im so confused i need your help guys

rivieraman71;362879 said:

Sounds to mee like your not getting enough info or not the right info. This is definitely the place to mind it my friend. We were all in the same boat as you one time or another.
To find the PC muscle just stop your urine flow midstream next time you go to the bathroom, when you do that you have found your PC muscle. You will want to squeeze this muscle everyday. 100 quick squeezes, 50 5 second squeezes. If you cant hold more then a second don't worry I can't either. It will get stronger with time.

You will find everything you need to know at the link below my friend! Goodluck

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1597

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Riven650;362929 said:

Hi azza.0190'
Howz it hangin' man?
I'm guessing you're quite young. I had absolutely the same problem when I was young. I would come too soon and feel disappointed. I also had a tendency to feel my cock wasn't big enough to excite my gf. I now realise that this was a very counter productive mind set. Many years later my confidence improved and the premature ejaculation went away. I also learned that girls were actually more than satisfied with my size (I was about 6"x4.75").

But what can you do about it? There's absolutely nothing better for your sexual self confidence than improving your relationship with your cock, so make sure you look after it. Enjoy your pe and do it safely. The next advice I'd give you is to tell your gf that it bothers you that you always seem to come long before you want to. She'll probably be relieved to hear that it's only that that's bothering you. My wife has always maintained that she was very very flattered when a guy came quickly, so it doesn't necessarily send your gf a bad message does it? However, try this: Make sure you are not tired, and that you have plenty of time on your hands next time you and your gf make love. Relax and spend a little more time than usual on foreplay. Don't take it in a straight line to climax, if you get my drift, and even if you've got to the stage where you are giving each other oral, back off the pace a bit by stopping to talk a while. If you do come before you've fucked her, or if it happens as soon as you enter her, don't let that phase you. Don't get negative about it. Let it happen, feel the pleasure, stay positive. Your gf will understand if you need to take a breather after you come, but (and this is why it's essential that you make sure you're not tired when you start) you will soon feel like continuing to make love to her. Go back to the sexy conversation & light foreplay stage and then concentrate on getting her really excited. You know, give her some head man :cool: She might go past the point of no return herself and come before you're inside her. Doesn't matter. It levels the playing field. You'll be ready to fuck her again, but you'll not be so desperate to nut cos it only happened like 20 minutes ago. When you fuck her, stay in control of the pace. She might be able to move her undercarriage like the flywheel on a steamroller, but that'll always make you explode quick. Let her do that sometimes (she has to get a chance to enjoy making you explode ). But also get her to relax and let you do it to her. That way you can go at a pace that keeps you the right side of the Point Of No Return (PONR). You will occasionally blow your load by mistake, but laugh it off and tell her it's cos she feels so damn good. You should though, soon learn to slow down or stop, in order to come back a bit from the PONR, and you'll be able to keep from coming for as long as you want. This will be difficult at first, because even if she's doing her best to keep still, her pussy will probably be doing it's best to get you off by clenching and massaging your penis. If you need to, you can pull out and breathe deeply until the urge to come subsides.

I expect you are usually thinking about trying not to come before she does, and I expect your gf is aware of that and is trying to come before you do. This 'trying' = anxiety for you both, and it keeps you from having the sex you want. Eventually, you will both learn to concentrate on how good it feels. Sooner or later you will enjoy the sensation of her coming when you're inside her. It WILL happen.

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dmoney101;363076 said:

when it comes to coming to fast, edging is the best. jack off until you're about to come, then squeeze your pc muscle really hard and take 10 deep breaths until the urge goes away. repeat the process at least 5 times. also, learn how to eat her out really well. you can make her come a few times from that and fingering, then go to using your dick. even if you come too fast she'll still be satisfied from what you already did.

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