Hey GK, great thread man... :clank:
Like every other group of people, Gay men are individuals and each have their own taste as far as penis size is concerned. To think otherwise and just group them all in one big ball would be stereotypically cliche, like saying every white person can't dance, every black person can dance, every mexican is lazy, every jewish person is rich, and lastly, every gay man wants a big cock on his man. It is true the stereotype of gay men is that they all want a big cock, but this is not true, just as it is not true all gay men are effeminate and really want to be women (no thanks to the Queer Eye guys for perpetrating this myth), or that they can't be friends with straight guys because they will always try to get the straight guy into bed, or that all they care about is clothes and superficial things. I'm one of those gay guys whom you would never know by looking or talking to me. I don't give a crap about nice clothes, I'm about as feminine as a marine in combat mode, and I look like a lumber jack who might try to steal a girl and tie her up in his mountain cabin -in other words, a very butch and masculine southern guy who would beat the hell out of someone who called him a fag. I'm proud of what I am, and I know myself and am comfortable in my masculinity, so that any macho bullshit about being gay doesn't affect me, as I'm above that retarded way of thinking.
Although I know I am not the only gay member of [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MOS[/words], I can only speak for myself and tell you that while I do notice a big penis before I notice a small one, it is only because the big penis is BIG, and noticing it first is equivalent to noticing the big Lincoln Navigator first in a parking lot full of Toyota Corolla's. Sexually however, as I am versatile, I prefer men 6 inches or smaller in length, and 5 inches or smaller in width, because I am very tight anally and anything bigger than that just hurts incredibaly bad. I was once with a guy who would be considered "small" by many men here ( although he was average according to the last stats I saw claiming the average penis size of men is between 4-5 inches in length ) and he was probably around 4-5 inches in length and probably 4 or smaller in width. It was very pleasurable because his length or width did not hurt me, and I could concentrate on the intense pleasure the friction was causing on my anus and the warm feeling of fullness that I had inside. So believe when I tell you that bigger is definitely not better for alot of men and women into anal sex. The main reason I want to be bigger myself is for my own vanity purposes, not to please anyone else.
There are gay men (and women) who enjoy that kind of pain and think of it as pleasureable, but not me. Anal sex in general usually is uncomfortable in the beggining for most, but after a period of getting used to the feeling of fullness of the penis being inside of you, you learn to relax, breathe properly and deeply, and then get into the feelings of it sliding back and forth inside of you, and learn to enjoy this and find pleasure in it. However that being said, if someone is too large for you, and/or you are very tight anally, the pleasure part may never come and it just becomes a very painful experience, no matter how much deep breathing or relaxation techniques you use. You have to know yourself, and know what you really want, what feels good to you, and what you can endure.
Although it is true the rectum is incredibly durable and can put up with alot of abuse and has plenty of space for a large penis, this does not mean it will feel good to you or your anal sphincter muscle, nor does it mean you cannot hurt your rectum, so you have to use good judgement and be careful. That being said, the anal opening is rich in nerves, and all of these nerves can give you hours of pleasure if you or your partner stimulate them properly, with the right touch from a penis, hand or tongue, or the right device such as a
vibrator. Alot of straight and gay men, and women also for that matter, don't realize how incredible it can feel to have your anus stimulated and played with, so it doesn't cost you anything to experiment and see what feels good to you. Sexually speaking, the more open minded you are about it, the more things you try, the better chance you have to really find something that gives you incredible pleasure, even from an area you never thought of being able to produce such good feelings.
