Quit being such a pussy!

I know this will fall on mostly deaf ears, but here goes anyway. There seems to be a plethora (sorry its my new favorite word for "vast number") of men these days mostly ages 18-40 with some serious "whoa is me" issues. I'm talking about grown men who are acting like total pussies. Men who act like they need someone else to think highly of them in order to feel good about themselves. Men who act like if they dont have a girlfriend, or friends that makes them less of a man somehow. You are your own person. You do not need the approval of others to make you a man. You dont need to have friends or be popular either. You also dont need a woman, cum recepticle, "bitch", piece o' ass, ho whatever youre comfortable with calling her. Your happiness starts with YOU. If youre not happy for whatever the reason with who you are as a person, how the hell do you expect to be able to make anyone else happy? You cant. That's the bottomline. Happiness will not rub off on you, you will not absorb it via osmosis from other people either. You might feel happy around others, but it's only temporary and soon fades when youre alone again. Youre not a unique individual who has suffered more than anyone else in life. So quit feeling that way. Most people go through similar things in life, and they deal with it.

So how do you become happier about who you are? That's up to you really. I'm no psychologist but there are some very good books out there written by people who had it a LOT harder than you ever thought of having it in life, and persevered anyway. Get your lonely depressed ass down to a bookstore. Look in the "Self Help" section. Anthony Robbins is a great place to start. Pick up anything by that guy. If youre one of these nut jobs that likes to crank up the Slipknot and beat his head against the wall, get rid of the Slipknot cd, and get some Hatebreed. Much better message coming from those guys.

Thats it. The point here is, you can be happy no matter what your circumstances are. That's totally up to you. Not other people.

Excellent post SWM! Below is a Poem which Sums up what you just said:

Man In the Mirror

If you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what the Man has to say

For it isn't a man's father, mother or wife
Whose judgment upon him must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in his life
Is the man staring back from the glass

He's the fellow to please, never mind all the rest
For he's with you clear up to the end
And you've passed your most dangerous,
difficult test If the Man in the glass is your friend

You can fool the whole world down the
pathway of years and get pats on the back
as you pass but your final reward will be
heartache and tears If you've cheated
The Man in the glass.

(Apparently the origin of the poem is by an Inmate whom inscribed it on his cell wall the night before he was to be executed)

LOL

What a post. Im sure you could have gone into greater detail but that might make you look bad to the rest of the "Pussies" here since you are a MOD.

Like I have said before, for a Penis Enlargement forum there seems to be a lot of Estrogen in the air. Glad to see someone else was getting annoyed with the posts of "I have no friends boo whoo whooo".

Nice vent swm. I agree with your points.

besides guys with the most self confidence get the most booty anyways. now that should be motivation.

loco said:

besides guys with the most self confidence get the most booty anyways. now that should be motivation.

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Thing is though you dont even need much confidence to get "booty".

Good points, guys. You can really program, (kind of like self-talk), your mind to be as positive as you want to be. Read the self-help books recommended here. Avoid negative people and music. You can set out to have a good, fulfilling day or a shitty one--it's up to you. And you can always start your day over if the shit hits the fan.

As long as you're looking outside of yourself to fill the emptiness, whether it's in another person, sex, ����, or substances of any kind, it just ain't gonna happen. And StillWantMore is right. We all have these "holes in our souls." Sooooo?? That's the human condition. Make the most of it.

In the final analysis YOU'RE the person you're spending the rest of your life with. So you better start working on developing a relationship with yourself.

You can really change your outlook and then some of the things you're searching for and want so badly will come to you--they'll be drawn to you.

There's such a thing as wanting something or someone too much. You have to let these things go. Then they'll come to you if it's meant to be. Otherwise you're just beating against a brick wall.

Look at DLD. He's a wonderful example of positive thinking and actions.

Good points there man. NOBODY is born a negative person. We're a direct result of shaping factors as we grow up. Outside influences, and how we take these influences into our minds and let them impact us. I'm not about to agree with the whole "he's a victim of his upbringing...no wonder he's a rapist or a murderer" side of the argument though like you see these so called "experts" spewing on various talk shows. Yes, we're all a direct result of outside influences in our lives as we grew up, however we are still in control of our minds and circumstances under most situations. You can still change who you are if you truly desire to. :cool:

Im gonna go ahead and be the one against this. I think people should feel free to come on this board and post about how they dont have any friends or girlfriends or whatever. Sometimes people just need to vent about those kind of things and ask for advice. Id like to think of MOS of more of a family type place, brotherhood. Rather than what was posted in this thread. SWM theres a lot of people that have chemical imbalances as well as other things that make them sad. While I agree with you happyness does come from being happy with yourself , I still think it's a bit harsh to alienate some poeple like that with your post.

thefranchise said:

Im gonna go ahead and be the one against this. I think people should feel free to come on this board and post about how they dont have any friends or girlfriends or whatever. Sometimes people just need to vent about those kind of things and ask for advice. Id like to think of MOS of more of a family type place, brotherhood. Rather than what was posted in this thread. SWM theres a lot of people that have chemical imbalances as well as other things that make them sad. While I agree with you happyness does come from being happy with yourself , I still think it's a bit harsh to alienate some poeple like that with your post.

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If you read everything I wrote, I did mention extreme cases. That generally includes head cases and people with chemical imbalances. As I said here: however we are still in control of our minds and circumstances under most situations.

Yeah you can be in control of your mind, but still theres a lot of stuff burried in your subconcious. A lot of stuff deep in your head that's hard to control. What person with no friends or a girl is happy anyways?

Still I think this is one of your best threads ever, makes alot of sense.
Have you started Pychology by anychance? it was that good.

Ha ha no Red, but thanks anyway.

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Yeah you can be in control of your mind, but still theres a lot of stuff burried in your subconcious. A lot of stuff deep in your head that's hard to control. What person with no friends or a girl is happy anyways?

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I'm happy with myself as a person. Sure, there's always room for improvement, but I dont go putting myself down because I may not be the most popular guy in town. While I enjoy the company of a woman, and do hope to someday marry one, I dont need a woman to make me complete or more of a man. That's the main point I was trying to make here. A guy can be a complete person, and happy without having a bunch of friends, or been viewed as "popular", or having a girlfriend.

I think it's good to be able to "vent" on a forum like this too. This can be very positive and healthy. But if you find yourself constantly "venting," then you need to take an action. "Move a muscle; change a thought." This is a great saying.

stillwantmore said:

I'm happy with myself as a person. Sure, there's always room for improvement, but I don't go putting myself down because I may not be the most popular guy in town. While I enjoy the company of a woman, and do hope to someday marry one, I don't need a woman to make me complete or more of a man. That's the main point I was trying to make here. A guy can be a complete person, and happy without having a bunch of friends, or been viewed as "popular", or having a girlfriend.

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SWM lets ask some questions here. Would you be happy living a life of isolation with racism, emotional, physical (abuse as a child), living through 13 yrs of going through that day in and day out? Also being threatened to have your ass kicked or dead if you talk to a girl in your hometown? Also never having friends in your life for 13 yrs and sitting at home every weekend would that not make you change your thoughts about the stuff you said in this post? There is threshold of how much a person can take before you feel like throwing in the towel and I know this from living through this kinda crap what that is like. I respect the people who come out of these kind of circumstances without turning into an alcoholic or drug addict and I wouldn't call them a pussy. I believe also that you have to have experienced that kind of life to understand what it is like( not sure if you have but the way you are talking it doesn't look like it) Thats my 2cents about this topic.

One thing I've noticed about these people who are the first to voice their dissent at someone venting about his emotional/spiritual/mental anguish is that they all seem to have an inability to step into the other person's shoes. Pain is a very subjective experience, and the degree to which one suffers from it cannot be judged or belittled by others. Some people are more sensitive to life's hardships than others. These people probably also feel the highs of life much more deeply than their "hardass", real macho and emotionally dead peers. Of course there are the occasional whiny teenagers whose pain stems from superficial sources, but I think most people who still carry their pain with them as adults have experienced some degree of trauma as a child, whether it's something they can remember, or something from when they were little, still embedded in their subconscious minds. One could argue that for these people it's not a good idea to come to a Penis Enlargement forum which is already filled to the brim with folks trying to get a quick fix for their deeply rooted problems via getting a bigger dick, and that they should turn to professional help, but the way I see it, if they can get anything off their chest and make themselves feel better, even if it's on an internet forum, then there is no harm in that. Maybe that person can't bring himself to see a shrink for whatever reason at that time in his life, and maybe he doesn't have anyone to spill his guts out to (friends or family). One more thing: no one is forcing anyone to read these threads (besides, it's not like there are enough of threads like these to clutter up the forums.... if that were the case, I might feel the same, but it ain't). I see tons of topics and posters that piss me off, but I don't make a point out of stepping in and putting them in their place, when it is not my position to do so. The same applies here.

kdogg101 said:

SWM lets ask some questions here. Would you be happy living a life of isolation with racism, emotional, physical (abuse as a child), living through 13 yrs of going through that day in and day out? Also being threatened to have your ass kicked or dead if you talk to a girl in your hometown? Also never having friends in your life for 13 yrs and sitting at home every weekend would that not make you change your thoughts about the stuff you said in this post? There is threshold of how much a person can take before you feel like throwing in the towel and I know this from living through this kinda crap what that is like. I respect the people who come out of these kind of circumstances without turning into an alcoholic or drug addict and I wouldn't call them a pussy. I believe also that you have to have experienced that kind of life to understand what it is like( not sure if you have but the way you are talking it doesn't look like it) Thats my 2cents about this topic.

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So, what are you doing then to change your circumstances and or surroundings? We all come from different backgrounds. You still have the power to shape how you ultimately end up however. I grew up in an emotionally abusive single parent household myself. My mom raised me the best she could. I saw boyfriends come and go, my mom drinking herself sick some nights. I've been the geek, the outcast, the kid who got picked on by the black kids, the guy who couldnt get a date till his senior year in high school, I've had my share of ups and downs. I chose not to be a victim though and let my PAST determine who I ended up being. I could have grown up a skinhead, an alcoholic, someone who abused others, a loner, or all of those if I'd chosen to. Sometimes it takes a really good look in the mirror, and a determining of what you are willing to accept in your life and no longer willing to accept.

Not counting the mentally disabled, legitimate head cases who actually need drugs to fix whats wrong, or the unfortunate souls in third world countries with no opportunity, if you have the blessing of being born in a free country, you can end up where you chose in your life.

On a side note, notice how I did not say "Hey kdogg" (or whoever else) quit being such a pussy. This post is a general address to a generic crowd. Whether that crowd consists of existing forum members, newbies, lurkers or whoever.

And personally to Kdogg, if youre taking positive steps in your own life...no matter how small they may seem...as long as youre taking them in order to change whatever you may be unhappy with, or to help heal whatever emotional pains you may be holding onto from the past, I SALUTE you. Youre one of the minority these days who will seek out their inner strengths to find themself, and make the kind of life they feel they deserve.

The journey to the top of the shit heap starts within one's self!Look at yourself, and discard what is crap, and work on what needs to be worked on, always moving forward!!If you do this, you will make it to the top!!Now just do it!!!

Girthius