this post was posted on here a while ago. cant find it now though. the following is a copy i had saved on my computer. i did not write it and im not sure who did., but its awesome!!
STUD-MAKER-DRILL INTRODUCTION
Ok, the base foundation of the SMD is the mindset. Think about it this way... your mind can only process a positive thought... it CANNOT process a negative thought... for example...if somebody told you NOT to think of the color red, it would be impossible because in order for you to know what the color red is, your mind would have to visualize the color and therefor you would be thinking of the color red. It's totally useless to think this way.
On the other hand, if somebody told you to think of the color blue, then your mind would be dedicated to thinking of the color blue and therefor you would not be thinking of the color red.
So in knowing this, you can see how alot of guy's with this problem, tend to get frustrated when they start trying to NOT visualize themselves ejaculating... but end up ejaculating anyways... because they had to visualize it in order to know what not to do...and that make's them start thinking of the pleasure they are recieving (not good). There's an easier and effective way to do this, simply by changing your mind-set...read on....
Durring the SMD, we are NOT going to concentrate on NOT ejaculating, but instead we are going to be concentrating/visualizing on lasting as long as we can WHILE trying to please this girl (imagined or real) and rocking her world... INSTEAD of concentrating on the pleasure we're recieving. Does this sound like a good alternative? Good!
Overall, you wan't to be in the cause state...not the effect state. You're concentrating on the girl's (real or imaginary) pleasure, wich will make you pretty much forget about yourself... and therefore you won't be having any thoughts running through your mind about ejaculating...
If you are determined to please this woman and not think about the stimulation your recieveing, but by concentrating and being dedicated to stimulating and pleasing the woman, then you'll be too busy causeing an effect on her and therefor she won't be able to cause an effect on you (ie. busting your nut too early).
To sum up the mind-set for laymen... Do not think about your own pleasure. BUT, in order to do this, then your entire goal is to concentrate on pleasing the women (real or imaginary) AND on lasting as long as you wan't. If you do this with the STUD-MAKER-DRILL (as written below), then you will have no choice but to ingain this new behavior of lasting as long as you want...with any girl.
DESENSITIZING...3 LEVELS OF STIMULATION
You may have very low tolerance to stimulation when you're horny. You may be the type of guy that creams your pant's if a woman just brushes up against you. Or you may have enough tolerance to last a whopping 1 minute inside of a girl. From all the concentration that you've put on pleasing yourself and getting off as quick as possible, you have develped a very low tolerance for stimulation. Let's reverse that!
There are 2 types of stimulation that we are going to manipulate so we can, in essence, desensitize are self from the stimulation. There is one type of stimulation (#3) that we are going to use consistently durring the SMD so we don't fool are mind's. Here they are:
ONE
Tightness. This has to do with the tightness of the grip/girl. Most people are more sensitive to the stimulation when they tighten their grip (to a certain extent) or the girl they are having sex with is tighter. They will end up blowing their load faster
TWO
Speed. This has to do with how fast you are screwing the girl...or your hand. Most pople will shoot a load faster if they pick up the pace.
THREE
Fantasizing...or Imagination. This has to do with how you fantasize having sex with a girl. This can include sexual positions, types of girls, associated/disassociated from the fantasy, etc.
You will be able to visualize yourself in a 1st, 2nd or 3rd person view. 1st person simply means that you are not seeing yourself but you are actually visualizing yourself in the moment, with the girl...you are completely associated with the experience. Typically, this will cause you to shoot your load faster. 2nd person mean's that you're visualizing yourself from a spot, maybe a few feet away or visualizing just one body part of the girl (pussy, tit's, ass, etc.). 3rd person simply means that, for example, you see yourself from across the room. I'll note that we will have no need for the 2nd or 3rd person visualization. We will use only the 1st person visualization durring the SMD as well as different sexual positions, types of girls, etc.
What you are about to experience is the same type of visualization technique/process that top olympic and professional athlete's use to enhance their performance in their chosen endeavor...and has been proven very succesful!
Now you are going to get some vasoline or other lube that you prefer and get comfortable. You want to put some lube in your hand and relax and close your eyes if your prefer, now lube up your cock. All you're going to do now is fantasize about your dream girl...the one that makes you cream your pants when she brushes up against you...that's a good one.
Start to imagine initiating sex and making your moves. Make sure you go through all the steps that you would go through if you were initiating having sex with someone, especially the first penetration. But, instead of concentrating on getting yourself off, concentrate on rocking this girl's world...be the man she's always dreamed of and take control! Make your-self associated with the fantasy. Actually look down at your cock and see yourself fucking that pussy... Feel her legs wrapped around you and your pelvis's bumping together...Scan your eyes along her body, looking at her pussy getting pounded... move along her stomach and up to her tits... continue to her face and look in her eye's and see her expression of pure extacy. Don't just imagine her pussy or whatever body part turns you on the most... See her like she's actually there. Remember, you want to visualize/fantasize this as close to reality as possible...
Again, this is the same method that top athletes use to enhance their performance in their chosen endeavor...
Your whole goal is to please this girl as much as you can, INSTEAD of concentrating on pleasing yourself. You need to be a man! Do this as long as you can. Really get into it...to pleasure this girl like she's never been pleasured before. If you start to feel like you are going to lose it, loosen your grip and/or slow down the pace until it passes... then you can continue and start to increase or decrease the grip and/or pace, as you feel fit. If you have the self-control to do this, then you will be successful in ingraining this new behavior and continually decreassing you sensitivity to the stimulation.
If you really start to feel like you have to ejaculate and slowing down or loosening the grip doesn't work enough at the time, then flex those PC muscles as tight as you can. After it has passed, continue on with your session and continually adjust the grip and/or pace of the strokes, as you feel fit. After about 30 minutes to an hour of pleasing this simulated/imagined girl, then you can choose to ejaculate while changing your state of mind back to the effect state (start thinking about your pleasure)... BUT, only after about 30-60 minutes of really rocking this girl's world! This is a bonus when you change back into the effect state; you are training yourself to cum on your own cue!
Just a couple of tips: When your're adjusting your stroking pace during the drill, be sure that you are fitting it with the fantasy. So, if you are slowing down the pace, imagine that you are slowing down the pace of the penetrations of the visualized girl. It's also important to fantasize about different sexual positions and to actually penetrate your hand by using hip action during the positions that you are doing the actual fucking, such as the missionary position. Although, if you are fantasizing about a girl on top and riding/fucking you, or giving you a blowjowb or hand job, then you don't have to worry about using the hip movement tip (maybe a little). This is because you would use very little, if any at all, during the actual thing.
Also, it's important to remember to add all senses into the fantasy, like kinosthetic and auditory and not just the visualization. Actually imagine and feel her legs wrapped around you... feel her breasts brushing against you...hear her moans of extacy...look down and see the penetrative action... make the fantasy as real as possible!
The more you perform this drill, the more you will notice that you can use more stimulation (ie. tightness and/or pace) without slipping up. Eventually you will get to the point where you are a master of your own dick and you will have complete contol of your orgasm's. You will be able to last as long as you choose and you will have the ability to cum whenever you choose!
Good Luck...
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