Where the hell do I belong? Pt 1

Hey guys sorry I just really need to vent. I am feeling really low because well having no girls, shitty family life, no friends, no motivation, and so much other shit. I just really wish I had some friends. (all the ones I thought were friends either back stabbed me or dropped me for fucking bs reasons like talking to a girl a friend liked on the net) The girls thing, well their head games there so fucking numerous and of course that stupid stereotype is above me.( I tried the advice said in my intro thread about saying something about proving that it was just a stereotype and I got laughed at) I have been a seriously depressed kid since I was 6 and well I have had that feeling of wanting to die for a really long time.

I have seen alot of psychiatrists about everything I went through and all I get is "you'll grow out of it" or get offered to be put on those pills. (I never benefited from them 6-8 varieties I tried) I also worry that my 6.5 inches isn't good enough for the girls of my generation because it seems like every girl has had an 8-10 (even the decent ones) and even a girl who said she had an 18.(which she measured) I am seriously feeling like shit because I think that if I really did get a gf that she would cheat on me to be with the 8's or higher if I wasn't good in bed. Or the ultimate worst she has an unknown double life while "going out" with me. Because of all this crap I lost my sex drive for a freaking 19 yr old it seems very fucked up . My doctor told me he doesn't know what it could be because my test results came back completely normal.

Anyway thats a start of what my life is like.

Sorry to hear that man. Wishing won't do you any good, you have to take action. It's your choice to stay in this situation or try to change. You want friends, start talking to people, find those with similar interests, join clubs, etc. About dying, that's inevitable, so I suggest you make the most of your time. Think about looking back on this time when you're old and being pissed about wasting the prime of your life.

So you're not horse hung, so what? Truth seems to be most people don't estimate size well, and guys with a 6" call it 8". You're above average according to the studies. :hammer: 18" think that over for a second, you'd have a stroke before you got it up. I'm guessing centimeters.

Don't take relationships so seriously. If you want a girlfriend try, but don't build yourself up like this is going to be "the one". Relationships come and go. Relax, date, have fun. If one makes fun of your size, find someone better, they know how hurtful that is.

Some good advice is here http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2633

Find what you enjoy, persue it.

Hey thanks for the response Kraft ( I know a little late :s) Wow I can't believe how big of a change I made just by leaving my hometown and forgetting about the past I never knew I was that badly depressed now that I read my first posts. Anyway thanks to the guys who answered back during that tough time u guys are the best

Cheer up. When you least expect it some girl will come along. 6.5 nothing to be down about. I'd take that if I need to Penis Enlargement another six months for it. Oh and stop believing what girls tell you about size. Girls that talk about dick are drama queens usually.

ya I know againstallodds I was just saying looking back from what I was before and what I am now I made a 360 turn from that guy that posted before

Cool, nice to hear you made a change and things are better.

kdogg101 said:

ya I know againstallodds I was just saying looking back from what I was before and what I am now I made a 360 turn from that guy that posted before

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Good, good.

kdogg101 said:

ya I know againstallodds I was just saying looking back from what I was before and what I am now I made a 360 turn from that guy that posted before

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That's great to hear, man! It sounds like you've found your place in life.
I've been in a similar situation (well, at least partly similar), where I just didn't feel like doing anything and felt incredibly depressed and alone, back when I was a teenager. I'm still wrestling with a lot of issues, but at least I've found one thing that has had an enormously positive impact on my whole persona and motivation in all areas: bodybuilding. I can safely say it has been a lifesaver for me. I would probably be six feet under if I had continued on the track I was headed at one point, and getting serious about bodybuilding helped me get one foot back out of the grave.

About girls and their estimation of sizes: next time some bitch claims she's been with an 18 incher, you can spit in her face for both our sakes. The biggest dick EVER (accurately measured by dick measuring experts :D) was just over 13", and if I recall correctly, the guy who had it had at least some degree of erectile dysfunction (a dick that size simply isn't going to be effectively filled with blood). 18 inchers don't exist in humans, period. Even 8 inchers are very rare. Statistically speaking, a girl will have to sleep with a helluva lotta different men before she comes across one. You have no reason to beat yourself up about having 6.5", which is actually above average to begin with, as was mentioned already in this thread by someone.

Sometimes a dose of reality can help too. YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You dont need a bigger penis, friends, or a woman in your life to make you happy. If you do, thats a sign of another internal weakness that needs dealing with. If you cant be happy without other people, or other things to make you feel good, you need to work on yourself.

Once again man it's easy to point as someone and say grow up pussy when you yourself have a big dick, and are inshape. Maybe Kdogg just has a complex. Most poeple on this forum have a personal image complex of some sort, mainly where they feel they need a jacked body and a big dick to feel secure about themselvs. There's a lot of pressure from media and thinks we watch to have this so I dont blame most of us. Tactics of calling people a pussy and to grow up arn't exactly the best ones to help someone out. You did bring up good points about happyness, but maybe for some of us having a big dick is what will make us happy , or having a friend etc. You cant just be happy with yourself. You might be able to fool yourself into it , but then thats even worse down the road. Try and be a little more considerate bro.

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Once again man it's easy to point as someone and say grow up pussy when you yourself have a big dick, and are inshape. Maybe Kdogg just has a complex. Most poeple on this forum have a personal image complex of some sort, mainly where they feel they need a jacked body and a big dick to feel secure about themselvs. There's a lot of pressure from media and thinks we watch to have this so I dont blame most of us. Tactics of calling people a pussy and to grow up arn't exactly the best ones to help someone out. You did bring up good points about happyness, but maybe for some of us having a big dick is what will make us happy , or having a friend etc. You cant just be happy with yourself. You might be able to fool yourself into it , but then thats even worse down the road. Try and be a little more considerate bro.

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You mean to tell me you have never made a post that was even remotely rude?

Im sure I have and Im sure other people flamed me for it, so now its my turn ;P

Most people just need to get off the weenie wagon and grow up. I feel qualified to talk, because I've "been there, done that". Nevermind the guys who've always had it great. The ones blessed with 6 pack abs, big cocks and a silverspoon in their ass. I've worked my tail off for my wang size that I have. I've put forth the discipline and effort to be lean and toned like I want to be. I've taken the time to read self help books to get me over issues from my youth, and past relationships and times where I felt the only option I had was a 12 guage in my mouth. If a bigger penis is the only thing in the "world" that will make some random guy happy, he's got more complex issues that he needs help with from some more qualified source than a Penis Enlargement forum.

It is easier to live life with scapegoats though isnt it? "My mom was a bitch" "I was born with a bad metabolism" "My Dad had a small wang, so that's why I've got one", "I was born in the ghetto, so I've got no choices in life", I could go on literally for an hour with the excuses people make for themselves.

Sure, there are a few qualified nutcases and or completely helpless people out there ever once in a great while. Then again, back to my point. If their issues are THAT bad, the need to be seeking qualified professional help rather than asking for help from some random group of mixed sexuality men, who may have just as many issues as they have.

You've probably never heard the saying that goes something along the line of "Never ask the beggar how to become a millionaire" In other words, dont go seeking advice from someone in as bad shape, or worse off than you.

Most people can change who they are despite how helpless they might feel at any given point in their life. Cheer up and quit acting like victims guys. Feeling singled out by my reply is taking on a victim mindset by the way.

Your a piece of work Still, great job.

You started at 5x5 and now you are 7x6 pretty much with solid progress pictures throughout. Now that is something a newbie can look at and know Penis Enlargement works. Too bad the "Titans" as they call themselves couldn't have taken the same amount of time with progression.

How many years did it take you to get to where you are?

Good topic as well and sorry for getting off track.

I've been at this stuff VERY off and on for about 6 years now. If I had to guestimate though, it would probably be closer to an actual total time of closer to 3 years, just stretched out over the 6 years.

18 inches? Dang! Not to depress you or anything, but these chicks you have been with seem to have a thing for large farm animals. I guess it is hard for us guys to compete with Mr. Ed now isn't it.

As to your depression, it sounds like you are in that part of your life where you don't have a bunch of people in your life taking up all your time so that you can be fat, dumb, and happy. Consider that a good thing in a way, as you now have plenty of time to make your own life a priority in terms of your health, your intelligence, and all the little things that add up to making it so that you don't need friends who you need to depend on, but rather people in your life are an added bonus, not a necessity.

And even though this might not be a popular thing to say on this board, as far as women go they are accountable to who they had relationships with in the past and how they conducted themselves, just as most women prefer guys who don't have a prison record, a mountain of debt, and a bunch of STD's. Women shouldn't have too many notches in their bedpost or else they are basically just slut material and you should move on. That is just the way it is. Most guys are not comfortable in relationships with women who have outscored them by significant numbers, not just because of the competitive nature of men versus women, but because guys don't want to have to compete with the past if they are going to emotionally open up to another woman.

If you think a woman is a slut then dump her and move on before you do more damage to each other. There is such a thing as used goods, and if you are the kind of guy who is willing to buy a used car from a shady used car salesman, then you are probably the kind of guy who is willing to forgive all of your girlfriend's past transgressions at the expense of your own true feelings on the matter.

Sluts should be stuck with cads and people who take relationships seriously should be with each other. Some people are simply not cut out for relationships, and you just need to avoid them at all costs, before you do something stupid like marry one of them and then find their lack of monogamy ruining your life in far worse ways.

Anyways, don't let bad people make you hate all people. There are good people out there, you just need to hang out with people who are not total self-centered flakes and before you know it you will have more friends than you know what to do with.

wow so much response to my vent when life was not at all fun anyway looks like a good discussion is going on here between franchise and SWM. But anyway I dropped all contact with that girl. She was a on-line personals ho not worth the time or effort. I myself found that life changes when you change your surroundings. Life back then had the aspects of caring about what people thought of me, depression, those pills, doctors, counselors,physicists, hopeless, and lots more other aspects. I considered myself the victim also but then made the changes to get away from the hometown of hell. Also now I don't believe alot of those "huge" stories because of those odds that Kong was saying in a thread and that girls aren't good when it comes to interpreting true size :s (no offense to the girl posters here) Life is much better than before and thanks to the guys who had the encouraging words you rock :cool:.

PS. shafty I am looking into getting into the gym just wondering if you could you help me out with a routine?

Kdogg, sure thing! I'd recommend you start here and read up on different workout programs and specific exercises:

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/workout.htm

I'm usually the most vocal advocate for HST (hypertrophy specific training) on these forums, but I'd generally recommend to anyone who is just getting into the lifting game to first familiarize himself with a more simple layout before getting into the hard core science behind muscle growth, which HST is all about (there is a lot of confusing terminology to digest, so it's better to start with something more simple to avoid getting overwhelmed).

If you can't find anything that sounds good on the bbuilding site, or if there seem to be too many to choose from, you can always hit me up with a PM, and I'll see what I can do to help.

Bodybuilding, or even recreational lifting (as long as you're eating at least somewhat correctly) are one of the best things you can do for yourself. One might imagine such a practice to be very strenuous and energy consuming, but it actually gives you more energy. You feel stronger and healthier, both in mind and in body, so I'd definitely recommend you start up on it.

kdogg101 said:

I also worry that my 6.5 inches isn't good enough for the girls of my generation because it seems like every girl has had an 8-10 (even the decent ones) and even a girl who said she had an 18.(which she measured)

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Here is kinda the philosophy I've adopted, if possible: Never sleep with the same woman twice. Admittedly, I once violated this rule, but she came along before it was formulated. The thinking behind it is what would you care how good you were or how big you were if you don't plan on seeing her again? See my point?

The reality is I really feel too old to get married at this point, so monogamy doesn't seem worth it to me. Why go through the shit of worrying about how you stack up compared to her other partners? Learn to view most women as nothing more than a piece of meat. That is not to say I don't care about any of them. I do have a few women I care about and I would probably never sleep with them. I try to live by the words of Snoop Dogg "Cause she ain't nothing but a bitch to me, and you all know that bitches ain't shit to me". Hope that might help.