repost of disappointing gains/reduced sensitivity worry

I originally posted this in the routines section a couple weeks ago by mistake. Thanks Pandora for the one response there... any other takers on this...???<

I am somewhat irritated by my lack of lasting gains, and I am also worried I may have reduced my ability to get and maintain an erection. I need some words from all you long-time pe 'ers out there on this...
Essentially I ped for about six or eight months with a starting length of about 6 inches, girth probably 4.5 inches. I pe'd about 3 times a week, jelqing and stretching mostly, with a daily routine of pc muscle work (essentially using doubled's starting plan), and towards the end of the pc work I did supra slammers too. I am currently at 7 inches if I stretch out my almost rod, or flex my pc really hard. My girth is about 4.5 still, maybe 4.75 if Im lucky. Very disappointing. And there is something else.
I stopped pe'ing about 2 months ago, right after this girl I am in love with and I attempted having sex. I couldnt get a hardon to save my life, and I think at the time it was performance anxiety. I had to beat my meat for like 20 minutes on my own to get a rod hard enough to get in her, and then kerblammo, I orgasmed after like 7 thrusts. Not an awe inspiring first time to be sure... I got a perscription for Viagra from my doctor as insurance the next time. I took it the next time, but the timing was off and I lost my erection again, I've had sex without viagra since then with a different woman, and my rod was not that great in terms of firmness or length, and I really had to work myself up to that. With Viagra I feel like I think I am supposed to. With the woman I am in love with, I should be sporting wood everytime she rubs against me, but I get barely a tingle unless I take that stupid blue pill.
I noticed when I was pe'ing regularly that I would hang bigger most of the time, but to get a rod to jerk off even I would have to go through the whole pe process, and/or look at ���� to get properly sized. And if I am not constantly stimulating myself, without viagra, I droop down pretty quick.
Since I stopped pe'ing, I also stopped jerking it every day too. And I have tried concentrating on reawakening my dick, sensitivity wize. I have had some successes. I am only 33, so I am doubting its age that is contributing to my sleepy dick.
So I guess I have two issues to throw out there for responses.
A. I am worried that I orientated my dick to extreme stimulation as the only way to get hard. I want to get back to the days before pe'ing where I could get hard with a gust of wind.
B. I would like to continue to pe with the goal of being 8 inches with a greater girth, perhaps close to six inches. However, I dont want to fuck up my dick worse, and I am wondering if I really would make progress at this point.
So any takers??
As a side note, since starting pe'ing I have taken various herbal supplements to help, among them yohimbe, horny goat weed, various gingsengs and tribulus, and various blends there of. I didnt really notice better erections with any of it, although a prodigious load amount for sure. I used vaseline mostly for pe lube, occassionally mineral oil. Could any of this stuff be contributing to the problem?

It sounds as though you are pilling many problems together and it is fucking with your mental side causing these physical problems. First I want to say, congratulations on a full inch of length gains, this in itself is cause to celebrate. I am drawn to this mental conclusion because you stated the you had sex, with a good erection with a different girl. This proves that you are capable. I think you are concentrating too much on your performance with this girl you are in love with. My suggestion is to forget about your dick for a while and concentrate on satisfying your partner. This means lots of foreplay, this will get your mind off the erections and on the woman you care about. I promise after a few minutes of concentrating on her you will get a erection with no problems. Usually when we obsess over the erection, when we finally get it we cum to fast. This is because of all the mental energy you are giving this process, most likely ignoring her needs during these episodes. Blow her mind and service her for a minute and things will start to make sense. Viagra will help and if I could afford it I would use it always.

Your girth issue is something I suffered with for my first year, it took some extreme sessions with lots of intensity. This, over time, gave me the results I wanted. Girth is a bitch for me but with the hard work it really is not a big deal now, unless I am looking at Shane Diesel, fucker.

Sensitivity will wane when your mind is fucked up. The entire act of sex takes focus and a free, clear mind, allowing for a clear route from dick to mind. Practice some meditation, methods of clearing your mind and concentrating on what is at hand, sex.

I think DLD is right. Work on increasing your testosorone level also. Lift weights and do Yoga. It will never work as good as it was when you were 18. I will go for weeks without being able to have an errection and I just follow DLD's advise and then all of a sudden it starts working again. Have i cleared my mind or has my testoseron level increased again? I do not know.