DLD - I'm a little suprised by the ban - not that that guy was a particularly constructive presence on the board - but I have always admired your policy on freedom of expression so long as they're not stirring up serious problems for the forum. I know you've endured endless questioning on your legitimacy and that must be tiresome, but I also know you must have grown a thick skin over the years and are quite secure with yourself. I'm not really criticizing - this is your forum, your work, your time - I was just suprised you didn't fire a warning shot or something to let him know that the profanity and aggression were not welcome.
Kong - You seem to be a very nice and genuine person. I also think you're probably quite passionate and enthusiastic. This is great, truly, but don't let it get the best of you in the negative sense. Though you kept your posts notably more adult than Donka, you took his bait, and in return baited him with insulting remarks. I've seen you take the high road on many other threads, but in this case I think you were feeling a bit sensitive about the topic and indulged your outrage. Calling somebody you don't know a racist or suggesting his girlfriend had good reason to hurt his feelings was likely very insulting and upsetting, just as you were offended by his comments.
You're a great poster here; don't let things like this drag your standards down. He thinks DLD is a fake? DLD deals with that all the time, he eats those guys for lunch, he really doesn't need anybody to stick up for him. He thinks there are racial differences in penis size? so do a whole ton of other members here if you read the numerous threads on the topic, so be careful what you say. When you call somebody like Donka a racist in anger, your comment stands across teh board to many others you feel no hostility towards. I believe that Red, who came to your defense, is of the opinion there are racial differences, just for example.
If I may offer more advice, next time you encounter somebody that you think has it in for you, just say "Take a hike guy, I don't agree and I ain't listening to you anymore." If you are secure in what you know, there's no point fighting about it with somebody like that, right? If you don't engage what you feel is an attack in the first place, they haven't got much power to bother you.