how to date when youre boring as hell

shortdick;698784 said:

PEers and our strange lives...but is true who wants someone asking where you at,what are you doing,and that kind of stuff..

But it may be a sign that she cares ...who knows lol.Or she just want to control the whole thing..

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She cant handle the whole thing bra, I'm gonna give her just the glance. Ill probably just ball tap her or something

I'm in the very same boat, a little older and don't know what to do (I hardly even post here so talk about anti-social). Without being in school, we have no "forced" social bubble, and the only one that comes close could be the workplace but possibly dating someone you work with or around could be an issue. I've been in my area for years and still have ZERO friends, and have only gone on 1 date with someone I ended up not being very attracted to so I ended it fast because I didn't want to lead her on. Also making it worse is I am separated and have that hanging around even though I have only been with two partners.

Honestly I see things will not happen unless I put the effort into making them. However I guess I'm just not "thirsty" enough to do the whole adult or man "grind" whereby everything is a bit contrived in order to get what I want.

People like us have to put ourselves out there, especially with females. Unfortunately doing so will put you into the meat grinder with every other guy and I'm sure females will see it from a mile away.

So other than college at this point or work there are:

Bars (no thank you)
Malls
Library or bookstores
Starbucks
Clubs
Parks with recreation like tracks where females might walk their little doggies
Beaches (meat grinder)
Online dating (joke mostly)

However if you have no other reason for visiting these places other than just trying to find a date you will probably not do it, as it is really a lifestyle choice before that which is something I just cannot change it seems.

Juggers;701428 said:

Bars (no thank you)
Malls
Library or bookstores
Starbucks
Clubs
Parks with recreation like tracks where females might walk their little doggies
Beaches (meat grinder)
Online dating (joke mostly)

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AHHHH, The Spoils of celibacy

well we all have dealt whit that stuff and the girls i have met they have basically looked for something..

But i couldnt care at all...

doublelongdaddy;701432 said:

AHHHH, The Spoils of celibacy

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I'ts been 8 months and no release, even with PE can you believe it?

At this point PE is just an insurance policy in case something ever happens again, but I need better motivation, a better reason brother help!

Go to the gym and start a 3x a week strength training routine. Take progress pictures every week because beginner gains come quick when youre doing a squat centric workout (that includes the deadlift, maybe not every workout).

The bar scene is not for everyone but online dating is a medium people are becoming more and more confident with. Post pictures of you doing exciting things, travel or working in the yard with your shirt off (this is where the strength training works). Women respond better to pictures taken off you, not selfies (so shirtless selfies will make you look stupid). I've met plenty of girls at my gym, and even while volunteering for various events.

I met my current girlfriend through an online platform, it has been a year and we live together now. Work on you, and the best things in life happen when you least expect it but never stop working on yourself.

An older man that takes care of his body and life is very attractive to women looking to settle down or date on the long term so take advantage of it.

Juggers;701498 said:

I'ts been 8 months and no release, even with PE can you believe it?

At this point PE is just an insurance policy in case something ever happens again, but I need better motivation, a better reason brother help!

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For me it is close to 9 years (excluding 2 awful episodes). I have found so much peace and freedom being single. I have learned to live with myself, accept myself and even love myself at times (through THE LORD). I think every man needs to learn to do this. I am not saying celibacy I am saying living alone. Masturbation is just fine for me and that is a very short part of my day. The remainder is spent doing what I love to do, helping out in the Brotherhood.

Question; Are you saying you have not had an orgasm for 8 months?

doublelongdaddy;701507 said:

For me it is close to 9 years (excluding 2 awful episodes). I have found so much peace and freedom being single. I have learned to live with myself, accept myself and even love myself at times (through THE LORD). I think every man needs to learn to do this. I am not saying celibacy I am saying living alone. Masturbation is just fine for me and that is a very short part of my day. The remainder is spent doing what I love to do, helping out in the Brotherhood.

Question; Are you saying you have not had an orgasm for 8 months?

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I only edge a bit and have had those small orgasms you get from that, but not a real full release. It started when I brokeup with my girlfriend, and I figured I would try to abstain from that when I started PE again. Sadly however I am very prone to blisters while hanging and it has really made my routines inconsistent whenever I get one.

Unfortunately for me I have lost my faith and no longer have peace of mind, suppose I am trying to find that in a female. He truly was/is the Prince of Peace come to think of it.

doublelongdaddy;701507 said:

For me it is close to 9 years (excluding 2 awful episodes). I have found so much peace and freedom being single. I have learned to live with myself, accept myself and even love myself at times (through THE LORD). I think every man needs to learn to do this. I am not saying celibacy I am saying living alone. Masturbation is just fine for me and that is a very short part of my day. The remainder is spent doing what I love to do, helping out in the Brotherhood.

Question; Are you saying you have not had an orgasm for 8 months?

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A peaceful mind.

LONGERDICK7+;701527 said:

A peaceful mind.

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Indeed, a peaceful mind!


Juggers, it is not a good idea to eliminate orgasm's. You should allow yourself at least 1 shot a week.

doublelongdaddy;701596 said:

Indeed, a peaceful mind!


Juggers, it is not a good idea to eliminate orgasm's. You should allow yourself at least 1 shot a week.

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I am about to do this...had a few small spurts the other day and it almost felt wrong. Interesting how one feels when they try to maintain control over something for so long and then lets go just a little.

Juggers;701653 said:

I am about to do this...had a few small spurts the other day and it almost felt wrong. Interesting how one feels when they try to maintain control over something for so long and then lets go just a little.

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I understand and it was a noble goal in many ways. But, unfortunately if we do not allow an orgasm to happen on a regular bases it can cause issues. Just like you keep your body in shape you need to keep your orgasms in shape

doublelongdaddy;701668 said:

I understand and it was a noble goal in many ways. But, unfortunately if we do not allow an orgasm to happen on a regular bases it can cause issues. Just like you keep your body in shape you need to keep your orgasms in shape

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great knocking one off everyday i love it!lol