Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder where a person has recurrent and unwanted ideas or impulses (called obsessions) and an urge or compulsion to do something to relieve the discomfort caused by the obsession. The obsessive thoughts range from the idea of losing control, to themes surrounding religion or keeping things or parts of one's body clean all the time. Compulsions are behaviors that help reduce the anxiety surrounding the obsessions. Most people (90%) who have OCD have both obsessions and compulsions. The thoughts and behaviors a person with OCD has are senseless, repetitive, distressing, and sometimes harmful, but they are also difficult to overcome.

OCD is more common than schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or panic disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Yet, it is still commonly overlooked by mental health professionals, mental health advocacy groups, and people who themselves have the problem.

Many people still carry the misperception that they somehow caused themselves to have these compulsive behaviors and obsessive thoughts. Nothing could be further from the truth. OCD is likely the cause of a number of intertwined and complex factors which include genetics, biology, personality development, and how a person learns to react to the environment around them. What scientists today do know is that it is not a sign of a character flaw or a personal weakness. OCD is a serious mental disorder, which is more treatable than ever. Without the appropriate treatment, it affects a person's ability to function in every day activities, one's work, one's family, and one's social life.

What are Obsessions and Compulsions?

Obsessions

Obsessions are unwanted ideas or impulses that repeatedly well up in the mind of a person with OCD. Common ideas include persistent fears that harm may come to self or a loved one, an unreasonable concern with becoming contaminated, or an excessive need to do things correctly or perfectly. Again and again, the individual experiences a disturbing thought, such as, "My hands may be contaminated -- I must wash them" or "I may have left the gas on" or "I am going to injure my child." These thoughts tend to be intrusive, unpleasant, and produce a high degree of anxiety. Sometimes the obsessions are of a violent or a sexual nature, or concern illness. (NIMH)

Compulsions

In response to their obsessions, most people with OCD resort to repetitive behaviors called compulsions. The most common of these are washing and checking (e.g., making sure the gas from the oven has been turned off). Other compulsive behaviors include counting (often while performing another compulsive action such as hand washing), repeating, hoarding, and endlessly rearranging objects in an effort to keep them in precise alignment with each other. Cognitive problems, such as mentally repeating phrases, list making, or checking, are also common. These behaviors generally are intended to ward off harm to the person with OCD or others. Some people with OCD have regimented rituals while others have rituals that are complex and changing. Performing rituals may give the person with OCD some relief from anxiety, but it is only temporary. (NIMH) We have developed the information here to act as a comprehensive guide to help you better understand OCD and find out more information about them on your own. Choose from among the categories at left to begin your journey into recovery from this treatable disorder.

Treatment

Help is available for OCD in the form of medication and specific forms of psychotherapy (e.g., Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy for OCD). Consultation with a psychiatrist and a psychologist or social worker with expertise in CBT are recommended first steps.

A few other notes are relevant:

Obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors that worsen during times of stress are quite normally experienced by many people, and are not necessarily a sign of OCD. The tendency to become obsessed with ideas or to compulsively pursue organization and ordering tasks are valued personality features in a variety of detail-oriented fields, including accounting, computer programming and scientific research. True OCD is an extreme condition diagnosed only when obsessions and compulsions cause significant impairment in a person’s ability to work or meet other important responsibilities (such as when a person is unable to get to work on time because she is spending over an hour checking to see that her door is locked).

OCD should not be confused with Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD; which is discussed in greater detail in our personality disorders topic area). OCPD is diagnosed to describe pervasive and life-long perfectionist, puritanical and rigidly controlling personality traits that some people demonstrate. The diagnosis of OCPD doesn’t require the presence of obsessions and compulsions (as does OCD).
 
OCD has been sucessfully cured by Dr. John Sarno. In fact, he treated Howard Stern for his OCD and Howard completely recovered. Dr. John Sarno is now Howard Stern's personal doctor and he raves about this doctor and his books all the time. Dr. Sarno also completely cured John Stossell of 20/20 of his back pain, and John Stossell was so in awe of him that he did an entire 20/20 episode on him and his treatments.

I have read Dr. Sarno's book "Healing Back Pain" (worst title ever considering all it covers), and completely recovered from Prostitis in about 2 weeks!!!! His following book "The mind body perscription" covers more about the mental side of things such as OCD, depression, etc. However, the treatment in booth books is the same, and I personally like the flow of Healing Back Pain Better. You will notice that certain personality types get these type of symptoms, usually overachiever, people pleasers (also correlated with higher IQ's and easily Hypnotizable people). Many of these same personality types are the ones looking to improve themselves on these boards and many other self help boards. I, as well as many others on this board, are spitting images of this type of personality. Just check out the reviews on Amazon.

Something to look into,
Luke
 
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OCD has been sucessfully cured by Dr. John Sarno. In fact, he treated Howard Stern for his OCD and Howard completely recovered. Dr. John Sarno is now Howard Stern's personal doctor and he raves about this doctor and his books all the time. Dr. Sarno also completely cured John Stossell of 20/20 of his back pain, and John Stossell was so in awe of him that he did an entire 20/20 episode on him and his treatments.

I have read Dr. Sarno's book "Healing Back Pain" (worst title ever considering all it covers), and completely recovered from Prostitis in about 2 weeks!!!! His following book "The mind body perscription" covers more about the mental side of things such as OCD, depression, etc. However, the treatment in booth books is the same, and I personally like the flow of Healing Back Pain Better. You will notice that certain personality types get these type of symptoms, usually overachiever, people pleasers (also correlated with higher IQ's and easily Hypnotizable people). Many of these same personality types are the ones looking to improve themselves on these boards and many other self help boards. I, as well as many others on this board, are spitting images of this type of personality. Just check out the reviews on Amazon.

Something to look into,
Luke

A cure? That would be nice:)
 
DLD do you have O.C.D. I have it really bad to the point where it actually creates anxiety if I try not to follow one of my compulsions. One thing that I am really compulsive about is sex it has turned into a obsession and when I want it and the compulsion is not followed through I can get very anxious and aggravated, masturbation does not get rid of this because it is the impulse to have sex not to masturbate it is really strange how it works there are many other things that I can not stop myself doing I am glad that cleaning is not one of them but it is still very annoying and no-one will give me medication for it and it is costing a fortune in counseling fees.
 
I have some of it...cleanliness, worrying about death, accidents..,got few tics,but again should one just walk through life unconcerned?
I know too much thinking sometimes does bother me but no fear is just silly!
I was fearless as a kid, man did i do dangerous stuff and could have seriously harmed myself!

Only time when im free of these thoughts when i engage in an action that requires my concentration, looks like all illness is due to not having goals to conquer!
 
Russi;440186 said:
i HAVE IT TO IT SUCKS IM ALWAYS STRETCHING AND Penis EnlargementOPLE THINK I LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT

How do you mean?
 
doublelongdaddy;440281 said:
How do you mean?

i think he means stretching as in stretching your arms, when youve been sitting for ages and then you get up and stretch.

fucc knows... he could mean stretching his dicc!!! that would make you look like a idiot in public aha
 
Russi;440382 said:
yeh i have a full stretching ritual and if i dont do it i get anxious. mostly arms and legs.

That is a tough OCD to deal with and my heart goes out to you! Restless leg and arm syndrome can be very scary and the way to deal with it is through positive thought replacement. As hard as it is you need to change the thoughts as they come. It can be a chore and at first it seems fake but if you change the thoughts over and over it will stick. OCD is a bitch and the only way it can be dealt with is through thought replacement. If the thought is bad, change it to good. If the thought is good reaffirm it.
 
An article I read called "Alcoholism, The Thinking Disease. The Bucket With No Bottom": By G-O Digilio
(I couldn't find it online so I had rewrite the whole thing myself)

Addiction in the process of dealing with emotional and psychological pain with a quick fix. Some of the things used as quick fixes are: alcohol; street drugs; misuse of prescription medicines; gambling; food; sex; sleeping; pornography; religion; computers; work; and relationships. Although, done appropriately, many of the addictive patters are healthy human behaviors. ADDICTION IS ABOUT FIXING THE PAIN. RECOVERY IS ABOUT FIXING THE PROBLEMS THAT CAUSE THE PAIN. By elimination the problems and preventing them from returning, a person can learn to develop a life style that is happy, joyous, and free. There are times, of course, that life is painful. As corny as it sounds, life is about living. Death of a loved one, financial difficulties, sickness and myriad of other woes intertwine into the happier times. Despite our best efforts, these tragedies do occur. In the recovery, we are taught tools to help deal with problems in a healthy way.

Statistics, as taught to me in school, state that only ten percent of the population seeks help and only ten percent of those stay around long enough to effect a significant change for the better in their lives. Thus one percent of the population is making continuous attempts to improve. Many of the others don't want to do the work to make changes but they will do the work to use an addictive process to fix the pain. Addiction is a quick fix that feels good for the moment but wears off quickly. Then they must do more and do it more often. The trap is that the more you use something additively the faster it loses its potency. I have taken care of patients where the chronic use of drugs caused them to develop scary tolerance of the drug to the point that the amount of drugs they were taking would have killed an elephant. Yet they were up and walking around, and surprisingly coherent. Detoxing these people is a major medical problem for the physicians.

For those that refuse treatment or refuse to work a recovery program effectively, their needs become a bucket with no bottom. They are never satisfied, They always feel empty. They complain they don't have enough cash. They are chronically in self-pity. Their mantra is that the world hurt them so they will hurt the world. Frequently their pain turns into a vendetta against anyone or everyone. When they don't get what they want, when they want it, and how they want it, others pay dearly for being in close proximity. And the vengeance is frequently done with a syrupy sweetness to allow a denial of the destruction they wish to inflict.

A common phrase heard in recovery is "I have such a deep and dark hole in my chest that the intensity of the pain brings me to the brink of insanity, homicide, or suicide." Instead of doing the work to fill the void in a healthy way they shove anything and everything into their soul to fill the empty bucket. When the bucket does not have a bottom, i.e. a healthy core, it never can be filled and the person is never satisfied. AND THE GATHERING RAMPAGE CONTINUES.

Their motto is "MORE, MORE, AND MORE". A person can be shown exorbitant amounts of healthy love yet the cry is that "nobody loves me." I have seen billionaires cry of poverty, when they could have bought the state of California and still had money left over. Some people who are internationally famous feel unknown. The average person shows their bucket with no bottom in similar ways. People with low self-esteem, frequently find it necessary to belittle others around. Some people in business will slit the proverbial throat of competitors just to fell better than the rest. Either that or they stab them in the back by attacking their reputation unjustifiably. A friend or family member will start a smear campaign just so the focus of attention is switched from a popular person onto the one that feels left out.

There are many ways the process of they "bucket with no bottom" is evidenced. Basically when you begin to sense that a person is never satisfied, examine the situation carefully. They may be in a very healthy growth process. Or they may be creating a very toxic situation to be around. Giving and loving people are often the victims of the greedy. The greedy are needy. And the need is never satisfied. They can suck you dry and toss your carcass aside. When you think you may be seeing this in a love one, proceed with caution. In addition to recovery programs, professional help may be needed to prevent getting sucked into the toxic vacuum of the bucket with no bottom. There is hope. There is a better way.

My Notes:I'm relating this to the OCD thread because maybe they can take something from it and use it for the obsession. Learning to treat something they want to change and giving them another way to look at it.
 
I have major OCD problems ever since i was young. I don't have many physical OCD habits, instead it's all in my mind.

When i'm in Penis Enlargement mode, i think about Penis Enlargement almost constantly... 1 minute i have high hopes of gaining, another minute im completely doubting myself

It's really annoying to have OCD honestly... my mind always be wondering, thinking about millions of dumb shit, talking to myself in order to help my brain accept certain things, etc

anything that i care about, i'm thinking about in my mind over and over .... thats one of the reasons why i don't give a fuck about most things, Makes life much easier
 
After reading the above posts, I find this thread really interesting. OCD is not really something I had come across before reading this section. Of Course I had heard the letters OCD, but never really took much notice. I feel I may have something similar if not OCD itself.

Since a kid I have made lists. I am not talking a quick list of groceries or to-do lists. Below is an example

( 2011 December )

fitness routines ( detailed plans )
Penis Enlargement training ( I outline my routines ) [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?83810-MoS-Online-Texas-Holdem-Poker-League-and-Tournament-to-win-P-E-Prizes!!!]Poker[/words] ( training videos I plan to watch )
etc
etc
etc

I make a plan for every month up until 2014 December. Always three year periods. I do this over and over again in various note pads. If I make one error or have to score a word out through a mistake I start again. Every single day I do this and plan to do tonight's list just after writing this post. Apart from enormous amounts of paper, I must waste an hour every day that I would prefer to be doing something else with. I feel excited and joyful when I write my "life lists". Most days they are exactly the same as the previous days. I want to stop, but I can't imagine not doing something that I have done since I was about 15 years old.
 
HopeTG;465167 said:
After reading the above posts, I find this thread really interesting. OCD is not really something I had come across before reading this section. Of Course I had heard the letters OCD, but never really took much notice. I feel I may have something similar if not OCD itself.

Since a kid I have made lists. I am not talking a quick list of groceries or to-do lists. Below is an example

( 2011 December )

fitness routines ( detailed plans )
Penis Enlargement training ( I outline my routines ) [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?83810-MoS-Online-Texas-Holdem-Poker-League-and-Tournament-to-win-P-E-Prizes!!!]Poker[/words] ( training videos I plan to watch )
etc
etc
etc

I make a plan for every month up until 2014 December. Always three year periods. I do this over and over again in various note pads. If I make one error or have to score a word out through a mistake I start again. Every single day I do this and plan to do tonight's list just after writing this post. Apart from enormous amounts of paper, I must waste an hour every day that I would prefer to be doing something else with. I feel excited and joyful when I write my "life lists". Most days they are exactly the same as the previous days. I want to stop, but I can't imagine not doing something that I have done since I was about 15 years old.

I am in the middle of a massive ocd mess right now, 3 weeks going! I will post more in depth about it this evening but basically I always have OCD around numbers, which I have managed quite well but every few years my OCD manifests itself as a cleaning/organizing disorder and I have been stuck cleaning my house 24 hours a day! I can not get everything done, it is awful. I have just made some big decisions on this an will run them by you guys before I implement them but I do need help.
 
DLD I have OCD for a lot of the same reasons you had it for. Mine's a little different as I obsess about numbers b/c to me, numbers=inches. Every number I see I translate it to inches..You can see how difficult it is for me to watch sports on TV! Ultimately I'm frustrated with my average size. Anyways, they put me on 40 mg prozac and I've been on that for a month with little help. You were on Prozac...how many milligrams did you find to be an effective dose for your OCD? Thanks, D
 
GOALBIG;532215 said:
DLD I have OCD for a lot of the same reasons you had it for. Mine's a little different as I obsess about numbers b/c to me, numbers=inches. Every number I see I translate it to inches..You can see how difficult it is for me to watch sports on TV! Ultimately I'm frustrated with my average size. Anyways, they put me on 40 mg prozac and I've been on that for a month with little help. You were on Prozac...how many milligrams did you find to be an effective dose for your OCD? Thanks, D


OCD takes more than medication, I think cognitive work and thought shifting are more vital than anything else. In cognitive work it becomes important to betray patterns deliberately and with much intent. If the OCD behavior is not beneficial it needs to be eliminated and this is best done as I stated, directly and repetitively, over and over until the mind makes a new belief system around the negative behavior(s).

It becomes very important to also promote the positive gifts in ourselves and not allow them to become watered down by the ocd negative actions and thought patterns. Those of us who have this affliction need to embrace it as a gift when used the right way. Penis Enlargement would not be what it is today if it were not for some of my positive OCD patterns. DLD Blasters were created out of an obsessive 2 weeks that allowed me to repetitively understand the actions of the pelvic floor muscles and accurately create an opposite to the Kegel. Within the bathroom I was obsessing in I invented the Reverse Kegel and this changed Penis Enlargement for millions.

Find in yourself the difference in the parts of your OCD that are productive and those which are not. Let me see them, with your Brothers, and determine if they are positive or negative and in which ways we can help you.
 
I just want that quick fix but it doesn't seem like its gonna happen. I need to retrain my brain to think rationally about numbers etc...I'm not sure theres anything positive about my ocd but I am committed to gain with jelq and stretch. Gains will help me get over the OCD. Thanks
 
GOALBIG;533523 said:
I just want that quick fix but it doesn't seem like its gonna happen. I need to retrain my brain to think rationally about numbers etc...I'm not sure theres anything positive about my ocd but I am committed to gain with jelq and stretch. Gains will help me get over the OCD. Thanks

It is more of a deliberate position you will need to take with your mind. See how your OCD gives you abilities beyond that of the normal man. Abilities that allow for total dedication and absolute concentration to perfection. Once the position is taken that the disability is more of an ability the power is shifted from it being something you are a slave to something that you are master of. It is a rather odd way to make a rational change but OCD is a tricky bitch and it needs to be tricked out of us!
 
From now on i have developed PE ocd i wish i had lots of cash and time and i would spent my day exercising and experimenting about PE,hahahaha [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MOS[/words] BROTHERHOOD
 
shortdick;632064 said:
From now on i have developed PE ocd i wish i had lots of cash and time and i would spent my day exercising and experimenting about PE,hahahaha [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MOS[/words] BROTHERHOOD

I have always flipped my supposed disabilities into a positive ability. OCD means I can concentrate on something long enough to accomplish it...Multiple Personality into I have 14 people working for me in my brain:).....BiPolar, I get 10 times the work done compared to my competition and I will need rest eventually. These abilities make me special compared to others that do not have them. The is nothing the God gives me that I do not take complete advantage of!
 
my first post so be gentle guys :P. gonna start off with stats, I think when I joined the forum I was 4.75 non bone pressed erect length that's after many months I think I am close to 5.5 bone pressed. prolly close to a year I think. girth is way below normal. only measerment I took was erect and it was 4.5. I am drunk right now as usual but I am posting this in the ocd part cause I am asking for help.
 
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my first post so be gentle guys :P. gonna start off with stats, I think when I joined the forum I was 4.75 non bone pressed erect length that's all I can remember. Strecthed flacid it was close to the same. After many months I think I am close to 5.5 bone pressed. prolly close to a year I think. girth is way below normal. only measerment I took was erect and it was under 4 by a little. I am drunk right now as usual but I am posting this in the ocd part cause I am asking for help. The ocd part is what I looked up and its called retroactive jealousy ocd. I love her beyond belief and hate her at the same time....its tourture. as far as ocd is concerned I feel like I am in a perpetual loss here. I can never compare (why I am looking this up), and I can never forgive her..does anyone have that type of issue???

I can relate I think. When my ex left me I went through about 8 years wasting my time in the same place you are right now and I am going to be strong with you, it is a waste of time! I will never get that time back, it was a terrible investment of my time and it scared me emotionally to the bone. Read the first post, study it, master it and take control back. OCD is a terrible thing when it is used in the wrong way but when used in a positive way it can be a huge help, especially in PE. I still love my ex beyond belief but I have been given the grace to forgive her and wish her the best in whatever life she is living. Letting go of these attachments is the biggest freedom that can be found. I have given up many attachments and with each one I have an awful fear that it would be so mortifying I would not be able to bare only to find that I received the grace of freedom. I have detached myself from many things and have become a better person because of it. If you want to be free you have to give up.
 
I know I need to let go but I feel so lost when all I can think of is everyone or anything and its better than me. You are right I need to channel it to make it work for me. I just don't know how to do it. I drink myself to sleep and embarrass myself almost everynight. My thoughts and feelings are about everyone else, and that I am never good enough. anyone and everything reminds me of something that I cant control and feel jealous about. I have no clue how the people around me don't leave me. I am grateful I have them and grateful for anyone listening.
 
macro6;723878 said:
I know I need to let go but I feel so lost when all I can think of is everyone or anything and its better than me. You are right I need to channel it to make it work for me. I just don't know how to do it. I drink myself to sleep and embarrass myself almost everynight. My thoughts and feelings are about everyone else, and that I am never good enough. anyone and everything reminds me of something that I cant control and feel jealous about. I have no clue how the people around me don't leave me. I am grateful I have them and grateful for anyone listening.

You need to learn to remain in the moment. Easier said than done but an incredible way to avoid depression and anxiety. You see, when we give our time to the past or the future we are wasting the moment. You can not feel better in the past no more than you can predict if you will feel better in the future, what you can do is stay in the moment and in the moment is all the power we need. The past thoughts will only bring more depression while future thoughts will cause anxiety but in the moment there is neither, only a fresh slate to write upon. In this, for me, it was DBT that allowed me to remain in the moment, something you should really look into.

Also, if you believe in God, you can do what I have done for many years and this is the greatest help I have ever received. Every bit of suffering I give to Jesus to save souls. I know that keeping the misery to myself will I do little to nothing but leave me in a worst condition than before. I have taught my Children this way that when we suffer, it is like money, money we can use to buy back souls and other people who are suffering. It gives so much more meaning to suffering and you are helping many others in this process. This world is nothing but an exile from the promised land, the Earth is simply the test before we get there. If you can give all of your suffering to Jesus He will pour out His blessings upon you, blessing that will get you to and through these terrible discouragements. Finding meaning in suffering is where we will find joy.

Today I can say that I love the girl who abandoned me and broke my heart I have let go of and I wish her the best in life, I hope she finds what she wants and becomes happy. I will never wish her bad as love is forever. So I am in no way saying to stop loving, I am saying let go and let God. Stop the drinking! It is doing nothing but making you situation worse. Do not feel jealousy, it is simply an emotion that holds us in bonds. Take all of this emotion into PE and bettering yourself as a man. The best revenge is no revenge at all, simply come out of it looking good!
 
Dakkon1978;723878 said:
I know I need to let go but I feel so lost when all I can think of is everyone or anything and its better than me. You are right I need to channel it to make it work for me. I just don't know how to do it. I drink myself to sleep and embarrass myself almost everynight. My thoughts and feelings are about everyone else, and that I am never good enough. anyone and everything reminds me of something that I cant control and feel jealous about. I have no clue how the people around me don't leave me. I am grateful I have them and grateful for anyone listening.

alcohol and drugs will never solve our issues positively,Be thankful of having people that loves you and cares about you..Being part of this brotherhood is a great gift!
 
LONGERDICK7+;724616 said:
alcohol and drugs will never solve our issues positively,Be thankful of having people that loves you and cares about you..Being part of this brotherhood is a great gift!

So true! Please use us for what we are, your Brothers! We will help you with anything you need and we will never tell you what you want to hear, we will always tell you what you need to know. We are a loving but strong Brotherhood.
 
Dakkon1978;727010 said:
mine is obeccesive about my gf and how im I am lost, I showed it to you all and im still lost. im wanted to be liked the way you all are....im a complete loser

Give me some more information on your situation and lemme see where we can help you. No one is more obsessive than me, believe me, I willl be able to help you.
 
doublelongdaddy;727037 said:
Give me some more information on your situation and lemme see where we can help you. No one is more obsessive than me, believe me, I willl be able to help you.
I drink almost every night. I think I am not good enough. I work hard. My gf has slept with 20 guys, i have been with her and 1 other. My penis is extremely small. I want to be loved the way she loved others. Im so insecure and shy. I hate obcessing about every person/moment/ anything or anyone reminds me of her and how i am not good enough. Its tourture. But i love her so how do i let it go?
 
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I drink almost every night. I think I am not good enough. I work hard. My gf has slept with 20 guys, i have been with her and 1 other. My penis is extremely small. I want to be loved the way she loved others. Im so insecure and shy. I hate obcessing about every person/moment/ anything or anyone reminds me of her and how i am not good enough. Its tourture. But i love her so how do i let it go?

Good enough is a very open and broad statement. What is good enough? Having a bigger penis? That is something you can have by becoming a part of the Brotherhood, no matter what your size is, it can be made bigger. Your girl has been with 20 guys, my ex was with over 100! I understand that haunting but I can give you very solid advice, pretend as if they never existed as thinking on them will do nothing but toucher you. Your girl is not thinking about them, she is thinking about you and she wants you to be confident! Confidence and being shy are far different, being shy is an attractive quality if our partner knows this. Lacking confidence based on her past partners or your current size will ultimately destroy the relationship. Trying to read her mind if futile and our discernment is usually way off. A confident man with a smaller penis is much more attractive than a man with a bigger penis who lacks confidence. Confidence does not come from the penis either, it comes from the mind and the beliefs, or should I say, opinions we have about ourselves. I made my penis huge but I was so obsessed with my ex-girls past lovers (who was bigger, was he better, did it feel better with him, is she still thinking about them????) so my bigger penis did nothing to build my confidence, I actually felt even worse. My confidence came long after I lost her. My regrets are many but on reflection I can see that this was all my fault, all psychologically produced falsehoods about her and myself.

So where do you start and how do you begin to gain confidence? You made the first step in laying out your problem, good work! Next it becomes important to tackle each issue one at a time. Your penis will take care of itself so we can leave that out of the mix. If you do PE your penis will become bigger. When I met my girl I was not the biggest but eventually I became much bigger than her biggest. So the first place to correct is the drinking issue. This is a tough thing to leave behind but it is important to do as it is making the problem worse. I tried to drink much of my pain away only to make it worse. You need to learn to sit with the suffering with a sober mind and work your way trough it with positive, cognitive work. Things like D.B.T. or meditation work very well. Set a goal to stop drinking and stick to it. A drunk man is not attractive in anyway. I am not sure how you feel about Cannabis but it was one of the biggest helps I had. It replaced the drinking and allowed me to think very deeply about myself and who I was and where I was going. As the Bible calls it The Healing Herb, I concur with God! It has healed much of my pain.

Being with only one other woman is, again, an attractive quality to women who are more experienced as they get an ego out of teaching :) Use this to your advantage, a shy and inexperienced man while be a wonderful project for the right women! I wish I could say I was only with one woman!

Worrying on, or obsessing over what others are thinking is pretty much a huge waste of time. First, most people are so worried about themselves they have no time to worry on anything else. Plus, you can not read minds and trying to will add to the obsessing. It is time to keep your thoughts in the moment, not the past, not the future but this single moment. This takes work but if you practice DBT you will accomplish this wonderful therapy that eliminates depression and anxiety.

Lastly, She not only loves you like she has loved others she has chosen you over all of them, remember that!
 
doublelongdaddy;727627 said:
A confident man with a smaller penis is much more attractive than a man with a bigger penis who lacks confidence.

Excuse me for taking this out from the well-thought long post, but it is true!

When you're confident, no matter what size you are, you can seen as being attractive!

I myself lack this confidence at times. I'm surely not the smallest, but I do aim for a bigger girth.
When you're able to put away the thought of size when meeting new people, you're golden. Sex in the end, between two people (or more, whichever is on your plate) is more than the penetration and size of your equipment.

I still seek for more size despite writing this; I think it's comfortable to hold your own unit that is big and strong.
But even with a smaller size you can feel that way.
You can make a person feel good in sexual way in more than one way ...
 
The best of both worlds is to grow in confidence as you grow in size. :)
 
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