to her that you are more likely to be STD free, which is a major attraction.
Walk away from anyone who insists on unsafe sex.
Make love like a man.
From the moment you take her to bed, worship her body and show her how hot she makes you feel. Undress her piece by piece. Talk softly to her stroke her hair and caress all those places that she loves. Encourage her to tell you what is nice. It is all about her.
Oral sex is the next step, but if safe sex is needed, just tease her with your tongue instead (tummy area just above the pussy) and give her a preview of what may lay ahead if she comes back for more.
When you enter her, try to maximize the contact between your pelvis and her clitoris and tilt your pelvis to work upward toward the G-spot. Your penis will enlarge slightly closer to ejaculation and if she is close to orgasm, the feeling of deep ejaculation may tip her over the edge.
After you come, stay interested in her and give her the feeling that she was really good for you. She won’t like a guy who blows and then rolls over to sleep because that is selfish. Let her know that you are the type of guy who really wants to satisfy her even if she didn’t come the first time.
Will she laugh or put me down over it.
It is all about mutual respect and a good attitude. Would you call a large girl fat-arse if she only ever treated you with respect?
I have been with women who make good-natured jokes about small penises and they are just being playful. Be cool about it and don’t get little-man-syndrome.
Never put yourself down because this is a turn-off. If you like yourself as a whole, you become more likeable to her and every one else. If you keep going on about your small size to her she will just see you as a small cocked guy with little-man-syndrome.
Some women do have the no-small-dicks-for-me mantra, the same ways as insecure or immature men have no-fat –chick/small-tits bumper stickers on their car. It is the female equivalent of little-man-syndrome, which I would call ugly-chick-syndrome because they are basically fucked up in some way and should be avoided.
Will she leave me or be unfaithful because of my size.
If a women is going to leave you because you are too small for what she wants, then it will happen early on. If you took a woman home with you last Saturday night and she didn’t react to you much in bed and didn’t return you calls, then size may be one reason, particularly if you are very small. A woman will not usually admit that, so you will never know. Chalk it up as a 1-nighter and don’t worry about it. As long as you treated her well, she won’t speak badly of you to her friends.
In any longer-term relationship, some women are unfaithful. Half of them are meaningless flings and the other half are from being unhappy or bored with their partner or otherwise falling for another guy. Having another man’s larger penis would be tempting for a woman who wasn’t being sexually fulfilled and a 1-night stand is the most common fantasy women have. Let’s face it, we all have temptations.
Far and away the best way to deal with this one is encourage her to talk about her temptations and frustrations. Be tell-able without acting too jealous or insecure, or you may be the last to know.
She wants more than I have. What to do?
You need to be realistic about your limitations here. She enjoys being filled, like all women, and staying with you may mean that she will never experience that pleasure.
Sex shops sell toys of different types and shapes and most grown-ups will use them at one time in their life. Keep an open mind and experiment. Some sensible size therapy is fun and your penis will still feel the same to her. Interestingly, women will tend to choose a toy with function, men will go for size. Women love shopping too, so it makes a great date.
It is not unheard of to have a human dildo in the equation in the form of a trusted friend, random stranger or one who accepts credit cards for guaranteed emotional detacHydromaxent. This might be emotionally difficult for someone you love, but the offer will assure her that staying with you doesn’t mean never experiencing a more natural fulfillment.
What is the best sexual position for a small penis?
Any position that maximizes clitoral stimulation and pushes your penis toward the G-spot is good. She is less likely to come if she is too passive. She needs to interact with you.
Without a size advantage, you may have to experiment and be patient.
My current partner did a bit of her own research and took about 1-2 months to find the way to make penile penetration give her the big-O. She reached orgasm by being on top, pushing her clitoris onto my pubic bone while I screwed her by rocking on that same point. Within no time she was also multi-orgasmic. Years later, I learned that tilting my pelvis and putting a pillow under her ass pushed my little cock-head into her G-spot for a vaginal orgasm. When she is too wet and tented, I sometime use a dildo to bring her to orgasm, then resume with my own penis with good result.
Going in quick and not-quite-wet can increase vaginal stimulation due to increased friction inside for a quick intense fuck. And finally, a small penis is easy for her to swallow.
Have fun.
