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Pastafazzule

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Hi everyone,

Over the past couple years, I have made great gains in Penis Enlargement and have just begun to get the feel for it.

Please do not cast judgement on me for this...
Problem is that I have used online adult entertainment videos to become stimulated in order to perform the exercises properly. In the past year or so, everytime I have turned on a adult entertainment, I immediately regret what I am doing, as I know it is wrong. My faith has also become much stronger over this time lapse and my last major sin would be to stop gratifying myself to adult entertainment. Not only for religion, but because of the cursing in it, the lack of love in it, the fact that I have a wonderful & peaceful girlfriend who I am stressed out with after I look at adult entertainment, and the mere fact that it falsifies what truly great sex actually means to me. Regret also creates stress and humans are not built to cope with stress, as I have learned in my Personal Fitness Training studies.

QUESTION: What are some alternatives to adult entertainment that get you just as hard, in a nice short time span?

Please share your methods, folks

~Rick
 
First and foremost, nudity is natural for every living thing and viewing this is beautiful. The feelings you get from seeing something of beauty is, again, natural. We do not have an evil God who gave us eyes, ears, feelings and emotions and is waiting for us to use these gifts and then punish us. Any type of stigma that prevents desire from being manifested is, almost always, plagued with guilt and created from fear and lack of understanding. Does viewing a nude person immediately give you pleasure or guilt? Or, does the guilt you have come from feeling pleasure and if so, who told you that feeling good was wrong? God loves you and what you experience and how you create a happier universe for yourself. When trying to make an association with what is pleasurable to you and if it is right or wrong should be a very simple question; are you hurting yourself or other people. If your pleasure and desire come from something that not only praises creation but brings you happiness than nothing should stand in your way. Appreciate that which gives you joy and always hold it in the highest praises of you, the creator and God the creator.

Any alternative to adult entertainment (I do not like that word) but even if you do not use visual stimuli, the second you close your eyes you will be visualizing that which gives you passion anyways and the same feelings will ensue. Do you know that the brain does not know the difference between what we see in the physical word and that which we visualize? The same chemical reactions occur, the same emotions are fired, they are identical in every way.
 
Please do not waste your time telling me that adult entertainment is righteous. Save it, man.

My question was pretaining to alternatives to become erect. I am 25, do you think I don't know that I can just visualize and get erect? That isn't nearly the same as looking at pornography because it takes forever for me. I would use my girlfriend, but she is away for 3 months.

Nothing else though? No devices, dietary tools...?

With love
Rick
 
atleast show some sort of grattitude to DLD, as he did the take time and effort and put alot of thought in his response...

unfortunatly i can not offer any great advice as an alternative...

have you tried any pills/supliments, viagra etc...? i dont have personal experience with these so can not offer any sound advice...

does your girlfriend know about the Penis Enlargement, perhaps you could get her involved?
alternatively, use a picture of her to help yourself...?


hope you find a good alternative, sure you will!
 
Pastafazzule;334659 said:
Please do not waste your time telling me that adult entertainment is righteous. Save it, man.
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I will save it then.
 
Wow---first of all---I don't think DLD tried to set adult entertainment up as "righteous". Maybe I'm wrong but that was your word not DLD's. Ever think you and DLD and (maybe) others have a difference of religious opinion? Just because YOU judge adult entertainment as "sin" doesn't mean everyone else does.

OK--you want serious help? How about this---naked pics of your girlfriend in solo and in "action" pics with you. How about that?
 
koooky;334672 said:
OK--you want serious help? How about this---naked pics of your girlfriend in solo and in "action" pics with you. How about that?
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This too is pornography

pornography: printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexuality, intended to stimulate.
 
softcore adult entertainment? Ladies in bikinis? Pictures of models posing(this for sure isnt adult entertainment)? or pherhaps erotic novells (this isnt adult entertainment-related either rly)?

knock urself out! ;)
 
if hes too righteous to accept nude images of other humans, than id say its hypocritical of him to want to put that much effort into something so sexually superficial as penis size.



also yes, the girlfriend pics work wonders over adult entertainment
 
It's obvious that you are frustrated man, still getting angry at someone who is legitimately trying to help you isn't the right attitude. Anyway sounds like you have become quite dependant on adult entertainment, After a while of NOT watching it you should sensitize quite a bit and achieve errections easier just from thought or self stimulation alone.

You could use a cock ring so it traps the blood inside helping you achieve your desired errection level. I presume you have been doing lots of kegels? if not that should help you achieve an errection with very minimal stimulation. I train kegels pretty full on and can get a semi hard just from squeezing my pc really hard.
 
I am appreciative that others have difference of opinion. If we were a race that never objected to one another's beliefs, then we would not have come so far.

When I say, "save it", I mean it totally as that. The actual issues are:

1) I have a problem with watching hardcore adult entertainment with people who have no redeeming qualities

2) I have become used to using adult entertainment in assistance with Penis Enlargement.

3.) My girlfriend is away for 3 months, so I can not use her.

I do not have erectile dysfunction. Hence, I always wake up with a hard penis and have other times of the day where I become hard for no reason.

Not saying that I can not get myself hard on command. What I am saying is, getting myself 100-110 % erect 10-30 times within an hour time span is tough with out assistance.

Now you guys can pick at the context of my threads, which is fine, but you are not in anyway helping or hurting me. So I offer the same two words to you... "save it". You think that is harsh? Remember why we are on this forum together. Anyone can cleverly out wit, bash, pick, or oppose just about anything I say, as I can do the same to you all. But I am here asking for assistance. Maybe I should not have given my reasons for not looking at adult entertainment.

I am also sorry if I came off as cross with you, DLD. It is clear where I may have come off as cross.

~Rick
 
Pastafazzule;334636 said:
Hi everyone,

Over the past couple years, I have made great gains in Penis Enlargement and have just begun to get the feel for it.

Please do not cast judgement on me for this...
Problem is that I have used online adult entertainment videos to become stimulated in order to perform the exercises properly. In the past year or so, everytime I have turned on a adult entertainment, I immediately regret what I am doing, as I know it is wrong. My faith has also become much stronger over this time lapse and my last major sin would be to stop gratifying myself to adult entertainment. Not only for religion, but because of the cursing in it, the lack of love in it, the fact that I have a wonderful & peaceful girlfriend who I am stressed out with after I look at adult entertainment, and the mere fact that it falsifies what truly great sex actually means to me. Regret also creates stress and humans are not built to cope with stress, as I have learned in my Personal Fitness Training studies.

QUESTION: What are some alternatives to adult entertainment that get you just as hard, in a nice short time span?

Please share your methods, folks

~Rick
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Two questions:
1. If you knowthis is wrong, why do you continue to do it?
2. How can something that takes place only in your head and impinges upon no one else in the world be a sin?

To me it sounds as though most of your guilt and shame come not from a true concern for any other human being, but from the recognition that you, yourself, are simply too weak and undisciplined to stop committing an action that you have already condemned.

If something is wrong, and you know it; stop. There's your answer. If you can't, admit it and get on with your life.

If you are truly ashamed of the exploitation of others that you use for self-gratification then visit this website:
http://www.iusw.org/
the International Union of Sex Workers, make a contribution or put forth effort to support and legitimize the profession you presently both covet and abhor.

Either way; this is not the venue for your self-righteous wailing and gnashing of teeth. If you've got a problem, be a man, grow a set & solve it.
 
A great problem with religion! But I will not judge as I too used to be very religious before becoming absolutely agnostic. I won't go there...you don't want me to.

Your problem is guilt and shame for doing what you want to do but feel is a sin. Stop it! Stop using adult entertainment. What will you use? I would say your imagination but that too is a sin in religious circles. I would say use physical stimulation but that would lead to using your imagination.

So you have 2 choices to make as far as I can see.
1.) Accept that looking at adult entertainment is natural even if it is a sin to you and causes you great shame to see two or more naked human beings sweating with passion. And sin's can be forgiven. You sound like this won't be an option for you.
2.) Stop doing girth work and only focus on stretches to make your dick longer. You could do flaccid jelqs as these don't require maintaining an erection at a specific level.

Or you could stop doing Penis Enlargement all together and focus on something else. I'm assuming your reason is to please your girlfriend Do you have sex with her, if so does that cause you shame, would thinking of or looking at her nude photos cause you grief/shame. Would it be a sin or dismissible because its your girlfriend? If you could use your imagination or look at her photo than do it. If not follow number 2 or don't do it at all.

I've been through the full spectrum before. From trying to quit adult entertainment for religious reasons to enjoying some good ole' fashion lesbian orgy adult entertainment with a preacher's daughter......if I had to tell you which one was more satisfying spiritually...you would call me a blasphemer!

But I do have experience in quiting adult entertainment, the first step would be to remove it from your reach. Get rid of it. Other than that its just reinforcing that you don't want to do it. If you feel the urge go in your mind and see yourself using your mind going through the routine , whatever yours is.(in fact do these steps now). Imagine the thought, the horny feelings, the urge, guilt, reaching for the lotion, obtaining the adult entertainment, orgasm, guilt and shame. After that step rewind the actions in your mind to right before you started getting ready to indulge in adult entertainment. What was the trigger? Imagine yourself taking a different step. Instead of watching the adult entertainment video you go get the bible in your mind and read "I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes". Use this guided imagery to help you fight the urge.

Also your subconscious mind does not understand the word "not" or "don't", etc. Meaning if you repeatedly think "I don't want to look at adult entertainment" or "I will not look at adult entertainment" your subconscious actually hears "I do want to look at adult entertainment" or "I will look at adult entertainment". A guy has to bust a nut...or does he. And adult entertainment can be addictive leading to more hardcore adult entertainment with prolonged use. Look up ways to quit smoking/drugs and it should give you some ideas.
 
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You guys are missing the big question...

Give up girth work? LOL, come on now. MY religion is MY religion, adult entertainment is adult entertainment, and I am committing myself to not viewing it for the first time in my life. It has not been an endless struggle throughout my life, but a rather recent subconscious disagreement in which I wholeheartedly agree with. Two people sweating, loving, and sexually acting together is truly wonderful and I would not mind watching it. However, what I see in adult entertainment nowadays is swearing, genital abuse, no emotional connection, and an act between two "black holes" and NOT two people.

I may choose to view videos of people making LOVE in the long run, but for right now, I am going to see if I can train myself to efficiently practice Penis Enlargement without it. As a personal trainer, all natural bodybuilder, and scholar, I believe that if one can commit himself, one can achieve optimum goals. This also includes not being bullied out of your views. LOL, do I have to even say this?



Did I say that I couldn't complete a girth routine without adult entertainment? No, I said that it is tougher and takes a lot longer.

I have actually figured it out myself, guys. Since I practice edging, I will probably train girth on those days as well. Today, when I did the girth with no adult entertainment, I forgot that I had recently ejaculated the day before (during an edging accident: hate those). THERE YA GO!

For the yokels that "ordered" me to man up and take action...LOL... If I go over the ways in which I have perservered over the recent years and the habits/moods/personality faults that I have overcome, you would not only have nothing to say in response, but you would start checking yourselves out.

I have come to a belief that one cannot change, but one can GROW!

Maybe I will grow some humility. LOL

God bless you guys. Truly a 2009 type of argument has ensued here (weak, negative), but I promise you guys that I did expect more from here.

This is the last I right on this particular issue. Any future questions I have will be carefully written and more respect will be shown. All future questions and comments on this issue can refer to this specific post.

Base
 
Couple spelling errors here... WRITE and Penis EnlargementRSEVERED

Would not want a 2009 know-it-all to have more ungrounded ammo.

2009! 2009! 2009!

What does it mean when I refer to 2009? Who knows!
 
Pastafazzule;334713 said:
You guys are missing the big question...

Give up girth work? LOL, come on now. MY religion is MY religion, adult entertainment is adult entertainment, and I am committing myself to not viewing it for the first time in my life. It has not been an endless struggle throughout my life, but a rather recent subconscious disagreement in which I wholeheartedly agree with. (WTF?) Two people sweating, loving, and sexually acting together is truly wonderful and I would not mind watching it. However, what I see in adult entertainment nowadays is swearing, genital abuse, no emotional connection, and an act between two "black holes" and NOT two people. (Change the channel)

I may choose to view videos of people making LOVE in the long run, but for right now, I am going to see if I can train myself to efficiently practice Penis Enlargement without it. As a personal trainer, all natural bodybuilder, and scholar, I believe that if one can commit himself, one can achieve optimum goals. This also includes not being bullied out of your views. LOL, do I have to even say this?



Did I say that I couldn't complete a girth routine without adult entertainment? No, I said that it is tougher and takes a lot longer.

I have actually figured it out myself, guys. Since I practice edging, I will probably train girth on those days as well. Today, when I did the girth with no adult entertainment, I forgot that I had recently ejaculated the day before (during an edging accident: hate those). THERE YA GO!

For the yokels that "ordered" me to man up and take action...LOL... If I go over the ways in which I have perservered over the recent years and the habits/moods/personality faults that I have overcome, you would not only have nothing to say in response, but you would start checking yourselves out.

I have come to a belief that one cannot change, but one can GROW!

Maybe I will grow some humility. LOL

God bless you guys. Truly a 2009 type of argument has ensued here (weak, negative), but I promise you guys that I did expect more from here.

This is the last I right on this particular issue. Any future questions I have will be carefully written and more respect will be shown. All future questions and comments on this issue can refer to this specific post.

Base
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Just a concept: When you invite the world all up in yer ass, you can't complain about what gets kicked while we're there.
And as for 2009-yeah....you're slightly deranged, that's all. Deal with it.
 
Dude---once again I can't believe this--

You come on here and ask for help--cool. We all do that---but then you bash the first guy to respond to you(DLD No less) because his opinion of "adult entertainment" is different than yours? What did you think was going to happen?

OK---your girl is away for 3 months--thats fine--I guess they don't make cameras or the mail doesn't run where ever she is? Here's what you do--MAIL your digital camera to her--tell her what pics you want then have her mail it back. Call it crazy all you want but this works--I did this myself and I would bet you a months pay my wife was in a more fucked up place than your GF.
 
You asked for alternatives and I gave them to ya! And I was being really nice about it too. I guess my first impression of "a religious struggle" was that you did not want to view adult entertainment because it interfered with your religion. I didn't know you could be stimulated without stimulation, which I would say 90% of the time needs some kind of mental connection, which in most religious circles is considered just as big of a sin as if you were actually committing the sex act.

I mean this with all respect but if not looking at adult entertainment/imagining sex is your goal, for your religion, and still are going to try and edge (needs massive stimulation) and do girth (just needs an erection) then your ultimately setting yourself up for failure. Not to mention how much time you'll going to be devoting to playing with your genitals. A serious question for you would be Am I doing this for God, or am I doing this for my girlfriend? If its for you god then do whatever your religion says. For you girl now that I could really help you with and maybe you should bring it up too her. Most women love a little raunchy dirty sex now and then and probably wouldn't mind watching it with you. If she doesn't and you don't want to feel guilty then don't.

And by the way I too know how to preserver...but I won't give you anymore advice other than lose the attitude. 2009...Geesh
 
I'm really curious to find out just which particular religion it is wherein looking at pornography is a soul-crushing sin, yet fucking a women you're not married to is just fine.

Maybe this thread should be moved to: (Wannabe) Deep Thoughts.
 
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MAXAMEYES;334743 said:
I'm really curious to find out just which particular religion it is wherein looking at pornography is a soul-crushing sin, yet fucking a women you're not married to is just fine.

Maybe this thread should be moved to: (Wannabe) Deep Thoughts.
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Good call Max--I was thinking the same thing but didn't find a place to work it into my post.
 
Pasta--

Ok--Let's start over. I will be the first to say that maybe I was a bit harsh and I apologize for that. Please note---next time you post for help and someone responds, it's not wise to tell that person to "Save it" just because his opinion differs from yours. I would be that my religious opinions vary from 99% of the people here yet I judge no one for being here or the means in which they are using to help their Penis Enlargement and more importantly their personal lives grow.

kook
 
Have you seen the Twisty's video's? They are hot girls, it's not adult entertainment, they're not swearing, just dancing around naked and showing us how beautiful the female form is.

Did you know that at one time, long ago, that the pope legalized prostitution, deeming it a necessary evil due to men's lustful desires? Im not saying prostitution is a morally sound thing to partake in, what I am saying is that what is morally accepted changes from time to time and is constantly being redefined.
 
tripod808;336216 said:
Have you seen the Twisty's video's? They are hot girls, it's not adult entertainment, they're not swearing, just dancing around naked and showing us how beautiful the female form is.

Did you know that at one time, long ago, that the pope legalized prostitution, deeming it a necessary evil due to men's lustful desires? Im not saying prostitution is a morally sound thing to partake in, what I am saying is that what is morally accepted changes from time to time and is constantly being redefined.
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That's a great insight! Whether or not it helps with his current situation right now is up in the air, but truely something to think about. Another bending of morals would have to be the sexual revolution in the US which began in the 1960's. Totally deviant in regards to the sexual norm of the earlier 1900's. Times change.

You could try this pasta: I find myself fantasizing about women i knew in my younger years. I knew they were into me but I wasnt into them for some reason back in the day. When I think of what could have happened between us I GET SOME STIMULATION EVERY TIME!!! It's a suggestion that involves nothing but a creative mind.
 
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Pasta, maybe Penis Enlargement just isn't your thing.

I read tripod's response and it might be a good suggestion for this guy. But watching females dance around naked is in essence no different from adult entertainment. It's arousal regardless, it sounds like you are guilty of arousal.

If you didn't know, arousal = erection. and that is perfectly natural.

Profanity is just an expression, and when it's in adult entertainment it's reflecting how good it feels, it's not insulting or made to directly cause pain to the other person.

Yes there is lack of love in adult entertainment, Love & sex connect perfectly but they don't have to be related to be a normal person. (i.e. love w/o sex & sex w/o love)

you can have feelings for your mom & it won't mean you want to have sex with her. And you can see a fine ass bitch dressed all sultry and wanna fuck her but never call back.

This is the way humanity is hardwired.

And what religion might you be? because it surprises me that someone so religious would be having sex before marriage & practicing Penis Enlargement...
 
Have you ever considered pumping for girth? You don't need adult entertainment for that. Just stretch flaccid and pump for girth. No adult entertainment needed, just a little extra cash.
 
Good luck pal, in my experience I find that Penis Enlargement and religion does NOT work. However I do consider myself a christian and hope that god understands why I do pe. as far as looking at adult entertainment for girth work, I do this as well. I do find myself feeling bad about it but i plan on reaching my goals and laying of Penis Enlargement..
 
Just to make it clear that I'm not trying to offend but am starting to think pasta that you need to take a moment and sort out your thoughts. Maybe prioritizing some things and finding out exactly what is most important to you, meaning making some sacrifices i.e. not watching any form of adult entertainment or stimulation for your girth exercises making your routine harder. You might find that in this particular case that your problem is irresolvable without some form of violation to your religious/subconscious views.

Just wondering have you actually tried any of the suggestions people have offered?
 
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Also, I think it helpful to remind everyone that religion- not faith, not spirituality but religion- is a form of government that seeks first to sustain its own existence at the expense of the individual and second to control the actions of said individuals through control of their belief systems.
 
This thread will go on forever! I want to also say that even if your not looking at adult entertainment you are still sexually visualizing girls in your mind which the bible says is the same as actually committing the act.
 
boobyman;336260 said:
This thread will go on forever! I want to also say that even if your not looking at adult entertainment you are still sexually visualizing girls in your mind which the bible says is the same as actually committing the act.
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I try to remember what Gandhi said about "sin": "I do not seek forgiveness of my sins, I seek the freedom from my sins."
 
MAXAMEYES;339523 said:
I try to remember what Gandhi said about "sin": "I do not seek forgiveness of my sins, I seek the freedom from my sins."
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Eloquent!
 
I enjoyed that Ghandi line and have found it helpful...

This is the first I have viewed this thread in a long while. My negative anxiety during this post's origin caused me to come off like a bad character, and I knew there was no taking it back. Hence, I refused to look at this thread any further. This refusal was out of embarrassment and lack of interest in negative couterattacks on me. Anyhoo, I continue to look at adult entertainment for Penis Enlargement, and I still wake up with boners. All-in-all, my gains have been good.

God bless
 
Pastafazzule;339529 said:
I enjoyed that Ghandi line and have found it helpful...

This is the first I have viewed this thread in a long while. My negative anxiety during this post's origin caused me to come off like a bad character, and I knew there was no taking it back. Hence, I refused to look at this thread any further. This refusal was out of embarrassment and lack of interest in negative couterattacks on me. Anyhoo, I continue to look at adult entertainment for Penis Enlargement, and I still wake up with boners. All-in-all, my gains have been good.

God bless
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I respect your honesty!
 
MAXAMEYES;339579 said:
All self discovery is a good thing...unexpected at times, difficult at others but all in all necessary, and, ultimately, good.
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It is so important to remain open to alternate ideas. A good scenario for this is someone who is poor and wants to become rich. Many people never realize these riches even though they are given because they are only looking for money, they never see the alternate paths that will bring them money.
 
Pastafazzule;339529 said:
I enjoyed that Ghandi line and have found it helpful...

This is the first I have viewed this thread in a long while. My negative anxiety during this post's origin caused me to come off like a bad character, and I knew there was no taking it back. Hence, I refused to look at this thread any further. This refusal was out of embarrassment and lack of interest in negative couterattacks on me. Anyhoo, I continue to look at adult entertainment for Penis Enlargement, and I still wake up with boners. All-in-all, my gains have been good.

God bless
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I've been through this myself and I know where your coming from. Glad to hear your gaining! Keep up the good work.
 
I'll stay out of the religious part of this. On to potential solutions:

1) Take a deconditioning break break. This is probably the easiest.

or

2) Redefine your belief systems. When you hold two or more conflicting beliefs, the result is negative emotion. For instance you believe that you need adult entertainment to do girth work and you believe adult entertainment is not good for you. I your case I would recommend changing the latter belief, since the former is bound in religion. Try this: I don't believe you need adult entertainment to do girth work. I sometimes do girth work in the shower, sometimes I use adult entertainment in my room. I don't need adult entertainment in the shower. I fantasize, usually about my girlfriend or some hot high school crush etc. I fantasize about real scenarios, getting them as close to my current reality as possible, this gets me the hardest. Soon you will be able to focus your mind on sexual thoughts for that full 1/2 hour as you need. You can then fashion your fantasies to fit your belief systems so you no longer need to feel guilt during Penis Enlargement.

3) Any of the options guys recommend here are perfectly fine too.
 
A wise old man (who was young at the time) once said:

"When you believe in things that you dont understand,
Then you suffer,
Superstition aint the way"


Amen Stevie, amen.
 
homelesswombat;339847 said:
I'll stay out of the religious part of this. On to potential solutions:

1) Take a deconditioning break break. This is probably the easiest.

or

2) Redefine your belief systems. When you hold two or more conflicting beliefs, the result is negative emotion. For instance you believe that you need adult entertainment to do girth work and you believe adult entertainment is not good for you. I your case I would recommend changing the latter belief, since the former is bound in religion. Try this: I don't believe you need adult entertainment to do girth work. I sometimes do girth work in the shower, sometimes I use adult entertainment in my room. I don't need adult entertainment in the shower. I fantasize, usually about my girlfriend or some hot high school crush etc. I fantasize about real scenarios, getting them as close to my current reality as possible, this gets me the hardest. Soon you will be able to focus your mind on sexual thoughts for that full 1/2 hour as you need. You can then fashion your fantasies to fit your belief systems so you no longer need to feel guilt during Penis Enlargement.

3) Any of the options guys recommend here are perfectly fine too.
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Great advice!
 
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