Hi guys. I'm new here. A little about me. I'm 39yo, avg build, non smoker. I've been dealing with general/health anxiety for about 5 years now. I've also struggled with ED on and off for the last few years. I believe the ED is from my anxiety as sometimes I can get super hard, but can lose it fast if my mind gets in the way. Last year my wife basically told me she wished I was bigger as she couldn't feel me as much anymore. I think part of that is her having 2 kids and my anxiety makes it not as hard sometimes. Anyways, I'm trying to increase my girth. I am currently 6.5" pressed to my bone and 5" around in the middle of my shaft when erect. I bought a couple different pumps last fall and have tried them on and off. I actually feel like they've weakened my erections some so I've been scared to keep using them. My wife bought me some rings which felt like they worked at least during sex. What is the best and safest way to increase my girth permanently? Or are my tools the right ones but I'm using them wrong? Thanks for any help.