Big Schwanz Acht;720841 said:
Guilt and it's beloved partner, Shame are two of the most toxic emotions that, if left unchecked, can erode one's self faster and with more damage than any other. In my quest for holistic improvement, I no longer allow guilt or shame to have any power or place inside of me...if I make a mistake, I apologize quickly and sincerely to whomever I trespassed (including myself) and it's done!

Cmon bro, freal, :s holistic? Has to do with your holes x) ? Iguess, but some posts above you said that drawing sexy pictures is a trigger well idk about that I cant say I really ever had triggers for doing stuff its just a matter of wanting something real bad. Albeit when you're in addiction (as in using drugs everyday) then yeah its hard to stop but that's a different story
 
templnite;720945 said:
Cmon bro, freal, :s holistic? Has to do with your holes x) ? Iguess, but some posts above you said that drawing sexy pictures is a trigger well idk about that I cant say I really ever had triggers for doing stuff its just a matter of wanting something real bad. Albeit when you're in addiction (as in using drugs everyday) then yeah its hard to stop but that's a different story
Yea everyone is different. Maybe your vice isn't �naked people movies�. Maybe you like peeking at guys in he shower at The gym and don't realize it. You don't know what could trigger someone. It could be a smell. A sound. A color. Show support dude or move along. Look up the definition of holistic and your reference to "wholes" as it should be.
 
1"@atime;720947 said:
Yea everyone is different. Maybe your vice isn't �naked people movies�. Maybe you like peeking at guys in he shower at The gym and don't realize it. You don't know what could trigger someone. It could be a smell. A sound. A color. Show support dude or move along. Look up the definition of holistic and your reference to "wholes" as it should be.

Calling me gay huh? OK I'll take that, its just the typical woman's fallback attempt to take away a argumets validity , and even though we aren't a gayfest like other forums we still do jelqing through Skype so simmer down.

Your so called "triggers" are a sign that you have such little control over yourself that even farting makes your ay moist and not because you're in the shower but yes cause your peeking and dont realize it, because you lose faith in god and submit to your flesh. Like swan says guilt and shame have a negative side, so its better to throw them out altogether is like homer Simpson says " if something is hard to do then its not worth doing" or " don't ever try doing things so that you'll never have to fail at them"

Crying about how bad guilt makes you feel ashamed and being triggered are just an attempt to cover the sun with your finger. You still have a problem and that is you lack control. There's no two ways about this, you have a responsibility you know what you need to do, no one here is stupid.
We all need to walk with at least a little authority, if you feel ashamed good but don't be ashamed of god and righteousness because he wouldn't be ashamed of his church. Be ashamed not when you are humiliated for the lords glory, be ashamed when you embarrass yourself, by yourself, for no reason, when you tell me 'show support or leave' knowing I can't do either
 
doublelongdaddy;720834 said:
It is not easy, but with every fall I gain greater strength. I only feel guilt for a short while when I mess up, I admit it, I pray for forgiveness and I look at the reason I did it and the changes I can make so I do not fall again. Guilt should always become conviction as guilt will drag you deeper into the abyss while conviction will not only make sense of it and make find ways to correct it. Guilt, in short, is something that should be felt indeed if we are guilty of something but that should be short lived and conviction should be taken up for change. Guilt will never change anything for the better, it will only drag you in deeper.

I'm giving it another trial. I notice that when I smoke weed I become very horny that's another problem.
 
I haven't been totally �naked people movies� free, but I haven't masturbated in a week. No nocturnal emissions yet, but the libido is on a hair trigger. Morning wood comparable to a viagra erection. Makes things very tempting.
 
Big Schwanz Acht;720841 said:
Guilt and it's beloved partner, Shame are two of the most toxic emotions that, if left unchecked, can erode one's self faster and with more damage than any other. In my quest for holistic improvement, I no longer allow guilt or shame to have any power or place inside of me...if I make a mistake, I apologize quickly and sincerely to whomever I trespassed (including myself) and it's done!

Word to Life!
 
templnite;720956 said:
Calling me gay huh? OK I'll take that, its just the typical woman's fallback attempt to take away a argumets validity , and even though we aren't a gayfest like other forums we still do jelqing through Skype so simmer down.

Your so called "triggers" are a sign that you have such little control over yourself that even farting makes your ay moist and not because you're in the shower but yes cause your peeking and dont realize it, because you lose faith in god and submit to your flesh. Like swan says guilt and shame have a negative side, so its better to throw them out altogether is like homer Simpson says " if something is hard to do then its not worth doing" or " don't ever try doing things so that you'll never have to fail at them"

Crying about how bad guilt makes you feel ashamed and being triggered are just an attempt to cover the sun with your finger. You still have a problem and that is you lack control. There's no two ways about this, you have a responsibility you know what you need to do, no one here is stupid.
We all need to walk with at least a little authority, if you feel ashamed good but don't be ashamed of god and righteousness because he wouldn't be ashamed of his church. Be ashamed not when you are humiliated for the lords glory, be ashamed when you embarrass yourself, by yourself, for no reason, when you tell me 'show support or leave' knowing I can't do either

Very wise words!

Also, I see that when you are persecuted you are returning blessings, that is also the best way to serve!
 
I had a good weekend, I did find my eyes wonder a bit while in town but I was quick to pull them back. I have started to see how badly I have subjugated women and this has become apparent to me now more than ever and this is do to me ability to focus on what is behind the actual issue. As Temp said, trying to hide the sun with your finger is futile. I notice that when I do look it is always at their ass, the part I love most about women. But now that I am tempering my Lust I have learned that I have missed out on so much that comes from a women's mind. Although I have no interest in being with a woman I still want to learn to take my eyes and focus on their minds, not their bodies. Perhaps all my years here, being intimate with men has skewed the way I see women, maybe it is the �naked people movies� too, not sure, what I do know, for myself, is I did not treat women with the same reverence I do my Brothers and this realization came from my abstinence. I was also in prayer and Jesus said "I want you to become like a knight experienced in battle, who can give orders to others amid the exploding shells. In the same way, My child, you should know how to master yourself amid the greatest difficulties, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗠𝗲, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘀." This brought me great joy and allowed me to see just how good God is, even when I fall.
 
templnite;720945 said:
Cmon bro, freal, :s holistic? Has to do with your holes x) ?

K...when I get on a roll I can tend to be a tad effusive, thanks for the reality bitch-slap :)
 
doublelongdaddy;721010 said:
I had a good weekend, I did find my eyes wonder a bit while in town but I was quick to pull them back. I have started to see how badly I have subjugated women and this has become apparent to me now more than ever and this is do to me ability to focus on what is behind the actual issue. As Temp said, trying to hide the sun with your finger is futile. I notice that when I do look it is always at their ass, the part I love most about women. But now that I am tempering my Lust I have learned that I have missed out on so much that comes from a women's mind. Although I have no interest in being with a woman I still want to learn to take my eyes and focus on their minds, not their bodies. Perhaps all my years here, being intimate with men has skewed the way I see women, maybe it is the �naked people movies� too, not sure, what I do know, for myself, is I did not treat women with the same reverence I do my Brothers and this realization came from my abstinence. I was also in prayer and Jesus said "I want you to become like a knight experienced in battle, who can give orders to others amid the exploding shells. In the same way, My child, you should know how to master yourself amid the greatest difficulties, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗠𝗲, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘀." This brought me great joy and allowed me to see just how good God is, even when I fall.

struggling but moving forward!!God wont let you down imo
 
LONGERDICK7+;721073 said:
struggling but moving forward!!God wont let you down imo

Thank you! Needed some confidence!

Bless You
 
doublelongdaddy;721007 said:
Very wise words!

Also, I see that when you are persecuted you are returning blessings, that is also the best way to serve!

Yeah niga got served proper, i just want everyone to give the "�naked people movies�-no" lifestyle a chance, assimilate >:(
 
doublelongdaddy;721010 said:
I had a good weekend, I did find my eyes wonder a bit while in town but I was quick to pull them back. I have started to see how badly I have subjugated women and this has become apparent to me now more than ever and this is do to me ability to focus on what is behind the actual issue. As Temp said, trying to hide the sun with your finger is futile. I notice that when I do look it is always at their ass, the part I love most about women. But now that I am tempering my Lust I have learned that I have missed out on so much that comes from a women's mind. Although I have no interest in being with a woman I still want to learn to take my eyes and focus on their minds, not their bodies. Perhaps all my years here, being intimate with men has skewed the way I see women, maybe it is the �naked people movies� too, not sure, what I do know, for myself, is I did not treat women with the same reverence I do my Brothers and this realization came from my abstinence. I was also in prayer and Jesus said "I want you to become like a knight experienced in battle, who can give orders to others amid the exploding shells. In the same way, My child, you should know how to master yourself amid the greatest difficulties, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗠𝗲, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘀." This brought me great joy and allowed me to see just how good God is, even when I fall.

Some times we derail but its mandatory to return back on track.
 
templnite;721084 said:
Yeah niga got served proper, i just want everyone to give the "�naked people movies�-no" lifestyle a chance, assimilate >:(

I do too so much but I understand my beliefs are far different than many and I am not going to push the way I believe on anyone. My example speaks for itself and I am always willing to help my Brothers understand my belief on Jesus and just how much I have gained because of it. If men would only peak their curiosity to hear a few words about my Jesus they would certainly convert and put their trust in Him. I have always the Father for the things I want through Jesus and they are always granted if righteous and proper. If my Brothers only knew the power of the mercy of Jesus they would give up all things of this Earth and follow Him. I always pray for the Brotherhood and if I can help even one man become closer to God I have accomplished much.
 
huge-girth;721138 said:
Some times we derail but its mandatory to return back on track.

The Fall is going to happen and we can not avoid that as it is part of being human. Much of the time, in my case, it is no so much the transgression but how quickly I rebound from it. There is a subtle way the evil one has on us falling. After the fall any guilt we feel does not come from God, it comes from the devil. His sole goal is to make it impossible for yes to seek forgiveness. When this is successful that fall could become a complete failure and even put us in a worst state than when we began. The second I commit a sin, in the way of this tread, I run to three places to confess and find meaning and penance in my fall. 1. Jesus, 2. My Son, 3. The Brotherhood. Once I have admitted to my infraction I am given 3 perspectives on what I did and how to make myself better because of it. But surely that is not it! I also use the fall and the things I learn to help the Brothers here to find some help in my failure.

I have to say that I love you guys with all my heart and I feel so blessed to have your support and love. This challenge is something that would be impossible without my Brothers.
 
Today I'm starting to stay off masturbation. let me see how far I can go this time. I will make this a habit throughout this year. As time goes on, I'm sure I will keep on improving.
 
huge-girth;721381 said:
Today I'm starting to stay off masturbation. let me see how far I can go this time. I will make this a habit throughout this year. As time goes on, I'm sure I will keep on improving.

The way I look at this in a analogical way is I am holding 12 donuts. Now I love my donuts and I do not want to have to give them up but at the same time I know these donuts are making me fat. So I do not start by throwing away all the donuts, no that would be a big mistake because once we say "I will not" or "I can't" or any other absolute negative it makes the challenge unsustainable and unrealistic. Put down half the donuts :) As time goes by you will have less and less donuts but you will start to see that you never needed the donuts to begin with :) And if you find a day when you slip up and have a donut, do not punish yourself or put yourself in a state of guilt, first give yourself credit for how far you have come and then resolve to make it father next time. For me it was 7 days, than 28 days, now I am shooting for 60.
 
doublelongdaddy;721150 said:
I do too so much but I understand my beliefs are far different than many and I am not going to push the way I believe on anyone. My example speaks for itself and I am always willing to help my Brothers understand my belief on Jesus and just how much I have gained because of it. If men would only peak their curiosity to hear a few words about my Jesus they would certainly convert and put their trust in Him. I have always the Father for the things I want through Jesus and they are always granted if righteous and proper. If my Brothers only knew the power of the mercy of Jesus they would give up all things of this Earth and follow Him. I always pray for the Brotherhood and if I can help even one man become closer to God I have accomplished much.

Well you know how he says "my sheep hear my voice and recognize me" basically saying that if temp is on that retarded bullshit and someway the lord uses this raven and speaks through him, the chosen (his pre selected sheep) will hear the lord and recognize and maybe have a 'coming to Jesus moment' .
 
templnite;721411 said:
Well you know how he says "my sheep hear my voice and recognize me" basically saying that if temp is on that retarded bullshit and someway the lord uses this raven and speaks through him, the chosen (his pre selected sheep) will hear the lord and recognize and maybe have a 'coming to Jesus moment' .

"My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand."
 
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