Really need help

[jt203]

Guys im really down right now. My girlfriend and I have had sex twice now, and both times i lose my erection. I feel absolutely nothing with condoms on. I instantly lose everything. Its making me feel like shit and I ask her how she feels. She says she doesnt care which I dont beleive, but I do. Any suggestions for keeping erections.

 

[mowinman]

Try stopping the kegels for a few days. You could be exhausting the PC muscle. This accounts for many lost erections. If after a few days off and from there you maintain a good erection, you will then need to withhold kegals on the day you think you may have sex. You may even want to change your workout days so that no exercises are done on the day of sex.

 

[Super]

1. Are the condoms to small?
2. Have yall thought of birth control
3. How old are you

 

[DLD]

Originally posted by Supra
1. Are the condoms to small?
2. Have yall thought of birth control
3. How old are you

These are great questions and I have a couple more too:

4. What are you thinking about when this happens?

5. Are you taking any type of medication?

 

[jt203]

1. The condoms are fine now.
2. Yes it helps alot without a condom
3. Im 18
4. Im mad when this happens
5. No medication

Thanks for the replies guys keep them coming.

 

[TheExecutioner]

Get her on the pill, and maybe take a break from jelqs and kegels for a while see if it improves the problem.

 

[stillwantmore]

I personally would not get into the habit of getting a girl on a pill or a shot ....or using anything less than condoms. Unless youve been together for at least a year or you are both VERY committed to each other. I still would be very careful about NOT using condoms. I would advise against it. I made this mistake ONCE and now i have HPV. (Genital warts virus). So, basically I dont have the warts...got them all removed...but I still have the virus and can give it to someone else if I have un protected sex. Yea, me and this girl were dating for 6 months. Everything was great, we were monogomous (or however the fizzuck ya spell it), etc. So we both agree it's a great idea for her to get on "the shot" so we dont need to use condoms.

Unknown to me, and I assume her as well....which is possible because a womans sex stuff is mostly inside her body and she can carry STD's internally without knowing she has them.....she had HPV. It can take a few months or longer to break out too. So, of course a couple months later, we break up. Few months after that, I start getting these little raised nodules on my penis. It was only a couple at first so I put it off. Long story short, I put it off for over a year partially out of ignorance, partially out of pride, and partially out of denial that I could have an STD even though a little voice in my head was nagging me to go get it checked out.

My best advice would be to switch to thinner condoms. As thin as you can find. I know Durex makes some called something like "barely there" condoms. Use a water based lube inside and out on the condom. This will improve your sensations greatly. Should help with the "problem" youre having too.

Also, dont use the "ah we're young" or "ah but we're each other's first fuck" excuse. You get into the habit of not using a condom now, it's that much easier to not use one later.

This reply is not a scare tactic. Just a reallity check. Youre a young guy and dont deserve to get stuck with an STD for the rest of your life right? I consider myself lucky to not have caught something much worse. Could have happened.

 

[xtremegamer]

Free your mind of all outside thoughts. Focus on the actions occuring, but don't overfocus. This may sound "kookie" but it has helped me whenever I get stressed out. BTW cut alcohol/caffeine/tobacco use.

 

[TheExecutioner]

SWM are these what they looked like? i never new that the Virus stays with you im gonna be way more careful in future!

 

[stillwantmore]

:O Holy shit, was that penis on a cadaver?? LOL that was horrible! I never got them that bad or even on my glans. Just the shaft. Yea similar to that in the pic but like I said on my shaft....and smaller. Probably 1/8" in size at the biggest.

Again, I consider myself lucky. I see these commercials about the Herpes meds and I think, geez. Warts are probably almost as bad as Herpes as far as being stuck with the shit once you have it...but, I dont have to take a pill every day, and I dont break out often if at all. I just keep and eye on my dick and surrounding areas...trim the hair real short and do a self inspection once every couple months and if I see a wart, treat it for a few days and it's gone. Havent had a wart in months though.

Another reason to be carefull and use condoms, STD's like warts can be a literal death sentence for a woman. If she gets HPV and doesnt know she has it...and does not get it taken care of soon enough, she can get Cervical Cancer, or need a hysterectomy.

 

[jt203]

Thanks alot for your concern SWM and to everyone who has replied, I will definitely look into those durex condoms, its only happend twice without a condom but isnt worth it for a STD. Any other options you guys can think of.

 

[TheExecutioner]

Originally posted by stillwantmore
:O Holy shit, was that penis on a cadaver?? LOL that was horrible! I never got them that bad or even on my glans. Just the shaft. Yea similar to that in the pic but like I said on my shaft....and smaller. Probably 1/8" in size at the biggest.

Again, I consider myself lucky. I see these commercials about the Herpes meds and I think, geez. Warts are probably almost as bad as Herpes as far as being stuck with the shit once you have it...but, I dont have to take a pill every day, and I dont break out often if at all. I just keep and eye on my dick and surrounding areas...trim the hair real short and do a self inspection once every couple months and if I see a wart, treat it for a few days and it's gone. Havent had a wart in months though.

Another reason to be carefull and use condoms, STD's like warts can be a literal death sentence for a woman. If she gets HPV and doesnt know she has it...and does not get it taken care of soon enough, she can get Cervical Cancer, or need a hysterectomy.

Damn, fuck giving a girl cancer! i aint getting no STD either!! and yeah seeing that pic SWM i guess you were very lucky it wearnt to that extreme!

 

[jt203]

HAHAHAHAHAHA.........well i figured that i should try not to jerk off and have the day my girlfriend and I have sex handle that. So five days go by (today) and we have sex. I cum in like 5 minutes with a trojan ultra sensative on. I was actually laughing. I dont care too much because i can fix this, I figured that if I dont jerk off everyday (I did to help stretching) that i should be sensative, but not sensative enough to nut in 5. Does it sound about right if I jerk off/ have sex every other day or three days?