length;590381 said:
everytime ive attempted to get an erection with a girl for the first time ive failed so that probably dosent help.
length;590381 said:
when I try and have sex in a one night stand situation I usually cant because im too nervous, I get a flood of thoughts through my head and I just lose all arousal
You say you fail to get an "erection with a girl for the first time", then also say you can't "in a one-night-stand situation".
I almost got confused and thought this meant something different, but then realized that a ONS is always a first time w/ a new girl.
So you've been in a relationship(s) before and have no problem w/ libido/erections?
length;590381 said:
id say that im mostly axious about performance issues. im not that nervous around women its only when im trying to have sex. I think I would benefit from knowing I could perform, I also wonder if she will think I have a big cock or not. any help I can get would be appreciated
To be blunt. You're better off going the viagra/citrulline route in this case. As this will let you know if deadening libido is the cause.
You know, just reading everything you said would put someone in the position of automatically assuming it is the cause (lack of libido).
I look @ it this way, if you have the desire to want to fuck, then the libido is there.
It's just it gets all fucked up when there is a gap between wanting to fuck and being put in the position to fuck, where things can lose steam.
Like the chemicals that produce the urge/libido becoming drowned out by the act of sex itself, where the actual anxiety chemicals step in.
Anxiety is a tough nut to crack (no pun). This type of performance anxiety would be best suited/tamed from something like a beta-blocker.
Don't want to say to use something like that, that's your or your doctors call.
I tend to lean more on it being a pure anxiety issue, but I don't even want to begin to try to diagnose a problem in the mental serotonin area.
That type of question would be best suited for a more proper forum. Like someone coming in for bad EQ when their T levels are the problem.
I would aim towards a libido regimen and check off that box to see if that's the actual issue. Seems it's not since you probably have the urge/libido/good EQ, outside of a one-night-stand.