Masturbation vs Actual Sex, A big difference!

Hey guys

First of all i am a little embarrased to start this, anyways here it goes, i've been a virgin all my life because of my small cock (5.5 EL and 4.0 EG) and have been Penis Enlargement ing for the past 6 months and now have reached 6.25 EL and 4.75 EG but anyways cudnt get any girl friend till date and besides work was keeping me busy, so no time for the party scene and other fun things to spend some time with a gal, I am 25 yrs old and this new year i decided to lose my virginity , whatever be it..... so went to a swing club with the idea of getting laid there, am a fairly good lookin guy with a good physique, so there was this 35 yr old thick woman who was getting fucked by some friend of her husband and I was standing close to them ( watchin em). and after seeing the guys cock to be smaller than mine, got some courage and asked the woman if she wants amother dick, she said yes and there I was getting naked in front of 20 people and as he was pumping her, she started blowing me off, boy at one time she was chewing my cock head so bad...... and after a few minutes the guy came , and I took my turn to screw her.... thats when it all started going bad

I was hard till then and the moment I tried to wear a condom , my cock started going limp and was so embarrasing , but somehow got it back up with a good massage and got the condom on and started pumping her, now guys I used to masturbate for almost 40 minutes and sometimes go till an hour , but on starting to pump her, it was a totally different experience and she started screaming, that put together with the new feeling of my first pussy , I just shot my wad in less than a minute and I just couldnt believe myself about what I had done, the guys were like" whoa that was fast" I felt even more embarrased , cuz there were guys in their 40's who were pumping her for atleast 10 minutes and me there 25 yrs old cudnt hold for even a minute

Anyways I am not gonnu be one of the guys who gets beat down because of all this, I am gonnu work on what went wrong, the reasons from my head were

1) there were a lotta people around me and the pressure to perform cud have gotten me

2) my first pussy experience and she screaming and the urge to fill her up..

3) this is one of the most important - " WHEN U MASTURBATE THERE'S NO SENSATION ON YOUR DICK HEAD, BUT WHEN U ARE FUCKING THE DICK HEAD GETS A LOTTA ATTENTION AND GOD IT WAS PUSHING ME TO THE EDGE", that was the important factor causing me to shoot immediately..(caps was jus to emphasise it)

my routine is

tue - girth - mostly jelqs with around 350 kegels

thu - length - usual stretches

sat - girth - around 400 jelqs and 350 kegels

sun - girth and length with 300 kegels


I jus ordered my 100$ package from the MOS site and cant wait to start working with the length extender

Guys please advise me on what cud have gone wrong and also the corrective measures to change it. this year I want to grow my erect length from 6.25 to 7.5 atleast and my erect girth from 4.75 to 5.75 atleast.

please advise me on a good routine and also would like to hear from u folks on treating premature ejaculation..

Thanks in advance fella's

pace yourself next time and relax, you'll be fine bro.

lol I would NOT want to lose my V-card in front of anyone. My first time was 2 seconds so I understand the embarassment. Granted people werent watching me, but I remember being very ashamed. Your best bet (to make sure) is to get a condom with densitizing creme. Just make sure you dont put it on inside out. lol

Wow. I can't relate. I have some problems reaching orgasm when fucking a stranger, but I can't imagine lasting longer than a couple minutes masturbating. Of course, I've never seen the point in trying to make masturbation last long either.

For me, the thought of all those people watching me fuck would make me nervous as hell and I wouldn't even feel the pussy for a while. I would have to be really pounding the hell out of her to keep the same hardness.

yeah man I remember my first time. a minute tops. I can last about 5 now no problem 10 if I go slow. Just pace yourself bro if you get stuck imagine something nasty to slow you down.

more of an experience thing. the more u have sex, the more u learn to control it. and i know some guys get performance anxiety which affects them in different ways. e.g can make u cum quick. or make it hard to get erection (i suffer from this). most of these problems will go when you get a girlfriend which will boost your confidence.

I find that holdong reverse kegels helps to keep the wolf from the door so to speak. Cyclops posted a detailed thread about this somewhere if I remember correctly but put as simply as possible: kegeling or holding a kegel whilst masturbating or during intercourse will make you more sensative so do the opposite.

Following a good, consistant kegel routine should help you to control this better.

Same thing happened to me EXACCCCCTALLY

I got well scared and couldnt get it up. Then I got it up and put it in. I think I cumed in something stupid like 30 seconds. haha

The second time I had sex I was much more RELAXED and went at it hard for about 15 minutes. Well, look at it this way. You cant possibabally get any worste than under a minute. You had some fun, so fuck it. End of the day........YOU HAD SEX AT LAST WOO WOO!!!! :D

Dont be so harsh on yourself. First time always is shit. Just laugh at how shit you were, and get back on the horse ( pussy ), or whatever.

Also! In my first sex expeirences which were mostly 1 night stands, I cum well fast then got it back up after about 5 mins of givin oral and then I went for aaaaagggggeeeesssss the second time round. If you do one of those things again. try and get it up after the first time.

good luck and weldone on losin the V plates. Dont be embarassed, life isnt perfect and no one is, and thats what makes it funny.

1st time is always shit. I lasted less than one minute when I lost my virginity at 13 years old on the Island of Crete to this girl of 15 who's name I never knew :cool: I just slapped my than Hydromaxmmm 5.5 inches or so of length into her and rubbbed.....HARD AND FAST and then I felt myself cum.

Thanks for all ur advices guys, yeah I was expecting this to happen but was not expecting somethin in less than a minute, am tryin to figure out some exercise after doing which, the head doesnt get as sensitive as mine did on that day. lol!!

And as u all said am gonnu get back on to the horse and tame it until the horse screams for me to ride it endlessly!!

Have a terrific 2006 everyone!!

Maybe rub the top of your head while masturbating? that might help...

Thats exactly what I had in my mind 9_16, thanks for the pointer.

9_16 said:

Maybe rub the top of your head while masturbating? that might help...

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Thats the only way masturbating feel good to me that'll get you a good edge session to help you last longer.

You did nothing wrong, pal. You did what all of us did the first time. Your staying power will increase with time and experience.

Good luck.

Go back to the club and try for another encounter. This time, keep thinking about how nervous you are with all those people watching you and it should help distract from the actual sex.