Penis size, sexuality and self-confidence.
Most of us know the old saying it s not what you have, but how you use it' would be more truthfully phrased 'size isn't everything'when it comes to good sex, but it makes coitus much easier and more fun'.
A famous website 'What Women Know and Men Don't - The End of The Penis Size Debate' (possibly written by an unattractive man with a large penis) gives a good definition of ideal length and girth for simultaneous passive stimulation of a wet and tented vagina. Six inches or less pretty well limits us to the missionary position to be able to make her come and the smaller we are, the better our technique must be.
I made the point in The-small-penis-thread, that classy women do generally not consider penis size to be a main criteria for a good relationship partner, but do want at least an occasional orgasm and may leave or avoid a selfish or lousy lover.
Women know that having had many men or large men also makes her less desirable as a partner because we have delicate egos. And we do. Sexually gifted men are more likely to cheat and, paradoxically, less sexually gifted men are more likely to be a safe and reliable life partner. One of the most common secrets women keep from their husbands and partners is that she has had bigger and better. S he might be happy enough with that if you are good relationship material, but if you are an obsessed sex addict, like myself, and want to close the talent gap with the bigger guys, then read on..
Male sexuality
Sexuality is not just about whether you are gay or straight. It is what describes you sexually overall - your personality and sex drive. Much debate is made about whether sexuality is something that you are born with or simply a lifestyle choice, but the debate is too simplistic and neither is completely correct. Two of the major influences on our sexuality are our natural predisposition (our personality and natural tendency) and sexual experience of any kind through life. About 30% of men have had some sort of same-sex interaction in their life, predominately prior to sexual maturity (mainly from our natural sexual drive and curiosity games) but as we mature, 90% or more will regard women to be the center of their sexuality in one way or another.
It has been well documented that body image influences our sexuality and penis size is part of our body image. What we all share is the desire to have the power to give women pleasure because men desire this status by their very nature. A larger man will have innate confidence in pleasurable safe sex (condoms and no oral) with any woman whereas a smaller man will depend more on non-penetrative activities such as oral sex and physical intimacy.
Center to our sexuality are sexual fantasies, or what we masturbate over, and are most often what we perceive as the most pleasurable experience for us regardless of what we would actually be prepared to do in real life. The most intense sexual fantasy will be something we can relate to as closer to reality or could actually happen. Lack of confidence and 'little-man-syndrome' both have a negative effect on our sexuality and makes women understanding and opening up to (masturbating over) her sexuality is the key to you enjoying yours. Women, above all, want to be desired and your sex drive is flattering to her.
Common male sexual fantasies are two-girl-threesome, sexual domination situations, sex with another couple, watching his wife or girlfriend with another guy.
Female sexuality
Being a natural nester and nurturer, she is more into security and quality of a relationship in the form of social status (for example wealth) and personality issues, so sex is more about emotions and a sense of security for her. Don't be misled into thinking that her sexuality is all about vaginal stimulation. It is all about your overall interaction with her both physically and emotionally.
Females are more complicated than men, in part due to their sex drive being tied up with the hormonal characteristics of their menstrual cycle. As she approaches the middle of her cycle, her body is in get-pregnant mode. She may, (on a sub-conscious level) sexually favor (read: have sexual fantasies over) men with more masculine features (eg tall,dark and handsome) during this time, regardless of who she is in a relationship with. Her vagina is slightly wetter and her thoughts become more sexual because her vagina wants to be come inside with the best quality sperm available and has an inkling to be filled.
Your come is more than just sperm and semen. It contains a cocktail of chemical rewards, including pleasure-inducing dopamine, for her body to enjoy as nature's incentive for her to impregnate. Being come inside is also a form of suBathmateission to a dominant male. Nature made women multi-orgasmic to make sure that good stuff gets up inside her. The more the merrier. The natural warmth of your cock is nice too, regardless of size, because it means you are inside her.
Common female sexual fantasies are one-night stands, multiple partners and being sexually dominated as in bondage or imagined non-consensual situations. The more you understand her sexuality, the better your chances are of being part of her sexual fantasies.
Confidence and body image
Confidence can be created (or faked) by liking yourself and not being intimidated by your own insecurities.
A good body image creates a higher self-esteem and self confidence. Self confident men are assumed to have something going for them by women because they are, well, self-confident. Women are more choosy with who they sleep with then men are, so consequently a minority of men have had the majority of women. Looks matter a lot. If your physical appearance is a concern then invest in a gym membership and buff up a bit. Women are naturally attracted to ideal masculine features. There is a perceived correlation among many women between male body type and the size and shape of his penis. Being fit also makes you better in bed so get working on those abs!
Natural penis enlargement techniques (if done properly and you have at least 4"to start with) typically adds 10% to your length and also improve your girth to a lesser degree. Just as importantly it can boost your confidence, so give it a go.
Little man syndrome (little penis anxiety) is where your insecurities and jealousies have a negative effect on your sex drive and is a common relationship killer. Being OK with your size, understanding it's limitations and dealing with jealousies about her past lovers are the first huge step toward self-confidence. Women who have a open aversion to smaller men have often past experiences with little man syndrome and don't want to go back there. Very importantly, understand a womans sexuality and don't be intimidated by it, instead, let yourself be aroused by it. If she gets turned on by 'bigger, it does not mean she won't enjoy smaller, it just means she is horny. It is just up to you to make your smaller penis enjoyable for her.
Many Adam Sandler films cover the topic of penis size anxiety in a humorous way, Anger Management being arguably the better of them.
Monogamy and intimacy
Bad lovers often overlook the fact that good sex is not about shoving something large into her vagina. To illustrate what I mean, this is a quote from another blog about a girl complaining about her lover:
"-There was this one instance where I wasn’t “ready” and he licked his hand for lubrication and then place this inside me. He seems like a nice guy in some areas and we have a lot in common so I have kept in contact with him. I’m not sure if he has ever been out with any one long term because when it comes to the “relations” side of things, it’s pretty much all about him. After he had finished a morning escapade, he went straight to the shower, leaving me to clean up with nothing but my knickers from the night before-"
Good lovers understand that it is all about what she wants - both emotionally and sexually, so communication is key to knowing what to do and when. It is always about her, not you!
Monogamy, (not to be confused with fidelity), is all about two poeple connecting intimately. Intimacy is the key to opening her up sexually and emotionally because that's the way the female sexuality works. Things that kill intimacy are a crappy apartment, poor hygiene (believe it or not, foreskin grime is not a turn-on), dirty sheets and lack of attention to her.
Her experience with you in bed begins long before you get to the bedroom. From pre-date compliments about the way she looks, to connection with each others personality creates a familiarity or emotional bond with you. The bedroom (or wherever you both settle into) should give her a sense of security and comfort. Good foreplay is her relaxing and you being turned on by her and showing it intimately and her responding in turn to you. Men with large penises should understand that this is absolutely necessary for her to accommodate them without discomfort or pain.
Now, at this point I would like to say size is not important, but that simply isn't true. It isn't everything, but it matters. Part of bonding is being accustomed to sexual pleasure from another person, because, in a similar way that life experience affect our sexuality, she will also be naturally be aroused by someone she is sexually familiar with. This is why ex-boyfriends do not make trusted just-friends. A very common problem with a new partner is penis downsizing, because her body has become accustomed to fuller stimulation. The good news is that as time goes on and all other things between you work, she will get become used to you and probably learn to get satisfying sex of some kind if you are not selfish and communicate well.
Unlike the larger men, a wet vagina may not feel a thinner penis much without good technique. She can come with her clitoris, which requires no penetration at all, but you will need to have a technique that rubs your pubic bone against her clitoris. And also tilting your penis upward into her G-spot is just wonderful for her. With less than 6 inches, her epicenter (A-spot ) won't get much stimulation, but like you, she won't consider pleasurable sex as just the intensity of vaginal stimulation, but will want an orgasm. As a reality check - most of us have the most intense orgasms from masturbation, but we much prefer to have sex .
Size therapy
If you are a bit of a foreplay god or she is otherwise turned-on to the point of wet-as-hell, then she might enjoy some size therapy. Size therapy is quenching that yearning she has to be ravished, dominated, penetrated or otherwise giving her cunt a vigorous workout where five inches isn't quite enough. Asking her is great pillow talk and a major turn-on for both of you, if she says "ýes'.
Mostly guys are reluctant to put anything inside her that is larger than her penis, but this reluctance is unfounded. Vaginae are very elastic and are designed to accommodate most men on this planet and occasionally pass babies through. The size limit will be what does not cause her pain of any kind. Pain means the elastic limits have been reached, although being very distended can also be a source of intense pleasure for some. Pushing past the elastic range will enlarge her over a time, but occasionally is quite OK. If you really want to erase any size stretching memory from a past lover, get her pregnant and pass a baby through her.
Another myth is that tight for you means pleasure for her, when in fact the tightness is generally the part of her vagina that gives her very little feeling.
Toy shopping is something to individual tastes and what you want to simulate. Strap-ons and extensions can have a creep factor, so simple dildos, vibes and other stuff is OK. Stuff around the house is fine too. Women often masturbate with large objects around the house if a dido is not available and may play with something large as part of her imagined sexual fantasy.
One advantage of a small penis is she may not mind it in her ass. Filling her vagina with something short but thick allows you to go balls deep in her ass in the missionary position while stimulating her clitori with your pelvis. Avoid long stokes of your cock as this is a bit unpleasant, instead work the clitoris with your pelvis and push the thickness hard into her Gspot. She feels tight to you and you feel huge to her and she will react in the similar way as she would to a very large penis!
With anal intercourse use a lube that won't dry out because dry withdrawal from is seriously unpleasant. Entry should be very slow - let her ass muscles loosen voluntarily and inch in as they do. Also she may perfer you to withdraw before she reaches orgasm because in the ass is much less pleasant after she comes. What goes in will come out so avoid shooting your load in there. When you withdraw proceed directly to the shower and wash off, unless you are both really kinky.
Vaginal trauma is most likely to be from around the entrance to the vagina. Keep the entrance bits around it really wet and also make sure anything large is also nice and slippery.
Dominance and pleasure.
Women have a natural tendency to suBathmateit to a dominant male and partly explains why physique is important in attraction women. The simplest dominant gestures are holding her in your strong arms, being on top and being in control, while more adventurous women may prefer something involving physical restraint and even simulated non-consensual sex, depending on her sexuality.
Under certain situations where she feels vulnerable, her nerve endings become more sensitive to touch, so she will react more to any stimulation, both physically and emotionally. This is why make-up sex feels so good to women. Some women (and men) who are sexually assulted* experience intense involuntary orgasms during the ordeal from a combination of adrenaline, hyper-sensitivity and genital stimulation. *Note; sexual assault is a crime and any guy who touches a girl against her will should have their ass thrown in jail! No means no!
Vulnerability-induced emotions can be simulated in a nice way by nice things like being tied up and blindfolded. Of course she has to be agreeable with the whole thing as well, because she needs a sense of security for her body and mind to open up to the experience more sexually. Bound and blindfolded with no idea of what is about to happen to her heightens her senses incredibly. For beginners, using a loose crepe bandage is nice and gentle. Each time you do this make it something different. It may not involve any penetration at all, but you decide and she accepts and obeys. Even the odd disappointment makes the whole thing a surprise package because women do love being teased as long there is some satisfaction coming.
Some women who are unresponsive in bed are often described (by men with little-man-syndrome) as a dead fuck because they just lay there, but it is more likely she is just sexually passive by nature.
Polygamy.
Bringing another person into the bedroom can be very rewarding for both you and your partner, and is a common practice among lesbian couples who lack a penis at all.
Ignore what you see on �naked people movies�. A good menage-de-trios works best for her if there is an element of intimacy in the encounter, like monogamous encounters. Many guys find this type of encounter to be too close to another guy and will want to keep some separation in bed like say, in turns, or even not be in the same bed at all, while a less inhibited trios will treat her to an intimate encounter that easily will trump a large penis for incredible pleasure - both sexually and emotionally.
Finding the right playmate can be tricky, but you should be honest and upfront about what you want and what the boundaries are. Single guys instinctively want a partner of their own and he may want to initiate a relationship with your partner and there is her personal safety to consider. A good rule with a stranger is no phone calls accepted by her after the "date". A 'trusted friend' may be a better bet because you know his personality and sexual history, which is important if it to be an ongoing arrangement. Again, emotional bonding is unavoidable, particular if you girlfriend or wife is attractive, so consider this in choosing someone. There is a market for man-whores and customers are often couples looking for 'no emotional attachment guaranteed'. Another like-minded couple is better again because you get to enjoy a threesome of your own.
Most of us would be happy to have the idea of polygamy relegated to a shared sexual fantasy, particularly considering the fact that these encounters don't often live up to the imagined fantasy. Almost certainly, the mutual initmacy between you both will change, so monogamy is best when mutual intimacy is all-important to you as a couple. However, if you do venture into this area, it is very important you both know what the rules and boundaries are, and stick to them. Also you should always be in control of what and when and don't let yourself become the lazy partner.
For a guy with a small penis, sex though a condom and no oral sex is not great, so stay STD free.
People with STDs often don't tell, even if they know. A lot of publicity is made about HIV/AIDS, but any incurable STD will fuck your sex life. The most common incurable and most contagious disease is Herpes. Protecting yourself against Herpes will also protect you against anything else. Blood tests for STDs may not include HSV (herpes) because it is not considered life threatening and the results only give an indication of infections older than 2-3 months old. Don't believe that Herpes is only contagous during breakouts.
As a general rule, no oral sex, contact only through condoms and a quick visual check for sores is the best protection until you know someone is clean. A trip to a licensed brothel is a good lesson on how to screen guys for herpes.
Most of us know the old saying it s not what you have, but how you use it' would be more truthfully phrased 'size isn't everything'when it comes to good sex, but it makes coitus much easier and more fun'.
A famous website 'What Women Know and Men Don't - The End of The Penis Size Debate' (possibly written by an unattractive man with a large penis) gives a good definition of ideal length and girth for simultaneous passive stimulation of a wet and tented vagina. Six inches or less pretty well limits us to the missionary position to be able to make her come and the smaller we are, the better our technique must be.
I made the point in The-small-penis-thread, that classy women do generally not consider penis size to be a main criteria for a good relationship partner, but do want at least an occasional orgasm and may leave or avoid a selfish or lousy lover.
Women know that having had many men or large men also makes her less desirable as a partner because we have delicate egos. And we do. Sexually gifted men are more likely to cheat and, paradoxically, less sexually gifted men are more likely to be a safe and reliable life partner. One of the most common secrets women keep from their husbands and partners is that she has had bigger and better. S he might be happy enough with that if you are good relationship material, but if you are an obsessed sex addict, like myself, and want to close the talent gap with the bigger guys, then read on..
Male sexuality
Sexuality is not just about whether you are gay or straight. It is what describes you sexually overall - your personality and sex drive. Much debate is made about whether sexuality is something that you are born with or simply a lifestyle choice, but the debate is too simplistic and neither is completely correct. Two of the major influences on our sexuality are our natural predisposition (our personality and natural tendency) and sexual experience of any kind through life. About 30% of men have had some sort of same-sex interaction in their life, predominately prior to sexual maturity (mainly from our natural sexual drive and curiosity games) but as we mature, 90% or more will regard women to be the center of their sexuality in one way or another.
It has been well documented that body image influences our sexuality and penis size is part of our body image. What we all share is the desire to have the power to give women pleasure because men desire this status by their very nature. A larger man will have innate confidence in pleasurable safe sex (condoms and no oral) with any woman whereas a smaller man will depend more on non-penetrative activities such as oral sex and physical intimacy.
Center to our sexuality are sexual fantasies, or what we masturbate over, and are most often what we perceive as the most pleasurable experience for us regardless of what we would actually be prepared to do in real life. The most intense sexual fantasy will be something we can relate to as closer to reality or could actually happen. Lack of confidence and 'little-man-syndrome' both have a negative effect on our sexuality and makes women understanding and opening up to (masturbating over) her sexuality is the key to you enjoying yours. Women, above all, want to be desired and your sex drive is flattering to her.
Common male sexual fantasies are two-girl-threesome, sexual domination situations, sex with another couple, watching his wife or girlfriend with another guy.
Female sexuality
Being a natural nester and nurturer, she is more into security and quality of a relationship in the form of social status (for example wealth) and personality issues, so sex is more about emotions and a sense of security for her. Don't be misled into thinking that her sexuality is all about vaginal stimulation. It is all about your overall interaction with her both physically and emotionally.
Females are more complicated than men, in part due to their sex drive being tied up with the hormonal characteristics of their menstrual cycle. As she approaches the middle of her cycle, her body is in get-pregnant mode. She may, (on a sub-conscious level) sexually favor (read: have sexual fantasies over) men with more masculine features (eg tall,dark and handsome) during this time, regardless of who she is in a relationship with. Her vagina is slightly wetter and her thoughts become more sexual because her vagina wants to be come inside with the best quality sperm available and has an inkling to be filled.
Your come is more than just sperm and semen. It contains a cocktail of chemical rewards, including pleasure-inducing dopamine, for her body to enjoy as nature's incentive for her to impregnate. Being come inside is also a form of suBathmateission to a dominant male. Nature made women multi-orgasmic to make sure that good stuff gets up inside her. The more the merrier. The natural warmth of your cock is nice too, regardless of size, because it means you are inside her.
Common female sexual fantasies are one-night stands, multiple partners and being sexually dominated as in bondage or imagined non-consensual situations. The more you understand her sexuality, the better your chances are of being part of her sexual fantasies.
Confidence and body image
Confidence can be created (or faked) by liking yourself and not being intimidated by your own insecurities.
A good body image creates a higher self-esteem and self confidence. Self confident men are assumed to have something going for them by women because they are, well, self-confident. Women are more choosy with who they sleep with then men are, so consequently a minority of men have had the majority of women. Looks matter a lot. If your physical appearance is a concern then invest in a gym membership and buff up a bit. Women are naturally attracted to ideal masculine features. There is a perceived correlation among many women between male body type and the size and shape of his penis. Being fit also makes you better in bed so get working on those abs!
Natural penis enlargement techniques (if done properly and you have at least 4"to start with) typically adds 10% to your length and also improve your girth to a lesser degree. Just as importantly it can boost your confidence, so give it a go.
Little man syndrome (little penis anxiety) is where your insecurities and jealousies have a negative effect on your sex drive and is a common relationship killer. Being OK with your size, understanding it's limitations and dealing with jealousies about her past lovers are the first huge step toward self-confidence. Women who have a open aversion to smaller men have often past experiences with little man syndrome and don't want to go back there. Very importantly, understand a womans sexuality and don't be intimidated by it, instead, let yourself be aroused by it. If she gets turned on by 'bigger, it does not mean she won't enjoy smaller, it just means she is horny. It is just up to you to make your smaller penis enjoyable for her.
Many Adam Sandler films cover the topic of penis size anxiety in a humorous way, Anger Management being arguably the better of them.
Monogamy and intimacy
Bad lovers often overlook the fact that good sex is not about shoving something large into her vagina. To illustrate what I mean, this is a quote from another blog about a girl complaining about her lover:
"-There was this one instance where I wasn’t “ready” and he licked his hand for lubrication and then place this inside me. He seems like a nice guy in some areas and we have a lot in common so I have kept in contact with him. I’m not sure if he has ever been out with any one long term because when it comes to the “relations” side of things, it’s pretty much all about him. After he had finished a morning escapade, he went straight to the shower, leaving me to clean up with nothing but my knickers from the night before-"
Good lovers understand that it is all about what she wants - both emotionally and sexually, so communication is key to knowing what to do and when. It is always about her, not you!
Monogamy, (not to be confused with fidelity), is all about two poeple connecting intimately. Intimacy is the key to opening her up sexually and emotionally because that's the way the female sexuality works. Things that kill intimacy are a crappy apartment, poor hygiene (believe it or not, foreskin grime is not a turn-on), dirty sheets and lack of attention to her.
Her experience with you in bed begins long before you get to the bedroom. From pre-date compliments about the way she looks, to connection with each others personality creates a familiarity or emotional bond with you. The bedroom (or wherever you both settle into) should give her a sense of security and comfort. Good foreplay is her relaxing and you being turned on by her and showing it intimately and her responding in turn to you. Men with large penises should understand that this is absolutely necessary for her to accommodate them without discomfort or pain.
Now, at this point I would like to say size is not important, but that simply isn't true. It isn't everything, but it matters. Part of bonding is being accustomed to sexual pleasure from another person, because, in a similar way that life experience affect our sexuality, she will also be naturally be aroused by someone she is sexually familiar with. This is why ex-boyfriends do not make trusted just-friends. A very common problem with a new partner is penis downsizing, because her body has become accustomed to fuller stimulation. The good news is that as time goes on and all other things between you work, she will get become used to you and probably learn to get satisfying sex of some kind if you are not selfish and communicate well.
Unlike the larger men, a wet vagina may not feel a thinner penis much without good technique. She can come with her clitoris, which requires no penetration at all, but you will need to have a technique that rubs your pubic bone against her clitoris. And also tilting your penis upward into her G-spot is just wonderful for her. With less than 6 inches, her epicenter (A-spot ) won't get much stimulation, but like you, she won't consider pleasurable sex as just the intensity of vaginal stimulation, but will want an orgasm. As a reality check - most of us have the most intense orgasms from masturbation, but we much prefer to have sex .
Size therapy
If you are a bit of a foreplay god or she is otherwise turned-on to the point of wet-as-hell, then she might enjoy some size therapy. Size therapy is quenching that yearning she has to be ravished, dominated, penetrated or otherwise giving her cunt a vigorous workout where five inches isn't quite enough. Asking her is great pillow talk and a major turn-on for both of you, if she says "ýes'.
Mostly guys are reluctant to put anything inside her that is larger than her penis, but this reluctance is unfounded. Vaginae are very elastic and are designed to accommodate most men on this planet and occasionally pass babies through. The size limit will be what does not cause her pain of any kind. Pain means the elastic limits have been reached, although being very distended can also be a source of intense pleasure for some. Pushing past the elastic range will enlarge her over a time, but occasionally is quite OK. If you really want to erase any size stretching memory from a past lover, get her pregnant and pass a baby through her.
Another myth is that tight for you means pleasure for her, when in fact the tightness is generally the part of her vagina that gives her very little feeling.
Toy shopping is something to individual tastes and what you want to simulate. Strap-ons and extensions can have a creep factor, so simple dildos, vibes and other stuff is OK. Stuff around the house is fine too. Women often masturbate with large objects around the house if a dido is not available and may play with something large as part of her imagined sexual fantasy.
One advantage of a small penis is she may not mind it in her ass. Filling her vagina with something short but thick allows you to go balls deep in her ass in the missionary position while stimulating her clitori with your pelvis. Avoid long stokes of your cock as this is a bit unpleasant, instead work the clitoris with your pelvis and push the thickness hard into her Gspot. She feels tight to you and you feel huge to her and she will react in the similar way as she would to a very large penis!
With anal intercourse use a lube that won't dry out because dry withdrawal from is seriously unpleasant. Entry should be very slow - let her ass muscles loosen voluntarily and inch in as they do. Also she may perfer you to withdraw before she reaches orgasm because in the ass is much less pleasant after she comes. What goes in will come out so avoid shooting your load in there. When you withdraw proceed directly to the shower and wash off, unless you are both really kinky.
Vaginal trauma is most likely to be from around the entrance to the vagina. Keep the entrance bits around it really wet and also make sure anything large is also nice and slippery.
Dominance and pleasure.
Women have a natural tendency to suBathmateit to a dominant male and partly explains why physique is important in attraction women. The simplest dominant gestures are holding her in your strong arms, being on top and being in control, while more adventurous women may prefer something involving physical restraint and even simulated non-consensual sex, depending on her sexuality.
Under certain situations where she feels vulnerable, her nerve endings become more sensitive to touch, so she will react more to any stimulation, both physically and emotionally. This is why make-up sex feels so good to women. Some women (and men) who are sexually assulted* experience intense involuntary orgasms during the ordeal from a combination of adrenaline, hyper-sensitivity and genital stimulation. *Note; sexual assault is a crime and any guy who touches a girl against her will should have their ass thrown in jail! No means no!
Vulnerability-induced emotions can be simulated in a nice way by nice things like being tied up and blindfolded. Of course she has to be agreeable with the whole thing as well, because she needs a sense of security for her body and mind to open up to the experience more sexually. Bound and blindfolded with no idea of what is about to happen to her heightens her senses incredibly. For beginners, using a loose crepe bandage is nice and gentle. Each time you do this make it something different. It may not involve any penetration at all, but you decide and she accepts and obeys. Even the odd disappointment makes the whole thing a surprise package because women do love being teased as long there is some satisfaction coming.
Some women who are unresponsive in bed are often described (by men with little-man-syndrome) as a dead fuck because they just lay there, but it is more likely she is just sexually passive by nature.
Polygamy.
Bringing another person into the bedroom can be very rewarding for both you and your partner, and is a common practice among lesbian couples who lack a penis at all.
Ignore what you see on �naked people movies�. A good menage-de-trios works best for her if there is an element of intimacy in the encounter, like monogamous encounters. Many guys find this type of encounter to be too close to another guy and will want to keep some separation in bed like say, in turns, or even not be in the same bed at all, while a less inhibited trios will treat her to an intimate encounter that easily will trump a large penis for incredible pleasure - both sexually and emotionally.
Finding the right playmate can be tricky, but you should be honest and upfront about what you want and what the boundaries are. Single guys instinctively want a partner of their own and he may want to initiate a relationship with your partner and there is her personal safety to consider. A good rule with a stranger is no phone calls accepted by her after the "date". A 'trusted friend' may be a better bet because you know his personality and sexual history, which is important if it to be an ongoing arrangement. Again, emotional bonding is unavoidable, particular if you girlfriend or wife is attractive, so consider this in choosing someone. There is a market for man-whores and customers are often couples looking for 'no emotional attachment guaranteed'. Another like-minded couple is better again because you get to enjoy a threesome of your own.
Most of us would be happy to have the idea of polygamy relegated to a shared sexual fantasy, particularly considering the fact that these encounters don't often live up to the imagined fantasy. Almost certainly, the mutual initmacy between you both will change, so monogamy is best when mutual intimacy is all-important to you as a couple. However, if you do venture into this area, it is very important you both know what the rules and boundaries are, and stick to them. Also you should always be in control of what and when and don't let yourself become the lazy partner.
For a guy with a small penis, sex though a condom and no oral sex is not great, so stay STD free.
People with STDs often don't tell, even if they know. A lot of publicity is made about HIV/AIDS, but any incurable STD will fuck your sex life. The most common incurable and most contagious disease is Herpes. Protecting yourself against Herpes will also protect you against anything else. Blood tests for STDs may not include HSV (herpes) because it is not considered life threatening and the results only give an indication of infections older than 2-3 months old. Don't believe that Herpes is only contagous during breakouts.
As a general rule, no oral sex, contact only through condoms and a quick visual check for sores is the best protection until you know someone is clean. A trip to a licensed brothel is a good lesson on how to screen guys for herpes.
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