Quit being such a pussy!

SWM, I agree with your original post. Happiness is up to the individual.

In relation to what kdogg said about certain people being persecuted, I believe that no matter what is done to you or no matter what your situation, you are still the only one that is responsible, and as a result, potentially in control of your emotions.

As I grew up my family split up. I ended looking after my mother, that is a violent alcoholic, at the age of 9. I also had severe psoriasis ( a skin condition ) from the ages of 11 to 20 and ended up in hospital 5 times and was bullied in school very badly. My mum went into rehab when I was 15 and whilst she was there and I was living on my own a local psycho came round my house and beat me up with a base ball bat. He also smashed up my house and stole various things. This ,for some reason, I still feel responsible for. This kind of thing is ongoing in my life e.g. my dad is now having his first child with his new family.

The point in me writing this is not for sympathy as I fully realize that this kind of thing happens to almost everyone, it is so that you don't just think that I have my opinions due to the fact that I have had it easy. The difference with some people is the way that they deal with it. It is in my opinion within everyones ability to control their thoughts and feelings. As an example, think of the Tibetan monks that were tortured for years after the Chinese invasion. In fact they were tortured for decades, all the way to their deaths but at all times they remained in control of their thoughts and as a result....happy.

Admittedly this is an extreme example that would require serious dedication but everyone can apply the same focused control over themselves. It is a trend in the modern world for men and women to fill certain voids in their character with other people in the form of relationships. It is in my opinion these kinds of relationship that are destructive ones because if you are not entirely ok in yourself then how is it possible for you to be so with anyone else? It is not and the problem that was inside you will simply become a problem in the relationship.

That said I also believe that it is good to talk through problems. So it is also a good thing for people that are 'down' to share this. For the record, the company that I enjoy the most is my own although it is important to be close to others.

By the way I watched a show last night on the "Spike TV" channel hosted by the awesome Samuel Jackson called "Martial Arts in Movies" or something very close to that. There was plenty of discussion as well as some recorded tv interviews of Bruce Lee. I felt like he made a great quote:
Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend.

Life is very much like a game of poker in that, everybody is dealt a different set of cards and you do the BEST with the cards that YOU were dealt. I see SWM's point with the original post and I do think that many people are unhappy because they get caught up worrying about everybody else and how much better THEY have it when if they spent that time and enengy on themselves in a positive manner, they could be that much better off.

This is a good thread, but sometimes you're just dealt a shitty hand. Sometimes you're holding around a 14 or so against the dealer's face card of an ace and, statistically, you're as well to surrender as to play out the hand.

I find myself very depressed, angry, and to be honest with you lonely too. That is just because I've had a couple of my closest friends leave my life through things like a job move and marriage. I am 30 years old and the highlight of my week is usually hitting the local Blockbuster and watching movies on Saturday night...by myself. The girl thing is bad enough, but doesn't bother me too bad (I've never had a girlfriend, so I'm used to it). However, when you lose some of your closest guy friends, it can really be devastating. It is not a matter of me being a pussy, but it does suck. I rarely talk about it to anyone. I don't rely on others to have self-worth. I have no illusions about what I'm worth. I'm not worth very much at all and that has to do a lot with decisions I made years ago. Financially, I'm damn-near crippled. Physically, I've had many ailments spring up the last couple of years. The problem is I just don't really see life getting much better for me. I can't really see how I can drastically improve my situation. I can't afford to go back to school right now, and if I could it would be a huge undertaking. I really sometimes think I've peaked in life. In an odd sense, sometimes I think I could die in peace now, because I just don't see it getting too much better. I don't bellyache about it. This is probably the most complaining I've really done. Usually, I try and laugh about it sometimes, shaking my head at how I fucked up at some point or another.

stillwantmore said:

If youre one of these nut jobs that likes to crank up the Slipknot and beat his head against the wall, get rid of the Slipknot cd, and get some Hatebreed. Much better message coming from those guys.

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Fuck that Slipknot is way better.
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KiTTie8695 said:

Fuck that Slipknot is way better.
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Does Before I forget rock or what? Hell yeah!

penguinsfan said:

Does Before I forget rock or what? Hell yeah!

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MHydromax

bwahaha

I used to listen to slipknot alot but they still rule(Y) anyway in response to SWM I moved away from my town, got more sociable, got accepted at a college in a city instead of a small town, dropped all the downers, dropped the party group, started talking more to girls, don't talk as much to mom or dad,and pretty much dropped all the people that were getting me down. Today I am not depressed. I use the experience I have to help others so they don't throw in the towel. I am happy I changed not like one of the downers I used to hang with who just bitched about getting away from his parents and the town. SWM your right about the thread not being personalized for me but thanks for the suggestions you made before. Also that quote on SpikeTV was very inspirational.

Yeah. Seeing how I'm not a guy in this situation, but whatever, I haven't been depressed for a long while now, I've turned over a new leaf I think and took a turn for the best.
And I'm hyperactive as a muttha fucka but that's just usual for me anyways.
lol

I also have to agree with thefranchise on what he said. It makes sense, honestly.

and to SWM, that's a good message, I suppose, for guys only, anyway.
but I thought you loved Slipknot. Or maybe I'm mistaken...people must change or somethin.

I still like slipnot sili.

Wow okay, my bad then.
You just made it sound like they sucked.

Girthius said:

The journey to the top of the shit heap starts within one's self!Look at yourself, and discard what is crap, and work on what needs to be worked on, always moving forward!!If you do this, you will make it to the top!!Now just do it!!!

Girthius

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All good advice, except for the "journey to the top of the shit heap" part.
Step away from the "shit heap" and make your own journey.

OR, you could just do like a lot of folks do and say "whoa is me", throw in the towel, play a victim and expect everyone to cater to you the rest of your life.

penis waffle.

stumpy said:

All good advice, except for the "journey to the top of the shit heap" part.
Step away from the "shit heap" and make your own journey.

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The "shit heap" refers to all that is bad in the life of a person that is having problems.To get away from it you must climb to the top, so as not to be buried by it!You can not expect to run away from it or to try to start another journey down another path.Many of the problems a person may encounter in life, are within, and will not be resolved, until that person takes a long look at himself, so running away is not an option!!!.Of course if you are one of the lucky ones, and you are setting on a huge heap of roses, then you have nothing to worry about, and life is a dottle!But that is a rariety, as life is very challenging and tough for most folk!Through the endless struggles of life, many lessons can be learnt, but if not etched in the mind, will be repeated many times!So learn, progress, and move forward!

Girthius

stillwantmore said:

If youre one of these nut jobs that likes to crank up the Slipknot and beat his head against the wall, get rid of the Slipknot cd, and get some Hatebreed. Much better message coming from those guys.

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This I totally disagree with. I listen to Slipknot a lot, and they have a very good message if you're willing to discern it. You can't expect them to just throw it at you, though. Sometimes it takes a little effort to see what a band is saying. Especially their new CD, The Subliminal Verses, I think it was a much better message than their other two. People always tell me I wouldn't be so angry/depressed if I listened to different music, but for me, this music helps me channel my anger into something other than violence/self-mutilation (Yes, I used to be a cutter). I don't think there's a single thing that can drive a person to depression/anger, it's a culmination of things. The music you listen to can only make you hate yourself if the seeds of it are already there. I once tried listening to classical music for a month, and I was angrier that month than I have ever been. When I went back to Slipknot/Nightwish/Disturbed, I calmed down a lot.

On everything else you said, SWM, I agree though :s

For the record, Disturbed is some good shit.

penguinsfan said:

For the record, Disturbed is some good shit.

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Right on, brotha :rocker:

Andithilion said:

This I totally disagree with. I listen to Slipknot a lot, and they have a very good message if you're willing to discern it. You can't expect them to just throw it at you, though. Sometimes it takes a little effort to see what a band is saying. Especially their new CD, The Subliminal Verses, I think it was a much better message than their other two. People always tell me I wouldn't be so angry/depressed if I listened to different music, but for me, this music helps me channel my anger into something other than violence/self-mutilation (Yes, I used to be a cutter). I don't think there's a single thing that can drive a person to depression/anger, it's a culmination of things. The music you listen to can only make you hate yourself if the seeds of it are already there. I once tried listening to classical music for a month, and I was angrier that month than I have ever been. When I went back to Slipknot/Nightwish/Disturbed, I calmed down a lot.

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I couldn't agree with you more on that, I also use Slipknot's music to relax, yeah it sounds weird to A LOT of people, but really I'm not an angry person unless provoked or whatever. I just love the messages they send out. System Of A Down has some GREAT stuff in their songs too, like Chop Suey! that's one of my favorites because they're talking about how Jesus was tortured on the cross and they yell out the last words he spoke before he died.

White trash bullshit music.