ya our own heads get in the way of so much. i used to have bad social anxiety. avoided proms and even going into grocery stores b/c i always feel like i am being looked at...heart starts pounding and i get sweaty. i never liked being noticed even as a young kid in elementary school. i would get chased by girls at recess and girls liked me but i would make excuses to stay in on the weekends and not go out most of the time. this was all for really no reason...it's just for some reason i feel that way. i am a lot better now but it still creeps up on me. 2 weeks ago on vaca i sat in my car for 5 minutes before going into the gym. i just felt super anxious walking in there. i forced myself to go in...the gym was empty at first which made me laugh that i almost missed out on a workout b/c i thought there would be to many people in there lol. then people came in and i dint care.
whats helped me a lot in this real of my life as well as other situations is "self talk". asking myself why i feel a certain way and having a discussion with myself about it. this leads me to be more relaxed and make smarter decisions whether something is a big deal or not based off analyzing and rationalizing whatever it is