Keeping it a Secret...

Hello Everyone!

This is my first post here. I've been lurking around here and other Penis Enlargement forums for the past 5 or 6 months ever since I purchased the book "Exercising the Penis." It is all very interesting, though I haven't been dedicated enough to see any real gains as of yet. (And I've kind of taken a break for the past month, though I'm going to start up again this week.)

I'm in my early 20's, and about 4-5 months ago I started having some random issues with not being able to perform... "performance anxiety" is what they call it, I guess. I kind of just thought it would go away, but 1 out of 5 times we'd have sex I'd have the problem and we wouldn't be able to. SO... since it hasn't went away on it's own, (it's kind of gotten worse due to her poor reactions... different long story), I started researching ways to get past it.

Lately I've been looking at the Bathmate. (Seems pretty popular lately!) It seems like something I definitely want to try for all of the wonderful benefits it can provide. ...Though I would want to keep it kind of secret from the g/f for now. I'd like to see if she notices a difference without knowing about it. Kind of a "surprise" in a way. lol. Only thing is we live together in a kind of smaller house. Has anyone else had this kind of dilemma? (keeping something like this private.) I'm not sure how to go about it.

I feel kind of guilty for not telling her. It's not that I'm trying to lie, or deceive her though... I just want to do this on my own. Is that weird or wrong? Is this something I would even be able to keep private in my situation?

Anyway... I appreciate any input/ recommendations.

Thanks!

Hey kutner welcome to the forum! nice first post Im short on time this very moment with someone waiting to get on the computer but I wanted to just let you know lots of guys go through this and have gone through it and the turn out would probably surprise you with most of the feedback being positive. Im not in a relationship but my family kinda sorta has figured it out although we dont really say much about it but I dont care anyway because in the end I know Im going got have the bigger willy. Maybe some advice I would give is to wait until you see some changes and then when you feel comfortable and ready you can share. But Ive also read that its unnecessary so see what some other guys have to say. Well g2g. Peace

Welcome Kutner!

I think your interest in the Bathmate is a great idea; I have one and love it. Instead of touching on the Penis Enlargement side of this post, I would like to start with some of the underlining issues.

After reading your post, I think the issue with her “poor reactions” would have to be top on my list to address. I look at it this way; say my girl was having some not so understanding reactions to some performances issues, which is causing more performance issues. Now if I go and start trying fix this threw Penis Enlargement, but not address some of the underlining causes, I would open my self up to (lack of a better word) a relapse.

For instance; I get my self a Bathmate, start seeing some gains from my Penis Enlargement session and I’m feeling good, then I have a bad performance, a bad performance that every guy has once in awhile and shouldn’t be and issue. Her reaction is now negative, all the good feelings from the gains I have are washed away, and now I feel like I am starting over.

Perhaps this might be over dramatic, perhaps not, I think as long as your up to confronting that aspect of your problem then your on your way to a better mindset.

When it comes to keeping this from her I think you should do what you think is right, you know her better then anyone, and if you feel down the road like telling her, and think her reaction would be one of understanding then go with your gut. My wife knows, but its because I didn’t want to have to keep hiding all my devices!

Good luck

-Kast

I know you said it’s a long story, and I don’t mean to prey, just read and replied to this as if it was me in your shoes.

The Bathmate is the wave of the future. I think it is so amazing how we took this item and have made it a staple in manual Penis Enlargement...truly amazing. I wish Bathmate was around years ago.

It happens, man. Agree with what Turnover said, there's some underlying thing there that you probably need to address too.

However, if your looking to get some of your mojo back the Bathmate will help. It's hard not to want to throw your bone into something after a pump session and give you some swagger back in your step.

As far as hiding it, if that's the route you want to go, I'd say just buy yourself a travel toiletry bag and stash it in there.

md680498;385357 said:

However, if your looking to get some of your mojo back the Bathmate will help. It's hard not to want to throw your bone into something after a pump session and give you some swagger back in your step.

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Now that is some BIG PIMPIN!

hey mate and sorry to hear about your situation, as people say, a Bathmate will probably give you more confidence. and that might help you,

But i will like to address the importancy of you doing kegels aswell. (try and seach on the word alot will pop up) when you learn to do your kegels just remember that you pretty much have to absolute not do a kegel while having sex (you will learn to control this by doing kegels)

and in general research on sex+Penis Enlargement will give you some views and tricks that will be highly usefull.

(ordered my Bathmate 3 days ago can't wait!)

Hey Guys! Wow! Thank you so much for all of the great responses! This is truly an awesome forum! All of your attentiveness and support alone is very motivating and helpful. I think I've found THE Penis Enlargement forum.

Where I'm at right now: Since my post, I have been on a steady beginning Penis Enlargement routine every day that includes (10-15 min warm-up, light stretching-10 min, jelqing 10 min, v-jelqs 5 min, and a 10-15 min warm-down). I'm thinking about doing this light beginners routine every day that I can for the next 2-3 weeks just to get a good start, then I'll change it up a bit to something a bit heavier. Sometimes it can be difficult to get alone time to do Penis Enlargement if the g/f is home... I still don't want her to know about it yet. I know I could tell her, but it will be interesting to me if she starts to notice. Not to mention, if she says, "is it getting bigger?!" it would be a major confidence boost.

In addition to my strong start in Penis Enlargement this week I also ordered my Bathmate TODAY!!! Thanks MoS for the 25% off deal! I've been watching a lot of DLD's vids and reading a lot of the forums about this product, and in combination with manual exercises, the Bathmate seems like a really valuable tool if you want to see some serious gains. Which, of course, who doesn't!?

This week I was able to have some GOOD sex (no performance anxiety issues) 3 times, probably because of the Penis Enlargement. But also, something that's came along with that is that I haven't been able to last as long! Is that normal at the beginning of a Penis Enlargement routine? I will DEFINITELY be working on Kegels, and hopefully I'll see some improvement there as wel.

I could definitely use that SWAGGER back in my step. lol. From what I've read, I'm sure the Bathmate will help with that! And, that's a great idea about the travel toiletry bag. I'll definitely be picking one of those up.

Thanks for the help guys. I'm going to keep on with the Penis Enlargement, and hopefully the issue with the g/f and performance anxiety will go away!

Kutner

Smart move on the Bathmate! It is going to bring some awesome gains. It also makes Penis Enlargement some fun and interesting, great way to keep involved, moving and gaining!

Yeah, I'm seriously stoked about it. I wish it was here TODAY! lol. Can't wait to start gaining. I was thinking about starting a progress log/ thread or something on here. I was reading your article about logging everything to stay motivated and it sounds like a really good idea.

Okay guys, I got my Bathmate today. I just tried it out for the first time, and it's pretty awesome. I can see the HUGE potential it has for Penis Enlargement. Wow! Very excited to start mixing in manual workouts with the Bathmate. Just after one 10-15 minute session I've got excellent flaccid hang! Only thing is... the Bathmate is huge, so it's hard to find a place to stash it! haha. I tried putting it into a travel toiletry bag, but it was too big. Hopefully I can come up with a good and easy storage place.

When I get a stable girl in the near future all my Penis Enlargement stuff will still be with me. I would say to her something along the lines that the Bathmate is for health to the penis and kinda like going the gym for the penis. Just keeping my penis and testes in shape is all and it helps fights against testicle, prostate and penile cancers which who knows ... it might! It sounds more believable but what to say about the strange hangers I'm not sure. Again I would opt for penile health and performance. You dont want to end up with a limp cock and dribbling willy when your older and this helps. If she doesn't like it than bollocks to it and she will come round. Maybe in time you could have her help you? I once allowed, stupidly, a girl in on one of my power assist sessions ... we were in the bath and I had it through the hoop and said to her ''pull the thing to you okay when I say'' and she was ok with that. Was performing a dld blaster but she was pulling .. anyways she yanked that thing so hard that when I reverse kegelled I really honestly thought my penis had detached itself from the pubic bone or root because of the sharp pain. I was on the ceiling for a good few moments and told her to fucking pack it in which made her kinda edgy as I told her to pull. Lets just say she didnt play with my willy again.

I wish, in many ways, I kept Penis Enlargement a secret from Jen...this would have saved me many heartaches. It in many ways had to be public, because if I did not become public with Penis Enlargement then a lot of guys would have never found my secrets. I think what is most important, whether you keep it secret or make it know, keeping it in perspective is KING! Penis envy is VERY real, and if a woman is exposed to a man becoming obsessed with his penis, well I am sure you can do the math.

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I wish, in many ways, I kept Penis Enlargement a secret from Jen...this would have saved me many heartaches. It in many ways had to be public, because if I did not become public with Penis Enlargement then a lot of guys would have never found my secrets. I think what is most important, whether you keep it secret or make it know, keeping it in perspective is KING! Penis envy is VERY real, and if a woman is exposed to a man becoming obsessed with his penis, well I am sure you can do the math.

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DLD I failed math! Can you indulge me here and explain a little further on your heartache comment? Like I have mentioned before, I let my wife know about Penis Enlargement, just wondering if there are any tips on preventing issues that you have already run into. If there just your personal issues, then please feel free to ingnore this request.

kast;386406 said:

DLD I failed math! Can you indulge me here and explain a little further on your heartache comment? Like I have mentioned before, I let my wife know about Penis Enlargement, just wondering if there are any tips on preventing issues that you have already run into. If there just your personal issues, then please feel free to ingnore this request.

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It is just very important to not make Penis Enlargement a huge thing in your relationship. Once a woman sees you giving more attention to your penis than them the war starts and it will ultimately end a relationship.

Yeah, I hear you guys. I know it would be better to be able to tell her (and I definitely want to!), but for the time being I think it's best to just keep it private. She can sometimes blow things out of proportion. For example, like I told you guys about the few times I had a problem getting an erection before sex for whatever reason (performance anxiety), well... she didn't understand my perspective at all. She just immediately started thinking about how that made her feel. She thought I wasn't attracted to her and didn't love her anymore. Which, of course, is absolutely not the case! (Furthest thing from it, actually!) Of course she gets over it after a day and we move on like normal, so it's fine. But the incident happened more than a couple of times over the past 4-5 months, like I said, which is why I got into the Bathmate in the first place.

SO, like Redzulu said, a good angle to use probably would be penis health. But, judging from her reaction to those incidents, I just don't think she'd take the Penis Enlargement stuff and the Bathmate very well yet. We'll see what happens. I kinda want her to notice my gains on her own, and be like, "wow! you're getting bigger!" That would be nice, and then I would think about telling her. hehe. It would sure be easier if she knew because hiding things from her sucks. I mean, I love her!

Anyway, yeah, I see what you mean DLD. I definitely don't want to do anything to jeopardize this relationship!

Day 2 with the Bathmate was a success! 20 minutes in the tub. Worked out great, and got lots of expansion. I felt huge afterward! So, 20 minutes is the max you should use it per day? What do you guys do? and/or What do you guys recommend for someone just starting out with the Bathmate?

doublelongdaddy;386438 said:

It is just very important to not make Penis Enlargement a huge thing in your relationship. Once a woman sees you giving more attention to your penis than them the war starts and it will ultimately end a relationship.

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got yeah, makes perfect sense, lets hope I never get an ultimatum

kutner;386455 said:

So, 20 minutes is the max you should use it per day? What do you guys do? and/or What do you guys recommend for someone just starting out with the Bathmate?

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20 minutes per session, you can do multiple sessions a day. i would check out two posts below by DLD.
Bathmate Workout (maximizing gains and using equipment wisely)

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/...sing-equipment-wisely)&highlight=dld+Bathmate

Hardcore Bathmate Stretches...Using the Suction

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/...es...Using-the-Suction&highlight=dld+Bathmate

Cool. Thanks for the links Kast! I'll definitely be starting to incorporate the Bathmate exercises this week.

Damn, DLD! That routine you've got with the SizeGenetics device is INTENSE! Unfortunately that's just completely unrealistic for guys who work out of the house. I mean, basically from 7am-2pm you're doing Penis Enlargement! There's no way I could do that on a daily basis at my office. lol. But the Bathmate routine looks like something I can fit in to my daily workout regimen for sure, so I'll start there. It sounds like guys are making some awesome gains with this! Can't wait to get mine! haha.

kutner;386641 said:

Cool. Thanks for the links Kast! I'll definitely be starting to incorporate the Bathmate exercises this week.

Damn, DLD! That routine you've got with the SizeGenetics device is INTENSE! Unfortunately that's just completely unrealistic for guys who work out of the house. I mean, basically from 7am-2pm you're doing Penis Enlargement! There's no way I could do that on a daily basis at my office. lol. But the Bathmate routine looks like something I can fit in to my daily workout regimen for sure, so I'll start there. It sounds like guys are making some awesome gains with this! Can't wait to get mine! haha.

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Yeah, I do have the luxury of working from anywhere. Well, I am happy part of my newer routines are working for you.