Madonna-Whore Complex

bIgjOe said:

Wow congratulations on that. Maybe its just the areas we live in, but are you sure it wasn't just because you made such a quick turn around on her? Or have you seen this happen alot?

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bIgjOe said:

It is true that instinct drives a great deal of human relationships and interactive behaviors with the opposite sex. In fact it is this very thing that I believe makes guys not want their girl fucking around. The "Alpha Male" mentality or what have you.

Besides all that though, here are some other reasons why a guy wouldn't want his girl sleeping around on him. Anybody can add to this list if they want, and I believe these are pretty reasonable, logical things to believe in.

1. Diseases - Perhaps one of the most obvious. Of course you have to accept your girl has probably been with guys before you, but even then you can go get tested together or something to that affect. If she is sleeping around she probably doesn't want to raise extra suspicion by risking a trip to the local clinic for a little scrape test. So in short I would rather not have to guess where these spots on my dick, or my tongue are coming from.



2. Mental Health - It has not been proven whether or not human beings are "instinctively" monogamous. Once you really settle down with someone, it is supposed to be because you have found someone you are supposed to be happy with, if you are not happy with this person then break up with them, and then go sleep around. At least it would show some courtesy instead of making them into a cuckold.

3. Mental Healthx2 - If you are in a relationship with a girl, and you two are having sex, as most women would expect that if you have sexual urges that is what they are there for. If you have a girl who is cheating on you, now you have to wonder what she is looking for elsewhere that you aren't giving her. Whether it be a bigger penis, better look, better oral skills what have you. You now are left with whatever feeling of inadequacy you believe (or are told) caused her to cheat on you.

4. Respect amongst peers - Whatever the reasons she is cheating on you for, once word gets out (and it will, maybe even before you hear about it because that is the nature of the beast) others who know you are going to question why. Now given the society we are in the man is blamed if he is cheating outright, but if a girl is cheating it must be because of something the man is not giving her. Thus his social standing amongst his peers, and as a potential mate for other females who know about it, is significantly lowered.

If I missed any, anyone can feel free to add to it.

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Breidablik said:

I'm not talking about "cheating", for whatever reasons you've state above. I'm talking about "freedom". Keep the word cheating out of your mind, that's not what i'm talking about.

Here's an example: I like to fuck a girls throat until she pukes everywhere, and my girl likes to sodomize guys with some dildo. But if i dont want that thing in my ass, and if she doesnt want me to fuck her throat like a madman, isnt it just "normal" to let the other realise his/her fantasy on his/her side? Share them and be really aroused about it?

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millionman said:

Ummm....I don't necessarily think fantasies are bad, but when you attempt to make fantasy a reality there is an inherent danger. If you think that "freedom" is being able to do whatever your heart desires then by all means live that way, but as soon as you put your self in a situation where you are committed to someone else then that "freedom" you speak of no longer exists. I say it doesn't exist, but in actuality that "freedom" changes. You can't just do whatever your heart desires because you now have to think about another person's feelings. This goes far beyond sex, it becomes an issue when you want to go out for a beer with the guys, if and when you can go to a football game, or even if you can workout or Penis Enlargement when you feel the urge to.

I understand the whole concept of be free and feel free to enjoy yourself and explore fantasy land, but you never know what could happen to a relationship once that box has been opened. If you love someone let them go, and if you want to fulfill fantasies with other people then go right ahead, but you can't say you love someone and confine them to a role of being on the sideline while you are out fulfilling your fantasy life. Love is about inclusion and experiencing the world along side someone else, and if this excludes any aspect of yourself then you haven't given fully to them what they have given to you. This is not right, nor is it fair to this person who you claim to love and who loves you. If you are married it is stated in the vows, "forsaking all others" as well as "giving all of oneself". These two statements are nonexclusive as far as life long committment goes.

Personally speaking I want to experience as much as I can with my wife and only her. If there's something that she wants to do that I can't share in then it won't be done, and vise versa. Love is about respect, trust, and loyalty. If you go looking for other things because of a whim can you say that you respect the woman you "love" or that you are loyal to her, and can she trust you. I can't answer these questions for anyone else, but I know that within myself I will do everything in my power for the woman I love and that includes controlling my urges and my actions.

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