Girlfriend getting hurt...er help :(
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Dashdeming said:It could be an excuse as some have suggested, however, let's go a little deeper (pun intended).
Okay, what we are talking about here is a lack of enthusiasm. It is not her fault and this is just something that you both need understand and then work hard to find a common solution.
Lack of enthusiasm is no reflection on your dick size at all. It is very likely a reflection of her past mixed with your (both of you) love making techniques. Simply state, she is not turned on nearly enough and her vagina has not gone through the proper changes required for optimal penetration.
What do you do to fix this? Well, with most women of this sort you will need to take the lead to find the solution. So now we know that you are in the lead but you are listening and watching intently for signs, both positive and negative. These signs will guide your path.
Leading the way is hard and requires lots of patience but pays off big in the end. Simply stated, if you transform a woman that "appears to not like sex" into a woman that is into it, she will look at you as her king.
How do you do it? Well for starters, talk to her. Ask her waht really turns her on. If she will not talk frankly to you then go ahead and tell her what turns you on and then proceed to ask her to help turn you on with these new ideas. This will loosen her up (pun intended
Go slow. Women are like fine wine and they take time to get just right and ready for the act. The idea is that you work with her until she is very horny and wants it. Mind you, this might mean talking to her for hours or even days to get her in the mood. It might mean talking dirty, role playing, fingering, pussy stretching, spanking, licking, toys, �naked people movies� or about 1000 other ideas. Find her trigger and then work the fuck out of it (pun intended
"pussy stretching"! har har, let's here more about that!
There are more things going on here than just sex problems. If a woman isn't relaxed she'll become tense all over, including the Zone of Mysteries. These are symptoms of a great problem, not the problem itself. Address and work through these issues and better sex will follow. Even if a woman isn't necessarily receptive to sex, you can help her out with foreplay because foreplay causes the vagina to balloon and become receptive to the penis. You're penis isn't too big for the average woman and if she had a small vagina, as some women do, she would have known about it before you.
You say that the last two times it hurt she initiated sex and left out the foreplay. From now on, use foreplay as a means to help her get into sex and don't let her skip it. You don't want her using sex as a means of expressing problems with the relationship. It's not healthy to do so. To initiate sex and then make you skip the part that makes it pleasurable for her, causing her pain and you guilt, is classic passive-aggressive behavior and it has to stop or else the relationship is doomed.
Work on the outstanding issues to make your relationship healthy or else get out of it. Sometimes we stay in bad relationships because they're comfortable and the idea of moving on is too daunting. Don't let that happen to you.
She may have a smaller vag on her that's always a possibility though with lots of foreplay you should be fine. really she has to be excited, I saw some cool studies and it showed that sex for woman is almsot totally in their heads. so if she's happy then it pleasurable then your happy
Well....no clue if you'll read this or care or even if you're still with your lady. But your size isn't "to big" the length is a bit length if that's non bone pressed...but in all reality if you do things proper it won't be a problem.
Reasons it hurts:
A. Dry
B. Stress
If she's too dry it'll hurt her the best thing is of course lubrication and going slow. Instead of 20 minutes of hard cock pumping action spend your 20 minutes justing being in her and gradually SLOWLY grinding.
If she's stressed (as she might be if she feels obligated and forced into sex) again take your time...hell turn her down a few times. Also spend more time foreplaying her EVEN if she insist she doesn't want it...most likely that'll change once you get into nibbling her ear lobe and sucking on her neck lightly.
Always ALWAYS reassure her that you want her and you love her and she's beautiful hell spend time just looking at her and enjoying her body. If she feels you want her not for the sex but because it's HER you'll get less worry and stress and then she might enjoy it more.
Reasons it hurts:
A. Dry
B. Stress
If she's too dry it'll hurt her the best thing is of course lubrication and going slow. Instead of 20 minutes of hard cock pumping action spend your 20 minutes justing being in her and gradually SLOWLY grinding.
If she's stressed (as she might be if she feels obligated and forced into sex) again take your time...hell turn her down a few times. Also spend more time foreplaying her EVEN if she insist she doesn't want it...most likely that'll change once you get into nibbling her ear lobe and sucking on her neck lightly.
Always ALWAYS reassure her that you want her and you love her and she's beautiful hell spend time just looking at her and enjoying her body. If she feels you want her not for the sex but because it's HER you'll get less worry and stress and then she might enjoy it more.
BosheR the girl sounds bored. You can't always make love to her. Women like to be respected, pampered and treated like a delicate flower in public. In the bed (sex) they like being freaky and wild, so be more aggressive with her. Find out what turns her on. Spank her, shoot your load on her ass, rub your dick on her tits/nipples. Just do something new and different for her, give her something to look forward to (surprise her). She doesn't always want romance and love-making. Give her some of your Freaky side ... Make her feel like you lust only for her, talk to her, build up the foreplay. Beat around the bush for awhile before you stick it in. It shouldn't be a job, but an adventure; most of all have fun with sex.
If all that doesn't work. Tell her go see a doctor because her pussy is broken. lol
If all that doesn't work. Tell her go see a doctor because her pussy is broken. lol
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As Threak said. Put some excitement into it. Make her think shes a Queen. Get some ice cream put a small amount on the clit area and alowly lick it off. My wife trembles with the cold, then the warmth. Try some jelly, whip cream etc... Goto the pron shop get some flavored/warming lotion and goto work on her.
Try different sex positions. If you 69, try it laying sideways instead of 1 being ontop. No added weight to the person on the bottom and your also able to see 1 another.
Try different sex positions. If you 69, try it laying sideways instead of 1 being ontop. No added weight to the person on the bottom and your also able to see 1 another.
Dude, from your original post, I'd say you've got the wrong idea about sex. Sex isn't just about the orgasm, it's about the fun of getting there. It's not just about "pounding her pussy". She needs to want you in her. In fact, it should be your goal to make her want your dick in her badly enough that she actually takes charge and shoves it in her herself ( with that wild sexy look on her face of course ).
Sex starts outside the bedroom. So don't put stress on her. Even though you think you might not be pressuring her, just the fact that you say she knows you have a high sex drive will put pressure on her to perform even when she's not feeling like it.
So be playfull and hint at sex, but don't initiate anything, and especially DON'T ask for it. If you need to clean your pipes, then just jack off. It's not as good as sex, but you won't annoy your chick and keep her happy.
Sex starts outside the bedroom. So don't put stress on her. Even though you think you might not be pressuring her, just the fact that you say she knows you have a high sex drive will put pressure on her to perform even when she's not feeling like it.
So be playfull and hint at sex, but don't initiate anything, and especially DON'T ask for it. If you need to clean your pipes, then just jack off. It's not as good as sex, but you won't annoy your chick and keep her happy.
good tread!
what ever it is don't stress it to death. If she is fucking someone(your bestfriend? ) ..... just playing. dash- had some pretty good advice all the way to other advice like turning her around and tapping that ass. Remember your the one fucking her, not the other way around.
Their pussy is like a flower, you have to unravel it( yeah right ), what ever.
Maybe get some toys, or chain in your basement for a weekend??
what ever it is don't stress it to death. If she is fucking someone(your bestfriend?
) ..... just playing. dash- had some pretty good advice all the way to other advice like turning her around and tapping that ass. Remember your the one fucking her, not the other way around.Their pussy is like a flower, you have to unravel it( yeah right
), what ever.Maybe get some toys, or chain in your basement for a weekend??
