What Do You Do With A Young Sexy Virgin ?

youknowme123321;601130 said:
seems like your mind may be elsewhere?
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Idk I'm just not getting the same quality or quantity of girls. It's caused a minor depression lol.
 
youknowme123321;601026 said:
ya our own heads get in the way of so much. i used to have bad social anxiety. avoided proms and even going into grocery stores b/c i always feel like i am being looked at...heart starts pounding and i get sweaty. i never liked being noticed even as a young kid in elementary school. i would get chased by girls at recess and girls liked me but i would make excuses to stay in on the weekends and not go out most of the time. this was all for really no reason...it's just for some reason i feel that way. i am a lot better now but it still creeps up on me. 2 weeks ago on vaca i sat in my car for 5 minutes before going into the gym. i just felt super anxious walking in there. i forced myself to go in...the gym was empty at first which made me laugh that i almost missed out on a workout b/c i thought there would be to many people in there lol. then people came in and i dint care.

whats helped me a lot in this real of my life as well as other situations is "self talk". asking myself why i feel a certain way and having a discussion with myself about it. this leads me to be more relaxed and make smarter decisions whether something is a big deal or not based off analyzing and rationalizing whatever it is
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Hahaha! I cant believe how much we look alike then! I am the same, and since I study to become a fitness coach and sports instructor- it is a must not to miss my workouts (you shoudl understand since you are quite ripped yourself LMAO). And yes, I did absoluely the same self-talking stuff as you did LMAO :).
 
Zambrodom3;601183 said:
Hahaha! I cant believe how much we look alike then! I am the same, and since I study to become a fitness coach and sports instructor- it is a must not to miss my workouts (you shoudl understand since you are quite ripped yourself LMAO). And yes, I did absoluely the same self-talking stuff as you did LMAO :).
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I'm a pizza eater lol.
 
dmoney101;601135 said:
Idk I'm just not getting the same quality or quantity of girls. It's caused a minor depression lol.
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That will do it.
 
dmoney101;600740 said:
We as men create some of the most pointless insecurities in our heads, but I understand exactly how you feel about it.
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doublelongdaddy;600953 said:
It is true, I bet more than half of the relationships that go bad happen because of irrational insecurities that have no basis in reality. When I was in a relationship I could make a mountain out of the smallest hill and cause a bunch of unnecessary grief. In the 3 long term relationships I have had I have pushed the girl out because of my own negative thoughts. Confidence is king in any relationship.
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real talk, i wish i had understood this sooner
 
How is this a thread? You fuck her, end of thread. Next question please
 
Jdcsd;601790 said:
What else is there to do? Take her to red lobster?
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She's gonna be passed out for a few hours when you finish anyway. Might as well go eat alone LMAO.
 
youknowme123321;601026 said:
ya our own heads get in the way of so much. i used to have bad social anxiety. avoided proms and even going into grocery stores b/c i always feel like i am being looked at...heart starts pounding and i get sweaty. i never liked being noticed even as a young kid in elementary school. i would get chased by girls at recess and girls liked me but i would make excuses to stay in on the weekends and not go out most of the time. this was all for really no reason...it's just for some reason i feel that way. i am a lot better now but it still creeps up on me. 2 weeks ago on vaca i sat in my car for 5 minutes before going into the gym. i just felt super anxious walking in there. i forced myself to go in...the gym was empty at first which made me laugh that i almost missed out on a workout b/c i thought there would be to many people in there lol. then people came in and i dint care.

whats helped me a lot in this real of my life as well as other situations is "self talk". asking myself why i feel a certain way and having a discussion with myself about it. this leads me to be more relaxed and make smarter decisions whether something is a big deal or not based off analyzing and rationalizing whatever it is
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You know man I've battled with the exact same thing my whole life. It's something I've never understood but it is debilitating. It's gotten better the more I've searched for ways to get past it and have gotten out of my comfort zone and realized all those fears were only in my head. Things that have helped me is CBT therapy fro m the book Feeling Good and there was an audio program I listened to that described how to eliminate ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) though the guy would put me to sleep listening to him. Going through college and even picking a career that I knew would force me to interact with people and doing some public speaking and just pushing myself to make small talk have led me to a place where for the most part I'm comfortable today and have an active social life.

I have experienced everything you talked about. Fear of going into stores, the gym, Hell even going to best friends houses or hanging out with my family that I've known for years could trigger it. It's paralyzing. I missed countless opportunities for friends, good times, romance and better jobs because I was afraid to make a phone call because of it. There is a paradox to all the anxiety in that the more you fight it the worst it gets and you have to learn to accept it and relax but that's not easy to learn and took me some time. All this anxiety fueled depression and vice versa. It's a vicious cycle and being the scared little boy traped in a grown man's body that I was I turned to drugs and alcohol to run away from my problems and temporarily make me forget my emotions but it eventually made everything 100x worse. There is a solution though and it won't happen overnight as you sound just as bad as I was but I promise you the more you work through it and find ways to get outside your comfort zone the better it gets.

The kicker is I have no reason, no logical reason, to be anxious. I am only 5'6" but I'm very physically attractive, in great shape, pretty intelligent, successful and I can be quite witty and charming when relaxed. I say that only to say it can happen to anyone and give you hope based on how my life is now and how it continues to get better the more I do to resolve these issues
 
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Jdcsd;601790 said:
What else is there to do? Take her to red lobster?
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I'm thinking Burger King dollar menu.
 
LIGHTNING;601878 said:
Too fucking funny. Or take her to IHOP in the morning.
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Lol no way man you don't let her spend the night. One time I made a chick walk home after lol sounds worse than it was. She only lived 2 blocks away but it was 3am and she was pissed
 
doublelongdaddy;601950 said:
I'm thinking Burger King dollar menu.
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You gotta be a little classier. Wendy's is much nicer. They have salt and pepper shakers on the table
 
Jdcsd;601958 said:
You gotta be a little classier. Wendy's is much nicer. They have salt and pepper shakers on the table
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UH OH!!!! Have you not been to one of the newly renovated Wendy's???? no s & p shakers on the tables anymore!!!!
 
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