my soon to be wife just gave me a shocker...

[kolimuddin]

Hey guys,

i always tend to keep my personal problems to myelf .. but after reading through someof the posts i kinda felt releived to have opened my issues to you all. Please dont take it as a joke coz i am seriously upset with this issue.

I am a 19 year old virgin, things went a bit ruff with my ex. which ended up in a brutal break up. Long things short .. i had met with the love of my life. She is just awesome, everything that i ever wanted but all things must come to a bitter end for me.

yes as u mite have guessed, since this is a Penis Enlargement forum .. my problem relies with SIZE.
i am below average or what ever the statistics are 6inch bpel 5.5 nbpel 4.5 eg. she told me she was with a man who used to abuse her in the name of sex. as in he treated her very ruff. and she used to hate it a LOT . She was craving to be loved more than anything else.

as days went by so did some very true revelation, naming ly something which made me depressed. i was one day just stupidly asking about her ex's and their size. coz i was very confident of my unit as it seemed more than enuff for me ... but i learned to realise her EX. with whom she broke up just a year ago. had an 8 inch cock. and that too she said in such a manner whioch clearly showed she was HAPPY with that size. here are the words which she used "the one i had was FREAKING HUGE"
she also revealed she loved it RUFF inside her, but maybe the guys treatment to her was disturbing to her as he used to beat her down to the ground after sex.

though at the beginning she just said he was a 6 incher. later she said with assurity it was a max of 7 inches but after a while later "correction ... he was an 8 incher" just those three lines just pummelled my self esteem down the drain. she said all measurement using a measuring tape .. the 6 inch was said as an estimate then one day she measure the 7 inches with a scale but after like 5 minutes she measured again and stated it was an 8 inch

i want to grow in size as of now coz i want to be the biggest for her. i cant leave her coz she is very emotionally dependable on me ... and i even made her squirt with my oral skills, apparently i am very good at foreplay and manipulation and oral. but when it comes to just fucking ... it brings me low. coz HOW THE HECK WOULD A GURL BE SATISFIED WITH A 6 INCH when she just had an 8 Inch SHOVED INTO HER recently.

and top of that i have fears of pre-ejac since i never fucked anyone

i would be grately thankful if u could answer my problem. i want to build myself so i can make her beg me to please her. BTW i showed her my unit ... all i got were " ITS SO YUMMY" "its making me very wet" "I love the shape of your head" but never the WORDS "HUGE" or like what my enemy got "FREAKING HUGE"

i am starting to Penis Enlargement seriously from tomorrow. Dec the 13th. wish me luck.
I would love to seek advices on motivation, and being a man ... more that that bastard who just abused my love emotionally but yet in the end made her love the feeling of an 8 inch.

Thanks a lot for readin <

 

[kdogg101]

Hey guys,

i always tend to keep my personal problems to myelf .. but after reading through someof the posts i kinda felt releived to have opened my issues to you all. Please dont take it as a joke coz i am seriously upset with this issue.

I am a 19 year old virgin, things went a bit ruff with my ex. which ended up in a brutal break up. Long things short .. i had met with the love of my life. She is just awesome, everything that i ever wanted but all things must come to a bitter end for me.

yes as u mite have guessed, since this is a Penis Enlargement forum .. my problem relies with SIZE.
i am below average or what ever the statistics are 6inch bpel 5.5 nbpel 4.5 eg. she told me she was with a man who used to abuse her in the name of sex. as in he treated her very ruff. and she used to hate it a LOT . She was craving to be loved more than anything else.

as days went by so did some very true revelation, naming ly something which made me depressed. i was one day just stupidly asking about her ex's and their size. coz i was very confident of my unit as it seemed more than enuff for me ... but i learned to realise her EX. with whom she broke up just a year ago. had an 8 inch cock. and that too she said in such a manner whioch clearly showed she was HAPPY with that size. here are the words which she used "the one i had was FREAKING HUGE"
she also revealed she loved it RUFF inside her, but maybe the guys treatment to her was disturbing to her as he used to beat her down to the ground after sex.

though at the beginning she just said he was a 6 incher. later she said with assurity it was a max of 7 inches but after a while later "correction ... he was an 8 incher" just those three lines just pummelled my self esteem down the drain. she said all measurement using a measuring tape .. the 6 inch was said as an estimate then one day she measure the 7 inches with a scale but after like 5 minutes she measured again and stated it was an 8 inch

i want to grow in size as of now coz i want to be the biggest for her. i cant leave her coz she is very emotionally dependable on me ... and i even made her squirt with my oral skills, apparently i am very good at foreplay and manipulation and oral. but when it comes to just fucking ... it brings me low. coz HOW THE HECK WOULD A GURL BE SATISFIED WITH A 6 INCH when she just had an 8 Inch SHOVED INTO HER recently.

and top of that i have fears of pre-ejac since i never fucked anyone

i would be grately thankful if u could answer my problem. i want to build myself so i can make her beg me to please her. BTW i showed her my unit ... all i got were " ITS SO YUMMY" "its making me very wet" "I love the shape of your head" but never the WORDS "HUGE" or like what my enemy got "FREAKING HUGE"

i am starting to Penis Enlargement seriously from tomorrow. Dec the 13th. wish me luck.
I would love to seek advices on motivation, and being a man ... more that that bastard who just abused my love emotionally but yet in the end made her love the feeling of an 8 inch.

Thanks a lot for readin <

hey man I'll throw in my two cents. Does this girl have a thing for abuse or just a string of bad luck? Also how long have you known her for? Some girls like to see guys skirm(SP) by telling them "real" measurements of their ex's. I know your probably looking through "rose lensed" glasses right now but really this girl seems like she has some issues. (just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt) I would use this "bigger" guy as motivation to pull harder when doing your stretches.(if you indeed pursue this girl) Also man girls love fat dicks (for a good stretch out) not really a huge lenghthy thin dick. Also take your girls "measured" guesses with a grain of salt as there not always right. It reminds me of a thread on here where girls guessed at size and were way off. Maybe someone can post that thread? There's always gonna be someone bigger,stronger,smarter etc.. than you and your gonna have to accept that. The girl is with you now and not with the ex just keep working on Penis Enlargement and use the board for motivation if your lacking in it. Work hard and you shall receive what you are looking for. (refer to my sig)Also read the pre-ejaculation thread on the boards (it should help with your problem) Good luck bro. kdogg

 

[kolimuddin]

thanks for the reply bro ...

no unfortunately she has been literally abused, so yeah it a string of bad luck,
the thing is she is quite happy with my size and she says she has a small vagina that could only take up 6 inches to the max .. but who knows whether she was turned on or not.
At the beginning she just said the biggest she had was a 6 incher .. then slowly and slowly she revealed it to be a 7 and in the end a shocking 8 inches. either she was lying about the 6 or the 8 ...
i been knowing her for the last 2 years ... her being scarred was one reason i could not get physical with her.. but as soon as she started trusting me she sure started revealing a LOT of shockers ...

I have time on my hands ... and i am willing to try and grow with all i have.
Just that after all these .. i just feel insecure to get physical with her. Women are a lot crazy .. they same something and they mean something else later. and it kinda pisses me off.

Size matters ?? it doesn't matter ?? the debate is always a controversial one .. but what if it takes away your self esteem ... that is where i got stuck onto.

thanks a lot for the replies ... more would be appreciated from the members of [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MOS[/words] <

 

[REDZULU2003]

Aha, you double posted... no worries, my reply is here http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=20912

 

[kolimuddin]

thanks for the cheers guys, but another measly question ... is it possible to attain a dong of that size without hanging and pumps ??
DLD has recently started hanging and pumping aint it ?? ?

thanks a lot ... yeah actually she was the one who was like telling me size does not matter .. but there is something inside of me making me realise shez just putting up a face to make me happy.

hopefully i ma try the routine from tomorrow.

 

[The BTC Killer]

Dude,
Every guy's girlfreind's ex-boyfriend has an 8" cock! I see a pattern here. . .

 

[kolimuddin]

ROFL

REALLY .. must be a well planned tried and tested formula by the gals to make their bf's jealous :O

 

[Chi]

If you really like her, go ahead and have sex. Everything else is mind fucking yourself.

I´ve been there and it was all good. Just take the chance. You won´t regret it.

And by the way, my ex girl´s ex boyfriend had a frikkin 9 1/2 inches!! This is a FACT as he was my friend, he told me, plus and I´ve seen it in the showers at college. Biggest shit I´ve ever seen. Me and her had a good loving relationship for 2 years. I was about 5.25 x 4.5 NBP

 

[Jareth]

Dude,
Every guy's girlfreind's ex-boyfriend has an 8" cock! I see a pattern here. . .

Yeah agree!! My gf ex was huge, right!!! Maybe so think of it as this, ok your ex gf who u "liked" had huge tities. Ok now your present gf who u "love/or even like alout" has average size titties. Do u really give a shit. Same thing for gf, don't stress it..

 

[Chi]

I hate to be in that position, having to say "my gf had a huge bf before me". When someone says that, it always seems like the girl probably estimated it wrong or is simply lying about it. Not my case, but anyway... As I said, this didn´t stop me from having a great relationship with her. And I WAS very insecure at first too.

 

[quijjiboo]

ROFL

REALLY .. must be a well planned tried and tested formula by the gals to make their bf's jealous :O

Or maybe the reason why alot of guys are here is because they have had girl with such stories to tell, and they all come on here to post about it.

 

[samzman]

well i haven't run into this problem, because her ex was like..6 inches or somethin like that. so even back when i was 7.5 i had a leg up on him. ha.

however i would hate to be on that end, i was made fun of when it came to my unit before Penis Enlargement. it sucks, i feel your pain. but get that huge 9er and then fuck her till she walks around like she was riding a horse all day

 

[German Stallion]

First, you can make your schlong bigger and i would defintely encourage you to do that. Second, quit worrying about this. Your statement that how can she be happy with a 6 inch when she had an 8 inch...the female vagina is a marvelous organ. You think she will know the difference between your size and his??? If you use yours right, she will be just as happy and maybe more. You already make her happy and quit worrying about size. As you grow, she will be happier and so will you, but for now, learn to use what you have to make her scream. It is a known fact that you can use your size to please and pleasure her just as much as a 8 inch dude. GS

 

[penguinsfan]

So, you posted this thread about three weeks ago. How has Penis Enlargement gone thus far? Do you feel better about this?

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you have a great relationship and love each other, and maximize your skills in every other sexual aspect, your size shouldn't be anything that would every endanger your relationship.

 

[penguinsfan]

DLD has recently started hanging and pumping aint it ?? ?

I know DLD now has a BIB Hanger and I thing he has experimented with it some, but I don't thing he has become a regular hanger, if I'm not mistaken. As far as pumping, I don't think DLD has a favorable view of pumping and does not practice it.

 

[YouGot2Fight]

This is why its better not know. Whats the point in asking those kind of questions. Somethings are best unknown. I never want to know about the previous boyfriends or how they use too have sex with them or how big he was (especially this one) you may not like the answer case in point!!! And if at any point she tells you her ex was bigger you turn around and depict her flaw like, oh yeah will my ex had some huger tits than you lol. It hurts them just as much as it hurts us. (At least I hope so lol)

 

[bIgjOe]

I know DLD now has a BIB Hanger and I thing he has experimented with it some, but I don't thing he has become a regular hanger, if I'm not mistaken. As far as pumping, I don't think DLD has a favorable view of pumping and does not practice it.

I remember him saying he would hang heavy for a little while to increase his base girth. He said with his OCD personality that he would develop an unhealthy obsession with the temp. gains in pumping so he wants to stay away from it for his own good. As far as I understand.

 

[orbital]

Why are you getting married at 19? Its almost certainly a bad idea.

 

[penguinsfan]

Why are you getting married at 19? Its almost certainly a bad idea.

Okay, Dr. Drew. lol

 

[kolimuddin]

Well, thank u so much for all ur replies, sorry for not focusing on this thread since i posted, well as for now our relationship is just based on love and respect for the time being, she apparently says she is happy with my size (yea rite) and its usually me who has to intiate the mood, not the other way around, from COMMON SENSE , women do get turned by a huge cock, whether she wants to take it in or not thatz a different issue.

I realised that i have got a LOW LOT, but it has not dumped my motivation to grow my penis, despite the hardships in gaining lengths , i seem to be gaining girth easily, and my cock looks a lot thick, i cant believe without any attention i grew 0.5 inches in girth while focusing on stretching my tunica and doing wet jelqs,

I am very happy with her and so is she with me, but when ever it comes to having intimacy and having sex, things get a bit screwy and messy coz i am kinda ashamed of my own body (the lower department)

well just gotta keep my head up high and focus on what i can achieve , not what i cant.

thanks for the support guys, Just gotta train till she is the one begging for sex, not me rofl

 

[LambdaCalc]

You mentioned worrying about pre-m.ejac. Don't worry about it. You are in the same position as every single guy in the world when it comes to the first time. I'm assuming she knows you are a virgin, so there should be no pressure to perform. Just tell her you are going to take it slow, and you if you bust a nut in first minute...just know it will get better. You'll be the man with just a bit of practice.

 

[ggogeta]

Well, thank u so much for all ur replies, sorry for not focusing on this thread since i posted, well as for now our relationship is just based on love and respect for the time being, she apparently says she is happy with my size (yea rite) and its usually me who has to intiate the mood, not the other way around, from COMMON SENSE , women do get turned by a huge cock, whether she wants to take it in or not thatz a different issue.

I realised that i have got a LOW LOT, but it has not dumped my motivation to grow my penis, despite the hardships in gaining lengths , i seem to be gaining girth easily, and my cock looks a lot thick, i cant believe without any attention i grew 0.5 inches in girth while focusing on stretching my tunica and doing wet jelqs,

I am very happy with her and so is she with me, but when ever it comes to having intimacy and having sex, things get a bit screwy and messy coz i am kinda ashamed of my own body (the lower department)

well just gotta keep my head up high and focus on what i can achieve , not what i cant.

thanks for the support guys, Just gotta train till she is the one begging for sex, not me rofl

Let me just say that I had the exact same measurement than you when starting Penis Enlargement. My LOT is 9 and I gained quite fast... now that's not my point, but I'm 19 just like you and that means you still are growing. when I hit 7,2 '' I've bottomed a girl for the first time. It's fun at first, but then if I was going to marry her, I'd have to think about not bottoming her everytime (because it hurts her), and that would suck. Lenght does not matter, but girth does. And can I say ur freakin lucky to gain girth fast because I don't and I hate being at my current size, because it looks SMALL because of my girth ( most of the time it's 5) But then again I always think my penis is small ... whatever.

What are your current stats man? And also, how old is your wife? Women tend to get her libido up as they get nearer to 30 as they start to know their own body better, and men ... well it's always high. So I would not stress on that either.

btw 6'' is bigger than average... by a good 0.5' and you're way above the 3-4 you need for point G.

 

[needkitkats]

Hey - I'm just reading this thread for the first time - long time lerker, very few posts so far. Just starting Penis Enlargement, 5.5 NBPenis EnlargementL x 5.5 Mid-shaft girth, a tad under six at the extreme base.


Anyhow - I can relate to this scenario. Girls have told me that they just enjoy bigger ones on their "exes", but what they really had was a fuck-buddy with a giant weiner, and the girls LIKE being treated like shit, it gets them off, making them think that they are nothing and can completely TRUST the guy to make them orgasm on command. They call it "confidence" but in reality it's just the big cock's ability to relatively easily give a pussy an orgasm - it gives the guy a lot of leverage, so to speak.

Small guys can not deliver - we can try to catch up, but frankly the big ones are BIG. It'll take a TON of Penis Enlargement to match up to the ass pounders - the only thing I can do is try to get it to a size so they dont say "Put it all the way in!" when it was fully hard and all the way in already.

BTW - I keep on hearing about these amazing GIRTHED cocks out there - like 7 inch thick "wrist thick" seems to be the consensus of what makes a women crumble. How long do you think it'll take for me to get there?

Another BTW - how are the gains?

PS: If I were you, I would put off marrying this chick - you're too young, you're heads not in the right place about her sexually, and frankly a girl that fucks around like that usually ISNT "unlucky" usually there's a huge f-in history there (abuse as a child, family termoil, drug abuse, etc); just watch out, and if she gets pregnant, insist on a DNA test before you sign anything. Individually it's not a good situation; collectively they add up to a huge red flag - the fact that you're not seeing may say a bit about your own mental state.

Best of luck - just casual advice, feel free to leave it.

 

[desiel_dick]

my dick is 8 iches and 6 around, and ill tell you this :GIRLS DONT CARE ABOUT SIZE, REally....what you got is more than enough to please a female. just be nice to her and treat her well, everything will be fine. You make it seem like 8 inches is monstrous....its big,, but not like once a girl fucks a 8 incher...forget everything, every guy after that is screwed...you smell me dog?

 

[goldmember]

ROFL

REALLY .. must be a well planned tried and tested formula by the gals to make their bf's jealous :O

Or to make their boyfriends start Penis Enlargement

 

[needkitkats]

I've had too many instantces where "size mattered" that it's kind of crazy IMO to say it doesnt.

It doesnt mean that every woman all the time is going only for the biggest dick they can find (not true); but it is true that women SOMETIMES wants a bigger/different penis - usually one that they know is larger/sex is better than their current mate.

It happens. It shouldnt, we hope it doesnt, but it happens quite a bit. Not saying that size is the reason for the reason for cheating, but garunteed orgasms for some women is like a drug (literally) and they'll seek it out.

It makes sense when you look at it from an evolutionary standpoint - why else would female orgams or large penis men, or the cuckold emotions so ingrained into our brain, exist if it wasnt an evolutionary response to thousands of years of genes trying to fight it all out.

 

[bIgjOe]

Let me just say that I had the exact same measurement than you when starting Penis Enlargement. My LOT is 9 and I gained quite fast... now that's not my point, but I'm 19 just like you and that means you still are growing. when I hit 7,2 '' I've bottomed a girl for the first time. It's fun at first, but then if I was going to marry her, I'd have to think about not bottoming her everytime (because it hurts her), and that would suck. Lenght does not matter, but girth does. And can I say ur freakin lucky to gain girth fast because I don't and I hate being at my current size, because it looks SMALL because of my girth ( most of the time it's 5) But then again I always think my penis is small ... whatever.

What are your current stats man? And also, how old is your wife? Women tend to get her libido up as they get nearer to 30 as they start to know their own body better, and men ... well it's always high. So I would not stress on that either.

btw 6'' is bigger than average... by a good 0.5' and you're way above the 3-4 you need for point G.

Let me add some insight into this. I hear alot that for every woman, length DOES NOT MATTER AT ALL. I hear that alot, and I can tell you from experience that is not true. It is true that for the majority of girls, penetrating too deep is only painful, but 2 of the 6 girls I've been with REALLY got off on deep penetration. They loved the feeling of it just pounding the hell out of their cervix and they would cum very hard as a result. Then if you can find the right angle in a vagina you have some experience enough to get around the cervix (cds) FORGET ABOUT IT. The cervix thing I think is a rarer group of females, but I think the cds thing is pretty universal. Granted I believe girth is better overall because of the clitoral stimulation and full feeling a girl gets, but don't count length out either. Also the look of a really long dick is a psychological turn on for many women too. If you combine that with decent girth too, well thats when they start to really get scared of it.

 

[needkitkats]

On a more contemplative thought - isnt marriage meant to be taking the other person into your life AS THEY ARE? As in, with all the flaws and problems? No one is perfect. I think the problem comes when you believe that she has to "settle" for YOU, when in fact that's EXACTLY what she'll be doing no matter who she marries.

If she cant do that and cheats, then she could never be faithful with anyone. At least that's my opinion.

 

[bIgjOe]

On a more contemplative thought - isnt marriage meant to be taking the other person into your life AS THEY ARE? As in, with all the flaws and problems? No one is perfect. I think the problem comes when you believe that she has to "settle" for YOU, when in fact that's EXACTLY what she'll be doing no matter who she marries.

If she cant do that and cheats, then she could never be faithful with anyone. At least that's my opinion.

I don't believe marriage has to be between two people who "settled" for eachother if there is real love involved. Of course everyone will have their flaws, but you accept that as part of their personality that you are in love with. Of course I think your right in saying that this is often not the case and people get married for the wrong reasons, thus our astronomical divorce rate< .

 

[needkitkats]

I don't believe marriage has to be between two people who "settled" for eachother if there is real love involved. Of course everyone will have their flaws, but you accept that as part of their personality that you are in love with. Of course I think your right in saying that this is often not the case and people get married for the wrong reasons, thus our astronomical divorce rate< .

By "settle" I mean to accept as they are, not secretly or opening hoping for much much better (which, I think people, especially women are).

We have not only an astronomical divorce rate but also an increasing rate of out of wedlock births. Now, a lot of it has to do with economic freedom, sexual freedom and such - but I wonder if it's good for a society to have so many of them. It's a tricky issue to be sure, and you cant often generalize about the causes, solutions or even is the issues involved.

 

[bIgjOe]

By "settle" I mean to accept as they are, not secretly or opening hoping for much much better (which, I think people, especially women are).

We have not only an astronomical divorce rate but also an increasing rate of out of wedlock births. Now, a lot of it has to do with economic freedom, sexual freedom and such - but I wonder if it's good for a society to have so many of them. It's a tricky issue to be sure, and you cant often generalize about the causes, solutions or even is the issues involved.

Yeah, I mean consider women's suffrage has only been around for a little under 100 years, they haven't necessarily been in the game long enough to be President if you know what I mean. I think many don't know how to handle this freedom.
In the days of the old west the two things a woman needed to survive were a gun and a man. This wasn't sexism, it was the way things were. They just think things have changed more than they have.
Women nowadays don't seem to understand that YES they are equal to men, but the are NOT men. Men and women are supposed to be yin and yang to eachother, balancing out eachother's weaknesses, and relying on eachother's strengths. What the hell good is it if the woman is trying to have the same strengths as the man? That is what we call unbalance, and trouble soon follows. It seems that if you point out the things that a woman is instinctively good at, and not good at your labeled as sexist or oppressive, but in the back of their minds I bet they know it to be true.

 

[needkitkats]

I agree with you there BigJoe. It's a hard thing to step into because of the complex and emotional politics of it - but I dont think the current system is either fair to anyone; or WORKING for that matter - the real test of any system.