My girl slept with another guy (possibly unprotected) and never told me!

10inchadvantage;295331 said:

Yeah could be, but I found it odd when, after I'd come back, the girls wouldn't even feel like talking anymore. I was just messing around, having fun, too. The only time I actually tried to elicit states (through NLP) was with that girl. However, she stayed with me I guess because she was still interested to see if I was really a "man whore." Did my best to prove I wasn't by trying not to go into her apartment with her and just being a gentleman.

I've gotta stay true to myself. I'm not any sort of player. I'm not someone who just bangs random hot girls. Just not my style.

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I understand where your coming from, and it seems that you got your head on straight. Do it for you and nobody else, no matter what it is, be you. That is key.

Well here's a bit of an update.

So I have a date lined up with a girl from the first party today. I'm not too interested in her because she doesn't look great (yes I'm picky). However, supposedly she's one of those Christian girls who goes to church a lot not because she's a religious nut necessarily, but she has a good sex drive. Eh, you can't turn down a good blowjob, huh?

I ended up talking with my ex about shit talking. She said she had said that I was "an angry person" but never told them anything of me being a player or man whore. It seems that girl just has been wooed many a time by sly words, which I was using. Anyway, we sat and talked for a while and I learned a lot. She didn't have sex with another person for preemptive reasons. I told her I didn't want to get an explanation why she slept with him, that I've accepted the fact that it has happened and have moved on.

So we walked back with my arm around her shoulder and was laughing about shit. We ended up fucking. The odd thing is I felt so ill emotions at all. I didn't think anything of who she had sex with. It certainly was more detached sex, but still good. We went out to eat after (no I don't pay) and talked about how we can only hang out as friends from now on. Turns out we're both glad with the free time we have now. I'm using my free time to do Penis Enlargement for at least 90 minutes everyday, she's using it to tan. Fair enough.

The odd thing was sex helped me "clarify" the situation. It was like everything fell into place for how it was. No, that guy never knew we had been together. Yes, it was her conscious decision. The thing that killed me was she told me she had been out of love with me since the summer. I thought she still loved me like I loved her, but she had already somewhat distanced herself. I wish she would've told me this more often (she told me at the beginning of the fall semester, but I quickly assumed she changed because of how much we were hanging out and fucking). I told her that I'm looking for someone else, but I have no time frame. When I do find her though, I still want to be friends with her.

It seems she had a lot of remorse for what she did (or rather didn't SAY). The action she did (have sex with another guy) was fine in our open relationship rules, but the rule was we had to tell our partner right after we had sex with someone else. She didn't say out of fear of how I would react, which is natural, but I hope next time this happens with someone else she tells him.

As for the guy, I couldn't go to the party last night due to his fear. I ended up going at around 2ish though because he supposedly left. Turns out he was inside the house and we did cross eyes. I gave him a weird time of smile with "piercing" eyes and he didn't even bother talking with me. I'm not going to kill the guy, he was at little fault in this whole ordeal I realize. He'll probably never talk with me because he's so scared, but I'm fine with that.

So anyway I was just blazin and chillin in my wife beater + bathing suit + toga. Everytime I wear a wife beater to a party girls flock to me (have a very nice body now after lots of running plus lifting). I had the hottest girl at that party stop talking with a group of guys, come over, and introduce herself to me. Sadly there were mostly ugly girls at the party (poor turnout) so I'd say she was an 8 at best, not bad, but she seemed quite immature (like a little girl). We chilled for a bit. The group of guys were pissed though, and I did my best to disarm them. One of them was really drunk and was poking me constantly. I just sat there smiling, blowing STICKY in his face like it wasn't a damned thing. It's nice having a big physical body to intimidate others, he was clearly wanting to fight but wouldn't step up. I was high as shit, chuckling inside. Turns out this girl's friend (also hot but with another guy) came up and we started doing the whole "whispering" game with each other. The guy (her boyfriend perhaps) was getting ancy that she was paying attention to me, and the girl who introduced herself to me was wondering what the hell we were talking and whispering about (girls go crazy over that shit!). However, I was tired as fuck, it was almost 3. I peaced out, and went home to complete my 60 minutes of pumping for the day (hell yes I'm motivated).

All-in-all I'd say this week was one rollercoaster ride.

Wait! Ya'll had an open relationship?

longstretch;295687 said:

Wait! Ya'll had an open relationship?

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Yes but on the condition that we would tell each other who we slept with before we slept with each other again.

Oh okay. And then she decided to wait and tell you afterwards, but then she was a little afraid it would mess things up with you two, waited a little bit and then told you. I can understand having sex with an ex, I still do with my ex. But you have to think if that kind of relationship is right for you. Even in an open relationship it can mess you up if the other person has sex with another person. It would probably be best to have a relationship like I have with my ex. We keep in touch, we're still great friends who have sex, and we both pursue other people. But even then at times it can be straining. We both have a very strong emotional attachment but realize while the sex might be amazing we might not make the best couple.

In your situation it might be better to just not have sex with her anymore, but thats something that you must work out for your own I guess.

longstretch;295695 said:

Oh okay. And then she decided to wait and tell you afterwards, but then she was a little afraid it would mess things up with you two, waited a little bit and then told you. I can understand having sex with an ex, I still do with my ex. But you have to think if that kind of relationship is right for you. Even in an open relationship it can mess you up if the other person has sex with another person. It would probably be best to have a relationship like I have with my ex. We keep in touch, we're still great friends who have sex, and we both pursue other people. But even then at times it can be straining. We both have a very strong emotional attachment but realize while the sex might be amazing we might not make the best couple.

In your situation it might be better to just not have sex with her anymore, but thats something that you must work out for your own I guess.

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Yeah I'm going to keep a check on things. However, the sex is really amazing. Not many girls that will let me tongue their ass then let me pound them there after all. It doesn't mean I'm pussy whipped by any means, but I do like having good sex.

Completely understandable! But there is a future past the sex and emotions can run wild.

longstretch;295723 said:

Completely understandable! But there is a future past the sex and emotions can run wild.

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I understand.

We all can relate to liking having good sex, but as much as us men wanna deny it we tend to have better sex with people we know/care about (it's not just women) and I have found when I keep fucking a chick I'd always dismiss is it as her/she "is so into me" that she lets me fuck her whenever I want. And once I realized this notion was a way of padding my own ego, I realized this is how women fuck with us long after the relationship has run its course, and lets face it, if you're screwing someone (an ex) and that's it, it's still a relationship. Whether we like it or not, when we decide to lay around naked with someone and screw, their actions on some level matter to us. For instance, even if it is understood amongst two peope a relationship is "strictly sexual" how many people could say that the other wouldn't care if they found out u fucked someone else not them in the same day, same week? It's a trap, an emotional one no matter what u say.......and as long as ur fuckin her, ur not giving urself a real chance to let go, I hope ur ok with that.

alwaystrying;295738 said:

We all can relate to liking having good sex, but as much as us men wanna deny it we tend to have better sex with people we know/care about (it's not just women) and I have found when I keep fucking a chick I'd always dismiss is it as her/she "is so into me" that she lets me fuck her whenever I want. And once I realized this notion was a way of padding my own ego, I realized this is how women fuck with us long after the relationship has run its course, and lets face it, if you're screwing someone (an ex) and that's it, it's still a relationship. Whether we like it or not, when we decide to lay around naked with someone and screw, their actions on some level matter to us. For instance, even if it is understood amongst two peope a relationship is "strictly sexual" how many people could say that the other wouldn't care if they found out u fucked someone else not them in the same day, same week? It's a trap, an emotional one no matter what u say.......and as long as ur fuckin her, ur not giving urself a real chance to let go, I hope ur ok with that.

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Nah because the thing is we're not fucking all the time, and when a girl comes along I'm feeling it with I'm going to be tickling her cervix.

Just watch out, that's all i'm saying. Be safe.

dude, i did this type of thing before, and it only ends up badly. believe me! my ex was a great fuck, and hell both of them were, and for a while after we broke up we kept having sex, then other guys came into the pic and other girls then feelings came into play. blah blah blah, trust me, just back off and don't talk with her. she said rumors and shit to get in your head and to hurt you and make it so you can't get any other women. then now she's doin the same thing except in a nother way. i identify greatly with what your situation is, and believe me..end it! go after one of those girls at the parties, kick their bfs asses or whatever, do whatever you gotta do...but forget this girl.

10inchadvantage...are you sure you have already seperated sex and emotion with this woman that you just broke up with not too long ago...i think a lot of us has been here...and yeah things are okay now..you guys aren't together but still dealing with each other...you get to play in her a little bit with no commitment...it's cool...eventually she will deal with someone else and you may feel a little hurt by that cuz it's gonna take you back to her doing you wrong...the first time you find yourself blowing off another girl even if it's a phone call to talk to your ex...you'll realize that your feelings are still in it...i hope everything work out the best for you though...if you feel like you guys are mentally strong enough to still deal with each other i wish you the best

10inchadvantage;295742 said:

Nah because the thing is we're not fucking all the time, and when a girl comes along I'm feeling it with I'm going to be tickling her cervix.

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twins172_up;296104 said:

10inchadvantage...are you sure you have already seperated sex and emotion with this woman that you just broke up with not too long ago...i think a lot of us has been here...and yeah things are okay now..you guys aren't together but still dealing with each other...you get to play in her a little bit with no commitment...it's cool...eventually she will deal with someone else and you may feel a little hurt by that cuz it's gonna take you back to her doing you wrong...the first time you find yourself blowing off another girl even if it's a phone call to talk to your ex...you'll realize that your feelings are still in it...i hope everything work out the best for you though...if you feel like you guys are mentally strong enough to still deal with each other i wish you the best

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If I end up blowing off another girl of equal or more hotness for her, then I have a problem, I agree. I'll be monitoring myself.

twins hit it right on the head man, be careful

samzman;296125 said:

twins hit it right on the head man, be careful

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The thing I realize is I need to find someone before she does. I'll keep this thread updated.

well that is a good idea, but don't forget you shouldn't just get a girl to get back at her....FUCK a girl to get back at her lol..but don't go out with a girl to get back at her, that never works out.

10inchadvantage;295709 said:

Yeah I'm going to keep a check on things. However, the sex is really amazing. Not many girls that will let me tongue their ass then let me pound them there after all. It doesn't mean I'm pussy whipped by any means, but I do like having good sex.

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You'd be surprised.

samzman;296135 said:

well that is a good idea, but don't forget you shouldn't just get a girl to get back at her....FUCK a girl to get back at her lol..but don't go out with a girl to get back at her, that never works out.

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I'm not.

spinner2;296141 said:

You'd be surprised.

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I've seen the ways guys complain how their girls will not give up anal.