The "Infamous Question"

[Compressive]

Hi guys.
Let's get straight to the point: I'm talking about that question that i think many guys (I did it as well) ask to their girlfriends, expecially the ones they are really in love with, and the question is "Have you ever had someone bigger than me?"
Do you ask or asked this question?
Why do / did you ask it?
How did you react / would you react if you get to know that her ex was bigger than you?
I'm really curious to know your point of view ;-)

 

[Morphosis]

IMO, that's a loaded question to ask. I've asked that question and was shocked at my reaction when she said, "Yes, much bigger than you." I went introverted and couldn't wrap my head around why she was with me then, for days, if not weeks it was on my mind 24/7. Now, if I asked that question, which I wouldn't. I find the question unfair to the other person. I had other women tell me they had bigger without asking and I'm not phrased by it now.

 

[Lightning]

I am an overweight white middle aged dude with a 6.5-7" x 5.25" penis. I've been in a relationship with a much younger afro american (ex stripper/model) for the past 3 years. She has only been with one other white man (her second longest relationship for one year). She has been with allot of black men since 16 years old. When we met she was in a 8 month relationship with a good looking, well known Miami heat basketball player. I basically won her over due to her not getting the attention she lacked from him.

When we first had sex she asked me the dreaded question after we finish "did I feel her?" and that really fucked me up. Regardless we had good sex and she is a squirter and I know I did a good job. So later I asked her about all the black men she was with and she basically said they were either smaller, the same size or bigger than me. She did tell me that she never could orgasm with bigger cocks so the sex wasn't as good as it is with me, of course us as men won't believe that. I guess she saw so much cock in her life that it really doesn't matter to her anymore, she is more of an emotional creature like most women. I tried watching adult entertainment with her a few times and she is always disgusted. She rather watch a tantric love story soft adult entertainment thing unlike most men.

I told her if she wanted, I could make my cock bigger but she says the sex is perfect now because she gets off and feel if I get too big she won't enjoy it anymore She rather prefer I go to the gym.

 

[DLD]

I am an overweight white middle aged dude with a 6.5-7" x 5.25" penis. I've been in a relationship with a much younger afro american (ex stripper/model) for the past 3 years. She has only been with one other white man (her second longest relationship for one year). She has been with allot of black men since 16 years old. When we met she was in a 8 month relationship with a good looking, well known Miami heat basketball player. I basically won her over due to her not getting the attention she lacked from him.

When we first had sex she asked me the dreaded question after we finish "did I feel her?" and that really fucked me up. Regardless we had good sex and she is a squirter and I know I did a good job. So later I asked her about all the black men she was with and she basically said they were either smaller, the same size or bigger than me. She did tell me that she never could orgasm with bigger cocks so the sex wasn't as good as it is with me, of course us as men won't believe that. I guess she saw so much cock in her life that it really doesn't matter to her anymore, she is more of an emotional creature like most women. I tried watching adult entertainment with her a few times and she is always disgusted. She rather watch a tantric love story soft adult entertainment thing unlike most men.

I told her if she wanted, I could make my cock bigger but she says the sex is perfect now because she gets off and feel if I get too big she won't enjoy it anymore She rather prefer I go to the gym.

true words!

The past is the past and whenever we dig it up we only get dirty. Size is of little worry once you have become a Brother and realize the potentials of the gifts you receive here. Sure, maybe in the past a dude was bigger than you but if that is what bothers you so much, as it did me, simply practice PE until you have conquered that size and go beyond. Penis size is only a small part of a relationship and when a man is insecure about this a woman will pick up on it and see it as a weakness. It is far better to be an average sized man with a great confidence than a massive man with no confidence. The Brotherhood has always been about improving the whole self, not just the penis. Any man that has ever arrived in the forums, on the surface, may seem to have a problem with his penis but when we go just below this surface we can see there were many other issues going on.

First we need to be honest with ourselves with why we are here and let it be known, this will bring the real help you need. [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?64036-My-Best-Work-Ever-Penis-Enlargement-will-Be-Changed-Forever-gt-gt-Gain%20inches%20with%20SRT-Theory-and-Routine]SRT[/words] is the worlds most powerful PE program, no better routine and it only gets better and every man has access to this so the penis enlargement portion of your issues are solved so now it is time to work on the other issues and continue correction until perfection.

When I met my ex Jen, she had many partners before me of all different sizes and this was when I was at my pre-pd size of 6.5 x 4.75. After asking the dreaded questions of past lovers, which I wish I never did, my confidence was destroyed. After training for about 1 year I was far bigger than any of her past lovers but still the insecurities lingered. It took me working on my self confidence to overcome. Unfortunately, by the time I was able to get this issue under wraps she was far gone.

If you love your mate forgo the past and look towards the future. If you are average and your girl has been with many guys there is a chance she was with a bigger guy, this is simply cured by getting bigger...she need not know but the day will come when she will ask the beautiful question; "Are you still growing?"

 

[Lightning]

true words!

The past is the past and whenever we dig it up we only get dirty. Size is of little worry once you have become a Brother and realize the potentials of the gifts you receive here. Sure, maybe in the past a dude was bigger than you but if that is what bothers you so much, as it did me, simply practice PE until you have conquered that size and go beyond. Penis size is only a small part of a relationship and when a man is insecure about this a woman will pick up on it and see it as a weakness. It is far better to be an average sized man with a great confidence than a massive man with no confidence. The Brotherhood has always been about improving the whole self, not just the penis. Any man that has ever arrived in the forums, on the surface, may seem to have a problem with his penis but when we go just below this surface we can see there were many other issues going on.

First we need to be honest with ourselves with why we are here and let it be known, this will bring the real help you need. [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?64036-My-Best-Work-Ever-Penis-Enlargement-will-Be-Changed-Forever-gt-gt-Gain%20inches%20with%20SRT-Theory-and-Routine]SRT[/words] is the worlds most powerful PE program, no better routine and it only gets better and every man has access to this so the penis enlargement portion of your issues are solved so now it is time to work on the other issues and continue correction until perfection.

When I met my ex Jen, she had many partners before me of all different sizes and this was when I was at my pre-pd size of 6.5 x 4.75. After asking the dreaded questions of past lovers, which I wish I never did, my confidence was destroyed. After training for about 1 year I was far bigger than any of her past lovers but still the insecurities lingered. It took me working on my self confidence to overcome. Unfortunately, by the time I was able to get this issue under wraps she was far gone.

If you love your mate forgo the past and look towards the future. If you are average and your girl has been with many guys there is a chance she was with a bigger guy, this is simply cured by getting bigger...she need not know but the day will come when she will ask the beautiful question; "Are you still growing?"

Great words brother. I guess whenever you feel insecured about your ex having bigger cocks and that comes up in a conversation and you want to be evil transfer some of the insecurity you can always let her casually know that you have been with previous women with a bigger/nicer ass than hers and firmer boobs that knew how to ride you the right way. That will be a big transfer lol.

I've been with women in the past that had bigger asses, boobs, etc and that sucked and fucked really good but I don't sit around thinking about them especially when I'm with my lady. Women don't think about all the previous cocks they had while you are fucking them. They are most likely thinking about some romantic love novel scene to help get them off. Us men just need to understand this. Women don't want to be treated like sluts, they want to be loved, respected, secured, laugh and appreciated and want us men to listen to what that have to say. If you master that, you will have the best dick they ever had at any given size.

 

[cacavolante]

Yup.

I asked this question to my ex-girlfriend about 6 years into our relationship at the time.

She said back in her early twenties (she was 30 at the time), she said she had one that was significantly larger. My instinct is it was probably on the fairly large but not monstrous size (Probably a 9" - I was just around 7" at the time).

It hit me pretty hard in the gut. Wasn't really sure why I asked, but it was during sex for some reason, and I think I let my insecurities and curiosity get the best of me.

 

[Happywithbm]

I never asked my wife if she has had bigger. She also never said she has. We both know that before we got together that both of us have had quite a few partners. Very early on into the relationship, she said I am rather large. And also the first to give her an orgasm during intercourse.

 

[Asanon]

LIGHTNING- I've been with women in the past that had bigger asses, boobs, etc and that sucked and fucked really good but I don't sit around thinking about them especially when I'm with my lady. Women don't think about all the previous cocks they had while you are fucking them. They are most likely thinking about some romantic love novel scene to help get them off. Us men just need to understand this. Women don't want to be treated like sluts, they want to be loved, respected, secured, laugh and appreciated and want us men to listen to what that have to say. If you master that, you will have the best dick they ever had at any given size.

^^^ This ☝ ^^^

Mostly. Sometimes they want to be treated like sluts, but at the right time and place. The more dominant/masculine the guy is (while simultaneously understood to be protective and loving), the more it triggers the opposite in them .. suBathmateission/femininity and ..since that (gender imperatives) is, variously, everyone's base currency.. it has its time and place. If they're never getting this at home, that dearth can increase the proclivity for them to (even against their better judgement) to get it somewhere else during their peak estrus.

So, .. watch out. We and they are not the same, we're wired very very differently. But it wasn't my purpose to make one of my usual giant posts, but to say that yours was really good..

: )

cacavolante- She said back in her early twenties (she was 30 at the time), she said she had one that was significantly larger. My instinct is it was probably on the fairly large but not monstrous size (Probably a 9" - I was just around 7" at the time).

Want you to see something -- If you'll go to the Visualizer and make the penis (say) 9" by 6.2" and hit enter ... it'll show you that next to an average one of like 6" by 5" (or something very similar) and it doesn't even appear that the two are from the same species.

If one considers DLD's size, then 9" doesn't seem monstrous at all, but next to 99.999% of other penises it effing well is ..

Point being ... even going up to just 7.5" by 5.7" is -significantly- larger than a 7" (25% bigger by volume) ... and that's not even near 8" yet. I think there's no way she was talking about 9" .... likely not anything even 8.

Quick tip on running that comparison page without starting over for every change ... 'Adjust Size' changes the dick on the left, and 'Custom Cock' changes the dick on the right..

 

[tbone77]

i think most men wouldn't ask the question about penis size of former sex partners if they weren't already insecure about it to begin with. And since we're discussing this on a PE forum, I think it's fair to say that in some way, we're all insecure about our penis size in one way or another. No matter how big some of us get, it won't be big enough. So it begs the question, what can we do so that we're secure enough about ourselves that that question just doesn't rear it's ugly head. In my case, at 6.5 x 5.25, and a big time grower, I'm big time insecure about it, to a point where I just sabotage myself before I even get to the sex part...it's pretty bad.

 

[DLD]

I've been with women in the past that had bigger asses, boobs, etc and that sucked and fucked really good but I don't sit around thinking about them especially when I'm with my lady.

Exactly, it could not be more simple and true. If we, as men, are able to take a empathetic view of the insecurity against our own discretionary thoughts we can easily see that our woman is not either.

 

[Lightning]

i think most men wouldn't ask the question about penis size of former sex partners if they weren't already insecure about it to begin with. And since we're discussing this on a PE forum, I think it's fair to say that in some way, we're all insecure about our penis size in one way or another. No matter how big some of us get, it won't be big enough. So it begs the question, what can we do so that we're secure enough about ourselves that that question just doesn't rear it's ugly head. In my case, at 6.5 x 5.25, and a big time grower, I'm big time insecure about it, to a point where I just sabotage myself before I even get to the sex part...it's pretty bad.

tbone we are the same size (penis wise) but I weigh 280 lbs. I am a grower as well especially due to being over weight and having a big fat pad. If I weighed 180 lbs my penis would look allot bigger I would imagine.

Some days I think my penis size looks good and other days I think it looks small. Sometimes I see dudes in the locker room with huge flaccid penis's and I think I have a baby dick lol. But at the end of the day the average penis size is 5.6 inches long by 4.8 inches in girth and as you can see we are both above average.

 

[Lightning]

Yup.

I asked this question to my ex-girlfriend about 6 years into our relationship at the time.

She said back in her early twenties (she was 30 at the time), she said she had one that was significantly larger. My instinct is it was probably on the fairly large but not monstrous size (Probably a 9" - I was just around 7" at the time).

It hit me pretty hard in the gut. Wasn't really sure why I asked, but it was during sex for some reason, and I think I let my insecurities and curiosity get the best of me.

Listen, the chances of any women seeing a True 9" penis in their life is very slim to none. I shot allot of adult entertainment in my past and even the freak Ramon from Monsters of Cock was just under 9". We can all jam a ruler in our ball to measure our penis in front of our lady and have a 9" plus penis. Women have no idea how to properly measure lol.

 

[Lightning]

Want you to see something -- If you'll go to the Visualizer and make the penis (say) 9" by 6.2" and hit enter ... it'll show you that next to an average one of like 6" by 5" (or something very similar) and it doesn't even appear that the two are from the same species.

If one considers DLD's size, then 9" doesn't seem monstrous at all, but next to 99.999% of other penises it effing well is ..

Point being ... even going up to just 7.5" by 5.7" is -significantly- larger than a 7" (25% bigger by volume) ... and that's not even near 8" yet. I think there's no way she was talking about 9" .... likely not anything even 8.

Quick tip on running that comparison page without starting over for every change ... 'Adjust Size' changes the dick on the left, and 'Custom Cock' changes the dick on the right..

I approve this message. I think when anyone (men or women) see's an average length man with an above average girth (6" plus) they say its huge. I did this test as a kid. Me and my best friend both use to hang around girls allot and we would both pull our hard cocks out in front of them and they would always be afraid of my best friends short girthy cock over my longer above average girth cock. Even my cock was probably 1.5" longer, girls war afraid of his.

 

[DLD]

Listen, the chances of any women seeing a True 9" penis in their life is very slim to none. I shot allot of adult entertainment in my past and even the freak Ramon from Monsters of Cock was just under 9". We can all jam a ruler in our ball to measure our penis in front of our lady and have a 9" plus penis. Women have no idea how to properly measure lol.

True Talk!

 

[cacavolante]

Also, another thing to consider if you're gonna go down the 'comparing' route -
From a sheer numbers perspective and mathematical deviation, if a woman has sex with 10-20 partners, there is a very good likely hood she's gotten close to one end of the curve or the other in terms of ALL physical traits. The deviation doesn't go in the other direction Men -> Women because of sexual choice in the market place being tilted towards women.

If a girl has slept with a dozen guys or so, and the more guys she sleeps with, the more likely it will be she'll encounter a dick on the far end of the size deviation.

The good thing for me is, I'm sort of over it, especially the insecurity of it.

Now, I'm not in a position to get back into a relationship again, and if I WERE to pursue another 'committed' relationship, a low count or at least interpreting that she's been at least SOMEWHAT nice of a girl would be ideal in the candidate I would choose.

Short quip:

Since I've been single these last 2 years, penis size be damned, I've plowed more pussy than I have in the last 10 years (#humble brag - I average about 2 new girls a month - got into Pickup and Seduction).

Now all that I care about (even though I still practice PE) is just having sex with beautiful women that I 'click' with. I'm fully aware that there are guys with big dicks out there that have NO GAME.

I generally bang every girl that I like that I meet, regardless of who they're friends with or how I know them. I fuck them like it's the last time I'm ever going to have sex ever again. I then bury my head in my work and my ambitions and being the best version of me that I can, and by doing so the women constantly hit me up.

Since being single, and being at a modest 7" (Modest in the PE community) I've gotten more "OMG, your cock is NICE" and "Wow, you're pretty big, i like it!".

I'm blabbing, but to make a long story short, if you're in a relationship - don't ask about her previous dicks.

If you're single, just plow on brothers. Don't let your insecurities stop you from banging tons of pussy!

 

[longstretch]

Thanks for that cacavolante. That's my outlook as well. I've had girls tell me I'm too big and a lot say my size is perfect but I don't think women really care that much what size you are. My only goal is to give them the best sex I can and I rarely get girls these days that don't tell me that they can't believe how much or how fast they came. 9 times out of 10 they will tell me that they just had the best sex of their life. Don't let your insecurities stop you from having great sex. Don't worry if she's been with bigger dudes.

By the way I'm looking to improve my game as I'm starting to overcome social anxiety. I don't do drugs or drink anymore and I'm much more selective these days. Any recommendations on good pickup and seduction resources?

 

[DLD]

Also, another thing to consider if you're gonna go down the 'comparing' route -
From a sheer numbers perspective and mathematical deviation, if a woman has sex with 10-20 partners, there is a very good likely hood she's gotten close to one end of the curve or the other in terms of ALL physical traits. The deviation doesn't go in the other direction Men -> Women because of sexual choice in the market place being tilted towards women.

If a girl has slept with a dozen guys or so, and the more guys she sleeps with, the more likely it will be she'll encounter a dick on the far end of the size deviation.

The good thing for me is, I'm sort of over it, especially the insecurity of it.

Now, I'm not in a position to get back into a relationship again, and if I WERE to pursue another 'committed' relationship, a low count or at least interpreting that she's been at least SOMEWHAT nice of a girl would be ideal in the candidate I would choose.

Short quip:

Since I've been single these last 2 years, penis size be damned, I've plowed more pussy than I have in the last 10 years (#humble brag - I average about 2 new girls a month - got into Pickup and Seduction).

Now all that I care about (even though I still practice PE) is just having sex with beautiful women that I 'click' with. I'm fully aware that there are guys with big dicks out there that have NO GAME.

I generally bang every girl that I like that I meet, regardless of who they're friends with or how I know them. I fuck them like it's the last time I'm ever going to have sex ever again. I then bury my head in my work and my ambitions and being the best version of me that I can, and by doing so the women constantly hit me up.

Since being single, and being at a modest 7" (Modest in the PE community) I've gotten more "OMG, your cock is NICE" and "Wow, you're pretty big, i like it!".

I'm blabbing, but to make a long story short, if you're in a relationship - don't ask about her previous dicks.

If you're single, just plow on brothers. Don't let your insecurities stop you from banging tons of pussy!

There is definitely a mathematical expression of this

 

[Compressive]

I wantend to say thanks to all of you who replied to this thread... I didn't start this thread for my curiosity... The reason why i did it is that i'm sure there are a lot of guys out there that, no matters how small or big their penis is, struggle with the "EX" syndrome, expecially the guys who are actually in love with their girlfriends. Even guys with a 9 inches dick may not be happy to know that their gf had a 10' dick ex boyfriend. Of course as LIGHTHING said this is almost impossible to happen, but not completely impossible... so maybe the dick size is not that relevant, but is more an ego thing...
I think that if we share our experiences, how we deal with things, how we get over things and so on, it will be a great benefit for the community.
I always believe that talking about things is always better than trying not to think about em, hiding feelings, thoughts and so on...
Thanks a lot again ;-)

 

[Lightning]

^^^ This ☝ ^^^

Mostly. Sometimes they want to be treated like sluts, but at the right time and place.

Agreed. A good friend of mine was in a relationship with a chick that demanded him to beat her in order for her to get off. He couldn't handle her and left her. So yes, there are some special requirement women out there and there is a right time and place.

 

[DLD]

Agreed. A good friend of mine was in a relationship with a chick that demanded him to beat her in order for her to get off.

A woman after my heart! How great would it be to have a terrible day and go home a fuck the beating into her!