Bro, no offense but i think you're obsessing a little too much about your size or perceived size. Don't sweat it bro, you and your wife know how big you are and we all know that your making gains. I don't think anyone here doubts what you say or your sincerity. Just do what you've been doing and you'll get to your goal soon enough. If you measure 8" BP, but it doesn't look it, so what? As long as your wife is able to get more pleasure out of it, does it really matter if it looks big or not? You are a big guy with thick wrists, anything that's next to it will look smaller...