Staying motivated when you have plenty..

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Soooo, I'll admit. My motivation is kinda crap rn. I've had a super "busy" 2 weeks and it destroyed my drive for PE. Basically me and my gf broke up and I banged 2 girls (I was emotional and lonely and I'm on some testosterone so I'm horny too lol). Both of the girls commented on me being their biggest and one was even scared to take me at first because of the size. During sex with one of them I was un-intentionally hitting her cervix soo easily that we had to stop several times and try different positions. Well, after sex with those two girls a handful of times, my "ex" came over one night to talk. We talked and got along kinda. Got drunk watching a movie and she started messing with my cock. She said she missed sex with me. So we started messing around and she WOULD NOT SHUT UP about how much bigger I am than the guy she fucked when we broke up (an ex from her past). I asked why she was complimenting me soo much more than ever now and she said "I never really appreciated your body till I was with someone else and realized how much bigger you really are and how much better it feels with you". Obviously that got me on an ego high. She even told me she could fit all of him in her mouth till her nose hit his stomach (and i know he doesn't have a fat pad cuz this dude is shredded with abs 23y/o), but when she sucks me she literally only fits half in her mouth no matter how hard she tries.

I honestly to God am not bragging to you guys lol. I'm well aware that I'm not huge compared to most of you guys on the forum. But basically, my sex life lately has taken all of my "need" for PE out of my mind. I'm making this thread cuz I've realized I almost have no desire for PE anymore but I still haven't hit my goals. How do you guys stay motivated when ur already big enough??? How do U remind urself to PE when u get to the point that u don't feel it's necessary? Can anyone relate to losing motivation but knowing u still need to kee PE in ur life because u set a goal and need to hit THAT goal because u promised urself u would?

Thanks for the help u guys are incredible.
 
It's really up to you. Have a goal you'd like to get to? Keep a training log? You either want it or you don't. No amount of cheering on from us will change that.
 
i hadnt worn a condom in a couple years and im newly single as well. i bought a box of magnum XL and tried one last night. could only fit it half way down my shaft and it was uncomfortably tight. so basically im getting too thick for condoms. what keeps me motivated? obsession, regret, happiness, sadness, hope.... there are a lot of emotions involved. its like any serious endeavor the higher you want to advance up the ladder the more you will have to sacrifice. it aint easy being breezy
 
we need to make the donkeys jealous bro, for too long have our equine enemies ruled the penis universe
 
stillwantmore2;729492 said:
Acro, you poor bastard! You may need female condoms, you donkey. :)
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lol, those are fighting words! :)
 
Haha u guys are a trip lol

I guess my problem is I tend to only PE when I'm feeling inadequate. Then after an ego boost I get lazy. But I'm also afraid if I don't get back in the saddle I'll shrink back down to average size and that would be a nightmare. Have you guys noticed shrinkage when taking a break or stopping for a while? Maybe a testimonial of someone losing gains will scare me into getting back on routine LMAO
 
Xxxi;729522 said:
Haha u guys are a trip lol

I guess my problem is I tend to only PE when I'm feeling inadequate. Then after an ego boost I get lazy. But I'm also afraid if I don't get back in the saddle I'll shrink back down to average size and that would be a nightmare. Have you guys noticed shrinkage when taking a break or stopping for a while? Maybe a testimonial of someone losing gains will scare me into getting back on routine LMAO
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you do lose the temp size boost, but some gains will be permanent if u really hammer that shit.
 
Xxxi;729481 said:
Soooo, I'll admit. My motivation is kinda crap rn. I've had a super "busy" 2 weeks and it destroyed my drive for PE. Basically me and my gf broke up and I banged 2 girls (I was emotional and lonely and I'm on some testosterone so I'm horny too lol). Both of the girls commented on me being their biggest and one was even scared to take me at first because of the size. During sex with one of them I was un-intentionally hitting her cervix soo easily that we had to stop several times and try different positions. Well, after sex with those two girls a handful of times, my "ex" came over one night to talk. We talked and got along kinda. Got drunk watching a movie and she started messing with my cock. She said she missed sex with me. So we started messing around and she WOULD NOT SHUT UP about how much bigger I am than the guy she fucked when we broke up (an ex from her past). I asked why she was complimenting me soo much more than ever now and she said "I never really appreciated your body till I was with someone else and realized how much bigger you really are and how much better it feels with you". Obviously that got me on an ego high. She even told me she could fit all of him in her mouth till her nose hit his stomach (and i know he doesn't have a fat pad cuz this dude is shredded with abs 23y/o), but when she sucks me she literally only fits half in her mouth no matter how hard she tries.

I honestly to God am not bragging to you guys lol. I'm well aware that I'm not huge compared to most of you guys on the forum. But basically, my sex life lately has taken all of my "need" for PE out of my mind. I'm making this thread cuz I've realized I almost have no desire for PE anymore but I still haven't hit my goals. How do you guys stay motivated when ur already big enough??? How do U remind urself to PE when u get to the point that u don't feel it's necessary? Can anyone relate to losing motivation but knowing u still need to kee PE in ur life because u set a goal and need to hit THAT goal because u promised urself u would?

Thanks for the help u guys are incredible.
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Motivation will come and go due to external life errands or distractions. Out of curiosity what are your stats? Best way to stay motivated is to constantly stay active and post here so you remember that PE is a daily thing and so long you post here you will be reminded "shit i need to do PE". Goals can be set long term and short term. Create both, one in which will be in the distant future and the shorter one which will be closer.
I don't consider myself big and my stats are 7.5-7.75BPEL (I fluctuate) and 5"EG. I will consider myself big when I hit 8"BPEL and 5.5" EG. Of course there are people way bigger than me that still believe they're small in a way. And thats why we have gone through research to summarize what the averages of penis size are which is typically 5-6" in length and 4-5" in girth. Anything above that would be above average or big. So anything 6"+ BPEL is above average, 7"+ BPEL is big and so on. Girth wise 5"+ is above average 6"+ is big. We have generalized indicators and thats where you can mark your short term and long term goals.

From my perspective if you dont feel big now and you're being told you're big then that should be motivation to show those girls that you can be even bigger.

Here are the ways I remind myself to do PE:
-Any instance I look at my bathmate I automatically know I have to do PE today (equipment matters)
-Short term/Long term goals
-Staying active on the forum, not necessarily posting but reading the threads etc., stay up to date with things
-If im watching a video and have privacy ill whip out my dick and start doing PE while watching a video
-I always stretch and jelq in the shower
Soon it just becomes 2nd nature

Yes I've lost motivation at one point but like i said motivation comes and goes until you turn PE into 2nd nature.
 
Motivation comes from your why; The WHY to do something is more important that the HOW to do something...

If your reason (why) is compelling and powerful enough for your goal, you will persevere though the how of the tedious, difficulty, challenging, and frustrating. As well as the set-backs and Life gets in the way times.

"He who has a WHY to live for can bear almost any HOW" - Friedrich Nietzsche
 
Dang some great replies. I appreciate the time you guys are putting into this. I really do.

My stats last time I measured were 7.3-7.5 bpel (depending on how hard I can get) and 5.5 girth. Never thought it's that big. I still don't, at all.

I guess my WHY was to impress my last gf. She never complimented it (until now after she slept with someone else). But I always wanted compliments from her so I was soooooo motivated by that. Then since hearing those compliments from other girls and even her now I'm
Just like....: ummmm mission accomplished?

I guess I should atleast do enough to maintain. Idk how much that is tho. Maybe 20 min 3x per week???
 
Motivation is a product of desire and desire demands dedication. If the desire is great enough motivation will be fueled by the demand. This is only in the beginning for once something is proven to work the motivation should be fueled by the gains being made. Every small gain should duel the next until the final goal is reached.
 
Xxxi;729601 said:
Dang some great replies. I appreciate the time you guys are putting into this. I really do.

My stats last time I measured were 7.3-7.5 bpel (depending on how hard I can get) and 5.5 girth. Never thought it's that big. I still don't, at all.

I guess my WHY was to impress my last gf. She never complimented it (until now after she slept with someone else). But I always wanted compliments from her so I was soooooo motivated by that. Then since hearing those compliments from other girls and even her now I'm
Just like....: ummmm mission accomplished?

I guess I should atleast do enough to maintain. Idk how much that is tho. Maybe 20 min 3x per week???
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Problem is sometimes is that females who have not had average sized penises in their life to begin with will not realize how big someone is if they are big. So lets say i had sex with a girl that has never seen a penis in person, she would not compliment me. Why? She can't compare my size to anyone else because she's not been with anyone else and doesn't know it is big. If she started with an average guy first and then after came to me she would notice that I am bigger.

Thats one of the issues I see that could happen. Another is just women don't know what average penis sizes and what big penis sizes look like physically speaking. They will not know oh this penis is so and so inches in length and girth. They are not the ones who measure penises. Guys are the ones that measure and know what they have and can estimate another mans penis size just by the looks.
 
doublelongdaddy;729650 said:
Motivation is a product of desire and desire demands dedication. If the desire is great enough motivation will be fueled by the demand. This is only in the beginning for once something is proven to work the motivation should be fueled by the gains being made. Every small gain should duel the next until the final goal is reached.
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A desire is just a strong wish, a want, it has to be coupled with a reason(why) for your desire to continue...
Desire is the initial creation of motion, Why is the momentum (motivation).
...you have to want (desire) it bad enough to do something about it, you have to have a powerful enough reason(why) to persist at working to get it..
 
Threak-X;729723 said:
A desire is just a strong wish, a want, it has to be coupled with a reason(why) for your desire to continue...
Desire is the initial creation of motion, Why is the momentum (motivation).
...you have to want (desire) it bad enough to do something about it, you have to have a powerful enough reason(why) to persist at working to get it..
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Whos on first? :)
 
kyomoto;729701 said:
Problem is sometimes is that females who have not had average sized penises in their life to begin with will not realize how big someone is if they are big. So lets say i had sex with a girl that has never seen a penis in person, she would not compliment me. Why? She can't compare my size to anyone else because she's not been with anyone else and doesn't know it is big. If she started with an average guy first and then after came to me she would notice that I am bigger.

Thats one of the issues I see that could happen. Another is just women don't know what average penis sizes and what big penis sizes look like physically speaking. They will not know oh this penis is so and so inches in length and girth. They are not the ones who measure penises. Guys are the ones that measure and know what they have and can estimate another mans penis size just by the looks.
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Honestly I think they just don't care until they realize what a bigger one can do lol. In my situation, my gf had slept with 6 guys before me. Never had a vaginal orgasm. I believe it because the first time we did she totally freaked out LMAO. She just started to take it for granted over the years. Then when we broke up and she slept with someone else, sure enough, no orgasm. He got her off with his hand lol. She came back to me literally craving and worshipping my dick like I've never seen before. It freaked me out. Me and her have always had like a best friend tell eachother anything type relationship even before we dated... so I just asked for fun "lol how much bigger am I" and she said probably twice his size because she could put one hand on him and the head would be poking out right above her hand, and with me she can stack both hands and still see the head stick out. So I guess I believe it. But like I said she neverrrrrr made a big deal out of my size before that. She loved the sex and would brag about it but not directly my size. After him tho, she realized the size plays a huge role in "hitting her spot" (her words). So I guess chicks just don't even think much about size until it literally makes them feel something drastically different.
 
Xxxi;729784 said:
So I guess chicks just don't even think much about size until it literally makes them feel something drastically different.
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I've found this to be true in almost every case...size doesn't matter, until it does
 
Thats a quite gut feeling,Women leaving one guy because they met another guy that was bigger..lol Penis size isnt everything thats what they say....
 
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