Kaanman;599931 said:
What is it? How does it work?
How do You Guys Deal With Stress And Depression?
What is it? How does it work?
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DreadMan
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For me i deal with stress by removing all nonessential stress from my life. I as a person feel we all pick our attitude and how things effect it. Hate your job get a new one bad relationship leave that bitch bad friends find new ones. I think the most important park about dealing with stress is building a life were you have as little as possible. But if i happen to get stressed which is rare my work out normally clears it up and if all else feels running around with my daughter makes everything else seem like it isnt even there
DreadMan;600279 said:
I agree. For me, I become obsessive about my routine and when any little thing is out of order I really grab on to that and let it negatively effect me. The smallest problem can seem so huge. When there is nothing to stress on a lot of the time I will invent something to stress over. This is only during the depressive stages of my illness, the rest of the time you can throw anything at me and I can deal with it. The brain is a very tricky thing. Thanks for reminding me how important the children are in our desperation, I automatically feel joy when I am with my Children.
ULTIM8GAINZ
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Belly breathing, yoga, tai chi, video games, make music, dance, PE, some smoke
i watch inspirational videos online pretty much daily. from sport oriented ones to children battling cancer. lets me know how special life is and that time is precious and needs to be used/experienced properly. always help keep me from feeling stressed or depressed
"if you are not working towards your goals, you are committing spiritual suicide"
don't know who said that but I love it!!
"if you are not working towards your goals, you are committing spiritual suicide"
don't know who said that but I love it!!
All great suggestions and advices I found! Thank you 
youknowme123321;600526 said:
Yeah, I try to watch the inspirational videos. I like listening to Bashar, he channels spiritual wisdom. He is hard to take at first but he will grow on you and everything he preaches is very good in the way of making positive changes in life. I also like Abraham Hicks, another medium who gives good spiritual direction. Sometimes just hearing is enough to get me inspired to help myself.
marclewis;603017 said:
That is easy to say but to the one suffering from depression it is seems impossible sometimes to even make the smallest move, never mind getting in exercise. Of course you are right, the best way to deal with these issues is exercise, diet and sleep but this is not always an available choice to the one suffering. For me, when I am depressed, which I am now, I have to set the smallest goals to get to the bigger ones. I need to do things as small as getting my hair cut, or cleaning the bathroom, or washing the car, small, tiny steps that eventually bring me to bigger ones.
Zambrodom3;600136 said:
Bjj is a martial art. I cannot recommend it enough to build a persons character and confidence. It has become quite popular so I am shore you'll be able to find a local club near you.
The best thing about it is there is no striking, its like wrestling on the ground but with joint locks and chokes.
Check youtube for a demo.
Kaanman;603326 said:
You are so correct and I wish that I had it in me to continue my exercise through the depression but usually I can't, it is just not in me. I put much of my confidence in the change of seasons and the fact that I have had a repeating cycle for many years that follows the way the world turns. I know, with all my heart, that the depression will go away when the time is right and that keeps my hopefulness very high. My cycles are very long and that is the hardest part of my illness. Having to suffer depression for 4 months a year is very difficult but I know that as soon as the weather changes I will be happy again. This is hard for anyone to understand who does not cycle as i do. To keep things in the most positive context I view my Hypo-Mania as a time of connection and creativity, a 4 months of happiness and joy. I see the Mania as the breaks that bring me to the point I need rest and the depression represents this rest. But, just like a bear that hibernates, I will awaken and get to the light again.
doublelongdaddy;603652 said:
This is the first and easiest step out of depression. Start implementing healthy foods, fruits and vegetables with in your diet.
Our brains need sufficient level of nutrients to held optimum cognitive function. Diet plus often exercise your body and brain are gonna be alllllllrriiiigghhhht.
Read all about it - The UltraMind Solution: The Simple Way to Defeat Depression, Overcome Anxiety, and Sharpen Your Mind - Mark Hyman M.D.
Reading that book was the start of a changing loin for me.
Recommended.
Kaanman;603785 said:
Thanks for you help Brother and I know you are right. Whenever I break depression I take up exercise and diet with vigor and my life become happier and happier. My biggest issue is when I am in the depression, doing what I need to do to get out of it. You see, my cycles are pretty damn on time and it seems no matter what I do the switch clicks when it clicks. During the spring and summer I suffer with depression, when it is fall and winter I do great. I was trying to get this point across to my therapist that birds migrate, bears hibernate, snakes, shed their skin, and many other examples but the point is these things happen on time and in a specific schedule, like a switch clicking on. I am no different in the sense that once the switch clicks I have little control over what happens next. I have grown to be very patient and hopeful during the hard times and very appreciative during the good times. It seems odd that a person would go through such cycles because of our consciousness but when you take that out of the picture seasonal change is very real.
Exercise is good, the endorphin release coupled with seeing the improvements in your physique lift the mood immensely. Playing a musical instrument is the difference for me. The joy I feel is one of the greatest highs I can experience. Little, seemingly crazy things help me de-stress too though - I find washing my car is therapeutic. Writing has been a great release, very cathartic. Putting my thoughts down on paper gets them 'out' and stops them festering in my head. Weed, in small doses, helps too. And jerkin' the gherkin is always fun ;-)
Spamjavelin76;603995 said:
For me it is Art, Music, Math, Yoga, Boxing and Science. But, I can only enjoy these things when the depression breaks. I know it sounds like I am putting the cart in front of the horse but I am only saying what is possible for me. During the depression I have to take the smallest steps to get out of my depression and this only can be done when that proverbial switch flicks in my brain, usually right about mid-Septmenber.
LONGERDICK7+
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If i had some cash i used to buy beer whisky tequila, i was a happy guy now i have no cash and i dont drink that much definitely and depression is killing me hehehe
LONGERDICK7+
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If i had some cash i used to buy beer whisky tequila, i was a happy guy now i have no cash and i dont drink that much and depression is killing me hehehe
shortdick;606644 said:
Alcohol will do nothing but make the depression worse. With depression it is important to remain free of any agent that may disguise your sate of depression because it becomes more difficult to peg down where it is coming from. I get tempted to use alcohol or drugs to avoid the depression but I know, from extensive experience, these fixes are barely bandaids for the actual problem. Sometimes it becomes important to just accept that sate we are in and sit with it, giving it no credence at all. The more we are able to ignore the big lie, which is depression, the faster we can get to the truth of what causes it.
LONGERDICK7+
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I guess you are right, Alcohol can make you feel great but the effect can last forever hahaa
LONGERDICK7+
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Being BUSY, PE, WORK, GIRLS, MONEY, DREAMS, THE [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/join-now.html]MOS[/words] FORUMS, there are so many things we can do to keep the shitty depression away
shortdick;608686 said:
That is just how you do it too, avoidance is the best method of changing those stinking feelings. Some times you just have to wait for the depression to lift and doing things to keep yourself and your mind occupied will always help you until it does lift. I am still in a bit of depression but it is lifting, I try to keep myself as busy as possible and keep my eye on that light at the end of the tunnel.
REDZULU2003
Well-known member
To answer the OT I keep busy with something I enjoy.
Another addition to this thread that I’ve learned about since I posted it is a practice called DBT, it is a way to deal with anxiety and depression by learning to stay in the moment. There are many sites that give free instructions on how to do DBT so do a simple search and you’ll find these directions. I can say for myself that this really saved my life. I’ve given so much energy to my past and my future that there was no energy for the moment. Once I learn to channel all that energy to the moment things begin to change. Remember if you’re living in the future you’re living and anxiety and if your dwelling in the past your dwelling in depression. It is best to see that it is irrational to try to change the past, and impossible to to control the future. All of your energy is in this present moment do not let it go to waste by bury it in the past or letting a float away into the future.
LONGERDICK7+
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Yep i Fucking hate summer cause is not a cool summer here LOL ?,i love rainy days,most people hate it cause is like they can't go anywhere,i can't say i absolutely hate summer is ok to go out n check the beach enjoy every now and then...n Check some cheeks..
That would be an awesome day at the beach my brother I’ll take the one on the left or the right or the middle LOL I’ll take them all
LONGERDICK7+
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Yep three soft bungholes to fuck whit lol
that makes 9 ?