Virgin adivce. Need help!!!

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BigPapa8

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You read the title and i am not happy to say it, but I am a 21 year old virgin. It sucks. Im at this stage because of my own insecurities, mostly penis size, but i have been working at them for a while. I have worked my measurements to 6-6.25 inches in length and 5.5-5.75 inches in girth. However, I still feel inadequate. I can say that this has been because of my adult entertainment addiction since I was in middle school, watching big cock adult entertainment. You know those guys with like 12 inches straight reaming girls out and it was totally ruined my mentality of sex and what girls like. I work out, and I have been told my many people, girls and guys (mostly girls) that I am a good looking guy. Not to brag, but everyday I always see girls checking me out when i'm walking to school, in school, at the gym, or wherever. I have had MULTIPLE chances to have sex with many girls but have always BS'ed my way out of it because of my insecurity about my penis size. SOOOOOOO, my question is not if i am big enough or what average is, but what can I do to improve myself in my length or girth if I need to, and also since I have not yet had sex, what do girls really expect. We all hear, that its not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean. While I do believe that, if that were totally true this forum wouldn't exist :P. Please be constructive and help me, i would really appreciate it. THANKSS.
 
Dude I started having sex at 16 now I'm 26, I am not player by any means and my erect length is 5.25" without pressing. Meaning you are 1 inch larger than me, and never in my life have I had a girl say anything bad about my dick. This is truly 100% all in your head, your size is slightly above average. This has nothing to do with them or what they want, you are rejecting yourself before they even get the chance to reject you. I am sure most girls would be happy to fuck a penis your size, to be quite honest I would be way more concerned about the lack of experience than size of the penis itself but that all comes with practice and I don't want o give you another thing to worry about. But having sex is not like a porno you don't just press play it takes some effort, your first few fucks are probably gonna suck you will probably not find a good rythm or good position and might not even cum. So my suggestion is if you wanna make your dick bigger, hey you came to the right place. But make sure you are doing it for the right reason, yourself. Cause most girls are not gonna give a shit if you are .5" bigger or not.

Besides good foreplay pff magic buddy.
 
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Shit man, you have 5.75 in GIRTH and still INSECURE!? Get some pussy asap, I'd love to have that girth man, I had first sex with my 5 inches long dick and 4.5 thick, stop being insecure, you have decent size, girls look much more for girth than for length, trust me brother!
 
I was in a similar situation to yours man, dodging possible hookups cause i was less than confident. I didn't lose my virginity til about a week or so before I turned 20 and when I did it was pretty ordinary 'cause I just went with the first slapper that showed me interest at that time just to get it out of the way, the few times after wasn't much better as the girls the same age as me didn't really know what they were doing or were that confident either. Then i met a woman who was 10 years my senior who for some reason took a shine to me, the 1st time we slept together she asked why i was so shy/nervous and i told her about my slight insecurities. She didn't laugh or judge me, in fact she took it upon herself to 'show me the ropes' so to speak and within a short time i went from bein a noob to a machine lmao! 😆 every single woman I've been with since has been impressed!

Now I'm not saying this to boast but more for you to seek out something similar, find yourself that woman you can refine your technique with, that will be patient, get your confidence. The internet is a big place man, I'm sure there are ladies out there that would be accommodating. At the very least, you could go to a 'working girl' to achieve the same end, they are paid to do what you want, I'm sure they have heard a million other weirder requests than to be asked to help someone get better in bed, just a thought ☺

Edit: oh and to add, if you are looking for extra length & girth, head over and check out all the stickies and threads in the newbie section of this forum, best place to get started 👍
 
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Ey nig, if I was vergine I'd need you to respect my body. What happens when i find my other half, and she has her cherry for me to take? Perfection yeah, its glue.love your shit brah
 
Perestroyka;633750 said:
Shit man, you have 5.75 in GIRTH and still INSECURE!? Get some pussy asap, I'd love to have that girth man, I had first sex with my 5 inches long dick and 4.5 thick, stop being insecure, you have decent size, girls look much more for girth than for length, trust me brother!
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So true, that girth is seriously thick an chick would love it!
 
Just find yourself a stay at home quite chick. Pop a viagra and enjoy the pounding session. You may come quick. But the viagra will keep you hard which will give you the opportunity to do all those things that you watch on adult entertainment. By the time you're done with her; She will want to marry you.
 
Perestroyka;633828 said:
Definitely man, if I reach that girth size (hope soon) I'd be more than happy for real!
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You will get there, all it takes is commitment to your routine. You definitely have the desire so just get yourself to where you want to be, make no excuses, do it!
 
doublelongdaddy;633829 said:
You will get there, all it takes is commitment to your routine. You definitely have the desire so just get yourself to where you want to be, make no excuses, do it!
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Thank you for your support Brother, appreciate it, tell me, how is your therapy going? Got better?
 
Stop buying into the adult entertainment and it's exaggeration and fantasies of what women want from men.
Change your thinking... Tell yourself want you are
I am a 21 year old stud with a big beautiful healthy cock with excellent sexual skills that women love and enjoy.

Tell yourself that everyday when you wake up and when you retire to sleep for 5-minutes (over & over) for the next 30-days without missing a single day with good intention, believe-ability and things will change for you...
 
Do it in the butt (plenty wouldn't let you just due to the girth)

I'd say that being massive won't bolster your confidence, but I know that's not true. I'd say it doesn't matter and won't give you a better outlook, but it would. It's not weird or crazy or sad to say an improved size will ease your mind at the very least. So take a look at dlds [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/penis-enlargement-newbie-forum/1597-dlds-first-routine-i-gained-2-inches-with-this-routine-full-tutorial.html]newbie routine[/words]. Grab a [words=https://officialhydromaxpump.com/?uid=6&oid=2&affid=98]bathmate[/words]. Learn about [words=http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?64036-My-Best-Work-Ever-Penis-Enlargement-will-Be-Changed-Forever-gt-gt-Gain%20inches%20with%20SRT-Theory-and-Routine]SRT[/words]. Ask questions. Google everything. Do it all now and make your dick a happy afterthought. I waited a long time to get back into it. I wish I hadn't.

Make it happen.
 
Perestroyka;633830 said:
Thank you for your support Brother, appreciate it, tell me, how is your therapy going? Got better?
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Some ups and downs but mainly a steady increase in stability. I am feeling much more balanced and stable. I have been using lithium with good results. I just started some Wellbutrin which is helping with depression. My doctor wanted my mood stable before she started the antidepressant. It has only been a little while but I am noticing a lifted mood. She said it will take about a month to see the full results. I will most likely be home next week. I have some anxiety about that but I am sure that is normal. Thanks for caring, I really appreciate your support.
 
shortdick;633886 said:
yeah lithium i had heard about that substance befor is it good?
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At first I was having lots of side effects and it was hard to stay on it but as the second and third week came most of the side effects went away. Really the worst thing I have is how dry my mouth gets and this will not go away until I stop. I'm really hoping that the Wellbutrin is going to be a big boost in my mood.
 
Damn D pills substances,all kinds of medications,Would be so great the day youd stop taking all those things,maybe im supposed to get on certain medications,but i dont do it....
 
ALright. Thanks guys for the advice. Time to start changing my life for the better and show females what im about!!;)
 
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Man, if you look back at old my threads you will see that i was insecure even when i was 7.25" NBPEL-BPEL and that cost me a relationship.
Now, relax, do some PE and you will grow bigger and have more fun.
If you want to know about average size i will tell you.
I do believe that the average size if you pick 1000 random men of all weights an heights etc, measure them standing up etc
a true NBPEL measurement this way would be below 5.5" probably between 5.25"-5.5". The standard deviation from this would be about 0.8".
So a true BPEL measurement average should be at about 6.25"-6.5" if men were sitted down and push the ruler as far back as they can.

Now for the girth i do believe that it is tad below 5", probably around 4.8". However thats the average, the median should be lower at around 4.6".
So being 5.5"-5.75" girth is way above average girth and if this 6.25" is a NBPEL then you are already big on the healthy side.

Now, if your insecurities are about being the biggest ever in both dimension for each girl you encounter no matter the number of sexual partners she has had you would need to be about 3 stadard deviations bigger in both dimensions which would mean about 6.5+2.4=8.9" BPEL with a combined girth of about 6.5".

But relax..only people who do PE are that big combined in general.. :P So do some good old work, find some pussy and relax...

I was about your length 6.7" BPEL but my girth was around 4.7" overall from base to tip..Never heard a bad complaint..girls were coming back for more..only once i heard that one girl
had bigger and she liked it more..but because i was playing it cocky..so she used it against me..lol hahah

Your overall volume cockwise is about 50% more than my starting size. I can imagine with your size back then i would have heard a lot of good comments by these particular girls!

Fuck as much as you can now that you are young!!!
 
Great words,sometimes men get really concerned about the size of their penis and thats a really sad thing,your words are motivating us to continue,and letting us know that we have to take things easy and stay calm.Thanks
 
I like a capitalistic point of view when it comes down to cock size! More is better! hahaha (only joking, i guess there are individual limits everywhere)
 
confusedman;634029 said:
I like a capitalistic point of view when it comes down to cock size! More is better! hahaha (only joking, i guess there are individual limits everywhere)
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We are PE investors...rofl
 
BigPapa8 said:
You read the title and i am not happy to say it, but I am a 21 year old virgin. It sucks. Im at this stage because of my own insecurities, mostly penis size, but i have been working at them for a while. I have worked my measurements to 6-6.25 inches in length and 5.5-5.75 inches in girth. However, I still feel inadequate. I can say that this has been because of my adult entertainment addiction since I was in middle school, watching big cock adult entertainment. You know those guys with like 12 inches straight reaming girls out and it was totally ruined my mentality of sex and what girls like. I work out, and I have been told my many people, girls and guys (mostly girls) that I am a good looking guy. Not to brag, but everyday I always see girls checking me out when i'm walking to school, in school, at the gym, or wherever. I have had MULTIPLE chances to have sex with many girls but have always BS'ed my way out of it because of my insecurity about my penis size. SOOOOOOO, my question is not if i am big enough or what average is, but what can I do to improve myself in my length or girth if I need to, and also since I have not yet had sex, what do girls really expect. We all hear, that its not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean. While I do believe that, if that were totally true this forum wouldn't exist :p. Please be constructive and help me, i would really appreciate it. THANKSS.
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Your size is not bad brother. What you need now is a length master device. You can use the device for length work. It will give you all the length gains you need as long as you are willing to use it for 40 minutes to 1 hour everyday.

If you have more time and extra cash, you can buy the SiliStretcher as well. It is also a length device which can be worn on your penis for several hours in a day. You can buy the length master and SiliStretcher together.

For girth, you want to get yourself a mityvac penis pump. It is very user friendly and can also be used for dry pumping.
 
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