NoFap no Pornography Accountability Thread

doublelongdaddy;761063 said:
81 days to go. I bet you break by day 8! :)
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let me know what I stand to lose, I mean the major disadvantages of not doing erect stretches. If you win, it would be all because I ejaculate after doing erect stretches since I need to watch adult entertainment while doing the stretches.
 
huge-girth;761122 said:
let me know what I stand to lose, I mean the major disadvantages of not doing erect stretches. If you win, it would be all because I ejaculate after doing erect stretches since I need to watch adult entertainment while doing the stretches.
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Not doing erect stretches? That means you are not getting your BPFSL to become BPEL, or closing the gap between these two measurements. Disadvantage? It is a level playing field, you do what you do and I will do what I do, which is win :)
 
doublelongdaddy;761171 said:
Not doing erect stretches? That means you are not getting your BPFSL to become BPEL, or closing the gap between these two measurements. Disadvantage? It is a level playing field, you do what you do and I will do what I do, which is win :)
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I give up for the love I have for my gains :)
 
huge-girth;761254 said:
I give up for the love I have for my gains :)
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I think it best never to have these contest as the contest gives the opportunity to fuck up. Without this contest over my head I know I will do better. So odd how that happens.
 
doublelongdaddy;761300 said:
I think it best never to have these contest as the contest gives the opportunity to fuck up. Without this contest over my head I know I will do better. So odd how that happens.
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But in all of this I learnt a lesson. Be careful with rules, moderation in everything is best.
 
huge-girth;761396 said:
But in all of this I learnt a lesson. Be careful with rules, moderation in everything is best.
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Saint Pauls said it best "All things are permissible but not all are profitable"
 
In my introductory post I mentioned I am involved in NoFap, and DLD mentioned that he is as well. So I am starting this thread for anyone in these forums interested in quitting pornagraphy, on either a permanent or temporary basis.

The word scandal come from the Greek word skandalon, meaning a stumbling block- something that trips you up on your path. Masturbation and pornography do nothing but get in the way of our goals. And though they may, at times, seem to be more like a boulder than a small block, it can be moved.

With God's help we can quit this. Permanently.

If anyone is looking for an accountability partner hit me up on Kik: WorldSifter
 
My situation is I’ve been celibate for 11 years, I have not been on a date or with a woman in any capacity over this 11 years. Masturbation always seemed like a daily necessity, and for me adult entertainment was needed (for the most part). Today I can go a week or sometimes a month. I do not want to quit, I thinking quitting anything creates a rule and that rule will most certainly be broken. I do not do it because I want to, most times I have to force it, I do it because I begin to get fustrated and easily angered. When I get to that point I find the lesser of the two would be releasing myself.

Understand I am also a minister and I can not teach masturbation is wrong as it is not written to be. (Yes, I know about Owan?) so since God did not speak against it, where He had plenty of opportunities, the 613 laws could simply be 614. Why was it not mentioned in negative light? I think because a single man who has given his life to the Lord needs that release. I know I should like a perverted preacher, and that is just fine? I teach Gods Word as it is written.

With all that said sometimes I can look at very innocent material and take care of business when I find myself in that situation. Problem is it never stays innocent, it almost always leads to full out adult entertainment! So trying to avoid this is where I suffer.

I would be happy to get myself to once a month and work from there. Quitting seems unrealistic for me since I am complete celibate. But getting longer periods would be awesome cause no matter when I do it the guilt and regret is always the same. I refuse to go to God and dump my guilt on Him, Jesus already has completely forgiven me so why would I remind Him of something He has already completely forgiven and forgotten? “I have forgotten your sins as far as east is from west” that eternity! So I am stuck with the guilt and that sting hurts so bad I think twice next time. I will only go to God in praise, glory and honor of everything They have done for me.

So I will start this accountability tomorrow since I have had a very stressful week filled with frustration. Monday is a good starting day. I will be accountable from them forward.

I pray this helps us get to a better place and helps others who want to take part too. Thanks for starting the thread ❤️
 
Also I wanted to tell you that I am a biblical Christian saved by Grace. I do not belong to any religion and I am quite against religion. I rest in the work of Jesus Christ. ❤ I feel laws and rules do nothing but trip me up. Perhaps Voltaire said it best! “Perfect is the enemy of good”
 
AbbeyNormal said:
I am a Christian also. I believe we are saved by grace alone but I also pray the He convicts me in my heart and lead me to do what is right in His eyes.
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Exactly! His spirit is always convicting us of our righteousness, This is why we grieve the Spirit when we do something wrong. It’s simply does not line up with the new creation we are. We know what’s wrong, we need to pray for strength. The apostle Paul tells us “everything is permissible, but not everything is profitable” we have a responsibility to be honest with ourselves to what is right and what is wrong.
 
I'm celibate for the past 9 years, and class myself as something like asexual, but I still have a high sex drive from time to time, but control it with visualization, and the occasional masturbation, but very rarely to adult entertainment, its often out of memories with ex partners.

I've used adult entertainment less and less, but do look at the occasional image, from my xxx folder. Are images bad? I actually prefer them these days to anything movie-like, and more often then not the woman on her own, and partially clothed.

Been thinking of getting a fleshlight to make the experience more pleasurable tbh, and although I have posted in the sex doll thread, I dont have the space or privacy for one, nor the money!
 
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I have owned a since 2007 Fleshlight (not the same one) and i can say it dose make it more pleasurable. But I am thinking of investing in a doll I have a close friend who did and he says it was worth ever penny ($2200). I have a bit in the savings plus my income tax refund wil more than cover the cost and privacy is no issue. But we will see.
 
Good to have you onboard Red! 4 of us accountable to one another...sounds like MOS when we started ?

I do not have a FleshLight, I have my hand?I have been fapfree for 7 days. Shooting for 30 or more.
 
9 days in and I just let one off with no adult entertainment! ? just some YouTube boob video. ? I am going to shoot for another 30 and try with no visuals at all. For some reason it scares me in a strange way, like what should I think? Idk ? I guess I will not know till I try. The reason I slipped up was libido increased a bit this evening, I was watching some TikTok videos and some of the videos were cute girls, and I actually felt my penis getting hard so I took advantage. Slight healthy regret that I did not accomplish the 30 days but I feel as though, in some way, this was a big step tonight without going to porntube or the like. Prayers for me Brothers to give credit where due and improve where I can ❤ Day 1.....
 
AbbeyNormal said:
Yup I have seen those TikTok videos my self, so i understand completely.
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It felt good to have some libido, I could have avoided it but I did not. Like I said some healthy regret and right back on the horse. For me this is like climbing Mount Everest one day you’re climbing up the next day or climbing down but you’re always climbing up in the end. I’m very happy that I did not go to the place that makes me feel so guilty. Although I don’t feel great about tonight I do feel better in the way it happened. Progress is progress. ❤
 
I feel the same. I have found that I always feel way worse masturbating to adult entertainment than my imagination. adult entertainment makes me feel dirty in away.
I have got back into working out and changed my nutrition plus I added testosterone boosting supplements (all legal) and I have had a huge increase in sex drive. So I have to watch out how I direct that energy. If I dont allow myself some realse I can very easly fiind my way back to adult entertainment.
 
AbbeyNormal said:
I feel the same. I have found that I always feel way worse masturbating to adult entertainment than my imagination. adult entertainment makes me feel dirty in away.
I have got back into working out and changed my nutrition plus I added testosterone boosting supplements (all legal) and I have had a huge increase in sex drive. So I have to watch out how I direct that energy. If I dont allow myself some realse I can very easly fiind my way back to adult entertainment.
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It’s a slippery slope and you can go from the most simple image and without control and up in the most disgusting filth. I’m happy that I was able to stop at a certain point but still that’s not attaining what I desire which is to control myself. I have no qualms about masturbation but I do about pornography. I usually do not feel any kind of libido to really masturbate so when it comes up I sort of feel like I should take advantage of it but then when I’m done I always have regret. But this time the regret will fade quickly because I’ve already admitted it to you I’ve asked you to pray for me and when I wake up tomorrow it’s a new day and I’m not gonna spend one minute feeling guilt. On to better stronger more discipline days.
 
DLD said:
It’s a slippery slope and you can go from the most simple image and without control and up in the most disgusting filth. I’m happy that I was able to stop at a certain point but still that’s not attaining what I desire which is to control myself. I have no qualms about masturbation but I do about pornography. I usually do not feel any kind of libido to really masturbate so when it comes up I sort of feel like I should take advantage of it but then when I’m done I always have regret. But this time the regret will fade quickly because I’ve already admitted it to you I’ve asked you to pray for me and when I wake up tomorrow it’s a new day and I’m not gonna spend one minute feeling guilt. On to better stronger more discipline days.
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I agree and I will pray.
 
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I’ll read it to this afternoon I gotta laydown and take a nap I’ve been up all night. It’ll give me something to look forward to when I wake up. I’m so happy both of you have responded makes me feel better about what happened and I thank you for your prayers. I think we’ll have a nice nap now knowing that you both care so much, thank you
 
DLD said:
I’ll read it to this afternoon I gotta laydown and take a nap I’ve been up all night. It’ll give me something to look forward to when I wake up. I’m so happy both of you have responded makes me feel better about what happened and I thank you for your prayers. I think we’ll have a nice nap now knowing that you both care so much, thank you
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DLD said:
My situation is I’ve been celibate for 11 years, I have not been on a date or with a woman in any capacity over this 11 years. Masturbation always seemed like a daily necessity, and for me adult entertainment was needed (for the most part). Today I can go a week or sometimes a month. I do not want to quit, I thinking quitting anything creates a rule and that rule will most certainly be broken. I do not do it because I want to, most times I have to force it, I do it because I begin to get fustrated and easily angered. When I get to that point I find the lesser of the two would be releasing myself.

Understand I am also a minister and I can not teach masturbation is wrong as it is not written to be. (Yes, I know about Owan?) so since God did not speak against it, where He had plenty of opportunities, the 613 laws could simply be 614. Why was it not mentioned in negative light? I think because a single man who has given his life to the Lord needs that release. I know I should like a perverted preacher, and that is just fine? I teach Gods Word as it is written.

With all that said sometimes I can look at very innocent material and take care of business when I find myself in that situation. Problem is it never stays innocent, it almost always leads to full out adult entertainment! So trying to avoid this is where I suffer.

I would be happy to get myself to once a month and work from there. Quitting seems unrealistic for me since I am complete celibate. But getting longer periods would be awesome cause no matter when I do it the guilt and regret is always the same. I refuse to go to God and dump my guilt on Him, Jesus already has completely forgiven me so why would I remind Him of something He has already completely forgiven and forgotten? “I have forgotten your sins as far as east is from west” that eternity! So I am stuck with the guilt and that sting hurts so bad I think twice next time. I will only go to God in praise, glory and honor of everything They have done for me.

So I will start this accountability tomorrow since I have had a very stressful week filled with frustration. Monday is a good starting day. I will be accountable from them forward.

I pray this helps us get to a better place and helps others who want to take part too. Thanks for starting the thread ❤
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Out of curiosity DLD why are u celibate? Is it spiritual ? Why have a massive penis and not be in a relationship
 
I became a minister after Jen left me. I also decided that I wanted to be celibate as it allowed me more time with God and helping people. I am in no religion, I strictly teach from the Bible and teach the message of “grace without works”. I believe in the work Jesus Christ did at the cross was enough.
 
DLD said:
I became a minister after Jen left me. I also decided that I wanted to be celibate as it allowed me more time with God and helping people. I am in no religion, I strictly teach from the Bible and teach the message of “grace without works”. I believe in the work Jesus Christ did at the cross was enough.
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Interesting that's awesome... DLD!
 
I only felt regret for a little while today and soon I realized I’m not gonna sit in this negativity any longer. I got back up, I brush myself off and I started all over again. This is not about perfection it’s about progress and all of us will progress at her own pace. This is where we can help one another. My weaknesses maybe your strengths and my strengths maybe your weaknesses. Let us pray for one another and let us help each other not only an accountability but in discernment and love.
 
Wow, great to see how this thread has taken off. And congrats to everone on lasting a week. Or however long you have lasted on your current streak. I'm praying for everyone.

It's been a while since I realized that "self" control is a myth. On my own I am weak, I cannot control my self. And I have found that I am ultimately no match for any lone temptation that I have encountered. Be it adult entertainment, masturbation, camming. Whatever habits I have tried to hide from others and single out for dismissal, I have come back to. I consider it merely luck that I have not really had the occasion to cheat on my wife, and that I have never been vexxed with any particular predisposition to sexual gratification of any illegal nature. But I cannot judge those who are. If I had that itch, I have no reason to believe I could resist any lonely urge to scratch it for anything but the shortest stretch of time.

But I do have hope that these fights CAN be won, just not by the self. Not alone, not in secret. I do not need to fight myself, by myself, and nor should anyone. We fight together. The opposite of addiction is connection.

God protects me from temptation, and the companionship of my brothers gives me more strength than I could ever have on my own. For Him all things are possible and for us, there is no limit to what we can achieve together. Thank you for that.

St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the Devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray, and do thou, O Prince of the heavenly hosts, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan, and all the evil spirits, who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.
 
Let me ask for clarification. Does a wank count if you just touch your penis glans for stimulation in a session? or does it have to be full blown bashing the bishop :)

If its the latter, I have gone over 7 days.
 
Thegripper said:
Wow, great to see how this thread has taken off. And congrats to everone on lasting a week. Or however long you have lasted on your current streak. I'm praying for everyone.

It's been a while since I realized that "self" control is a myth. On my own I am weak, I cannot control my self. And I have found that I am ultimately no match for any lone temptation that I have encountered. Be it adult entertainment, masturbation, camming. Whatever habits I have tried to hide from others and single out for dismissal, I have come back to. I consider it merely luck that I have not really had the occasion to cheat on my wife, and that I have never been vexxed with any particular predisposition to sexual gratification of any illegal nature. But I cannot judge those who are. If I had that itch, I have no reason to believe I could resist any lonely urge to scratch it for anything but the shortest stretch of time.

But I do have hope that these fights CAN be won, just not by the self. Not alone, not in secret. I do not need to fight myself, by myself, and nor should anyone. We fight together. The opposite of addiction is connection.

God protects me from temptation, and the companionship of my brothers gives me more strength than I could ever have on my own. For Him all things are possible and for us, there is no limit to what we can achieve together. Thank you for that.

St. Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the Devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray, and do thou, O Prince of the heavenly hosts, by the power of God, cast into hell Satan, and all the evil spirits, who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.
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Two very important things, one, no rules or laws. Two, no going to God for forgiveness. We are told in one place in the Bible to confess our sins, “confess your sins to one another so you can pray for one another” this is exactly what this thread is about. Why not go to God for forgiveness? Because God has already forgiven and forgotten all of our sins as far as the east is to west. So grasping this it makes it hard for us to do something wrong when we can’t run to God to dump it on him. God made fool proof, he has forgave and forgotten all of our sins past present and future. So when we do do something wrong we have to suffer with the consequences and that is why Grace works and laws don’t. ❤ We should go to God for the right reasons to give him praise glory and honor for everything he has done for us, to pray for one another, to ask for strength and direction. Once we hace
REDZULU2003 said:
Let me ask for clarification. Does a wank count if you just touch your penis glans for stimulation in a session? or does it have to be full blown bashing the bishop :)

If its the latter, I have gone over 7 days.
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It would be considered having an orgasm. Touching yourself, playing with yourself there’s nothing wrong with that in my book. Where it turns ugly for me is when I go from innocence into pornography. We all do this for different reasons and I guess we all have a different types of goals. For me masturbation is not sinful in anyway. The problem with masturbation is I usually need a visual stimulus. This is all well and good when I can keep my mind in a clean space butI almost always end up in the worst place on pornhub.

For me I need to recognize the moment the temptation comes up and stop up there. We never begin at the worst place it always progresses from a single thought. So if you’re aware of it and you feel that temptation begin you can turn away from it before it turns into a full blown out loss. For me, if I’m week I turned away from what I’m looking at and I look towards Jesus and the temptation always fades.

Again please keep me in your prayers and I will keep you in my prayers and let’s do the best we can.
 
We should merge this with the new thread we started the other day. If you know how to do it can you please help @REDZULU2003? The other thread I think it’s called keeping each other accountable. I would rather keep the title keep each other accountable and then merged the two threads. If you don’t know how to do it I can as lightning thank you so much.
 
DLD said:
We should merge this with the new thread we started the other day. If you know how to do it can you please help @REDZULU2003? The other thread I think it’s called keeping each other accountable. I would rather keep the title keep each other accountable and then merged the two threads. If you don’t know how to do it I can as lightning thank you so much.
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Reset 10 days in. Nothing too erotic, mostly seeing their beautiful faces. Pretty cool videos that only show the face. I feel regret but have already turned it over to God! I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! So tomorrow is day one. Pray for me my Brothers, lots of stress that bring lots of temptation. Pray for my strength❤️
 
REDZULU2003 said:
So has everyone fell off :) and started bashing the bishop again
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One time this week with no guilt or regret as I did not look at pornography. I had to push myself into doing it because I had no libido whatsoever. But I was going through lots of frustration over the past last week so I just thought it was time to let one off. I feel much more ease now. So for me it’s about once a month and the biggest thing I need to avoid is the pornography.
 
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always happens on a Sunday night? or should I say Monday morning. 7 days now instead of 30. I think all the changes I am going through has my defenses down a bit. Not upset with myself, just wondering what this wanting in me is. It is not fulfilled in this way. Nor does food or sleep or anything else. It is a wanting of something I can not put my finger on. I am in a good place, at peace with God, friends and family. Just a nervous wanting. Pray for me to figure this out?
 
Nothing to feel guilty about, its perfectly normal. If your doing it to adult entertainment, then keep an eye on it for sure.
 
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REDZULU2003 said:
Nothing to feel guilty about, its perfectly normal. If your doing it to adult entertainment, then keep an eye on it for sure.
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adult entertainment is the demon that will take you from innocence to filth if you allow it!
 
I have masturbated a few times. 75% you could say work related :) experimenting with some length protocol, and I needed to wank. However, I can go without ejaculating now. I try to refrain from cumming, only once a week if that.

No adult entertainment watched when wanking either, but I have seen a few short clips. Wasn't feeling like playing about though, so, guess I'm in control.

Its very easy for me, to just visualize the pussy now.
 
I let one off last night but I only thought about my wife and reviewed the pictures that look like her. I have found that there is absolutely no guilt or regret when I masturbate thinking about my wife. We have been estranged for 10 years but I am still married so I still have this right. I don’t want to get caught up in masturbation every day but when it does happen at least I have a good justification for the I let one off last night but I only thought about my wife and reviewed the pictures that looks like her. I have found that there is absolutely no guilt or regret when I masturbate thinking about my wife. We have been estranged for 10 years but I am still married so I still have this right. I don’t want to get caught up in masturbation every day but when it does happen at least I have a good justification for the guilt.
 
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