Girlfriend told me shes a virgin, BUT...

Ugh, okay guys get this..

My girlfriend told me shes a virgin, and we've been going out for a few months now, and knowing that shes a virgin, I haven't engaged in sexual intercourse with her yet, also.. we only see eachother each 2nd weekend, but she loves me a lot and shes very attached and I know she isnt cheating or anything like that.

Now.. the thing is.. I'm going to sleep at her house in August for a week so ill fuck her then, which is very soon.. however..

On saturday I was out with my gf, and one of her old friends from years ago, she hadn;t seen this girl in a year, and they were friends for 3 years, she knows her from school.

Keep in my mind gf also told me she never did drugs, not even weed... and out of nowhere as we're all walking, her friend blurts out.. "remember when we used to smoke weed" etc" Im thinking WTF?????

and then "remember all those guys from blabla club" "you used to msg me on MSN saying i need to get laid" blabla and other worse shit which meant she got fucked many times and made her seem like even a former slut!

Man.. I was so pissed off the rest of the day I didnt hold her hand etc but i also didnt talk about why i was mad, because I felt so fucking hurt and crushed.

Also, she has a condition called 'wide-set' vagina, which means shes wider than most girls I assume, and now I learn shes a fucking former slut probably.. ugh..

Shes really a great girl, very nice, etc.. I know everything she used to do was in the past and she doesnt do it now, but I really fucking dont appreciate that she lied to me and she is STILL denying it saying her friend is full of shit etc.. why the hell would her friend lie?

This whole situation pisses me off.. fuck...

It's like surreal.. I dont look at her the same anymore.. and I know shes a really good liar too, so I cant really trust her when she says its not true..

I wanna stay with her for sure but.. what do you guys think of all this?

Ugh!!!!

If I were you, really liking her (besides this shit), I'd confront her and give her one chance to come clean.

ONE CHANCE.

If she lies again, you can't trust her, and that's the end of it.

hey man, you should try talking to her and explain that her lying to you is worse than any thing she could tell you about her past. id be wary about when her friend says stuff like that IN FRONT OF YOU, girls arent stupid - they know wat they are doing. if you ask her straight out then it puts pressure on them to say the right thing and hence lie, you should approach it delicately and maybe try to catch her out in conversation, maybe talking about your past will help her. also if you have tried your best and still think she is lying to you - get rid of her, last thing you want is a lying gf - only leads to trust issues and cheating.

Thanks for the posts guys, appreciate it, I can use all the help I can get right now. =/

Um.. I think the reason she doesnt wanna tell me though is because she'll think that I think shes a slut and my whole view of her will chance n shit..

And also.. when she told me she was a "virgin" I was pretty happy and surprised and I told her that it was a turnon for me etc.. and also I was like.. well at least your diease free etc..

Anyway I told one of my real life friends about this, and it's obvious its all in her past, she does not do this stuff anymore, she most certainly does not cheat and does not do drugs now or since ive been going out with her but.. its true she should be able to tell me the truth about her past, even if it is tainted and even if she is not proud of it.. especially lying about something like being a virgin.. =|

Im gonna ask her tommorow I hope she fesses up to it but I don't think she will, she's gonna stick to her story.. but ultimately, I guess i'll find out when I fuck her in a few weeks, she better be tight as a motherfucker (even though she has a wide-set vagina) because if not i'll call her on her shit right then and there =p

good luck man

trust is the main thing in a relationship, so when she lies she ends the trust

hope you 2 can talk about everything, better to come out clean then lie about something, cuz lies always come out eventually

l8erz

First Fuck her then ask her about it. Because once you ask her those legs are closed and you may not get the chance at all. They all count..

She probably told you that she was a virgin because thats what you wanted to hear,suppose she has slept with 6 guys before you,if she told you that what would you have thought,you would of ended up asking question after question,what did you do with them,how big were they,did you give them head ect.ect.

I would say that NO women will admit to the real amount of partners they have had,simply because they no how jealous guys can get.

prince Albert said:

She probably told you that she was a virgin because thats what you wanted to hear,suppose she has slept with 6 guys before you,if she told you that what would you have thought,you would of ended up asking question after question,what did you do with them,how big were they,did you give them head ect.ect.

I would say that NO women will admit to the real amount of partners they have had,simply because they no how jealous guys can get.

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Nice post, makes sense.. so... you think its not a big deal that she lied about it though?

Well you yourself described her as a former slut,she probably knew thats what you would think and thats why she lied,she carn't change what she has done in the past she may well regret it who knows.

Just because she has had several guys before doesn't mean she is going to cheat on you either.

I don't think its that big a deal that she lied to you for the reasons ive said,telling you she was a virgin was stupid though,she should of used the universal lie of ive been with 2-3 guys before.

Dude come on. You talked about this "medical condition" in another thread. You want to know what a wide set vagina is? A chick who has been stretched out by a big dick. You said no way she's a virgin who doesn't lie. Don't be so naive. Fuck her of course, but don't develop feelings for her. She obviously is not a virgin and does lie. I'm not saying anything bad about non virgins. All I'm saying is this chick probably thinks she is a player. Bang her for a while but don't put stock in your relationship. Part ways as friends and not enemies.

Also try and fuck her in the arse.
Bust her virgin arse.

I talked to her today guys

and everything is fine

Shes a virgin and I believe her

And lets say hypothetically it really did happen..

She just turned 17 years old, Ive been going out with her since January, and known her since September..

If shes a former slut why would she be so shy for sex shit with me??

She told me her friend said that to get a reaction out of me and it wasnt true and I talked to another one of her friends who the girl did that to also by saying she used to do drugs with her in front of the girls boyfriend (bare with me here lol) and the bf got pissed etc but it wasnt true

So she just likes to stir the pot

In hindsight it really doesnt make sense coz she didnt try anything with me, and im one hot piece of arse and we've been going out for like half a year..

Im gonna bang her next week I think so I shall keep you all posted on how the events unfold, stay tunned!

As of right now I fully believe her, she has however told me she has had oral sex, given and recieved with her former bf, they brokeup in august of last year and thats the last time she did anything sexually she said.

Anyway stay tunned folks!=]

If it isn't so tight that you can't really move your dick than she isn't a virgin.

If she don't bleed when you pop her cherry all tho some girls don't bleed i think but anyway that would have me thinking weather she is lying or not as i understand most girls bleed.

You can calculate if she has or not by the things she does during foreplay etc.If she seems like she knows what she is doing, and if she gives head in a very experienced way, she may be a little seasoned!Also, if she shaves her pussy in a clean cut way, like a runway strip etc.,then you may question that as well!What is the point of a virgin shaving her snatch in a sexy way, unless it has already been seen by a few guys!

If you use a condom, you may ask her to help you put it on, just to see if she knows what she is doing......there again, if she knows how to do this, then that should be a sign!!If she is a virgin, then it may last between you, but what does happen is that later on, she will wonder what it's like to be with other people.....I have seen this happen to many guys, that hook up with a virgin.......it all ends with the relationship drifting apart, and her going out to taste some different meat.What ever happens, I wish you the best!!

It could be that she is what she says. Perhaps she made all that up to her friends to be accepted. Who knows? GS

Girthius said:

If you use a condom, you may ask her to help you put it on, just to see if she knows what she is doing......there again, if she knows how to do this, then that should be a sign!!If she is a virgin, then it may last between you, but what does happen is that later on, she will wonder what it's like to be with other people.....I have seen this happen to many guys, that hook up with a virgin.......it all ends with the relationship drifting apart, and her going out to taste some different meat.What ever happens, I wish you the best!!

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And if she puts the condom on by using just her mouth, I'd say she's no virgin. After your little sexual escapade, ask her what her roster looks like, how many guys she's been with. I don't know, it's possible she changed her ways, went from a straight up slut to stuck-up or whatever. I was with a girl that used to be a big time slut, but she changed, we went out for some 6 months, she never cheated on me (that I know of). Yes, I too have seen girls stray after being de-virginized. Watch out for that!

unfortunately i tend to be more on the negative side of this thread than on the positive. This situation has happened to me with a gf of 3 years when i found out a year into the relation that in and around 2 months before going out with me she went from a very good girl, to a huge whore. She met a couple of guys off the internet and fucked two of them the same day she met them, and tried to fuck the other one as well but the guy got a bad case of limp-dickosys.

you see this situation is very tough. I can with certainty say that I've never hurt so much as when I found out about that. * a little about me: I'm a fitness model and i've always fucked around and not given a fuck about girls. girls are of little importance to me because ive seen how they talk to a jerk like me about their bf being a pussy.. a bf that actually cares about them, and yet they throw all that trust and respect away just to get my attention for a while, (since i treat them like crap ). *

but this girl was different.. it was one of the few times i actually liked her as a person, and we were amazing friends. and what made it amazing was how she used to talk about 'sluts' and how disgusting something some1 did is... to me that was great cause every guy wants a girl that no other guy can have. so she told me she'd only had sex with one person and only 5 times her whole life, and since she was horrible at sex, and horrible at giving head i believed her. now im not sure if she actually learnt with me how to give amazing head, or if she was pretending to be bad the first while. so if ur gf sucks at sex dont take it as assurance that she's a virgin, because she's not stupid, and if she was a former whore she knows how to pretend like she doesnt know wtf she is doing.

to cut the story short i found out about those other guys, and it wasnt really the fact that she'd been with 4 other guys... pfft ive been with girls who've been with 50. it was the fact that she lied, and it made me feel stupid and retarded for playing into her hand like blindass fool. blinded by the so called love and affection you feel when you think you've found the one! ofcourse she denied it to the very last moment, until i showed her "proof" (dont ask) that she'd done what she had. again there was sooo much denial and she just couldnt spit out the fact that she had actually done it until a year later when she admitted to the whole thing. she was always downplaying it and saying people talk shit, her friends, and though she thought she was slick, stuff like this sometimes have a tendency of comming out.

Anyways, after months of hurting and months of her crying and saying that she cant change the past and that she regrets what she did and that she loves me and that she's never been so in love with anyone and that the only reason she did those is because she actually thought love doesnt exist, and alotta of other bullshit, COMBINED with my true affection for her, I decided to give her another chance and believe that she's the person i fell in love with and not a lying whore... but rather, a girl who made some mistakes and has learnt from them.

so i did what you're about to do... forgive and not forget. but one cant help to let go of memories that hurt his mind, body, and soul every time he remembers them for even a second. so the relationship went on for around 3 years, and she was talking of settling down and how she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. and i actually loved her, and though im not ready to settle down i would entertain the idea. everything was going perfect until i found out that she really had changed ... she'd gone from a stupid whore, to a smart one, who now knew how to get past my lie filter. and i found out, that while going out with me, she went to a party, and had a threesome with a guy and his gf, while her OWN BROTHER was in the same party downstairs...

i'd often told her that i wanted to have a 3some w her and another girl, or that a girl friend of mine was giving his bf a threesome for his bday. and you know what her excuse was? 'i really wanted to try kissing a girl'

? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? so why didnt you wanna try it with me?

her answer.. (this GOLD ) 'i didnt want you to think bad of me or think im a whore'..

and ofcourse the question of why did you let the bf join in...
her answer : "because his gf said he has a really big dick!"

lol, so, my friend, you seem like where i was 5 years ago. i could tell you what many have already told you, to fuck her and not give a shit about her, but i can tell you like her and that ur not strong enough to confront the fact that she's a whore.

and if her friend was 'joking' about that crap, trust me, her reaction would have been MUCHHH different that day infront of you and her rather than passive.

being a whore is like being gay. you cant be straight and say nothing to a guy that fingers your ass in a club.. you wont be passive with it.. you will be angry like fuck and youll address it right then and there. but if you're an undercover homo, and some1 squeezes your ass in the club, you might not even notice it. i hope you get the analogy im trying to use here.

my advice would be to face the fact that she's a whore and realize that just as she's lied about drugs and virginity, she could have you believe that she doesnt cheat on you.

i know many girls that have had good looking boyfriends infront of whom they wanted to seem like good girls, and wouldnt fuck him. and yet they had other fuck buddies they would fuck discrete just for the sex. keep your eyes and ears open and your dick covered when you're with her.

and the whole 'wide set' vagina thing seems like a total load of shit. its like when guys with small dicks tell girls that since they're working out alot and taking protein shakes and creatine, they dick has shrunk just the past two weeks. lol.

its funny when a girl asks me... omg so if you stop taking protein shakes, you dick will grow sooo mcuh more... ? ? ?

I hope this response helps you. i can relate to your situation, and i sincerely hope you come out of it with your head high and your cock clean.

V-Kay

Have you fingered this girl, velimirovich? Believe me a virgin pussy is much different than a non virgin one. A virgin pussy is almost non existent. Ask her what a wide set vagina is. I would like to know what she says. Just google the word and you'll see that it isn't a medical term.

Jason1 said:

Have you fingered this girl, velimirovich? Believe me a virgin pussy is much different than a non virgin one. A virgin pussy is almost non existent. Ask her what a wide set vagina is. I would like to know what she says. Just google the word and you'll see that it isn't a medical term.

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1. wide-set vagina
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A person that has a vagina that is really big and can fit two tampons in it.

Ben said that girl had a wide-set vagina.

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http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=wide-set+vagina