I was about 6 1/4" and somewhere around 5" to 5 1/4" so my gains were somewhat equal (about 2" +/-, mostly minus in both length and girth) and the VacuVin mod on my
Bathmate X40 is/was responsible for the majority of that...I'd say the first inch-and-a-half happened within 24 months of that mod. The last 1/2" or so has been a struggle and I may have to adjust my year-end goal of 9" down to 8 1/2".
As far as my sex life goes...that's a tad more difficult to explain/explore, but I'll do my best (at the risk of exposing too much or casting any negativity). I've had an SO for 8+ years (shortly after I started PE and realized the magical 'newbie gains') and we get-together several times a month...not living in the same city provides the requisite privacy for PE so this arrangement fits my life/lifestyle. She definitely made the 'are you bigger' comments early on and I just played it off everytime...usually pivoting to a compliment like 'I think it just misses you' or 'it finds you extra sexy' etc. She's also become more multi-orgasmic via penetration only...straight-up dick in pussy...and that could be a combination of just knowing her body and our comfort-level, but it seems very easy to get her off. So in this respect, our sex life is satifying and rewarding, but here's where it gets more complicated (actually I make it more complicated):
I happen to have close access to an abundance of establishments and independants that (for a reasonable fee) will share their time with a middle aged man. I have these 'field-trips' once or twice a month and sample beautiful women of all shapes/ethnicities that would otherwise not be in my demographic. The biggest change is I get denied about 25% of the time due to size (and close to 90% of Asians...I don't even try anymore), call it a business decision by them and I have no qualms and appreciate anyone who's honest with me rather than not enjoy or relish the challenge.
Feel free to throw whatever shade (because I probably deserve it), but it's something I truly enjoy and just consider it part of my entertainment budget.