Who do I talk to about fixing my penis? I can't have sex!

CaptCoca · Feb 18, 2014

I'm still technically a virgin. I've had oral sex countless amount of times, but I've never had sexual intercourse.

My penis is 7-8 inches at it's hardest. Unsure of girth size.

My issue: My penis has a curve (I don't have peyronies disease). The curve is not dramatic. But when I try to penetrate, my penis bends too much to get in & it even starts to soften. Even at it's hardest all I can do it get the head in before it gets too bendy. As if the tissues are weak or something. Not to mention, when I get hard, my penis doesn't really stand up. It just gets erect. It doesn't raise up really at all.

Any help?

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Who do I talk to to fix this problem?

Satyr · Feb 18, 2014

The erection angle doesn't have any relevance when it comes to the question whether you're potent or not. It's just a matter of aesthetics.
Somewhat mysterious is your observation that your "not too dramatic" curvature hinders penetration. It's normal that a bending of the erect penis causes a reflux of the circulating blood. One can observe that while doing exercises like the DLD Bends or similar ones where you move your penis around in a circular or "slinky" manner. But If it's really only a slight curve and your penis softens nonetheless if bent just slightly, then the question arises why your erectile tissue (the corpora cavernosa and the corpus spongiosum) can't hold enough blood in it.
Logical conclusion would be that either the curve is more dramatic than you consider it to be (in this case see a urologist first, or at least upload a pic so people can give their opinions and then ponder your options>i.e.if surgical intervention is needed or if a natural way such as jelqing could do the job in a longer time period) or your PC muscle is simply too weak to withstand the external pressure and hence fails to keep the blood in its place. In this case extended kegeling would be the way to go.
Idk, if there's a third possibility which would be a deficient flexibility or elasticity of your erectile tissue which would cause the significant reflux of the blood. Maybe there are natural Penis Enlargement methods to cope with that problem as well. Perhaps something like bending as a part of your Pe routine would urge the penis to adapt to the applied pressure.
A fourth and not so uncommon, but often underestimated possibility would be psychic pressure: since you're still a virgin who didn't manage "to get it in there" several times, you might unconsciously or even consciously set yourself under heavy pressure to succeed. That almost inevitably leads to failure. In this case you need a partner whom you can trust and who gives you the feeling of being estimated also in case of "failure", so you can relax yourself. There are lots of other potential stress factors, too. I myself am very sensible to stress and experienced sexual dysfunction in such situations quite a few times.

Zambrodom3 · Feb 18, 2014

Sorry for busting the thread- great post by Satyr!

But man- why did you open 3 threads of this

P.S- Why don't you try jelqing at the opposite angle? Plus, I think you can find some good info here ( http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/...gotten-rid-of-an-upward-curve&highlight=curve ). They are talking about upward curve, but the methods are still the same

. It is just the direction of your bends that should be different.

Vetiver · Feb 18, 2014

If you don't think you have Peyronies, then you could have a normal benign congenital curve, especially if the degree of the curve isn't substantial.

When sex become painful or difficult, it's usually a sign of chronic inflammation of the tunica due to the plaques and related scar tissue.

It wouldn't hurt to get diagnosed by a Dr. However, there are manual exercises that will improve this disease.

Satyr, referring to poor EQ based on venous leakage is correct, however it's more to do with the BS muscle, not PC.

Super · Feb 18, 2014

I would go talk to a Urologist and ask him what is going on.

CaptCoca · Feb 18, 2014

Satyr;577049 said:
The erection angle doesn't have any relevance when it comes to the question whether you're potent or not. It's just a matter of aesthetics.
Somewhat mysterious is your observation that your "not too dramatic" curvature hinders penetration. It's normal that a bending of the erect penis causes a reflux of the circulating blood. One can observe that while doing exercises like the DLD Bends or similar ones where you move your penis around in a circular or "slinky" manner. But If it's really only a slight curve and your penis softens nonetheless if bent just slightly, then the question arises why your erectile tissue (the corpora cavernosa and the corpus spongiosum) can't hold enough blood in it.
Logical conclusion would be that either the curve is more dramatic than you consider it to be (in this case see a urologist first, or at least upload a pic so people can give their opinions and then ponder your options>i.e.if surgical intervention is needed or if a natural way such as jelqing could do the job in a longer time period) or your PC muscle is simply too weak to withstand the external pressure and hence fails to keep the blood in its place. In this case extended kegeling would be the way to go.
Idk, if there's a third possibility which would be a deficient flexibility or elasticity of your erectile tissue which would cause the significant reflux of the blood. Maybe there are natural Penis Enlargement methods to cope with that problem as well. Perhaps something like bending as a part of your Pe routine would urge the penis to adapt to the applied pressure.
A fourth and not so uncommon, but often underestimated possibility would be psychic pressure: since you're still a virgin who didn't manage "to get it in there" several times, you might unconsciously or even consciously set yourself under heavy pressure to succeed. That almost inevitably leads to failure. In this case you need a partner whom you can trust and who gives you the feeling of being estimated also in case of "failure", so you can relax yourself. There are lots of other potential stress factors, too. I myself am very sensible to stress and experienced sexual dysfunction in such situations quite a few times.

- Thanks. Very helpful. My curvature isn't dramatic at the sight of it. It's only when I try to penetrate does it start to bend, and at that point it can be dramatic. For example, If I get erect right now...It wouldn't looked very curved, BUT I would be able to take my two hands and bend it far too much (without any pain either).

- I will consider seeing a urologist. Would a urologist ever suggest manual methods? Or am I on my own to do my own research when it comes to that?

- I will upload a pic later on today

- I doubt it's a mental issue. I receive oral all the time and sustaining erection is never an issue then. Only an issue when it bends as I try to penetrate a vagina. But only because a mouth is nowhere comparable to the tightness of a vagina.

CaptCoca · Feb 18, 2014

Zambrodom3;577057 said:
Sorry for busting the thread- great post by Satyr!

But man- why did you open 3 threads of this

P.S- Why don't you try jelqing at the opposite angle? Plus, I think you can find some good info here ( http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/...gotten-rid-of-an-upward-curve&highlight=curve ). They are talking about upward curve, but the methods are still the same . It is just the direction of your bends that should be different.

My bad. Im new to this forum, I was still figuring things out lol

Would jelqing help with the overall strength of my penis though?

CaptCoca · Feb 18, 2014

Vetiver;577069 said:
If you don't think you have Peyronies, then you could have a normal benign congenital curve, especially if the degree of the curve isn't substantial.

When sex become painful or difficult, it's usually a sign of chronic inflammation of the tunica due to the plaques and related scar tissue.

It wouldn't hurt to get diagnosed by a Dr. However, there are manual exercises that will improve this disease.

Satyr, referring to poor EQ based on venous leakage is correct, however it's more to do with the BS muscle, not PC.

Would the doctor ever suggest manual methods? or would he just diagnose the problem, leaving me to do my own research?

Super · Feb 18, 2014

No he most likely will not.

CaptCoca · Feb 18, 2014

Supra;577090 said:
No he most likely will not.

So basically....I would just have to listen to whatever he diagnoses me with (which I highly doubt I have anything) and head on over to this forum & get started on fixing myself manually huh? Lol

Vetiver · Feb 18, 2014

CaptCoca;577089 said:
Would the doctor ever suggest manual methods? or would he just diagnose the problem, leaving me to do my own research?

CaptCoca;577091 said:
So basically....I would just have to listen to whatever he diagnoses me with (which I highly doubt I have anything) and head on over to this forum & get started on fixing myself manually huh? Lol

You won't know until you talk to a Dr. They will diagnose you with something, or say it's nothing. Once you have a diagnosis he'll offer some kind of treatment (if it's peyronies he may suggest Verapamil injections or transdermal). After which you could bring up P.E. and exercises you've read about (but try not to suggest you did some exercises and have broke your penis as a result). Some urologists are very familiar with P.E. because they are specialists in that area of the body.

Good luck! Don't be afraid to talk to your Dr., you are paying THEM! It always helps to cross-check different Dr.s opinions as well. So, if you don't like one, try another before distressing.

Here2Help · Feb 18, 2014

If you can penetrate her mouth then why cant you have her mannually open her vagina and then ride you. It sounds like mentally you have a anxiety spell right during vaginal penetration. Now try getting drunk while taking viagra and have her ready to recieve you. This should eliminate loss of full erection and any anxiety that you have pre vaginal penetration. Good luck.

Vetiver · Feb 18, 2014

Here2Help;577115 said:
If you can penetrate her mouth then why cant you have her mannually open her vagina and then ride you. It sounds like mentally you have a anxiety spell right during vaginal penetration. Now try getting drunk while taking viagra and have her ready to recieve you. This should eliminate loss of full erection and any anxiety that you have pre vaginal penetration. Good luck.

I wouldn't advise drinking on Viagra, however it's been done before. Just be careful!

CaptCoca · Feb 18, 2014

Here2Help;577115 said:
If you can penetrate her mouth then why cant you have her mannually open her vagina and then ride you. It sounds like mentally you have a anxiety spell right during vaginal penetration. Now try getting drunk while taking viagra and have her ready to recieve you. This should eliminate loss of full erection and any anxiety that you have pre vaginal penetration. Good luck.

- I dont wanna become reliant on viagra to have sex everytime
- It's cause a mouth is much looser than a vagina. Her vagina can't open as wide as her mouth. I just feel like something in my penis doesn't have enough strength for it

Here2Help · Feb 18, 2014

Well if viagra does work for you, then only use it until you find out if your problem is anxiety,blood flow, etc. At least you will be having fun. Because it suppose to keep you hard for 6 hours, So try it for the purpose of vaginal penetration. Good Luck and dont get addicted if it works. Because it can cause problems later on. Just use as needed.

dmoney101 · Feb 18, 2014

Have you tried penetrating from the angle your curve is at?

Super · Feb 18, 2014

CaptCoca;577091 said:
So basically....I would just have to listen to whatever he diagnoses me with (which I highly doubt I have anything) and head on over to this forum & get started on fixing myself manually huh? Lol

Lots of things can be fixed here, however its better to have some sort of diagnosis from a doctor on what exactly is going on so we can all help you look into it, as we have no idea really what is going on atm other then you telling us the problem which really isn't helping anyone give you a solution. Saying "hey just start penis enlargement" is not the right answer here.

Problem<Diagnosis>Solution.

tizalee · Feb 19, 2014

There are many remedies for this. You can consult your doctor for the ED pills like Cialis, Viagra, Sildenafil Citrate, etc.

CaptCoca · Feb 19, 2014

Here2Help;577124 said:
Well if viagra does work for you, then only use it until you find out if your problem is anxiety,blood flow, etc. At least you will be having fun. Because it suppose to keep you hard for 6 hours, So try it for the purpose of vaginal penetration. Good Luck and dont get addicted if it works. Because it can cause problems later on. Just use as needed.

- Will try this
- Will probably go get checked out by a urologist first
Thanks man

CaptCoca · Feb 19, 2014

Supra;577132 said:
Lots of things can be fixed here, however its better to have some sort of diagnosis from a doctor on what exactly is going on so we can all help you look into it, as we have no idea really what is going on atm other then you telling us the problem which really isn't helping anyone give you a solution. Saying "hey just start penis enlargement" is not the right answer here.

Problem<Diagnosis>Solution.

Thanks man....will schedule an appointment with a urologist and report back here asap

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