How Often Do You Have Sex? How Long Does it Last per Session? Does She Cum?...

Lightning · Jun 24, 2014

How often do you have sex?
How long does each session last on average?
Does she really come?
Do you cum all the time?

Please be honest. Also include if you are in a relationship and if so how long. You will not be judged.

I am in an interracial relationship for three years now. My lady does not like long sex and before we first fucked she told me this. On average we are about 8-10 minutes per session. There have been times it has been 3 minutes and times it has been 30 minutes. I never understood these songs and stories about people fucking for an hour or all night.

She doesn't cum as much as my ex, maybe once a session if I'm lucky. However she has two types of orgasms, internally (by means of squirting/hitting G-Spot) and externally by the clit. I sometimes give her both of those in one session. I can cum and stay hard and cum again without pulling out if the sex is good.

My ex had 17 orgasms one time in a single session with me in a bathtub. Another ex I had used to squirt gallons every time we fucked. It was a messy situation all the time, it got to the point where we had to fuck on the floor.

How often do we have sex?

Overall average:

Year 1: 6 times a week
Year 2: 3 times a week
Year 3: 2 times a week (If i'm lucky)

I read this somewhere else.

"Married 18 years. Now divorced. No kids.

Year 1 —- 10-20 times a week.

Year 2 – 3 —- 10 times a month.

Years 3 – 5 —- 5 times a month.

Years 5 – 10 —- 2 times a month.

Years 10 – 15 —- 1 time every month or so.

Years 15 – 18 —- Pity sex twice a year.

I left her because I got tired of her general selfishness in and out of the bedroom. I wanted her everyday until the last day."

Disco Dave · Jun 24, 2014

To tell you the truth; I have gotten lazy in that department due to a slight depression. I was always a dreamer and now reallity is starting to set in. Call it a mid-life crisis. Besides that my kids rooms is right next door to ours plus my Father-inLaw sleeps on the couch downstairs. So this usually leads to quiet quickies. Pounding and aggresive fucking is out the window. We both cum once and then that smack on the ass to say pass the towel. Lol. Aint life grand.

Happywithbm · Jun 24, 2014

Once a week, due to me working overnights. Once or twice a month I can talk her into two nights in a row on the weekends. Session last anywhere from 15 minutes to half hour. We both have an orgasm and that's about it.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

HappywithBathmate;587833 said:
Once a week, due to me working overnights. Once or twice a month I can talk her into two nights in a row on the weekends. Session last anywhere from 15 minutes to half hour. We both have an orgasm and that's about it.

First real man! Thank you!!!

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Where are the other real mean at MoS???

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Men not Mean. On cell phone****

Disco Dave · Jun 25, 2014

Do you count massages and titty sucking as part of the session ? If not; we have a standard 15 minute session if the house is crowded or a standard 1hr session if we have the house to ourselves for the night. Now I see why they never showed Mike and Carol fucking on The Brady Bunch. Because how can you focus on truly fucking your wife with a house full of kids. Lol. Is it time for a mistress? But what if she got kids? Then you need a mistress for the mistress. Now money may not buy hapiness but I would atleast love to be able to treat my wife to a 4day getaway once a month. This should make the sessions longer and more intensed. Idk

Satyr · Jun 25, 2014

mmh, I'm very lucky insofar as my gf (soon-to-be-wife>we're in our 12th year now! Can't believe it myself) does have a healthy sex drive on the one hand and is very understanding and compliant when it comes to satisfy my even stronger sex drive on the other. Usually we do it daily and we both orgasm in most of the cases. she comes fast when I penetrate her (bit longer when I lick her to a clitoral orgasm).She already did when I was 7,1 nbpel and 5,5 in girth (now 8 nbpel and 6,1 girth) but my impression is that she comes a bit faster since I've grown despite the fact that she denies any noticeable difference (don't believe her> what is it that a lot of women can't just be honest on this point?)
The only bummer (at least for me) is that I don't last very long. I'd say on average it takes about 5 mins, rarely 10, sometimes only 2 or 3. So more than one intravaginal orgasm (sometimes preceded by a clit. orgasm due to oral) isn't going to happen right now. My biggest desire is to get to an average of 15 mins or so to see if that would give her more than one.

I'm always flabbergasted by the numbers called out by some guys that claim to last 30 minutes at least (!) and go for 60 mins or more - and I speak of the act of penetration only (no foreplay and breaks)! I suspect that some people estimate the length of their sex acts even worse than their dick length, some might also brag a lot, idk.

Disco Dave · Jun 25, 2014

Theres always slight breaks when fucking for a hour or more. Plus you partially cum throughout while saving the big load for last. Plus when 80% of your sessions with your wife are quickies due to a household full of family being there; you start to see that a hour or more goes buy pretty quick when you 2 finally have the house to yourselves for the night. Sure we can all cum in 1 to 20 minutes but hour sessions are real. Its similar to cross country cycling. Just pace yourself, take a quick breather when needed, and enjoy the view of the land. Dudes do extensive workouts at the gym all the time so I dont see why its hard to believe a hour of fucking is not likely. But I still liked your post.

Satyr · Jun 25, 2014

thx for your input.
No, it's not that I don't believe it to be possible, it's just that I'm somehow skeptical about the vast number of men who claim to manage this. I asked my gf - who had about 15-20 sexual partners before me - a few times if she considers our sex to be significantly short and how long other men lasted. And she always answered that she wouldn't know for sure but she'd consider it as average length (give or take a few minutes) and that she had never experienced overly long sessions. This and some empirical studies on average endurance of intercourse make me wonder where all the guys are that can last so long, if you catch my drift. Do all the other (average) guys don't talk on the net as most of the lesser endowed guys won't show their dicks (thus biasing the view of a lot of other men who think that an 8 or 9 incher is a common phenomenon)?

with regards to my individual situation I'd think my problem is mainly a mental one. I'm always into rocking her world, bringing her to orgasm as often as possible (I want to eat her out more often than she lets me do it, for example). That being said and with her orgasm coming fast most of the time, I always shift gears up when she's about to come and therefore also can't hold it back anymore. I might last longer if I'd slow down and change positions in such a case, but I'm always worried that I'll ruin her orgasm and then won't bring her to climax later. All in all she seems to be one the gals who usually aren't into long sessions and I feel a bit stressed at times by my own aspiration to make her cum every time (which she does despite the short sessions).
I talked to her about trying to go slower and longer a few times and she'd agree on that but it doesn't seem to be a vital desire of her.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

I love it guys, keep it coming!

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

HappywithBathmate;587833 said:
Once a week, due to me working overnights. Once or twice a month I can talk her into two nights in a row on the weekends. Session last anywhere from 15 minutes to half hour. We both have an orgasm and that's about it.

I like hearing honesty like this.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Disco Dave;587828 said:
To tell you the truth; I have gotten lazy in that department due to a slight depression. I was always a dreamer and now reallity is starting to set in. Call it a mid-life crisis. Besides that my kids rooms is right next door to ours plus my Father-inLaw sleeps on the couch downstairs. So this usually leads to quiet quickies. Pounding and aggresive fucking is out the window. We both cum once and then that smack on the ass to say pass the towel. Lol. Aint life grand.

I know what you mean. Every now and then I stay at my ladies mothers house and her mom and step dad is on the left of our room and kids on the right. We try to get it in quiet and quick but she don't enjoy it because there is no lock on the door and the kids randomly just walk in the room without knocking. She use to tell me shit like that turns her on (the unexpected) but now that it is a reality it doesn't, what gives? It kind of turns me on fucking her next to her moms room lol.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Disco Dave;587841 said:
Do you count massages and titty sucking as part of the session ? If not; we have a standard 15 minute session if the house is crowded or a standard 1hr session if we have the house to ourselves for the night. Now I see why they never showed Mike and Carol fucking on The Brady Bunch. Because how can you focus on truly fucking your wife with a house full of kids. Lol. Is it time for a mistress? But what if she got kids? Then you need a mistress for the mistress. Now money may not buy hapiness but I would atleast love to be able to treat my wife to a 4day getaway once a month. This should make the sessions longer and more intensed. Idk

When I said session I wasn't clear, I meant penetration session. With foreplay, we can be hours. Making love to me is foreplay followed by penetration. In the beginning there was allot of foreplay. But now it is more about getting a nut for me. I use to care about her getting what she wants, but after how I see she doesn't care to openly give it to me, I get mine. I will take a hand job every morning but she don't like giving hand jobs. She doesn't like giving blow jobs (she is black). My ex (spanish) spoiled me, I use to get hand jobs every morning because I didn't want to fuck her. I was like in the Al Bundy and Peg marriage where whenever my lady wanted sex, I would cry or complain not to. Now it is completely opposite. I am the beggar and she is the complainer lol. Karma is a bitch!

Zambrodom3 · Jun 25, 2014

I usually dont like to cum a lot. I dont have sex often! For the last 2 weeks I slept with a girl- I have given her a total of 5 orgasms, she has given me 2 (1st one she wanted it a lot so that is why I did it

). I last not much, last time I was very horny (hadnt had sex in A LOT of time) and came in 1-2 minutes. Good thing she LOVES being licked and fingered

.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Satyr;587844 said:
mmh, I'm very lucky insofar as my gf (soon-to-be-wife>we're in our 12th year now! Can't believe it myself) does have a healthy sex drive on the one hand and is very understanding and compliant when it comes to satisfy my even stronger sex drive on the other. Usually we do it daily and we both orgasm in most of the cases. she comes fast when I penetrate her (bit longer when I lick her to a clitoral orgasm).She already did when I was 7,1 nbpel and 5,5 in girth (now 8 nbpel and 6,1 girth) but my impression is that she comes a bit faster since I've grown despite the fact that she denies any noticeable difference (don't believe her> what is it that a lot of women can't just be honest on this point?)
The only bummer (at least for me) is that I don't last very long. I'd say on average it takes about 5 mins, rarely 10, sometimes only 2 or 3. So more than one intravaginal orgasm (sometimes preceded by a clit. orgasm due to oral) isn't going to happen right now. My biggest desire is to get to an average of 15 mins or so to see if that would give her more than one.

I'm always flabbergasted by the numbers called out by some guys that claim to last 30 minutes at least (!) and go for 60 mins or more - and I speak of the act of penetration only (no foreplay and breaks)! I suspect that some people estimate the length of their sex acts even worse than their dick length, some might also brag a lot, idk.

Don't listen to that shit. 70-75% OF MEN ejaculate within 3 MINUTES after penetration, this is a known study.

Three to seven minutes is an "adequate" length of intercourse, found a study of North American sex therapists. "Ideal" clocks in at seven to 13 minutes. However, it's quite rare for thrusting to last longer than 12 minutes, according to Esquire. We all know, though, that great sex isn't just penis in vagina — oral sex, manual stimulation and a host of other activities can make your sex session last longer than it takes to nuke a microwave dinner.

From - http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/977285/10-fascinating-sex-facts

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Disco Dave;587849 said:
Theres always slight breaks when fucking for a hour or more. Plus you partially cum throughout while saving the big load for last. Plus when 80% of your sessions with your wife are quickies due to a household full of family being there; you start to see that a hour or more goes buy pretty quick when you 2 finally have the house to yourselves for the night. Sure we can all cum in 1 to 20 minutes but hour sessions are real. Its similar to cross country cycling. Just pace yourself, take a quick breather when needed, and enjoy the view of the land. Dudes do extensive workouts at the gym all the time so I dont see why its hard to believe a hour of fucking is not likely. But I still liked your post.

I would have to be on Viagra to fuck that long. Plus my lady don't like long sessions, she has A.D.D. so we have to change positions every minute.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Satyr;587851 said:
thx for your input.
No, it's not that I don't believe it to be possible, it's just that I'm somehow skeptical about the vast number of men who claim to manage this. I asked my gf - who had about 15-20 sexual partners before me - a few times if she considers our sex to be significantly short and how long other men lasted. And she always answered that she wouldn't know for sure but she'd consider it as average length (give or take a few minutes) and that she had never experienced overly long sessions. This and some empirical studies on average endurance of intercourse make me wonder where all the guys are that can last so long, if you catch my drift. Do all the other (average) guys don't talk on the net as most of the lesser endowed guys won't show their dicks (thus biasing the view of a lot of other men who think that an 8 or 9 incher is a common phenomenon)?

with regards to my individual situation I'd think my problem is mainly a mental one. I'm always into rocking her world, bringing her to orgasm as often as possible (I want to eat her out more often than she lets me do it, for example). That being said and with her orgasm coming fast most of the time, I always shift gears up when she's about to come and therefore also can't hold it back anymore. I might last longer if I'd slow down and change positions in such a case, but I'm always worried that I'll ruin her orgasm and then won't bring her to climax later. All in all she seems to be one the gals who usually aren't into long sessions and I feel a bit stressed at times by my own aspiration to make her cum every time (which she does despite the short sessions).
I talked to her about trying to go slower and longer a few times and she'd agree on that but it doesn't seem to be a vital desire of her.

I like eating pussy and my lady doesn't like me eating it (a first in my history). She don't like finger stimulation as well. It is only a cock that she wants. She cums quickest when I rub my cock against her clit but I can never make her cum with my fingers. Allot of women seem to have short memories. We have a very open relationship and I asked her the other day what was the most amount of times she climaxed in a single session and she referred back to a few months ago when I was in Vegas with her. She came like maybe 3-4 times top. I find that hard to believe when she has been with allot of dudes before me. It is so fucking weird but I guess we are all individuals with specific needs.

Lightning · Jun 25, 2014

Zambrodom3;587868 said:
I usually dont like to cum a lot. I dont have sex often! For the last 2 weeks I slept with a girl- I have given her a total of 5 orgasms, she has given me 2 (1st one she wanted it a lot so that is why I did it ). I last not much, last time I was very horny (hadnt had sex in A LOT of time) and came in 1-2 minutes. Good thing she LOVES being licked and fingered .

Studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm.
The average man achieves orgasm in 3 to 5 minutes. What is wrong with this picture? lol.
You have to be at least 5 times above above average in penetration to get her to orgasm or start with allot of foreplay.

This is one reason many women don't achieve orgasm in every sexual encounter. If they feel pressured to have an orgasm, it can make a sexual encounter more stressful than tax day. And that just about guarantees a woman won't have an orgasm.

Disco Dave · Jun 25, 2014

LIGHTNING;587873 said:
Studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm.
The average man achieves orgasm in 3 to 5 minutes. What is wrong with this picture? lol.
You have to be at least 5 times above above average in penetration to get her to orgasm or start with allot of foreplay.

This is one reason many women don't achieve orgasm in every sexual encounter. If they feel pressured to have an orgasm, it can make a sexual encounter more stressful than tax day. And that just about guarantees a woman won't have an orgasm.

You are right. I hate when I think I did my job; To only find out that she wasnt finished. Then she would try to grind on me while I just want to sleep. Thats when I feel like Iam the chick and she is the dude. It gets scary when they want to finish releasing but you have already came and just want to sleep. Hide the knives. Lol.

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