http://www.newomen.com/PNphpBB2-viewforum-f-4.html
I found this after about 10 minutes on google
The closest analogy women have to the penis is beauty and physical appearance. Both are often at the center of issues of anxiety, confidence and self-worth.
Sure, men are judged on physical appearance, but it's not the same; women's culture does not treat the male's visual appearance as of such importance the way male culture does. If a male's appearance
does matter to women, it is more to the effect that it gives social cues: is he rich? responsible? clean? confident? dedicated? a bad ass? Hence women like seeing a man in a suit or uniform, where men would sooner prefer a woman naked than in a 'nice dress.' When a man looks at a woman, more often than not he is looking at her body, not so much looking for cues to
who she is.
For a long time the female physique has been a cultural fixation, and women feel the pressure. Recently as sexuality has become more liberal in the West, women have grown into the freedom of making overt demands of men sexually and physically. One of those demands is performance, penis size or otherwise, and men are feeling the pressure. The result in both genders is a polarized effect, full of hurt feelings of inadequacy and elation if you 'got it.'
Another thing I noticed reading these forum is that women don't really understand men. The conventional wisdom I grew up hearing is that women 'know what you're thinking so you may as well get used to it.' Not true. Most women (in our culture) see things through a totally different lens. They were raised with totally different myths and goals than men. Some women have matured and can see the myths as what they are, and may genuinely understand what motivates a man to to what he does. But most girls (from what I have read them post) see the actions of men through their own motivational filter.
Example: some women really can't handle their men looking at ����. Most men (I think) would find their girlfriend looking at ���� as either a relief or as
hot. What is going on here? Hypothesis#1: sex is a more emotional act for women. When they see men looking at ����, they are concerned that their man is making an emotional connection, as the woman tends to during coitus. This is not how all women operate, some can separate emotional from physical. But men rarely (I've never heard of it) get emotionally involved with ����. It is just that: a visual aid. Hypothesis#2: I'm not pretty enough for him. She takes the man's ���� habit as a cue that she is not pretty enough to satisfy him. In the vast, vast majority, this is not the case. From the statistics I've read on
MoS, men pretty much like whacking off morning, noon and night, usually out of boredom. There are a hundred different misconceptions women have about men's relationship to ���� and the fact that there are so many variations on one issue underscores how little the sexes really understand each other.
