I think STOP may be too big of a word for many of us who are not that strong. I think a better word may be CORRECT. Cold Turkey does work for some people but for many, a gentle, easy, slow, correction will bring them more pleasantly to the place to wish to be. I said this somewhere else but ���� is like donuts in the sense of addictions. We can see that if we are used to having 12 donuts everyday it would be very hard to give them up all at once. In many cases, if we try, it may make the issue worse and in relapse we may end up eating 24 donuts! The mind is strange this way, the things we restrict completely, that bring us pleasure, can end up becoming a self resentment and the issue could become compounded and worse. I think that maybe going from 12 donuts to 11, than 10, than 9, etc....we eventually will be in the place where we wish to be. I give a HUGE ups to the men who are strong enough to drop the habit cold but to the men who can't, please be kind and gentle with yourselves and allow yourselves the slow correction that will work.
The goal with anything that gives us pleasure is never to give it up, why would we do this? This is sili, it gives us joy! The best way to enjoy the pleasures in life is through small, appreciative tastes....never through denial or overindulgence...in both of these we are causing distance and resentment....in discipline we are embracing the delight without killing it!
