Mike,
I just gotta throw my 2 cents worth in here for ya. I've got a coupla suggestions, a comment or two and at least one good burn for that pathetic excuse who's sniveling 'bout his wife's money, (let's face it; if it wasn't HERS, HE wouldn't need it back so desperately).
First: This is business, a donation is a donation, and me, personally, I wouldn't even ENTERTAIN the thought of returning junior's DONATIONS just because he can't take HER cock outta HIS mouth long enough to say "NO".
Next: If you're actually considering powdering this boy's ass then I'd tell him that he gets his money back when he sends you the dick you helped him build...since he's got no balls... he won't miss it.
Then: if you actually decide to donate ('cuz it ain't a refund !!) to this "I'm-so-spineless-I-squish" loser's "Please-help-me-grow-a-set" fund, then I suggest you get an accounting of every cent he claims to have sent you, then tell him you want a notarized statement from "The Evil Stepmother" proving that it's actually her that caused his manhood to eject itself from his body at the speed of light and battered him down to this grotesque level of truly emasculated groveling.
Because, Hey, a man should be proud of what he does. If he's not, then he's either doin' the wrong things, or proud of the wrong things.
Last: Just a prop for you and a suggestion. First, thanks, man; at 45, after a car wreck, meningitis and a few other "owwies"... my cock, (and sex life), is not only in better shape than I ever thought possible but also bigger than I ever dreamed
And my suggestion? I'm gonna buck the trend and tell ya, as a guy who's made his whole life outta buckin' trends and finding my own path through the mine-field:
If the stoopid shit gets you to the point where life has no meaning and is simply a daily struggle...just walk away.
Regroup, find yourself, recharge yer batteries and then maybe get ready for the next round.
I know it sounds pretty ignorant in and of itself, but what use is anything at all if all it brings is misery?
You've got yourself, your health, your sanity and, most important from my standpoint, your son to think about.
MOS is one hell of a place, and you've helped innumerable guys with innumerable problems in a singular, open, unselfish way that is nothing but admirable.
Your personal input, on a constant basis, is what makes this place tick, and the loss of it would be quite the blow, but; it just might be what you need.
It doesn't need to be permanent, but every Mother's son needs a vacation once in a while.
Remember: Life is to be enjoyed...not simply endured.
Any way you decide, more power to ya!