It's 15 years ago now, wdis clearly didn't want advice in the first place, and he may well be a completely different person even if he's still around. (For his sake I hope he is!) Having said that, the thread has already been resurrected. In light of that, I'll drop a quick 'n dirty response for posterity because this stuff is important. It's WAY more important than making your dick bigger. This is useful if you want to help people like wdis, OR if you find yourself talking, feeling, and thinking like wdis.
People offered wdis mostly surface technical advice like "here's a dating site" or "go out and talk to X women at the mall" or something... that's like putting fuzzy dice in a car that's rotting out underneath and thinking you've "fixed it up." Look, fuzzy dice are super badass and all, but the lack of them is not the pressing issue. The damn engine is stopped up with oil so ancient it's turned into paste! The brake lines rusted through years ago! Some doofus filled the gas tank with antifreeze! THE CAR IS ON FIRE!! Fuzzy dice are not the solution.
The MoS community is very encouraging and patient, and that was on full display in this thread... but sometimes people need a slap upside the fuckin head. PaloMalo came the closest with post 17, and then wisely disappeared.
alright so thats never gonna happen so lets just forget about me even asking.. Lets just drop this completely now.
Improving things is hard, and takes hard work. Forums like this tend to attract and congregate serious dudes, but MoS is not an accurate cross section of society. Most people who ask for help really just want validation. The above quote isn't that of a man who changed his mind after people spoke to him, it's that of a man who only wanted to complain in the first place.
After he makes it this clear, nobody should be trying to help anymore. You're going to die some day, and you need to spend your time wisely.
I'm pretty keep to myself my whole life now, I'm not a social body.. I dont have friends thats not how I am, i usually end up fighting them or just completely dissing them by turning my back on them.. I dont care for friends, I just want a girl, I'm being honest, all my girlfriends have come from being interduced, when I did have friends 2 years ago before i moved away..
So the answer is no, and I dont get women.. I get nothing.. and Its not that I dont want friends, its just friends turn they're back on you when least expect it.
No,
the people he attracted turned their backs on him, and chances are he
should have expected it. Or maybe he was just projecting, since he, in his own words, usually ended up fighting his friends or "completely dissing them by turning [his] back on them." Almost certainly both are true, since like attracts like.
If you find yourself surrounded by assholes... it might be you. If you don't even know what a real friend is like, then it's
most likely you. Good friends won't be friends with assholes.
The last time I tried of make friends is when I just moved here, I remember it, because I didn't have anyone to get herb from, so I finally found these people, and they're like yeah they can get it for me, so they did, the problem is they wanted to chill with me all the time, and smoke my weed, and waste my gas, and never pay for it, but "they were my friends" you see what I'm sayin, they tried to take advantage of me, and so I didn't exactly like that, and one day we were drivin down the street, and smoking my weed once again, I'm smart, I positioned my mirror to look exactly at this guys hands, and he actually had the nerve to steal from me, and ofcourse they ended up walkin home, and now no one likes me in my town anymore, I'm like public enemy number one, some friends.
You can find true friends who will hook you up with pot, but he wasn't looking for friends. Friendship takes effort, it's a two way street. Vipers will get you pot and pretend to be your friends just for the chance to take advantage of you, you don't
need to be a good friend to them! Just a doormat or a fellow parasite will do. He knowingly associated with vipers -- because by his own admission he didn't
want friends -- and then complained about the snakebites.
The guy wasn't even willing to seek out a genuine platonic relationship, and he asked why he couldn't have a romantic one. Notice I didn't say "he wondered why..." He probably knew damn well, even if only deep down. Well
of course he was
hanging out with thieves and mooches! Who else would hang out with a bitter whiner like that, crouched in his home and moaning about the world? (You guys wrote to him on a forum, that's not the same as bringing him into your actual lives). What would motivate someone to hang out with him, if
not the prospect of taking advantage of him?
This thread was the spirit of Cain on full display. Bitter, vengeful, self pity
needs to be called out. It might not help, because someone in wdis's situation also needs to actually want to improve their lot, but you can at least offer a swift kick in the ass.
btw, I have found a better site, it tells you pretty much everything,
How to Be a Player - Becomeaplayer.com
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Well good I'm glad he got that sorted. (fail)
I suffer with agoraphobia so it is practically impossible for me to go out. I work on it daily but unfortunately I still suffer
