Anyway to have sex longer?

[quest]

hi i am 19 years old and i am i currently still a virgin but now i just got a girl friend so thats all about to change, my question is i am just so nervous about how quick its going to be. i just want her to be happy. i know when i take painkillers it takes longer for me to ejaculate and i was just wondering if there is any other kind of pills that do the same thing that painkillers do. i would just take painkillers but i was addicted to those so i stopped.

i dont want a pill that makes me hard, i just want one that makes me last longer when the time comes later in the night...exactly what a painkiller does but without getting messed up.

any suggestions?

Thank you

 

[StillHangin]

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=32809

right there babe...virtually the same question.

i hope this helps

 

[BriT]

right if you and your girl friend are in love and she cares about you she wont care how long you last trust me i was in the same situation i only lasted like 20secs if that, just dont worry your self over it, there are plenty of people out there who have done the same.

 

[Drjeckle]

Is it her first time to?

Just relax man I'm sure you'll make her happy.

I know you are wanting some quick fix so I will give you one but, only use it on special occasions. First off make sure you are getting enough protein. Whey isolate is quick to consume and does the trick. But do not intake a lot of protein in the hours before you take GABA. GABA is essentially what you are looking for. Here Red talks about something called phenibut which is like a more potent from of GABA. Take only the recommended dose only. This should help you relax.

Sure there are some ways to last longer and ideally, to completely control your ejaculation, but they all have to do with control which only comes from calming, clearing your mind. After that it's all technique and practice. Only think about how relaxed you are. Try to relax every muscle in your body, especially your pc muscle. If you feel like you are nearing ejaculation, simply pull out of her and breath deeply and slowly through your nose, think about how relaxed you are, concentrating still on relaxing all your muscles just let them hang off your bones, and when the feeling has subsides continue. Do this as much as you need.

Good luck , let us know how it goes.

 

[quest]

Is it her first time to?

Just relax man I'm sure you'll make her happy.

I know you are wanting some quick fix so I will give you one but, only use it on special occasions. First off make sure you are getting enough protein. Whey isolate is quick to consume and does the trick. But do not intake a lot of protein in the hours before you take GABA. GABA is essentially what you are looking for. Here Red talks about something called phenibut which is like a more potent from of GABA. Take only the recommended dose only. This should help you relax.

Sure there are some ways to last longer and ideally, to completely control your ejaculation, but they all have to do with control which only comes from calming, clearing your mind. After that it's all technique and practice. Only think about how relaxed you are. Try to relax every muscle in your body, especially your pc muscle. If you feel like you are nearing ejaculation, simply pull out of her and breath deeply and slowly through your nose, think about how relaxed you are, concentrating still on relaxing all your muscles just let them hang off your bones, and when the feeling has subsides continue. Do this as much as you need.

Good luck , let us know how it goes.

no its not her first time, i wish. i used to work on my PC muscle but i stopped awhile ago, i would do keggels i think they were called. anyway i will try calming myself down when the time comes. not only do i want to make her happy, i would like to have sex longer then 20 seconds, it just looks so good i wouldnt want it to end that quick, if i do find some kind of substance it will only be for the first couple times having sex, just so i get used to it and know what to expect. i didnt read the post above i am going to right now.

PS: so i want to relax my PC muscle, the whole time?

i noticed when masturbate and kind of push, like trying to take a crap but pushing with my penis (its hard to explain lol) i seem to last a little longer before the climax comes.

 

[quest]

Is it her first time to?

Just relax man I'm sure you'll make her happy.

I know you are wanting some quick fix so I will give you one but, only use it on special occasions. First off make sure you are getting enough protein. Whey isolate is quick to consume and does the trick. But do not intake a lot of protein in the hours before you take GABA. GABA is essentially what you are looking for. Here Red talks about something called phenibut which is like a more potent from of GABA. Take only the recommended dose only. This should help you relax.

Sure there are some ways to last longer and ideally, to completely control your ejaculation, but they all have to do with control which only comes from calming, clearing your mind. After that it's all technique and practice. Only think about how relaxed you are. Try to relax every muscle in your body, especially your pc muscle. If you feel like you are nearing ejaculation, simply pull out of her and breath deeply and slowly through your nose, think about how relaxed you are, concentrating still on relaxing all your muscles just let them hang off your bones, and when the feeling has subsides continue. Do this as much as you need.

Good luck , let us know how it goes.

no its not her first time, i wish. i used to work on my PC muscle but i stopped awhile ago, i would do keggels i think they were called. anyway i will try calming myself down when the time comes. not only do i want to make her happy, i would like to have sex longer then 20 seconds, it just looks so good i wouldnt want it to end that quick, if i do find some kind of substance it will only be for the first couple times having sex, just so i get used to it and know what to expect. i didnt read the post above i am going to right now.

PS: so i want to relax my PC muscle, the whole time?

i noticed when masturbate and kind of push, like trying to take a crap but pushing with my penis (its hard to explain lol) i seem to last a little longer before the climax comes.

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=32809

right there babe...virtually the same question.

i hope this helps

im sorry but this did not help at all, all it talked about was marijuana and other drugs

 

[bristlenek]

Quest, forget the painkillers you dont need that shit in your body. One thing that helps is to rub one out before your date. And even if you do blow a little to quickly just go down for some oral while your waiting to recharge. A few minutes on her clit and your shortcumming will be the last thing on her mind. One more way to look at it is the quicker you bust one the quicker you get on to the second one. RELAX and ENJOY.

 

[Drjeckle]

no its not her first time, i wish. i used to work on my PC muscle but i stopped awhile ago, i would do keggels i think they were called. anyway i will try calming myself down when the time comes. not only do i want to make her happy, i would like to have sex longer then 20 seconds, it just looks so good i wouldnt want it to end that quick, if i do find some kind of substance it will only be for the first couple times having sex, just so i get used to it and know what to expect. i didnt read the post above i am going to right now.

PS: so i want to relax my PC muscle, the whole time?

i noticed when masturbate and kind of push, like trying to take a crap but pushing with my penis (its hard to explain lol) i seem to last a little longer before the climax comes.

I dunno about kegels, one place I read they are only for woman buts other recommend them. Yes, you want to relax the whole time. I'll try to figure out what your talking about with the pushing thing later (I'm at work). It might be a complete unflex of the pc but I also could be misinterpreting what you are saying. Try taking a piss and stopping yourself in mid stream, if that is the same feeling there are good and bad sides to it so you have to know when to use it.

you are already putting too much pressure on yourself. Everyones first time is the worst so your really being unfair to yourself.

If you have sex with the aid of a supplement you aren't truly finding out what its like or what to expect... the first time you have sex without it its gonna be different.

 

[quest]

I dunno about kegels, one place I read they are only for woman buts other recommend them. Yes, you want to relax the whole time. I'll try to figure out what your talking about with the pushing thing later (I'm at work). It might be a complete unflex of the pc but I also could be misinterpreting what you are saying. Try taking a piss and stopping yourself in mid stream, if that is the same feeling there are good and bad sides to it so you have to know when to use it.

you are already putting too much pressure on yourself. Everyones first time is the worst so your really being unfair to yourself.

If you have sex with the aid of a supplement you aren't truly finding out what its like or what to expect... the first time you have sex without it its gonna be different.

i know im being unfair with myself but i cant help it, i would so much rather take somthing to make me last longer for the first time i have sex because
A) she will enjoy it more
B)i will enjoy it more, and i will feel better about myself

i no its weird, but thats just what i want to do.

PS: if i ejaculate in the condom, and wait to recharge, do i put a new condom on? does the sperm killer kill all of it once its in the condom?

i recently tried to masturbate with a condom on, and i noticed it was kind of slipping off, will this do this in the girl..just having the condom on i almost came :blush:

should i try to get her wet before i even put my penis in?

 

[StillHangin]

im sorry but this did not help at all, all it talked about was marijuana and other drugs

the first part talked about what you could take to last longer, the rest was off topic

 

[StillHangin]

i know im being unfair with myself but i cant help it, i would so much rather take somthing to make me last longer for the first time i have sex because
A) she will enjoy it more
B)i will enjoy it more, and i will feel better about myself

i no its weird, but thats just what i want to do.

PS: if i ejaculate in the condom, and wait to recharge, do i put a new condom on? does the sperm killer kill all of it once its in the condom?

i recently tried to masturbate with a condom on, and i noticed it was kind of slipping off, will this do this in the girl..just having the condom on i almost came :blush:

should i try to get her wet before i even put my penis in?

1) after you cum, always put on a new condom before round 2.
2) never fully rely on spermicide
3) what kind of condom did you try that it was slipping off of you?

 

[CrazyEight]

Hey bro, as you're beginning to learn to control your sword, don't EVER be hard on yourself. Reward yourself for atleast stepping the fuck up, at age 19 no less, and wanting to get this part of your life together. Much respect here bro.

 

[quest]

i know im being unfair with myself but i cant help it, i would so much rather take somthing to make me last longer for the first time i have sex because
A) she will enjoy it more
B)i will enjoy it more, and i will feel better about myself

i no its weird, but thats just what i want to do.

PS: if i ejaculate in the condom, and wait to recharge, do i put a new condom on? does the sperm killer kill all of it once its in the condom?

i recently tried to masturbate with a condom on, and i noticed it was kind of slipping off, will this do this in the girl..just having the condom on i almost came :blush:

should i try to get her wet before i even put my penis in?

Hey bro, as you're beginning to learn to control your sword, don't EVER be hard on yourself. Reward yourself for atleast stepping the fuck up, at age 19 no less, and wanting to get this part of your life together. Much respect here bro.

1) after you cum, always put on a new condom before round 2.
2) never fully rely on spermicide
3) what kind of condom did you try that it was slipping off of you?

i think it was a trojen, or a lifestyle. i was kind of gripping it tightly though,

my penis is 6" but its not very thick.


and all my friends had sex before and they occasional make fun of me, i would even say im more attractive them all of them too.

about the condom thing that makes me real nervous too, i hope it doesnt start slipping off.

does anybody who masturbated with a condom know what im talking about, maybe im just gripping it to tightly unlike what a pussy feels like....i think lol

 

[StillHangin]

i think it was a trojen, or a lifestyle. i was kind of gripping it tightly though,

my penis is 6" but its not very thick.


and all my friends had sex before and they occasional make fun of me, i would even say im more attractive them all of them too.

about the condom thing that makes me real nervous too, i hope it doesnt start slipping off.

does anybody who masturbated with a condom know what im talking about, maybe im just gripping it to tightly unlike what a pussy feels like....i think lol

rarely do you get to the erection level when masturbating that you when when having sex. The phrase comes to mind "raging hard-on". most likely it won't slip of when having sex, unless you have below 4.5 inches of erect girth.

 

[quest]

rarely do you get to the erection level when masturbating that you when when having sex. The phrase comes to mind "raging hard-on". most likely it won't slip of when having sex, unless you have below 4.5 inches of erect girth.

i think i have like 4.7 girth.:blush:

what should i do?

update: i measured a real long time ago and i actually had it saved in a log on this forums and i just found it. i must not have doe somthing right because to this (what i posted along time ago) its 1.75.

i must not be doing this right, because when im erected its thicker then my four fingers all held together

 

[burningelephant]

ok! to be quite honest about the condom thing, you'll be fine, my erect girth is at exactly 5... not too big a difference.... but when i started having sex it was in the same place.rofl

oh, and i have wanked it with a condom on too.... lol, its kinda funny actually to talk to someone else whos done that haha. anyways..... a pussy and your hand are TOTALLY different lol, unless you have a shit ton of hardcore lubricant on your hand.... the condom will more than likely come off.....
and in all honesty, im kind of at the point where a condom JUST fits me right, and it doesnt come off when i have sex. not even close actually.

and about lasting longer.... whew...... i could ask the same question....?

im 18 now.... started when i was 16... i still dont last long.... at least for the first time i cum..... like at the moment maybe a minute... no joke.< but as soon as i cum, i take off the condom, slip on another, and keep going. when i do that i last about 30 minutes.:s

and in all honesty, a girl could care less if you cum 10 times, if you can keep going, your all set

btw...... personal trick i do.... i always ask the girl to give me head first as soon as i cum, we make out for like 2 minutes or less, i throw on a condom and get to it haha.roflroflrofl

 

[StillHangin]

btw...... personal trick i do.... i always ask the girl to give me head first as soon as i cum, we make out for like 2 minutes or less, i throw on a condom and get to it haha.roflroflrofl

you have a girl give you head until you cum...and then you make out with her...something doesn't seem quite right here to me

 

[christiantwbath]

wtf in england having a wank with a condom is called a posh wank

 

[Breidablik]

It's funny that nobody ever recommend the BOMB in "lasting longer" threads. Chinese Brush Classic. That shit is a miracle! Unlike other desensitizer, this one really numb your most sensible areas (you could pinch yourself as hard as you can without feeling anything), and, as important, it's the only one that will not froze your girl's mouth/pussy, and wont wear off from stimulation (you can even wash your dick after the 2 hours mark without losing the effect); it's deep under the skin, as it takes 2 hours to do the job... it's not an "instant frozer" like all other bullshit (those will froze your girl and wear off from stimulation).

 

[quest]

im just amazed they dont have any pills similar to taking a painkiller...ejaculation wise

 

[benn9876]

YOU DONT NEED A PILL! i was worried about the same thing when i was still a virgin but when i first had sex i was surprised that i didnt blow my load as soon as i got it in. it sounds immature but if you masturbate frequently (once a day or two days) it will increase the amount of time you can go for.

 

[quest]

lol, iv been practicing to relax my PC. when you guys feel your pc muscle flexing and about to blow your load, what do you do to relax it again?
what do you think about when you have sex, maybe if i focus on somthin else, that will help

since theres no simple pills, i think i just might do a oxy cotton before my first time. i just have no idea what to expect, that will def calm my nerves though

 

[MAXAMEYES]

Coupla things I'd like to kick in here about for ya.

First, it doesn't matter how long you may last if she's not enjoying what you're doing. Don't be quite so concerned about quantity, learn how to go with the flow and enjoy the quality of the experience.
ESPenis EnlargementCIALLY if it's your first time!
One of the sexiest things about makin' love to a new gal is what I call "fit and rhytHydromax" ; every body is unique, to an extent, and exploring those delicious differences (ESPenis EnlargementCIALLY if it's your first time) is a large part of what brings the joy to sex.

Next : Just like the Kinks said, "Paranoia will destroy ya" (yeah: I'm that old) nervousness is an almost guarantee of a crappy time. Relax, relax, relax....and then relax some more. Lotsa times we (guys) get all caught up in the mechanics of sex and forget that it's a kind of elaborate dance...meaning that BOTH of you should be equal partners in learning what works and what doesn't. Don't focus on the destination: just enjoy the trip. And let nature work her wonder.

Last, as far as I've ever been able to figure, there's only three ways to get really good at anything:
1. Practice
2. Practice
3. Practice

So, if this is your first time, and especially if she knows it too, make a game out of playin' the game. Makin' love is nothin' if not a whole shitload of fun !! If it ain't, for either partner, for whatever reasons, then something is wrong or somebody's not taking the best approach to it.

Besides, you're 19 for Christ's sake! Even if you only last 30 seconds you can practice again in about another thirty seconds... for about two dozen times in one day !!

Oh, and did I mention: RELAX !!

Good luck !

 

[quest]

lol, thanks for all of your advice.

i am going to try an "relax" as much as possible, it will be very hard though.

and they key is relaxing your pc muscle right?

 

[Big Al]

Some quick fix solutions:

-Ejaculate before your date so that you last longer during your encounter.

-Look into thicker condoms or condoms with a numbing agent

For the long term, work on doing conditioning exercises like the "Stop and Start":

To begin, simply start by masturbating or if you are using a partner, begin having sex- an important note if you are using a partner- you must remain in full control while doing this exercise.

If your partner begins to move or tighten themselves up in any way, it will interfere with your concentration.

Proceed up until the point right before you ejaculate, THEN STOP! Rest a bit until you feel you are starting to lose your erection then proceed to start and stop two more times. AFTER the third time, you may ejaculate if you wish.

What you are doing with this exercise is building up endurance. As time goes by, your first sensation of ejaculation should take longer to achieve. It's important to try to practice this exercise everyday if you are having problems with premature ejaculation.

 

[DLD]

I could have sworn that I already posted this but I guess I was wrong.

Pre-Mature Ejaculation is something many men suffer with. I have found many different ideas in helping with this that I have included below. I do want to say that this problem will fade from simply doing my program. When most men, myself included, got familiar with manual penis enlargement exercise the problem just seems to fade. The reason this problem does go away is the constant stimulation of the exercises. This constant stimulus trains the penis to last longer and longer. In the mean time here are some great techniques. Some are my own techniques, others I found around the web.

Becoming in touch with your orgasm
There is a very fine line between cuming and about to cum. making this distinction is the first step in having more staying power.

Identify your brink of orgasm
You will want to identify the fine line that separates cuming from about to cum. During this period pay special attention to what brings you almost to orgasm. What are your thoughts? How long does it take to get there? Keep Track of this information for future reference. The goal here is to paint a mental picture of your orgasm and identify just what brings you to this brink and what you can do to stop it.

Breathing to Reduce Excitement
Simply taking a deep breath at the brink of orgasm is a very effective way to reduce your excitement level and reset your orgasm. It does not work for everyone but it is worth trying.

Breathing to Reset Orgasm
When you feel that you are getting too close to orgasm, just completely stop and take a deep breath. Give yourself a minute or two to reset your mental orgasm. Once you feel that you have reset this mental orgasm continue with the confidence that the physical orgasm is far off. You will find with practice this process will give you longer and longer periods of staying power. Eventually this mental reset will happen automatically with no pause.

The Squeeze Techniques
When you feel close to your orgasm completely stop, pull out, take a deep breath and apply one of these two squeezing methods. One method usually works better for men than the other so try them both.

BASE SQUEEZE:
at the brink of orgasm stop, take a deep breath. Using the OK grip squeeze the base of your penis and squeeze until the urge has faded.

UP SQUEEZE:
at the brink of orgasm stop, take a deep breath. Using the forefinger and thumb squeeze the top and bottom of your penis just below the glans until the urge to orgasm has faded.

DLD Push
The DLD Push is a technique to prolong orgasm and remain erect after orgasm. This method involved a hard reverse kegel right at the brink of orgasm. It takes some practice but once it is mastered 4-5 orgasms are possible.

Reverse Psychology
A great technique that seems to work very well for me is the Reverse Psychology method. Previously to having sex I convince myself that I am going to have problems ejaculation.

 

[Threak-X]

I could have sworn that I already posted this but I guess I was wrong.

You're not wrong ...
You actually posted it twice on 14.OCT.2007

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=137263&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=168721&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=206218&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=250151&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=282421&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=282409&postcount=2

 

[DLD]

You're not wrong ...
You actually posted it twice on 14.OCT.2007

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=137263&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=168721&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=206218&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=250151&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=282421&postcount=2
http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showpost.php?p=282409&postcount=2

Ganga Burns Brains

 

[Threak-X]

Ganga Burns Brains

At least you remember where to find it in order to post it again and again and again.

 

[DLD]

At least you remember where to find it in order to post it again and again and again.

I have a pretty good collection of text files, believe me.

 

[YoungMaster]

Hey all--first time poster here. Just want to offer my two cents:

The more sex you have, the better you get, and the more able you are to control yourself. Frequency counts--just like how more frequent Penis Enlargement'ing will probably make you grow more than less frequent. Talk to your partner and tell them you're trying to make it last longer and she should help you no probs.

Another tip I've personally always used is breathing. What happens when you start getting anxious? You start breathing very shallow and holding your breath. In fact, when I decide it's time to cum, I hold my breath! But when I take relaxed, drawn out exhales, I find I can go as hard and fast as I want--as long as I'm exhaling.

 

[Drjeckle]

Agreed, on both accounts, Youngmaster. Breath slow, steady and deep with your abdomen. Start the inhale from the bottom up; fill the top of your chest last and exhale in reverse order. Try breathing like this right now, and if you don't feel relaxed by doing this for 5 minutes eat some walnuts and meat, oats or wheat. This will cause you to relax.

Remember this is supposed to be fun and enjoyable, so the more you relax - the more you enjoy

 

[quest]

ok, i will try to relax.

thats funny how you talked about the DLD Push, because i actually do that, somtimes i try to do it the whole time while masturbating but its hard. thats why i asked if i should just try and relax my PC the whole time

 

[myprofit]

ok this may help you...have a nice sex ewith ya girlfriends