Recommendations for jealous husband in gay relationship

Hi all,

My name is Andrew and I just joined this forum. For many years now, I have felt that I come up short downstairs. Being gay, I have gotten to see many different penises firsthand over the years. Typically, I have gotten to see other guys erect but not flaccid. I've only seen a few flaccid. I would say that I have been shorter than at least 75% of the other guys when erect. Of all of the serious relationships that I've had, I've been shorter than every guy when flaccid and erect. I've had one boyfriend who was the same length as me when erect but he was still noticeably larger than me when flaccid (he was a true shower). The only thing I've had going for me is that my penis, when erect, is on the thick side, at least compared to its length. As such, my erect cock has been thicker than about half of my previous boyfriends.

The bottomline is that, given that I am gay, I feel this sort of competition with whoemever I am with. Since we both have dicks, I naturally compare. Since I usually come up short in comparsion, it kinda brings me down.

My stats are:
Flaccid length: 3"
Flaccid girth: 4"

Erect length: 5.5" (non-bone pressed), 6.5" (bone pressed)
Erect girth: 5.5"

Here's my current situation. I have been married to this wonderful guy for nearly 3 years. He acknowledges that I have a small dick (especially compared to his--more on that in a moment) but he also recently told me that he understands my insecurity and would support me in trying to make my penis bigger. I'm 5'9" in height and have fairly proportional extremities (arms/hands). My foot size is on the small side for a guy (10.5" shoe size) and my hands are definitely small for a guy...my hand feels like it is the smaller of the two 95%+ of the time when I shake another guy's hand. My husband is 6'5" and has proportional extremenities He has big feet (12" shoe size) and nice long fingers...big hands. As for the really important part of him...well, I'll put it this way...he's got what I call a "locker room cock"--it definitely is the size penis that can easily be shown off. I've never measured him flaccid but he is probably a good 5" long and 4.5" in girth. I have measured him when erect...he is 7.75" long and 4.5"" in girth. Yes, that's right...it seems kind of weird--his penis doesn't change girth from fully flaccid to fully erect. When he is semi-erect, his dick is pretty thick...probably about 5"-5.5" in girth. Is this unusual?

So, yes, my dick is thicker than my husband's when erect. We both jokingly refer to his dick as a "pencil dick" given how long and narrow it is, especially compared to mine.

I've always been happy with my girth when erect. I certainly would like to be longer, however, when erect.

My main issue, given my husband's dimensions, though, is my size when flaccid. When we are home alone together, my husband and I spend much of our time naked, which be both enjoy. We sleep naked, we watch TV naked, etc. So, I constantly get to see my husband's huge flaccid dick. It is a constant reminder of how small I am when flaccid. My husband recently confided to me that I am very small when flaccid based on the guys he has been with previously. He told me that of all the guys he's been with, maybe one of them was shorter than me when flaccid.

So, I have been looking into penis enlargement recently. My goal is to "catch up" to my husband. I want to have a nice, long flaccid penis with some decent girth...perhaps 5" long by 4.5" girth. As for my erect state, I would like to be at least 7.5" long. As for my erect girth, I would happy if it stays right where it is. I certainly wouldn't complain if it gets thicker, though. My husband loves that I have a (relatively) thick cock. I fear that if it weren't for my erect girth, he wouldn't be turned on by my dick at all.

OK, with all that said, I am looking for advice on penis enlargement. I originally thought I would go with either pills or a patch but it seems like neither of these work very well based on what I have read. I recently read up on the "Fastsize" stretcher and it seems promising.

So, given that my primary goal is to increase my flaccid size, what would you recommend? Would the "Fastsize" stretcher be good for that goal? What about pills/patch? Any other suggestions?

I'm ideally looking for something that does not involve much, if any, exercises.

Thanks so much!

Andrew

Andrew
In answer to your question about how to gain length, unfortunately exercises are very good for this and they are free so hee is the newbie routinehttp://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1597. Your alternatives are hanging with either a vac hanger like the max vac or a vice like hanger such as the BIB hanger. Hanging is time consuming and for best results you need to hang for about ten hours a week check out the hanging forum at �other forum� if you are interested http://www.thundersplace.org/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=10. Your only other alternative is what is known as an ADS (All Day Stretcher). There are many different types and you should use the search function on this forum and �other forum� to read other peoples reviews on them, here are a few links to a couple of the more popular ones.
http://www.autoextender.com/
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17825
Hope this helps any more questions just ask and I will get back to you.

Bigjim gave you some good advice. I was kind of intrigued when you said that you always feel a competition in size. I would think it would not matter in a gay relationship. I figured that insecurity and the like would not exist between each other (penis-wise).

Exercise is the best way to accomplish your goals. A stretcher is also a good way to stretch but usually works best in addition to a physical routine. Pills will only be effective as a supplement to your training. Patches, creams, etc. I have had no experience with. Good luck and welcome to MOS.

DLD

Yes, in gay relationships, unlike straight ones, you both have all of the same features, equipment, etc. So, there is a natural tendency to compare. For me, when I constantly see my husband walking around with a huge, flaccid cock that is about the size flaccid that I am erect, it can definitely be a humbling experience. By the way, it doesn't help that he has a huge, low hanging ball sack too!

There's a practical side of my enlargement goals too. When he's on the toilet, my husband's dick is long enough that he can just leave it be. For me, because of how short my dick is, I have to push my dick down otherwise I'll pee on the floor! Actually, come to think of it, my husband's cock is so long that he had told me that on some toilets, he has to hold his dick up so it doesn't touch the water! God, I would love to have that kind of problem!

So, I think I am going to try one of these extenders out. I was originally thinking of the Fastsize extender but it seems like these VIMAX JES extenders are quite popuplar on here and, at half the price of the other extenders. Are there any signficant differences between the two (Fastsize and VIMAX)? Is there anything out there that is better than a VIMAX extender when it comes to traction devices?

Thanks,

Andrew

If you get a vimax you will need to find a good method of wrapping the head to prevent soreness were the noose attachment grips. You can get a different head for it at http://www.autoextender.com which might be more comfortable but it is more money.

I hated the modified head at autoextender, and i think he's discontinuing it. You might want to consider the vacu-extender as well.

dreamwave6 said:

Yes, in gay relationships, unlike straight ones, you both have all of the same features, equipment, etc. So, there is a natural tendency to compare. For me, when I constantly see my husband walking around with a huge, flaccid cock that is about the size flaccid that I am erect, it can definitely be a humbling experience. By the way, it doesn't help that he has a huge, low hanging ball sack too!

There's a practical side of my enlargement goals too. When he's on the toilet, my husband's dick is long enough that he can just leave it be. For me, because of how short my dick is, I have to push my dick down otherwise I'll pee on the floor! Actually, come to think of it, my husband's cock is so long that he had told me that on some toilets, he has to hold his dick up so it doesn't touch the water! God, I would love to have that kind of problem!

So, I think I am going to try one of these extenders out. I was originally thinking of the Fastsize extender but it seems like these VIMAX JES extenders are quite popuplar on here and, at half the price of the other extenders. Are there any signficant differences between the two (Fastsize and VIMAX)? Is there anything out there that is better than a VIMAX extender when it comes to traction devices?

Thanks,

Andrew

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If you do decide on a VIMAX use this link as you will save allot of money. It is an MOS only coupon. Basically the Extender is half price.