I can't stay erect. I can't get my devices to work. I'm not making gains. I need help.

huge-girth said:

It's all in your head brother. What's your current length and girth size when erect? I see you have the SiliStretcher, do you have a LengthMaster as well? What penis pump do you have?

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MosMaster said:

@Shion, it sounds like you have some mental health issues brother. Which is very common by the way. I want to encourage you to try picking up healthier habits. Like talking walks, listen to interesting audio books, meditate. Sounds like you are not having the healthiest "relationship" with �naked people movies� as well... It's screwing up your dopamine reward systems and can greatly affect your motivations.. I'm with ya brother.. Myself I'm trying to eliminate �naked people movies� here for just a few days ago and I already feel better!

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Shion said:

Thanks for responding everyone - Just got internet access back after a nasty storm, by coincidence happened after my internal storm.

Appreciate the help @huge-girth; currently 5.5-6.0BPL/4.5EG on a good day. I gained a bit more length after losing part of my fat pad.
I've got a Silistretcher and a MityVac, but no Lengthmaster. Was thinking I'd focus on gaining both length and girth through the Mityvac/SRT, and use the Silistretcher to keep stretched for healing, but it's tough to use either of these devices while having trouble staying erect. If I could more easily work with them, I could just train more and wouldn't feel so powerless.
I think it might be stress, but also I discovered during the outage that I might have picked up a bug. All day yesterday had a full bodyache and couldn't move, slept for 15 hours total. Regardless, sustained erections continue to be an issue. I'm thinking I'll keep trying to do lots of kegels when weight training and see if that helps, and then just try and keep stretched as often as possible. That's why I wondered if I could do longer sessions with the MityVac because I may only have one chance some days.

@MosMaster I am glad to say I'm currently doing just that; I exercise, am keeping an eye on nutrition, journaling, hiking, getting leisure time, sunlight, taking supplements, and have a better morning bathroom routine too. But...Not even those really stop mental breakdowns for me.
As far as �naked people movies�, I can stay away from it easy; so I do. But when using it as an aid for training, it doesn't have the effect it's supposed to, and then it feels like it's working against me.

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huge-girth said:

I've always used �naked people movies� for pumping and during those times, I masturbated on a daily. About a week ago, I was 2 months clean with no masturbation. I was getting erections so easily. I think the best way to abstain from watching �naked people movies� is to quit masturbation.

If I were in your shoes, I will place all my focus on length for now and try to get to at least 7.5 inches BPEL before switching over to girth.

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Shion said:

Abstaining from masturbation is totally doable for me, but doesn't it come with the risk of reducing libido? I mean it sounds like there's benefits to it but I don't feel like I'm 'saving up' so much as it feels more like a decaying seed that didn't get used. Maybe that shouldn't be a problem with sex and PE on the regular? I'll give it a shot either way and see if it helps. Is there anything I should do with erections when they happen? So far just positioning it so that it isn't squashed by my body while sleeping or sitting.

Mkay so I'll focus on length. So far my length routine is bundled stretches. And if/when I can get into the Silistretcher I'll wear that at home whenever possible. What else should I do? I know you're probably going to ask me to get a Lengthmaster; it's just that every time I save up for months I drop money on something I end up not using because it turns out I should have bought this other thing that also costs a couple paychecks.
One more question, has anybody reported losing girth while doing length exercises?

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Shion said:

Abstaining from masturbation is totally doable for me, but doesn't it come with the risk of reducing libido? I mean it sounds like there's benefits to it but I don't feel like I'm 'saving up' so much as it feels more like a decaying seed that didn't get used. Maybe that shouldn't be a problem with sex and PE on the regular? I'll give it a shot either way and see if it helps. Is there anything I should do with erections when they happen? So far just positioning it so that it isn't squashed by my body while sleeping or sitting.

Mkay so I'll focus on length. So far my length routine is bundled stretches. And if/when I can get into the Silistretcher I'll wear that at home whenever possible. What else should I do? I know you're probably going to ask me to get a Lengthmaster; it's just that every time I save up for months I drop money on something I end up not using because it turns out I should have bought this other thing that also costs a couple paychecks.
One more question, has anybody reported losing girth while doing length exercises?

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Shion said:

I need help. Seriously, I need real detailed guided advice.
I posted it here cuz I GUESS I'm dysfunctional.
More ways than one.
I thought, hey, leg is injured JUST as I start weight training and it needs to heal, so I'll just focus fully on SRT.

I spent the last 2 hours just trying to get erect for SRT. I couldn't do a single fucking SSJ. I kegeled like my life depended on it and it wouldn't go. Nothing in my GIGS of �naked people movies� did a thing. I resorted to the most degenerate, shameful shit, and I'm not proud of myself. I had some rare moments where I got it started, but then with shaky hands and a thousand pounds of stress behind me, it deflates like a fucking balloon in the few seconds I have to try and get it into the ADS. It won't stay. I can't get my dick into the Silistretcher. And if I try pumping I can't get erect to go in the MityVac.
All I want to do is do SOME KIND OF ROUTINE, but I can't even get the basic fucking thing needed to get started. The �naked people movies� doesn't help. I thought it would, as it always worked when I was passively fapping just to get some semblence of happiness out of the day.
It's huge cocks. It's ALWAYS huge cocks. It's all they seem to want. It's the only thing that makes the world go round it seems. �naked people movies�sites are nothing but huge cocks, erotic fiction is always huge cocks, animated shit is impossibly huge cocks. But if a guy has body dysmorphia because of it? SUDDENLY it's all just in my head!!! SUDDENLY it's too depressing for people!!! Or it's a fucking joke to them. Yeah yeah I'm not supposed to take �naked people movies� seriously; y'know we've come a long way from the days of scripted professional �naked people movies� and it's mostly filmed by couples, real young hot couples who NEVER had to spend their 20s hating themselves because they were fat and ugly and their dick was barely useable and they spent every night having a mental breakdown over being alone and hating themselves every day, adding another to the pile of regret all the years prior. I talk to my peers. "YEAHHUUHHH WHEN I WAS 21 I DID THIS FUN THING WITH GIRLS-" When I was 21 I thought I was going to be the butt of jokes, from my dick alone, let alone all the other pathetic things about me, that I'd never be accepted, never be considered a guy girls could look up to, just the creep in the corner.
I am aware of my size constantly. I feel like I'm hiding from a mob. I feel it when I'm sleeping. I feel it in the shower. I feel it during the day. No matter how good a face I can put on for the day and for my peers, I just come out of the shower and look at myself in the mirror. "Oh look. It's pathetic. Just like it was yesterday. Time to spend another 24 hours stressing myself out trying to control my calorie intake, struggling to get erect, exercise and be sore all goddamn day, while someone way taller than me who was already in shape; it's just Tuesday.
I mean, FUCK, not only is it all huge cocks but they're always in perfect fucking shape too. My 20s are over and I'm never gonna be someone like that. All I have to look back on is regret. Yeah yeah I know I'm supposed to just keep my eyes forward or whatever; not easy to do when your attention span is so FUCKED you can't even pay attention to what your significant other is telling you and she's answering a question you JUST asked! Maybe I can get into shape in a few years and if my joints don't give out before I'm 40 I MIGHT be able to live a healthy second half of my life.

I can get erect for sex but that's it. Wife still says the sex is top notch. I don't think she's lying, I just think she doesn't know. Only a matter of time before our polyamory thing teaches her otherwise. Even if it were skill over size, my skills leave me a crumpled heap after sex and it's a goddamn struggle and I can't just enjoy sex.
I'm tired. I'm frustrated. I'm exhausted. I'm depressed. I'm anxious. I'm tired of managing the symptoms of trauma. I'm sick of this. I'm so sick of this. I'm sick of hating myself. I'm sick of the flashbacks. I'm sick of fighting every single day to the bitter end and having nothing to show for it. I'm sick of feeling like nothing's ever going to get better. I'm sick of being overweight no matter how much I exercise or diet, I'm sick of not putting on any muscle no matter how much I weightlift. I know the principles of Calories, I know how macronutrients work, I've been the same weight for MONTHS. I can't afford a trainer, I can't afford a therapist, and I can't afford a doctor, so I'm winging EVERYTHING with just advice off the internet. It's all I have. My hands haven't stopped shaking since last night.

No matter how hard I try, no matter how much of a smile I try to put on for people, no matter how much I try to uplift those around me, no matter how much energy I spend on training, no matter how much research I do, nothing ever fucking works. My body is falling apart. I really have no more confidence I'm going to get to any semblence of decency before I die, and that's assuming I don't get hit by a car or run into some medical issue that leaves me in debt the rest of my life. And even if it does happen, what, I get less than a year of freedom before whatever huge disaster hits next?
And yes, I'm sober. I wasn't, but as it turns out all it does is postpone having a complete mental breakdown until the following morning. This happens a lot actually. But again I'm poor so I don't get luxuries like "therapy". I can go from life of the party to complete wreck in the blink of an eye, because at the end of the day, I can act confident, I can act sexy, I can be motivational, but I have no power. I barely have power over my own life. But there's always something, isn't it? There's always another roadblock. There's always another reason to not be able to move forward. SOMETHING HAS TO GIVE. I don't know how much more of this I can take.

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Shion said:

Sorry for the delay in response! Back with you now. I've been controlling chaos on this side. We're looking into moving away from our town because it's a terrible place to live, which I think is exacerbating depression, so I'm trying to climb out of that.

@the boss!:
Here is my current fitness regimen:
- Day 1 is a full body workout, Day 2 & 3 are cardio days, Day 4 is full body workout, Day 5 & 6 are cardio, Day 7 is rest day.
I lost a lot of weight through diet alone but will have to pick up cardio again to make this work. And plus I need to get my cardio health up anyway cuz I still struggle to breathe at work sometimes. It'll be good to get testosterone back.
- Also I've been abstaining from fapping to see if it's more effective in sex and it seems to be so far. I'll see if that will help getting erect for training too. If I don't cum after an SRT session, it has an edging effect.
- I take magnesium for depression, fish oil & collagen to help my joints, turmeric for general health, and a multivitamin to help micronutrients. For food I am shooting for 1500 calories but it may be closer to 1800, maybe more, but if I fall off the deep end the cardio should help with that. For some reason some trainers don't recommend cardio for weight loss but I genuinely do have to get my cardio ability back up. It sucks too because my body's not cooperating very well, getting sore in random areas. But when I'm done losing weight I'll be strength training.
My workout routine has fluctuated since starting. I still have a gut to get rid of but I've lost a lot of weight. I plateaued at 180 and was unable to lose anything beyond that despite being hungry constantly. So then someone recommended going to a bulking stage, eating at a surplus and lifting weights, though I just felt weird gaining weight. I think I need to finish this off first.

@DLD & @huge-girth:
Mkay so here's gonna be my SRT plan:
1 - After fitness workout, head into the shower to rinse from the workout and do bundled stretches. (~30mins)
2 - Upon acquiring a Lengthmaster, I'll do whatever exercise that requires. (?Mins)
3 - If I can still keep erect after length session, 5x5x3 SSJ/MityVac or until I can't do it anymore. (~30mins)
4 - Attempt to stay in the Silistretcher for 1 hour sessions as long as possible while doing the rest of my daily stuff. (Passive)

Sounds like this may take over an hour. I'll just have to plan around it. It's better than sitting at home hating myself. I'll do this while losing weight and hopefully see the most gains at one time. If you see any red flags with what I've laid out feel free to tell me. Cheers!

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the boss! said:

Ok let chip in a little something.

You have pushing yourself thats good.
But your goal weight loss, correct?

I wouldnt sacrifice muscle fibers for weight loss, eating just 1500-1800 for a man will create weight loss but involves your muscle mass as well.

Focus on loosing fat, without loosing muscle, and even gaining some extra muscle. This takes a little
longer to see results but its much more worth it.

First weigth yourself. Then calculate it how many calories do you need to eat a day to MAINTAIN that same weight. (You can easily calculate that online, with a BMS CALCULATOR)

Then once you know how many calories your body needs to maintain the same weight, deduct 350 calories from that.


Way it works is: you will deduct those calories on your RESTING DAYS, and you won’t on your TRAINING DAYS.


You will work out only on your strength, cardio is cool, but too much cardio lowers testosterone.

You will train and then rest 2 days, and the you will train and rest 2 days, And so on.

This gives the muscle proper healing time, contrary to old school mentality to destroy muscle and drain muscle builds muscles in fact it slows growth down. (Unless you are on steroids of course)

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Keep it simple but effective of courae you want to have a well balance and strong body overall.

But also focus on key muscles to accentuate your male body. Shoulder, chest, back

Bu then again work all your muscles in general.


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Just do 4 sets of 15 reps with any muscle your trying to workout.

But on every set you will increase the weigth.

Example:

1st set : 18lbs x 15 reps

2nd set: 20lbs x 15 reps

3rd set: 25 x 15 reps

4th set: 30lbs x 15 reps


This is something you will adjust to your strength.

THE KEY HERE IS:

Every week you have to increase weigth, 2-4lbs, any little increase, but you gotta have a minimum weight increase once a week and workout the rest of the week with that new weight.


Now YOU WILL BECOME STRONGER!
Your tissues according to science will rejuvenate, your testosterone is gonna pump up, fat is gonna go down while muscle grows.


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You should buy a scale and just weight and track calories it aint hard, apps like “my fitness pal” lets you input what you eat and the calories.


Meal prep!
Snack vegetables, those are full of nutritional water and fiber keeps full. While very low on calories.

So you can keep your big calories for delicious meals.

I personally fast a lot! I wake up around 7-9am and breakfast till 4-5pm. I eat twice or once a day!

GOOD LUCK

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