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Does this sound familiar, "If I only", "I can't take it", "Why can everyone else gain but not me", "This is not working", "I'll never change things", etc.? This is called regret and wishful thinking.
The word STRESS derives from the Latin word, strictus, meaning to draw tight. Stress means subject to physical or mental pressure, tension, or strain but this definition only gives us an understanding in the words present form. It gives us no real clue to solving this problem or the affects stress has on our lives, goals and successes in life.
I mention regret because this is a vital component of stress. Stress, in itself, is usually brought on by thoughts of past failures, an overwhelming feeling of anxiety because we feel we can't make it or we are somehow different than those who have succeeded.
When we base our goals at hand on past failures or even trying to tell the future, something all of us can relate to. I say telling the future because there are many times I will sit there in my irrational thought patterns believing no matter what I will do I will fail. Stress consumes me and becomes the catalyst for deficiency.
When stress builds in us it becomes cumulative and builds to massive proportions only infecting us with feelings of inadequacy and causing frustration and anger. Surface emotions for the discouragement and disappointments we have in ourselves for once again failing to make strides in our goals.
What does all this mean and what the fuck does it have to do with Penis Enlargement? Good question and I have an answer and that answer, as gay as it may sound, is acceptance.
We, as human beings, have a annoying habit of thinking we should know where we should be in life, what should be happening, and in our minds we have a vision of the way things are supposed to be, a way that is unattainable and unrealistic. I do not want to preach the Gospel as I know many of you may not embrace God as I do so I will put it to you like this.
To a large extent, we have no control over our situation. I mean we know the way we want it to be but usually it is so far from that it is pathetic. We find ourselves cursing God, the people around us, our past failures, money, our work, our relationships and other outside sources when really we are so off base when it comes to the blame of these unfortunate circumstances.
Taking it a step further, when things are going perfect, or our vision of what we believe to be perfect, we find ourselves feeling scared and insecure that we may lose this fortune. It is all very confusing when I lay it out like this but there is a greater point I am trying to forge here.
Stress is largely related to our issues with control. When things are not the way we think they should be we try to change these circumstances in a desperate frame of mind which only makes things worse. Think about playing BlackJack at the casino and losing tremendously. You get stressed out because you think you should be winning, not losing. You feel there is a greater force at work, a force that is out to get you, one that will fuck up your chances of winning and will ultimately cause you to loose everything. That is, unless you CONTROL the situation. This control comes in the way of sili bets, superstitious thoughts, and desperate measures, measures that will probably lead you to a greater failure.
When I become frustrated in life it is because believe I am being cheated somehow. I know the way things should be and they are not that way. But I have learned something that has given me a greater understanding of the various situations I find myself in. This knowledge has all but cured my stress and has allowed me to not only accomplish goals but lead a happier life.
The first thing I needed to realize is I have no control over the things around me. Sometimes I need to be in a shitty situation, sometimes I need to be alone, sometimes I need to fail, no make gains, be poor, struggle, lose friends, not make the grade, and many other hardships in life. When I am going through these things I know that there is a reason, a reason greater than my puny human mind could ever understand, at least while I am suBathmateerged in the hardships. Inevitably I always see the greater meaning, the reason why I had to suffer, the reason why I had to endure what I did and that is the greater goal.
What is the greater goal? This is a goal we have no clue about, it is what faith is made of. It is subscribing to the school of suffering and taking notes, learning, studying, and making strides in life that not our teach me but give me knowledge and wisdom to become a better person.
If you people heard some of the shit I have had to go through, things I am sure pale next to some of the things some of you may be dealing with, but one thing that has always materialized for me, a manifestation that has always dazzled and amazed me is the gifts I receive for my tenacity.
Life is not a game, it is a school that offers infinite wisdom if we are willing to let down the walls, accept what we can't change, do whatever we can to make things happen. Most of all life is about solecism, failures, regrets and oversight's. It is what makes us dreamers, it is the shit success is made of if we are willing to be a student to it's teachings.
Remember this next time you are about to give up, God never gives us a cross we can not carry.
The word STRESS derives from the Latin word, strictus, meaning to draw tight. Stress means subject to physical or mental pressure, tension, or strain but this definition only gives us an understanding in the words present form. It gives us no real clue to solving this problem or the affects stress has on our lives, goals and successes in life.
I mention regret because this is a vital component of stress. Stress, in itself, is usually brought on by thoughts of past failures, an overwhelming feeling of anxiety because we feel we can't make it or we are somehow different than those who have succeeded.
When we base our goals at hand on past failures or even trying to tell the future, something all of us can relate to. I say telling the future because there are many times I will sit there in my irrational thought patterns believing no matter what I will do I will fail. Stress consumes me and becomes the catalyst for deficiency.
When stress builds in us it becomes cumulative and builds to massive proportions only infecting us with feelings of inadequacy and causing frustration and anger. Surface emotions for the discouragement and disappointments we have in ourselves for once again failing to make strides in our goals.
What does all this mean and what the fuck does it have to do with Penis Enlargement? Good question and I have an answer and that answer, as gay as it may sound, is acceptance.
We, as human beings, have a annoying habit of thinking we should know where we should be in life, what should be happening, and in our minds we have a vision of the way things are supposed to be, a way that is unattainable and unrealistic. I do not want to preach the Gospel as I know many of you may not embrace God as I do so I will put it to you like this.
To a large extent, we have no control over our situation. I mean we know the way we want it to be but usually it is so far from that it is pathetic. We find ourselves cursing God, the people around us, our past failures, money, our work, our relationships and other outside sources when really we are so off base when it comes to the blame of these unfortunate circumstances.
Taking it a step further, when things are going perfect, or our vision of what we believe to be perfect, we find ourselves feeling scared and insecure that we may lose this fortune. It is all very confusing when I lay it out like this but there is a greater point I am trying to forge here.
Stress is largely related to our issues with control. When things are not the way we think they should be we try to change these circumstances in a desperate frame of mind which only makes things worse. Think about playing BlackJack at the casino and losing tremendously. You get stressed out because you think you should be winning, not losing. You feel there is a greater force at work, a force that is out to get you, one that will fuck up your chances of winning and will ultimately cause you to loose everything. That is, unless you CONTROL the situation. This control comes in the way of sili bets, superstitious thoughts, and desperate measures, measures that will probably lead you to a greater failure.
When I become frustrated in life it is because believe I am being cheated somehow. I know the way things should be and they are not that way. But I have learned something that has given me a greater understanding of the various situations I find myself in. This knowledge has all but cured my stress and has allowed me to not only accomplish goals but lead a happier life.
The first thing I needed to realize is I have no control over the things around me. Sometimes I need to be in a shitty situation, sometimes I need to be alone, sometimes I need to fail, no make gains, be poor, struggle, lose friends, not make the grade, and many other hardships in life. When I am going through these things I know that there is a reason, a reason greater than my puny human mind could ever understand, at least while I am suBathmateerged in the hardships. Inevitably I always see the greater meaning, the reason why I had to suffer, the reason why I had to endure what I did and that is the greater goal.
What is the greater goal? This is a goal we have no clue about, it is what faith is made of. It is subscribing to the school of suffering and taking notes, learning, studying, and making strides in life that not our teach me but give me knowledge and wisdom to become a better person.
If you people heard some of the shit I have had to go through, things I am sure pale next to some of the things some of you may be dealing with, but one thing that has always materialized for me, a manifestation that has always dazzled and amazed me is the gifts I receive for my tenacity.
Life is not a game, it is a school that offers infinite wisdom if we are willing to let down the walls, accept what we can't change, do whatever we can to make things happen. Most of all life is about solecism, failures, regrets and oversight's. It is what makes us dreamers, it is the shit success is made of if we are willing to be a student to it's teachings.
Remember this next time you are about to give up, God never gives us a cross we can not carry.